How do you handle when your kids get bad grades? She is in 2nd grade and her report card basically all Fs and I do not beleive this is acceptable…what do i do? I already emptired her room.
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What does her teacher say?
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I’d take mine to the doctor and make sure there’s not an underlying issue for it. Some kids can’t sit still or get easily distracted or literally just forget. Is she having behavior issues too?
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Have you considered that maybe she actually needs some help?
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Find out why. Is it too hard? Trouble focusing? Issues with teacher or classmates? Or just refusing to do work? So many things to ask before handing out discipline .
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If she is trying her best then I wouldn’t get mad at her about it. Maybe she needs more help with things. Id talk to the teacher and see what they think.
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Why is a 2nd grade giving out letter grades? I would have testing done for her. She could have add or adhd or a learning difficulty. Emptying her room is not the answer.
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Why is she failing? Has she been evaluated?
She is in grade 2. Encourage her???. You could talk to her teacher to see what areas you can focus on HELPING. I wouldn’t be too hard on a 7 year old. They are still figuring out their learning style. I can already see my 4 year old is going to struggle in prep next year because he is more of a hands on learner.
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If she’s failing then she must be struggling with the work. Maybe it’s to hard for her. I’d talk to her teacher and find out what’s happening in class. She may just need extra help at home. Sit down and talk to your daughter and ask her about her school work. Find out if she likes school if she gets along with her teacher if the work is to hard and ask what u can do to help her and problem solve with her. Punishing her for something she is struggling with will not help her improve. Maybe she needs more one on one help. Have her do some learning apps like khan academy kids it’s free covers all subjects and it really helps.
Wow, emptying her room and she’s in second grade and still a kid, how about helping her with her education
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Grade 2 is too young for a punishment like that… maybe she’s struggling with the work, not receiving proper supports at school, not receiving proper supports at home. Maybe she just genuinely needs help understanding the work.
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Is she getting help at home? What does the teacher say? Surely there were calls or emails made prior to report cards coming out. I’d, say she needs more help at home.
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Are you helping her do homework or checking in? Have you noticed if she does better reading about something or doing something? At her age most kids are not failing on purpose. She might just need an evaluation so her learning style can be figured out.
When I was a teacher I used to say to my kiddos as look as you can look me in the eye and look at yourself in a mirror and say “I genuinely tried my hardest” then a grade is just a grade and we will figure it out together.
It’s how I was raised and it’s how I’ll raise my own kids.
Emptying the room of a child that age seems ridiculous to me. Have you tried actually communicating with your child?
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I always got Ds and Fs it’s not big deal I’m 42 now and learnt a lot more from experiences than going to school
My son was in kindergarten really struggling with the work, turned out he needed glasses because he couldn’t see and also had adhd and autism! Take her to the doctor to be sure it’s nothing medical!
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Maybe she’s just not understanding what’s going on in school? Maybe sit down with the teacher and talk and see what’s going on and if she’s delayed or if she’s just not understanding. Or if she is understanding maybe something u could work on at home.
You cant expect an 8/9 year old to do well if you as a mom dont put effort into her schooling too .
If you did, you would have known she struggles .
Sounds harsh , but its true .
If she got F’s on ALL her subjects, then you have bigger issues than just a bad grade here and there , help her, talk to her , figure it out together .
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have you met with her teachers and guidance counselor to come up with a plan? like is the work too hard? or is she bored and can’t focus?
Well 2nd grade is pretty young. Maybe she struggling. Ask the teacher about her experience in the subjects. Is she trying? Is she frustrated? Or is she goofing? All those things are important. Then ask your kid, where does she have problems understanding, what does she understand in her subjects, are letters jumping everywhere on the page and getting mixed up(sign of dyslexia), does she understand how the math thing works, is the teacher not explaining it right, is she just bored? Figure it out. If she’s getting all F’s figure out what going on before you punish her. Find out if she struggling or goofing off because there’s a difference. Practice reading at home so you get an understanding where she’s at in her reading skills. Test her math and vocabulary knowledge. Don’t be so harsh with her, try to figure out what’s going on. She only in 2nd grade, it’s not the same as a high schooler just passing notes or texting in class.
Find out what exactly she is struggling with. Help her. Speak with the teacher and she where she is lacking. I never scolled mine for an F. I ask what the problem is. Say hey let’s try to bring that up. I help if at all possible. I don’t know of any in 2nd grade making all Fs. Something is up.
