How do you wash your kids hair?

Anonymous please! How do you mamas wash your kid’s hair? I have a 6-year-old daughter with very long hair down to her waist and I do not think she would be able to wash her own hair in the shower. She wouldn’t be able to wash all the shampoo and conditioner out of her hair by herself. Plus, she would probably use too much shampoo and conditioner if I let her do it herself. At what age do children normally learn how to do that by themselves, and without supervision? She does wash herself with body wash in the shower without help or supervision (shower cap over her hair when she doesn’t need her hair washed), but washing her own long hair is a task I don’t think she’s ready for at such a young age. How do you mamas wash your daughter’s hair? Do you shower with them? Wash their hair another way? Thanks for any tips and advice.

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I shower with my 6 year old. It’s just easier for the both of us lol. She too has long hair and never gets it fully rinsed. I usually tend to myself first and let her play aka make a magic potion then I do her hair. I get out and she does the rest.

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Im a boy mom but i have my 7 year old turn around so I can wash his hair & rinse it, I scrub his back and then leave so he can finish his shower with privacy.

I wash my 7 year old’s hair still. It’s not quite as long as your daughter’s but it’s very thick. She does everything else herself but she definitely needs help with her hair.

She won’t just wake up one day and know how to do it. You have to teach her.

My daughter was 3 when I taught her and she’s been doing it ever since

My oldest kids (twins) were around 7 when they were able to do it themselves. I taught them how and supervised a couple of times until they were able to do it right.

I lay my granddaughter on the kitchen counter and use the sprayer on it, works great.

My 7yo has long hair and we’ve been working with him for a long while. He does a pretty good job now. He just turned 7. To teach him, I reached in and showed him where to put the shampoo. When it was ready to rinse, how to squish his hair to get all the stuff rinsed out, I still check it to make sure it’s all rinsed out, but he’s doing great. Now all I need to do is remind him of things.

I had really long hair when I was a child and my mother would lay me down on the kitchen counter with my head hanging back over the sink and she would wash it that way.

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My daughter is 8 but when she was 6 she had super long hair. I washed hers in the sink. It was so much easier

My daughter is 4 with hair down to her waist. She’s always been active in trying to do things herself! And she actually does a good job washing it. Maybe let her try it?
I just stand outside the shower and help her get the soap out and make sure she scrubs it up good. And anything else she may need a little help with. I also squirt the shampoo and conditioner into her hand so she doesn’t use to much.

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My son is 7. He has short hair but he’s been doing a bath or shower on his own since he was 5. Every now And then he tries to act like he washed but I can usually tell. Then he has to do it with me watching. I’m always in the other room if he needs help or so I can check that he got all the shampoo out.

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My mom.did mine in the kitchen sink sometimes just kneel on chair head over sink

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I taught my daughter around 6 once she knew how to brush her own hair, then I got her a shower brush so she would brush her hair before she got in, shampoo and brushed it in then rinse then conditioner brush it in then rinse.

My daughter has been washing her hair By herself since she was 6 and she’s almost 8 now

I wash my 6 yrs old because I know she wouldn’t lay her or rinse well enough. I let my 9 yr old do it alone, for the last year or so

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I laid my daughter on the counter and washed it in the sink

My daughter alternates between showering herself including hair washing and taking a bath where I was her hair. She has very long THICK hair and does struggle with getting all the soap out. I do this to make sure she has the chance to learn but also is getting clean regularly. She just turned 8.

I remember starting to wash my own long hair around 8 but my dad would send me back into the shower if I didn’t wash it all out

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I had long hair at that age. Our mom told us to split our hair in half and bring it to the front and we would wash it and stand sideways to rinse it and then other side.

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my daughter is 5.5 and i put the shampoo in her hair for her and then let her scrub and check it before she gets out to make sure it’s all out

I have 2 boys with long hair. I do their hair first in the shower and then the 7 yr old finishes his shower himself and I’ll wash the 3 yr old while his conditioner is setting. You could always have a wash day where you wash her hair out of the shower like in a clean sink. Just until she’s old enough to get her hair clean herself :slightly_smiling_face:

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My 5 and 7 year olds shower together and wash their own selves. I double check the 5 year old before she gets out to make sure it’s thoroughly rinsed but she rarely has any issues. Just teach her how and sit in for the first week or two to make sure she’s got it then let her go on her own and check her before she gets out to make sure she’s good!

