I’m the baby of 4 and only girl. There is a 20year gap between me and my oldest brother, 15years from the 2nd oldest and a 10 year gap from the youngest of my brothers. Each one of them were made to babysit me, so I gained 3 more fathers growing up. I’m 28 now and I have the closest relationship with all of them. Only flaw is being the only girl, helping mum do and learn the wifely duties of taking care of home. Which I have learnt the woman are the backbone of the family.
Yes my kids are 15, 9, 4 and 2. The 15 and 4 yr old are best buddies, always together, playing minecraft or nintendo, they have a lot in common, similar personalities
My two are 10 1/2 years apart, 25 and 15, both are girls. They have grown closer as they’ve gotten older
I’m 16 years older than my brother and besides the physical aspects of age, you wouldn’t be able to tell. We’re friends!
My oldest was 10 1/2 years old when the youngest was born. It worked out fine.
Its great. You learned by past . Start from scratch. You enjoy it more now.
My children are almost 17, 14, 3, and 2. The oldest two are so helpful and cherish their baby siblings.
My sister just had her son almost a year ago and her eldest daughter is 10 she loves the baby and she thinks shes mom lol
My sons big brother is 10 years older and the big brother loves his little brother welcomed him without hesitation and has been a big help for me and his little brother so it’s all on you three and how you introduce the new life to your daughter help her understand 
all good vibes
I have an 18, 12, 2 and 7 month old. The 1 oldest adore their baby siblings
I’m 10 and 12 years older than my youngest siblings and it didn’t really make a rift moreso than I was aware and excited to have new siblings but I wasn’t really around because if school and after school activities.
I was 10 when my mom got my sister…and it was the sweetest thing ever…i got to see her grow and help my mom with her i was the awesome big sister…she is 19 today…and i told her im so lucky that my mom and i will always have her baby memories…i will cherish it for years…
My girls are 10 years and 10 months apart.
They are best friends.
Mine are 8 years apart. It’s ok. She will play w my 3 year old occasionally but if I need to run outside and take care of the dogs and what not she will keep an eye on her
My sister and I are 11 years apart. Although she lived with my dad, we have always gotten along. And have a good relationship. I’m now 33 and she is 22.
My stepson and daughter are 13 years apart. She is soooo attached. And he loves his baby sister so much.
16 years apart here… its very hard…also… speak to ur daughter about it and explain to her that she now has her own brother or sister to play with
My sister and I are 16 years 11 months apart 
we are close, now oldest is only 3 years younger than her and they fight like cats and dogs lmao
There’s 11-13-16 years between my older kids and my youngest. The one with the 11 year difference was the hardest to deal with during pregnancy and she wasn’t too much of a help during infancy… but toddlerhood has been a blast with her. The older ones… not so much. They love their baby sister but really don’t have much to do with her life.
I absolutely love it
My oldest two are nine and ten years older than my youngest two. They all get along, always have. They’re all adults now and they go on vacation together almost every year.
My mother had my younger brother and me 9 years apart. It didn’t bother me about the age difference.
I loved getting a baby sibling at 11 years old and that was baby number 6 in our house! Definitely have a talk to her when you feel it’s the right time and even if it’s rough to start with, in the end they’ll have an awesome bond and she’ll be an awesome big sister watching over her younger brother or sister 
I’m 7 years apart from one brother and the other brother I’m 9 years apart from,
I have a closer bond with them than I do my two sisters who are only 2-3 years older than me 
However, our older sisters are 12+ years older than they are and they don’t talk to each other much.
Just depends on how you raise them and how involved they want to be.
My brother is just over 21 years younger than me!
He’s 3 months older than my son and they’re more like Bestfriends or cousins than uncle and nephew!
My brother is more like my nephew it feels.