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Punishment and criticism never motivated anyone, but it’ll mean she will hide things from you as you go forward
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At that age you help her. Make a conference with the teacher and ask what’s going on? And take his/her advice. You set aside time each day to directly help her with school work. This is less about discipling the child and more about how can you step up?
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What the?!?!? Maybe she needs help, not punishment 
She’s only in year 2. Go talk to her teachers and see how you can help.
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Some children don’t get good grades. My four failed exams. Amongst them they have 10 GCSE and 2 A levels. I despaired.
After they left school they found what they wanted to do and did it I now have child 1 MA, MSc. A research scientist. Child 2 MA Head of an English dept. child 3 LLM dealing with legal affairs with a charity and child 4 PhD research professor.
If F is her best then it is a good mark. Perhaps a change of school or having a private tutor for core subjects. Someone who can capture her imagination.
Their school exam results are of no importance
Sit down with her and HELP HER. Don’t be judgemental or punishing. Actually help her !!!
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I hope this isn’t really, but sadly I’m sure it is. Did you even try to find out what is going on with your child? Did you also try town outage them. Going straight to discipline isn’t going to work, smh
Grade 2? Doesn’t that make her 6-7? Why would you punish her? Encourage her. Teach her at home on the things she’s struggling with. Speak to the teacher see if they have concerns and ask if they think there’s anything you can do to help her. Bring up her confidence in herself. I can’t believe you’d want to punish a child so young when they are only just starting out.
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Too young for all that ma’am
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Love and certainly no punishment. There’s far too much focus on grades at this age. 
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If it’s all F’s then there’s obviously a problem. Talk to her teachers, maybe get a tutor.
Mine had the same consistently in all classes except PE and art. Turns out she’s dyslexic.
She is grade 2 … not all kids are book smart find what she good at and praise her for that
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Um no, give them their stuff back. First response is to meet with the teacher. Are they having difficulty turning things in, are they having trouble seeing the board, are they struggling in some way? If all of that is no, then you help them with their schoolwork or get a tutor. Grades are not the measure of a child’s worth, they are an indicator that a child may need additional academic support.
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In 2nd grade you have to take some responsibility for that. Are you helping her with her homework and helping her read and write and making sure she can understand complete sentences? She may need a tutor instead of punishment
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You did what? How about helping her get through? Shame on your reaction, poor kid
If they trying hard maybe they need help. If they just beeing lazy you should maybe be more strick with homework time
She is grade 2 before you judge hope your report card was perfect
Yeah start with the teacher, ask lots of questions, see what she thinks. Talk with her first grade teacher too and ask her/his impressions.
Then get with the pediatrician to have her tested for dyslexia, autism, ADHD/ADD, other learning disabilities, eye test & hearing exam, mental challenges and depression. Then make accommodations as needed. Is she getting nutritious food and enough quality sleep consistently? Don’t punish for bad grades. Increase her self esteem, don’t crush it.
Spend a day or a couple of hours observing her class so you can see what’s going on. Help her with her homework. Read simple books together. Make learning fun or she will hate school forever. Reward her for her efforts, not her grades; I’m sure she is trying.
I don’t focus on grades. Kids are doing as best they can. Punishing a struggling kid will make things worse just adding more stress.
I’d look into why they are struggling.
Is it concentration or they struggle in general with all
Talk to school and the child.
Your child won’t open up If punishing and not even asking what the problem Is or get to the bottom of it.
You also can’t expect effort if you’re putting none into her, sounds like you expect alot but just dish out punishment without finding issues as easier.
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I’m wondering what you think emptying her room will achieve? Are you worried it makes you look like a bad parent if she isn’t successful? I would assume (I could be wrong) that someone maybe made you feel bad for your grades at some point.
I implore you to take a look at this on a deeper level. Could you imagine how she will feel down the road if she doesn’t understand something perfectly or doesn’t get a 90 on a test. The anxiety that would cause thinking of how you are going to react?
The eduction system is tailored to one learning style, but kids (and adults for that matter) all learn in different ways. There are sooo many reasons a student might not being “doing well”. Adhd, dyslexia, dysgraphia, hearing, eye sight, the teacher, your involvement. These are just some examples. Grade 2 is soooo young. My daughter just got glasses this year in Grade 2 and its made a huge difference in her reading.
“If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
Please give her and yourself some grace. Don’t forget you are learning just as much as she is.
Stop putting so much pressure on kids with schooling ffs
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She is on 2nd grade. Don’t punish her for something like that. You are the parent help her. Advocate for her.
