Hi, I am 40 year old mother of 3 girls. 2 from a previous marriage and this last one (6 months) from my fiancé. Recently we have not been getting along very well. Due to him being pretty much a mommas boy. Did I say he was 10 years younger than me… anyways what his momma says goes and she right about everything. Even when it comes to my daughter. He acts like I’ve never raised a child before! He recently told me I was a bad mother 2 times! Told me I wasn’t feeding her right. He tries to force feed her by spoon and she cries. I tell him You cannot force feed her. She is pretty petite girl at 6 months she is in the 20th percentile. I’m just so upset because I took her from him trying to force feed her and he calls me the “C” word and the “B” word and a bad mom. He has never spoke. To me like this before. But the words comin from his mouth sound just like his mother. I’m at a loss here.
wow MIL are devils 
Speak to the doctor and have him come with to the appt so he can hear what’s being said by the Dr. Its really the only way. Being called names is abuse and he (your bf) should know that, too. Not sure you want to share that with the Dr but the Dr would probably want to know. Dont set any wedding date tho. Wait a few years. People generally dont change and I had the exact same things happen and it doesn’t stop. You deserve better than name calling. XXXOOO Best Wishes❤
He wouldn’t get a second chance to speak to me that way. His mama would be helping him pay child support !
Nope, I’d be gone. That is abuse to both you and your child. He can go move back in with his mother.
You need to say see ya later
Can the baby’s sisters feed the baby since ur bf being an ass
Take your children and leave life is to short.
- Do not let him talk to you that way. Do you want your girls to feel like that is they way they should be talked to?
- let him deal with it. My husband is a first time dad too and he also thinks I’ve never done this. I have an 8 year old of my own and 2 nephews who I took a big part in raising.
When my husband thinks he can do it better, I let him. When he fails, I come to the rescue and explain why our 2mo doesn’t like it.
It’s easier to break up with a Mama’s boy than it is to divorce one. You are showing your kids what is acceptable and what isn’t. Stand up for yourself & your kids.
I hate to say this ,but RUN… If he us treating you like this now,it will only get worse…
Nope. Could not deal with that.
Wow that’s horrible of him to say such hurtful words to you
I’d sit his butt down and tell him that it’s not ok to say those things to you and force feed your daughter
Tell your fiancé mother if she doesn’t stop being Nasty to you she will not be allowed to see her Granddaughter period
If she truly loves her granddaughter she will stop
We did the above to my Mil for 3 months and now we get along great with an argument here and there
There’s a reason why he’s feeling so hostile, and you both need to figure out what it is in order to fix the problem. Otherwise, if he is not willing to see this as a huge issue, then you need to be done. Because this is abusive behavior.
You didn’t notice any of these character traits before?
i know the mama boys you need to sit him down and talk to him say i will not be disrespected by your mother or by you, you need to stick up for me with your mother if you really love me you would do that, me my self i wouldn,t put up with that abuse, good luck,
Wow. Time to go. You have got to show him right now that calling you those names is not acceptable.
Do not marry him!! Leave!!
How many red flags do you want to collect before crossing the danger zone
A good man would never speak to the mother of his child that way, leave him. And force feeding a 6 month old? Sound like he’s got anger issues that could lead to physical abuse.
You are raising a daughter. He is showing his daughter that it’s okay to speak to woman like that - that it’s okay for her to be spoken to in that manner. Pack up the kids and run for the hills. Verbal abuse will eventually turn into physical abuse if you allow this behavior.
Kick him to the curb!
You need to end things with the mommie boy take care of you and your three daughters that’s the most important thing you need to think about
Things get real when you have kids or get married. He’s showing you who he really is, everything before this was pretending. Your probably not going to like him very much now that he’s being himself so you have to ask yourself, are these things I can and want to deal with for the rest of my life? Definitely DO NOT get married to him until you figure this out!
Maybe you need to talk about the problem and no not always will verbal abuse turn into physical
You’re in the wrong relationship momma💜
you don’t need him 
Eww mamas boys are the worst! 
He’s verbally abusive, and you need to tell him it’s not acceptable or you’ll leave.
My first husband was the same way. He ended up leaving me and his mom and dad were a big part of the reason
get away from the creep before it’s too late.
You are a strong woman and a mother of 3 beautiful little girls who deserve for there mommy to be happy. Words forever stay ingrained in kids and adults minds and you don’t need them to think that it’s alright for him to disrespect you like that. This is emotional abuse and you need to get help ASAP.
Things will get worse, I have lived with an abusive man, leave him because u need to protect your child from that behavior. Prayers and hugs
Time to walk away. A real man would never speak to the mother of his child that way.
Ditch his ass if thts the way he talking tell him go back to his momma
If you love him, talk to the both of them separately one to his mom about you know how to raise your kids and her son, and him about how your hurt and everything else if it doesn’t get better leave. You don’t just buy a new house bc it’s broken you fix it.
Tell him to kiss your 40 year old ass!