But I do know someone with a 9 year old daughter and a 12 year old son and has a 1.5 year old son. They’re both super inlove with their baby brother and help out whenever they can
im 10 years older then my sister, and honestly we have more of a mom daughter relationship than a sister one. we are very close but our lives are just very different, im married 2 kids and she is 18 in college. she comes to me for advice and guidance more then anything. i have more of a sibling relationship with my brother whose 4 years younger then me we are close and do everything together
Yes I had children ten years apart and one of those had children ten years apart.
It was a lovely experience for my older two ages 12. And 10 when a sister came along! The ten yr old always had the baby and then toddler doing her hair, her nails and toenails, posing her for cute pics and teaching her educational things. The experience was a blessing.
My oldest is almost 12 and my youngest is 6mos with an 8yo in between. They adore one another!
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Yep my kids are 10 years apart! Daughter will be 27 in November and son will be 17 in October! It’s like starting all over again! I only have the 2 no other kid in between!
My kids are 7 years between each other. My youngest is 2 weeks and my oldest is 14 with a 7 year old in the middle. Its great. They both help out a lot. My oldest is all about the baby. As soon as she gets home from school she’s got him and helps.
My youngest of 4 was 12 when #5 was born. They are adorable together! I love watching her read to him or play with him, they have a great bond.
My sister is 13yrs older than me. My brother is 11yrs older. We’re all super close and always have bn. My sister then has 3 older kids, ranging 18-23, then has 3 younger kids 3-11. They’re all super close too
There is almost 8 years between me and my younger brother. I wasn’t thrilled at first, but I actually loved being able to help out with him as a baby. It gave me great child care experience that I will be forever greatful for! 
My sister and I are ten years apart. She was the greatest blessing our family had ever received. We were inseparable until I had to leave for college which was very hard on both of us. She’s still my bestie 
My eldest is 11 in January and I’ve just had a baby 6 months ago so they are 10 years apart! It’s going really well so far. My eldest helps me a lot to get the nappy changing stuff ready, helps me bath him and keeps an eye on him in his chair if I just have to quickly do dishes etc. He adores his baby brother! The only downside is the baby does get more attention than he does because he needs me more day and night but you can prepare your eldest for this with a long talk about babies and how demanding they are. I’ve found going out for lunches here and there has helped too as my eldest can have a hot chocolate and we can eat cake and chit chat while baby sleeps! My eldest is very sensitive too and knows to not leave his toys around because of safety reasons although he can be too loud at times and doesn’t understand the whole over stimulation thing. They have a lovely bond and to see my baby smiling at him as soon as he sees him melts my heart
I feel for you Amanda.
Mine are 23,22,15,14,2. I’ve had them 14 months apart and up to 12 years apart. Honestly it’s great! My only downfall is my energy level to keep up some days now that I’m 40. He’s a quick lil stinker! 
My oldest is 12 and 8 year old loves their baby brother of 6 months so much. But my 12 and 8 year old fight sooooo muuuccchhhh😓
Congrats!! Mine are 6 years apart. I thought my daughter would have a lot of jealousy issues, but she hasn’t. She absolutely loves and adores her baby brother and is a wonderful big sister!! Her little sister is on the way and they’ll be 7 years apart. I don’t foresee many issues until they get a little older (hopefully:crossed_fingers:).
I was 11 and 13 when my sisters were born. I was a pre teen and teen so I wanted nothing to do with them. But I still loved them so much. Now as adults and young adults we are still freaking close.
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My eldest turned 13 in July and I’m currently pregnant with baby number 8… due next month!! All my kids get on so well most of the time. They love having siblings to play with!!
Not any different than having them 20 years apart.
My oldest and youngest are 20 years apart
My oldest is 8 years apart and I wouldn’t ask for it any other way. He absolutely loves and adores his little brother and vice versa. They are old enough apart that they get to experience things on their own so there is no jealousy because one gets to do something and the other can’t.
Mine are 13 yr apart. My son is the oldest and the youngest is a girl. For me its like I have raised two only kids. 15 and 2 he wants nothing to do with her 
not in a bad way but he’s a teenage boy that doesn’t know what to do with a lil one
I have kids who are 10 yrs apart and the oldest is just amazing with the baby
Everything will be ok
Especially since the oldest is a daughter
My eldest brother is only 7 years older than me, we are much closer than with my other brother closer in age… I was absolutely devastated when he left home!!