My 7 year old with long hair just hops in the shower with me and I wash her hair. My other 7 year old has shorter hair, and prefers to wash her own hair in the bath. She lays down to get it wet and rinse it.

My mom taught me at a really young age and I had l o n g hair. Kids are smart and I’m sure she’ll learn. My daughter has been washing her own hair since she was 7. Took about a week of showing her and let her do it on her own. Do a hair check before she’s done bathing herself.

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My son (5) hates his hair being wash so he covers his eyes with a wash cloth and I put the soap in his hair and then use a hair cup to rinse it out! He also washes the rest of his body himself. When I was little my hair was also long like like your daughters is and my mom would just wash my hair in the sink for me when it needed washed and I took my baths alone so it’s really up to what your daughter is most comfortable with id ask her which way she would like you to do it!

So my daughter is 11 and does it mostly herself, I just make sure the conditioner is rinsed out

My daughter just turned 8 very long hair too. I wash her hair and explain it to her what she’s gonna need to do when she’s old enough to do it on her own. I explain how we put the conditioner in and where it goes where it doesn’t.

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I always wanted my daughter to have long hair and kept it that way until she was 6 or 7. I got tired of fighting her to brush her hair and washing was a nightmare as she had curly hair. I finally realized she could care less about having it long and cut it shoulder length. We were both happier.

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I still help my 7 year old. She has super long hair too. She tries to do it herself but has a hard time getting it all so I assist but let her mostly do it. My son is 10 and started doing his at 5, but he’s a boy with short hair lol

Upside down. Mine is long and thick like 12lbs when wet long and thick :joy: .
And I’ve got fibromyalgia so sometimes it’s even harder

. I only shampoo the scalp too and rinse upside down as well. Then condition the rest… especially the ends.

My girl is mixed so we wash up the dishes, clean the sink and then she lays on the counter and we have a salon trip right at home. I use the sprayer to really get the water in there and shampoo and condition, then we style.

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Do you have a pull down shower head? You could just rinse it that way when shes ready. I think 6 is too young to be left alone safely anyhow.

My daughter had a lot and I taught her to do it from the side, line put her hair to the side and lean sideways some, that’s how I wash my own now that it’s long

My kids are 8 and 10 and wash their own hair but every few weeks I will do it for them to make sure it’s done properly! I have the attachment shower head so I just open the door while they are in there and do it that way

I give them a bath and then get them to stand up and I use the shower head to wash it out with every step.

I have a daughter going into 5th grade she’s just recently in the last year or so really been able to wash her own hair. I have a 7 yr old that showers by herself. I just constantly remind her of right steps to get clean hair. her sister or myself helped with dispensing the right amount of soap till she gets the hang of it. On special occasions I’ll help wash hair in the shower :shower: from the outside, just helping rinse and lather.

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I used to reach in and help her. She has super long thick curly hair. About 7 or 8 is when she started on her own

According to my 9year old great-granddaughter, by the time she is 7 she should be able to wash her hair alone, but with double checking from you.

My mom had me start washing my hair in the sink so I could learn how to wash my hair my hair used to be down to my butt we had one of the sink heads that can be pulled out which made it easier to learn

lay her on the counter and use the kitchen sink ! i do that with my daughter who has ringlets❤️

My six and eight year old grandkids all wash their own hair

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I used to have super long hair as a child. My mom would roll a towel for under my neck at the edge of the sink I’d lay on the counter and she’d wash my hair that way. I was also terrified of having water on my head.

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My kids have been washing their own hair since they were 4. Just show them

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My daughter is 6 and has hair almost to her butt that’d be impossible for her to do on her own. I let her wash up in the bath, then I come in lean over the tub, and scrub/rinse her noggin (not shower with her). They won’t always need our help, so I try to enjoy the chore.

I would just have them do it themselves while you sit there and if they ask for help then help them and show them how to do it

I lay my grandaughters on the kitchen cabinet and wash their hair in the since they think it’s fun and I can get their hair clean

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My daughter had long hair down passed her butt that was difficult for even me to wash some days. I took her to get a hair cut, to her mid back which has made it much easier. I taught her how much soap to use prior to her hair cut. I just sit in the bathroom while she showers in case she needs me. I do of course check her hair to make sure she’s gotten all of the soap out

My babe is 6 with hair to middle of her butt I still wash it for her :woman_shrugging:t3: I condition it and everything run a brush through it etc etc.