That C word would have got him punch and thats mean to do that to that baby i would be GONE
Time to move on ,you have kids already and know what to do,I would not put up withthe names he is calling you. That’s is no respect. He needs to grow up
You know that’s abuse? Leave. Seriously, been there. Won’t get better.
Tell him to act fucking right or get gone… his mother is completely irrelevant in the raising on your guys child and you should tell him that…
LEAVE NOW! Teach your precious daughters that this is not how a man is suppose to treat a woman. Teach them to make men respect them. You don’t want your girls growing up thinking that this is how a relationship should be. Do it for yourself and your babies.
You definitely need to take your daughter and run. Now. Don’t tell him, that could escalate quickly into them taking your daughter and you not seeing her again. That really scares me where your daughter is concerned… force feeding a 6mo old could choke her and kill her. Not to mention what it might do to her psychological development.
Time to take her and leave…
Pack up and leave now. It will only get worse and you stay and have him show your daughter this from a man and you will be creating generations of women that take abuse
That so cruel trying to force any baby to eat off the spoon if their happy and growing with bottle feeding that’s all fine x
You either need to decide if you want to live this way and have your children witness it or you don’t. If you don’t, you have to get out of the situation. Maybe leaving will make him wise up maybe it won’t but you will be in a better place and your daughters will have a better example of how they should be treated.
There is no time when you should allow him to speak to you with such harsh words. He may be younger than you but he isn’t a child. He should know better. Sit him down and inform him that it won’t be tolerated and if he Evers speaks to you like that, then he can go live with his mother. As for his mother, he needs to support the mother of his child. When it comes down to it, that is y’all baby. Not hers. They both need to grasp that concept. Stand your ground. He needs to man up or go.
Sweetie that’s abuse to you and your kiddos. Please get out, I don’t wanna see it escalate to hitting
Kate it will get worse. Get rid of him now, NOW PERIOD.
He can go back to her controlling ways.pack his bag and tell him you are sending him to be raised again.and tell his mama to raise him better this time because so far she is a HORRIBLE MOM
Run, run, run. Too bad your mother didn’t warn you NEVER date ANYONE 10 years younger. The day a man I’m dating uses the c word, if be in jail. PLEASE get out of that relationship for the sake of you & your kids.
I wouldn’t leave unless it continues and he refuses to get help. You have to think of what it would do to your children? I understand it’s not ok for anyone to be verbally abusive, but things happen, hurt words get said every once in a while. Everyone has bad days. I would make it clear it’s not ok to speak to you that way and you will not tolerate it. Be firm. Tell him how you feel. Stand strong on your beliefs in raising your daughter. Obviously a baby should not be forced fed. Make it clear this is not ok. I would have him come with you to the doctors and have the doctor explain what needs to be done. As for his mom, if she can’t be a positive influence in your children’s lives your boyfriend needs to stand up to his mom and make it clear he is with you and you two make the decisions in your children’s lives and her rude remarks are not welcome. If she continues I would cut her off because your children do not need to be exposed to this environment 
Tell him to move home with his momie and when he can grow the hell up the yall will resume your relastionship
I’ve been married to a momma’s boy for 17 years. She enables terrible and awful behavior and her boys can absolutely do no wrong in her eyes. This has made for some incredibly irresponsible and entitled behavior from her son and he is also very mean. Set boundaries for him and let him know how you expect him to treat you or you are in for an absolute nightmare. Hugs Mama!
Just leave you don’t need that
You’re dodging a bullet since you’re not married yet. Take your kids and leave!
Narasstic personality it’s only going to get worse unless you talk to him about it he might be doing drugs or drinking
Why is it down to his mum the way he talks to you ?
Punch him in the throat, get on top of him and say if you EVER call me those names that your mother is again, I will personally shove my this fukcing spoon down your throat btich…put a end to it now, or it will NEVER stop
Tell him he can either get on board with you since the baby is yours too or he can go live with his mama. As for his mother, tell her where to stick it. If they can’t treat you with respect and respect your decisions about your children, then they do not deserve to be around them. Best of luck to you.
You can do better, he the Baby let his mom take care of him and take care of you and your kids move on,be happy.
Please get out for the safety of you and your child
Send his ass back to his momma!
You’re setting the standard in your home for how women are to be treated. If you wouldn’t want a relationship like that for your daughter, then you MUST leave. YOU teach you children what is acceptable. This is not. End the cycle.
It’s only the beginning! Don’t even think about marriage! I’ve seen it , lived it it’s never going to get any better. Maybe counseling will work but bottom line once an abuser always an abuser ! Sad but very true. Please don’t teach your dtr it’s okay for a man to treat or talk to you like this 
good luck!
Do yourself and your daughters a favor and leave!! Do you really want your daughters to grow up hearing some asshole calling you the C word and B word? Do you want them to grow up thinking that is acceptable? The mommas boy thing will not end! You are in for nothing but misery if you (and your daughters)continue in with him! Pretty soon he will likely start playing favorites and mid-treating your other daughters that aren’t his.