. Can she see the board the teacher is writing on
. Does she need a hearing test
. Is she able to read or does it look funny.
. Is the teacher hard to understand or not offering help.
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I will start with asking for a meeting with her teachers to see what are the problems she is having like bad behavior, not paying attention, taking , not working etc .
Ask for resources/ accommodation that will help her to improve.
Prices and rewards are acceptable 
Check her work every day!!!
This is sad, maybe she doesn’t understand or struggles, my son has dyslexia but wasn’t diagnosed till primary 5, 4 years later adhd diagnose, my daughter in in p5 now and suspected dyslexia, there coukd be all sorts reasons,if your child is trying their best it’s all they can do, I can’t believe parents punish their kids for this, talk about putting pressure on them at a young age, I alway tell my kids that if their teying their best then that good enough for me, I’d rather a happy child over anything, if a child is pressured think how they will be when they get older and sit tests or exams, they will be anxious and think oh I better get good marks or I’ll be in trouble, teach them a better way! Support a better way!
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Grade 2 ?!
I would get her tutoring at that age. Punishment won’t help and doesn’t make sense. She’s just beginning to learn basic skills in school at that age, it isn’t laziness or neglect on school work effecting grades. I would assume there could be a problem, possible learning disability.
Practice reading at home every night. Basic counting and numbers at home. See where she’s at with it all, or ask her teacher what she thinks would help.
Obviously, there is a reason for it
Instead of focussing on grades, why don’t you ask her if there’s something bothering her if she’s having a hard time focussing
 All kids are going to learn at their own pace
Why don’t you ask her teacher if there’s something you can do to help
you need to take some responsibility
All depends on why- illnesses, inability and lack of support, or laziness - all need a totally different approach.
Get her HELP. What kind of parent are you if you don’t see that your 2ND grader obviously is struggling??
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Grade 2? You’ve emptied her room because of bad grades…I think you have your parenting backwards. Has there been communication with the teacher that she hasn’t been doing well? Maybe there is a learning disability? Before, you take it out on your child, you need to speak to the appropriate avenues- the teacher/principal, doctor/pediatrician. Kids struggle academically, and at that age- Grade 1 & Grade 2 are fundamental learning blocks…instead of punishing advocate for her! Be her VOICE! Your first step is setting up an appointment with the teacher/principal. Then maybe a tutor. Reading at home every night together (small things), learning at home (counting things, making grocery list together)- make learning fun.
But before you punish a child in grade 2- YOU NEED to put the effort in her school and figure out whats going on.
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She is only in 2nd grade. Talk to the teacher see what kind of plans you and them can come up with. Maybe she needs extra help. Help her when she is home…
My son is in 3rd grade and has an IEP for speech but also has a learning disability so he gets extra help at school plus we do things at home as well
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Stop putting so much emphasis on her grades
She is only in second grade
I’m trying to work out why your punish her when you should be encouraging her
Maybe get a Tudor. She’s 7. Taking away her shit is ridiculous. Do work with her. Be a damn parent.
Second grade and fs she needs some extra help. Taking away all her things will not fix this… you need to speak to the teacher, speak with her and help her extra. Get a tutor, something else is going on. “Not shaming but give the poor babe her toys back”. And find the outlining issue
Start by trying to find out the why. What is happening that this child isn’t succeeding. Is the work too hard? Are they not handing it in? (I had one who did the work but never handed it in for some reason) are they being bullied?
See why she is struggling. Is she not doing the work ? Is she not understanding? Many things could be going on I would figure out what it is before punishing
What have you done to help her . Does she understand the work ?
Hold on. Have you found out WHY her grades are bad? She could be struggling and not knowing how to express that. Have a meeting with the teacher but also pay attention to her behavior with homework and stuff bc teachers sometimes overlook the actual issue.
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Sit with her and practice her work. Make it so that she knows it’s important to enjoy learning . Punishment for a child that young could have a more negative effect. Consequences should fit the situation. She might have inner troubles that you need to address. Just be patient and supportive.
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In our home we never punish for a bad grad as long as our kids tried their best. I think what you need to do is figure out why she’s failing then go from there. Talking to your doctor, maybe you child has a learning disability. Maybe they just need extra help.