I have 5… my oldest is 27 and my youngest is 12. They’re as close as they know how to be. I think if they live in the same house (not off to college or outside relationship)they will find their own way. At least mine did.
My kids are 13 years apart. My eldest is not a nurturing type so although she loves her baby siblings ( we have 3) she has not been involved in helping in any way. They are my babies so I don’t expect my big girl to sacrifice her teen years to help me. Had she have enjoyed helping, I’d have welcomed it obviously. having babies when you’re a little older is so wonderful. I have more patience, knowledge, and time to give them. It will be amazing 
I have a 19 year old daughter and almost 9 years old son. They are so close its amazing. She has helped with him since the day he was born.
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My youngest brother is 10 years younger than me and we are way closer than I am with my other 3 brothers who range in age between our age difference
There’s a 10.5 years difference between myself & younger sister. I was the youngest & a brat! I loved it when she was born❤️
I have a 17 and 10 nx month. In btwn were some miscarriages. One of each. They get on ok.
I found oldest kid great when 2nd was born
Built in babysitter in a few years… plus they might not have a playmate relationship, but more of a protector relationship.
My oldest is 16 months older than his brother but 7.5 years older than his sister. (6 year difference between her and the middle child)
No body messes with their baby sister. Except for them I guess.
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I have 5 daughters. 3 fairly close in age, then an eight year gap and two more close in age. Having teens and toddlers is bloody hard work.
But they all really love each other through thick n thin. and really enjoy each other’s company. (They still nit pick and argue)
They’re now 32, 27, 22, 14 & 12.
My daughter is 16 years older than my son!..and they are super close
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I had them 12 years. Its is not bad. They will love it when they are older
My oldest sister and I are 9 years apart. Of course we weren’t very close growing up but now she’s one of my best friends. Even if she’s not thrilled at first, one day she will be.
There is 12 years between me and my sister. We are closer than my other siblings that are only a few years difference. She was like a second mum to me and because I was still young when she had children they were like siblings
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It dont matter the age distance they still gonna fight and argue its just a sibling thing
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My kids are 2, 18, and 20. 
The 18 yr old is the 2 yr olds best friend, the oldest also adores the baby but isn’t nearly as close to him as the middle one.
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Mine were 8 years apart it waslike was like having 2 only children when they where little when they are grown they are good friends.
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I am 13 years older than my middle brother…I was thrilled when he was born…it was like having a live doll. 3 years later there was a second little brother…it was all great.
Didnt have any problems with any of it but it was very much like raising an only child
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I doubt they have a playmate relationship. Making them like a built in babysitter seems to cause resentment issues from the people that I’ve known that were the older siblings. It’s not that they don’t love their siblings but they felt they were being treated like a third parent when they just wanted to be kids too.
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There’s 27 years between my brother and I lol
My aunt had her daughter who justs turned 16 and her son who will be 7 in December, they are 10 years or so apart
My eldest is 17 and youngest just 2 weeks old!
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I was 13.5 years old when my mom had my brothers (twins). To this day, when they need something, they run to Sis. (I am 46 now and they just turned 33.
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Its LOVELY ! I have a 14 yr old and 11 yr old and a newborn they love their sister always willing to help out and its just easier having one small one vs 2 smalls ones
I’m 17 years older than my brother. That’s my best friend. He’s an amazing uncle to my son and the best friend a girl could ask for.
My kids are 10 yrs apart. They’re 15 and 25 now. When the little one was born, the jealousy was a bit different , not as evident, but eventually they got along well
I have three boys and their ages are 20,9,8 and sometime all three of them can get along and sometimes we don’t but it is my that are close in age that like to fight more than anything and I just let them do it
My daughter are 10 yrs apart and grt friends…always have been from day 1
I have a 3 months old, a 9 year old, and a 12 year old. My older kids love there little sister.