Wash in the kitchen sink using the sink sprayer

Maybe let her do it herself and you wash it twice a week to make sure its clean because honestly how will she learn if she cant try to do it on her own. She may not be perfect and she might leave a little soap or conditioner but if you do it twice a week it should still be healthy and not build up soap or conditioner

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I sit on the toilet and wash my 3 yr old granddaughters hair . I have a detachable shower head . Which makes it easy . She washes her own body .

My daughter will be 6 , when she is in shower I just wash it real quick for her … her hair is to her waist , my mom did the same for me when I was younger because my hair was not only long but very thick and I wasn’t doing a good job lol

Mines 9 and I wash her hair and she does her body,
BECAUSE I was a kid once and remember just running water on it and saying i washed it.
Or not getting the shampoo out…

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My best advice is get pump bottles or wall hanger dispensers like you see at some hotels to help with portion controls ! As far as getting all washed out make sure to tell her make sure she gets top, sides and the bottom all rinsed & stay under the water with her head included to make sure she gets it all out!!

My daughter is 9 and I still help her. Her hair is thick and to her waist.

You can always get the small bottles and put shampoo and conditioner in there so you know she can use the right amount , show her how the first few times and she will figure it out! I’ve been a hairdresser for years and I have always just showed my kids how to do it and put the shampoo and conditioner in a smaller bottle ( like what you take on a plane) so you know they are using the right amount , for the first few times make sure its rinsed well too and she will pick it up fast and will feel very independent as well :wink:

Both you guys get in your bathing suits and get in there to show her how to wash her hair by herself.

I would wash her hair in the sink and let her just shower herself.

My girls (6&7) both wash their own hair. We buy shampoo with a pump and they know to use 1 pump.

Once a week I go in and wash their hair myself so I can properly scrub the scalp and I deep condition.

My mamma washed my long hair in the kitchen sink until I was around 12!! I layed on the counter, and she used the sprayer, and washed it!

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My Daughter is 7 And she just started to learn how to Bursh her hair properly I Bursh it Afterwards and style it etc

I still Hair her Wash at the moment but I am in the middle of Teaching her

Probably around 10 she’d could manage by herself, kinda start training her to do it between now and then.

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My girls are 7 & 9 both very long hair, they get in the shower an call out when their hair is all wet, I wash it put it in a bun then leave them to have a scrub they get out on their own. If I were to leave them to do their own hair it’s not rinsed out properly or they get it in their eyes and I have to help anyway.

When my son was younger I washed his at the kitchen sink.

It’s a learning process. Start with putting the amount of shampoo and conditioner in her hand for her and walk thru the latter process. Help her do it by placing your hands over hers. At multiple times of doing that then she will figure it out. Do the same with rinsing her hair. This will take a little longer cause it can be hard for kids to know when it’s all rinsed out. She will get it. She just needs ur guidance.

Show her how step by step children learn. Very quickly it may tKe a little bit

When my kids first started washing their own hair, I’d squirt the amount they needed into their hand. That way they could see how much they needed. I’d let them lather up and give their scalp a good scrub. Rinsing it out was all trial and error for a little while. I let them do it on their own, and if it wasn’t rinsed out all the way, they’d get right back in and try again. The majority of the time, they’d call me in to check before getting out of the shower. It wasn’t long before they got it right. My daughter was around 8 and my son was like 6. He is extremely afraid of water going anywhere near his eyes, always has been. He actually showers with goggles on. He probably would’ve done it on his own a lot earlier, had he not had this fear.

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My son has long hair and we wash it in the BATH, so much easier

My daughter is 14 and has super thick curly nappy hair and sometimes I still have to help her rinse it or brush it if it gets matted after we go swimming

I’m a big believer in the fact kids are far more capable then we give them credit for. I would teach her how to do it and then have her do it herself. If she has issues show her again. She’ll never learn if you don’t give her the chance.