So you emptied her room because she is clearly struggling academically?! How traumatizing!!! Do better!!! Get that baby some help for academics. That starts with YOU as her parent being her voice and reaching out to the teacher for suggestions or maybe even a conference to start some early interventions. It sounds like there may be some reading gaps that your second grader needs help in. But by punishing her because she doesn’t perform that well is traumatizing for her and will make her feel like she is not loved or supported at home. Your child is 7 tops 8 if they are in second grade. Get a grip. Do your job as a parent and get that baby some academic help - starts at home with helping her with homework, reading to her every night, talking to her about what was read, just simple stuff. But cleaning out her bedroom and getting mad at her isn’t it!!
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2 grade with letter grades? Doesn’t sound right. Talk to the teacher and see where you can help your child
Do you sit with her while she does her homework so that you can see if she understands it?
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Id talk to the teacher and see why she’s doing so bad. I’d probably take away her tablet, TV and that’s it. It’s second grade. Maybe you need to work with her at home too.
Emptying her room ain’t going to be helpful at all. That’s overboard. You as the parent should be sitting down with your kiddo and making sure they are getting their work down and studying. If your child is struggling then you should be checking for tutoring help. If it’s behavioral then they need a trip to the doctor and mental health to make sure they don’t have anything else going on. Get an eye exam done. If kiddo already has a diagnosis then it may be time to try meds and push for a 504/IEP. Also you should be doublechecking your kiddos grades instead of only seeing them at report card time. By that time the failures already happened.
Parent yourself maybe? She’s in second grade. It isn’t a her problem, it’s a YOU problem.
Former teacher here, at that grade level it’s important to find out WHY she is getting low grades.
Beyond that, what are YOU doing to help her be a success student?? Are you leading? examples… reading with and to her, playing math games with her, showing her how you figure out math problems in everyday life
Have you set up a designated area to do homework where she can me monitored and assisted and not distracted ?? Example… kitchen table
Are you available to her while she is doing her homework?
Are you ensuring she is physically ready for each school day?? Example… making sure she has enough sleep by going to bed early. Making sure she isn’t hungry by feeding her breakfast. Making sure she is in the right head space by getting her up early enough for school without her having to rush around or be stressed.
Have you ruled out any and all physical issues? Example… needs to sit closer to the teacher or front, does she have hearing issues, is sitting next to or near someone that distracts her during class.
Have you had her evaluated for any learning disabilities?
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No screen time, and get her the help she needs. Read to her.
Did you not know your child was failing until she got her report card? I check my kid’s grades weekly. Has her teacher notified you that she was struggling? Do you check her grades? Do you clean out her folder? Do you study with her? If you had know idea she was struggling this bad it’s on you momma. Punishment isn’t the answer. Your child needs intervention.
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My daughter is in 1st grade and it’s hard for me to imagine taking everything out of her room for bad grades. I sit down with her every night to do her homework and when she comes home with a bad gradefrom a test, I’m normally not to surprised because there are certain things I’ve seen her struggle with. The first time she brought home a “bad” grade was a few weeks ago and she cried because she thought we would be mad at her. We had a big conversation with her that we will never be mad or upset with her for having a hard time. That we just expect for her to give her best effort and if that was her best effort then it tells us what we need to work on it with her more. Please don’t punish your kids for bad grades. Especially at that young age. It might be different with a teenager that just simply doesn’t turn work in or try but that’s typically not the case in 2nd grade.
Young one, she’s only in 2nd grade - the first question should be - Why - go in a find out - you are your child’s advocate- at this age it’s the responsibility of the instructor to find out why your child is failing. Does she understand, is she a social butterfly, can she see or hear from where she sits or is she having possibly dealing with a learning disability? Get involved- don’t dwell on grades right now - it’s more important to understand and get her(and you) the resources you need.
Wow - tbh that sounds toxic behaviour from yourself to your child. Especially so young.
No where have you said what you’ve done to help your child. Spoken to teacher? Had ears eyes checked - learning difficulties somewhere.
YOU are suppose to be your child’s support system (no wonder we are seeing more and more kids growing up going LC or NC).
Do better
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Have you tried working with the child at home? We as parents have to work with our kids as well. Talk with the teacher and see where the child is getting lost. Speak with the pediatrician about possible testing for an underlying learning disability.
get her a tutor and help your child. does your child possibly need an IEP?
Oh, you’re one of those parents… first of all emptying a 7 yr old bedroom over grades before first getting them help is crazy. Try a tutor, lots of schools offer them free. Maybe get your child tested for learning disorders such as dyslexia, adhd, etc…
You emptied her room seriously what the fuck is wrong with you?!!!??! . YOUR CHILD is struggling and you traumatize her? You shouldn’t be a parent. You need to ask her if she’s having a hard time hearing or seeing , speak to the teacher … advocate for your kid and take her to the doctor to be screened. Oh and while you’re at it take some fucking parenting classes you thickheaded dolt.