My hubby is a mommas boy but he is nothing like that. He knows were the parents and in laws are not. With that being said, things probably wont get better so your best bet is to just pack up and leave. He is allowing his mom to get in his head and his mom is using him to project her ideas onto him and thus onto you
there is a man out there that is meant for you and your daughters kick his ass to the curb
He don’t have to talk to you like that it’s your child also maybe y’all should sit and talk
You deserve better and it’s abuse and not healthy to have around your kids
Yea don’t marry him yet
Wait and see
I don’t think he’d change
Please don’t let him treat you that way, it’s not worth it.
A bad dad treats the mother of his children like that and sets a poor example of what his daughter will seek in a partner later in life.
He needs to never talk to you like that and put you his woman before his mom. My EX husband was like this. He now lives with his mom. Im happily divorced from him and engaged to a real man who respects me and doesnt put any other woman including his mother before me.
The younger ones seem fun but they are more like having another child!
That spoon should have been shoved down his throat and lost teeth for calling a woman the “C” word…then deliver him to his mama’s house…
Sounds just like the one I just got rid of. You don’t deserve that and he’s not gonna grow up.
Ok his behavior is unacceptable, his mom should be ashamed of herself too. My SO off he ever, ever calls me that I call him a something worse. It proves his mom didn’t raise him right! I think it’s going to get worse not better. Tell his mom to stick it where the sun don’t shine. Oh this gulls me!!
Get the heck out he will become abusive
You need to figure out a plan b…this relationship is unhealthy already. For the future you make sure to talk about these kinds of things (how they raise theyd raise children, how they handle their money, what is a proper way to discuss a disagreement,etc.). Someone who is serious wont be afraid to answer those questions and itll def save u heartbreak later. If hes 30 and is still thinking whatever mom says goes noone and nothing will change that. If you can deal with that then thats on you. Personally i would be outtie✌i know its tough especially when your more than halfway through ur pregnancy. I left my sons dad at 8 months pregnant and never looked back. Am grateful i have a supportive family. He was not there at the birth of our child and he has my last name. Which is another thing i recommend.
Leave him and raise your child on your own If he tries to force feed her what else might he do to her. She will grow up and have PTSD and other mental problems if you don’t.
Do NOT marry him. Just imagine what he will allow his mom to have a say in with that. And after.
Plus what you said right there, mental/emotional abuse towards you, and him trying to force feed the baby, eill escalate to physical abuse if she makes him mad when she doesnt exept the food. Please leave. Your baby comes first.
Get out now. You deserve better than this and so do your girls. This is verbal abuse, and staying in this situation will probably lead to a toxic situation for you and your babies.
Ugh…not cool …hugs momma I’m sure you’re doing great…
Time to pack up you and your kids things and leave… You have been raising 2 kids before you had your 3rd… Leave him to be a momma’s boy… The father of my boys is a momma’s boy and he is 46 and still living with mommy and does not work…
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. There is a lot of good advice here. Do what’s best for you.
You’re a 40 year old woman. You know what you have to do.
Take kids and go starts with verbal abuse then physical and how dare him call the mother of his child any names he don’t luv u do not marry this guy run especially if he a mamas boy he will never change she will always come before u I repeat run quick
Well it’s a good thing you didn’t marry him or his mother yet! Step back and re-evaluate your life and what you want your life to be like. If his verbal abuse is what you want go ahead and marry him and his mother!
Leave you dont need that crap. You have to love yourself and your babies enough to be rid of ignorance
Why are you even bothering with him? You and your children will
suffer forever. Get out!
You know what to do
DO IT!
Wow!! I am a believer in maintaining & working thru things BUT if he isn’t listening to you & going against everything you say or do something may need to change. You don’t want your kids seeing him treating you badly & in turn treating you badly OR growing up treating or being treated the way they have seen. You need to be strong & firm & try and work thru this with him or go if he doesn’t change. Granted it is his baby & maybe to some degree you may need to compromise, but u don’t ever force feed a baby. They eill eat when hungry & not when not… As im sure u know since you have other children. If this is his first child, maybe it’s partly because he doesn’t know how to be a father? But his mama needs to take a back seat & the 2 of you need to come to terms… If he is unwilling to change or learn or compromise than it won’t be worth all the heartache & chaos the children will be put thru. Nobody deserves to be mentally or verbally abused & if he is hurting you he is hurting the children… Children are only as together as their momma. Please make some decisions & stand by them. You know what needs to be done.
You’re at a loss? How about leaving. He obviously has no respect for you so why even be with him? The answer is so obvious.
Flat out tell him you are NOT living like that…he’ll make a choice that he has to live with.
Why is nobody freaked out abt force feeding a baby of 6 mths . He needs to get his info from the baby doctor not his mother .
When guys start acting like that they have someone else on their radar and his mom is an accomplice he has got to go definitely a broken home for those poor children
Leave. Do not put up with this BS. It’s abuse and he’s also an idiot if he’s trying to force feel an infant get out before he becomes violent
Send him back to his mommy!!!
I would leave him. I would be much happier being a single Mom (again) over being abused (again).
Stress makes ppl get out of character. It’s his first kid. Besides being on his mamma teet lol