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My daughter is 5 years old and isnt a fan of water near her ears and i dont see that changing anytime soon lol. She will wash herself and either the next day or few days later i lay her down on the counter head in sink and wash it like that. Its working for her for now

My children are adult now but when they were little, I had a piece of plywood I would put on the side of the sink and on over the stove. I would have them lay down on it and hang their head off the edge in the sink. I could wash and condition using the spray attachment on my sink.

My son took his own showers at age 4. I helped him (assisted shower) then explained other time what/how to do it himself. Other than the floor being a little wet, he’s done great.

I had extremely long thick hair and my mom came in and helped me with my hair to I was about 8 and could do it on my own. It’s not a big deal, you’re her mom. Just help her wash and condition till she can on her own

I meant to say I wash their hair in the sink

Last her on the counter and wash her in the sink. Or put her on a stack of books on a chair and wash her in the sink.

Ask President Biden how he did it

Wash her as long as she’ll let you even if she’s 18 those are precious moments

There is never a age when they learn to do it thereselfs… my daughter is 11 and has me wash her hair still she dose everything else on her own just help her without making it a big deal soon she will be doing it on her own but be patient and maybe teach her and let her take her time rinsing it out but help guide her threw it because they do have to learn how to do it on there own but it always helps when you still help them… there just baby’s still and learning

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Its not a matter of shampoo/rinse. If her hair us that long, she won’t get it all out. What you might try though is have her kneel down in tub under faucet to get it all out (that is of course you don’t just have a shower stall).

I have a 6 year old with hair down to her waist. I stand outside the shower and help her wash and rinse it.

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I explained to my 6 year old to wash the scalp and put the shampoo there then work down her hair. It gets dryer towards the ends and one pump of shampoo is more than enough.

Daughter is about to be 6 next week and I still give her baths…is that not normal? Lol

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We wash my son’s long hair in the bath, easier than the shower

My daughter is 6 also and has long hair. I put her in the shower, tell her to get her hair wet and I soap her up. Tell her to rinse it the best she can and then I help her, next we do the same with conditioner. I put it in her hair, give her a sponge and soap and have her later up, then I tell her to rinse her body and her hair the best she can. When she’s done I help make sure her hair is rinsed. Easy peasy! And no I do not shower w her, that would be weird! I stand outside the shower on the side where the water comes down and reach in to rinse her hair.

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My daughter is almost 5 with hair down to her butt. I wash it for her bc it’s super thick and very curly.

I wash her hair . I am ok with . If you want her to wash by herself help her with it or else you should do .

Just put the shower on wash her hair and put conditioner on and she does the rest as far as washing her self bec she might over pour on shampoo and conditioner she still little young

Chop it off and teach her how to wash shoulder length hair lol imo if they can’t take care of it themselves it shouldn’t be that long

My daughter is 6 her hair os down to her butt shes been washing it on her own since she was 5…we use the shampoo and conditioner w the pump so sje knows 2 pumps for shampoo 4 pumps for conditioner…after shes done i just make sure its well rinsed and if not i help her rinse it…

I’ve always washed my girls hair, she just turned 7, has always had really long hair. I never expected her to do it on her own just yet. I don’t remember when my 16 year old started washing her own hair.

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I’ve been washing my own hair since I was like 2 or 3 years old. Teach your child to wash their own hair.

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My 3 year old boy is horribly offended by hair washing. He also refuses to lean back so the water doesn’t get in his eyes. Lol.

I helped with my kid’s hair until 8 or so… sometimes I wash my 12 yr olds hair for her just cause

4 plaits … wash and condition while in the plaits. Air Dry in the plaits… take down … style as usual. You can also take down one by one and blow dry. This is giving structure and control.

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I got pump bottles. Told her and showed her one pump of each (her hairs now short so there’s that). We still help with the back of her head at 5yrs old. When her hair was long we did the same.

My five year old is adamant that she can do it by herself, so I just help by giving her the right amounts in her hand, helping scrub her scalp, and letting her try to rinse it out alone, then going over it again to make sure. Her hair is curly and down to her butt, so she can’t brush the conditioner through herself yet, but letting her be involved and telling her with lots of practice she’ll be able to do it all by herself soon, she doesn’t fight me on it and is incredibly proud of how much of it she can do.

My daughter is 7 her hair is past her butt almost to her knees she washes her body and calls me when she needs help with her hair. I have no problem helping and making sure it is done right :woman_shrugging:t3: Do what works best for your family!