Well, the first thing I’m doing is asking her directly what’s going on. Than I’m scheduling a parent teacher conference. If the bad grades are because she’s genuinely struggling? No punishments - but a plan to get her grades back up. If the bad grades are because she’s lazy and not turning in work, not trying, etc - that’s when she gets grounded and has to make up every missing assignment and her grades come up.
Kids don’t learn the same as each other. I wouldn’t punish her. Maybe get her some extra help!!
Jesus. Maybe talk to her why. Maybe talk to her teachers. Maybe test her for an IEP, ADHD, learning disabilities, etc. Maybe put in the work and figure out why she’s struggling and then HELP her instead of taking the easy way out and just punishing her.
Lmmfao how does emptying her room make you a good parent
I don’t think she’s failing on purpose…She obviously needs help and clearly doesn’t understand the work. Take the time to help her, get her a tutor, and talk with her teachers. It’ll be ok, she’ll get her grades up, you gotta do the work to help her and understand her educational issues.
I think what your doing is just going to make her hate school more. Its grade 2! & at end of day, grades mean nothing in life. Give her her stuff back & start asking whats wrong & why shes struggling. Start helping her & making school fun. We do sticker charts. After doing homework they get a sticker & after 200 stickers they get a prize
Omg… I have no words. Except poor child!!
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Was this a shock? Does she bring home graded papers so you can keep an eye on the trend? Sit with her and make sure she understands assignments as she completes them. Bless her heart.
help her learn dont punish her
Ask her whats going on first. If you get the standard “I dunno” or “I dont like school” then go to the teacher and ask what the teacher sees. Ask how you both can work together as a team. But ask your kiddo first.
Definitely find out as to why she has bad grades. Maybe she needs an IEP? Definitely talk to her teacher and find out what’s going on and what can be done at school.
Ok big difference here in 2nd grade and say once they are in 5th or something. My son is in 6th and brought home a F, he did get grounded from some things until that grade was brought up. Because I know it’s just because he didn’t turn in the work. That’s appropriate for 6th because I’m teaching him responsibility and I know what the issue was bc I contacted the teacher. First of all in 2nd grade they didn’t even have letter grades it was like satisfactory or needs improvement on my kids report cards. But that’s neither here or there…. If your 2nd grader is struggling you don’t punish them you help. They are too young. There is clearly an issue and it’s your job as a parent to find out the issue and help. It could be the teacher. It could very well be medical (undiagnosed adhd, autism, poor vision, dyslexia, low hearing) all kinds of factors go into learning. Is she on a good sleep schedule? Ect ect. Your job is to start advocating and find out what it is.
I don’t believe in punishing a child for bad grades. You help them in any way you can. That’s where parenting comes in handy! You, as a parent, have to do YOUR job as well. Can’t expect the teacher to do it all. Get to the root cause and go from there. Emptying her room is EXCESSIVE and borderline abuse in my eyes.
I don’t punish for grades unless I know they are just slacking off. And If that is the case then I take away phones, friends, etc until that grade is brought up
Talk to her and her teacher. Get her eyes checked she may have vision problems. It’s second grade taking away her stuff is over reacting.
Find out if she’s understanding the material. She might need glasses or seated closer to board.
Is there kids in class being disruptive. Is she the one in class being disruptive. .noone ever wants to think their kid IS the disruptive kid in class. Talk to teacher. Talk to her. See what’s going on.
Emptied her room of what ? Shes what, 8? You cant be serious.
At second grade you should still be doing their homework with them. So go ahead and empty your room too. That means everything you sent in from home was wrong. Damn lady. Maybe you need a tutor because you’re not understanding the homework.
Talk to her Teacher. Maybe your daughter needs to be tested for dyslexia or ADHD/ADD. Maybe she needs glasses or has a hearing problem. Do you help her with her homework? Maybe she needs an IEP program for extra help.
You do not punish a child that age for “bad grades”. She is struggling in school and needs help. YOUR help. Sorry, but those are your Fs, too.
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My brother made a+ and I barely made passing grade I was doing my best my mom never punished me for struggling or not being “smart” enough.
You help teach them they are struggling support then help them with their work. Support works better then punishment
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In 2nd grade you don’t punish them for bad grades you get them a fucking tutor. Clearing her room out and looking to take things further is wild to me.
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This post has got to be rage bait. Poor child.