My daughter and first son are 11 years apart and they have the greatest relationship because from Day 1 of having him, I involved her in everything from helping with his diaper, bathing, feeding, dressing him, playing, etc. Getting her involved was the BEST decision. Jealousy never ever became an issue. As for me…well, felt like a first time but instincts kicked right in. Best of Luck 
My sister and I are ten years apart and have always had a great relationship! When she was a baby I loved helping and she has always tagged along with my friends and I. Now that’s she’s in college we are even closer!
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My brother an I were 4yrs apart an he was pissed an could have killed me🤣. He hated my mom for yrs told her everyday how he wished I hadn’t been created an hoped that I would die before him😂.
My son is 27 and my daughter is 17. They are best friends.
I’m 27. I have an infant baby sister
I have a sister 3 years older than me and a brother 9 years younger. I’m closer to my brother. im 37 now and he’s 28.
It is awesome!! My 11 year old is absolutely amazing with my 1 year old and vice versa
I have a sister ten years younger, one twelve years younger and the youngest is sixteen years younger and we are all very close. It depends on the way you have them interacting. They’re my babies
I have 2 kids 16 years a part and they have a wonderful relationship and I know if several families where there is a big gap between kids and it’s great, they actually fight less than siblings that are close together.
My daughter & son r 10 yrs apart…more like a mom & son relationship…but they love each other
My sister and I are. We weren’t close growing up, but it got better as we got older and older.
My oldest and my youngest are 7 years apart and adore each other
It’s so hard u have to start all overs good luck 
My sister and I are 7 years, ages 7(me)&14(her) we started growing apart a bit as we had completely different interests… When she moved out when I was 12ish and by the time I was 15 ish we were getting close again. We are now best friends, we talk every single day. I never felt like an only child, my mom and I would have family dinners with her and her now husband at least once a month.
Me and my sister are 7 years apart and we didn’t really get along until I moved out the 2nd time
Kids are 8.5 years apart and its really nice, actually. They’re inseparable, my oldest is a great big sibling. Its also been so incredibly helpful to have someone who can grab a sippy cup or bring me diapers or keep an eye on him while I use the bathroom.
I had 3 children when I met my now husband. When we had our child my youngest was 8. They all got along great. Now my older three are grown and my youngest is 17 and a senior in high school. I asked him the other day had he ever wished we would have had another after him so he would have a sibling close and he said absolutely not. He is definitely enjoying being the only child now lol
My brother is 8 years younger than I am, it was rough I ended up doing a lot of babysitting (starting the age of 11) and diaper changing (until he was potty trained). I understood that I was helping my mom and dad and that he needed more attention. My mom and I grew further apart, she did not have much time for me when he was a baby, by the time I was 15 and he was 7 my parents were divorced my mom worked evening shift and I took care of my brother after school. We were not well off I knew I was helping. The only thing I will say is make time for your older child, make it special just you and the older child, even if it is only for an hour to go get a milkshake. Make sure the older child knows how much any help is appreciated, often my mom forgot I was a teenager she just knew she could depend on me.
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My daughters are 11 and 1.5 and its great. My 11 yr old is a big help
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My late sister was 16 years older than me. Growing up she was my idol, and my absolute best friend. The loyalty & bond between us was incredible. X
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I have a 10 year gap between my first and secound boys he is now turning 23 my 3 younger boys adore him and he them he is a great role model for them
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My kids are 27, 24, both boys my daughter is 6. They are wonderful with her especially the youngest son
My kids are 13 11 and 2. They have a great relationship and always excited to see each other. Just remember to keep older ones involved in caring for little one, they won’t feel resentful.
My kids are 24, 18, and 8…they are very close. Youngest is with my bf, who has an almost 27yo and a 23yo and the relationships with the youngest aren’t as close but they still are pretty close. She is an aunt 4 times over with a 5th on the way.
I think it is how you (the parents) treat it that most affects the sibling relationship.if you make helping fun…instead of a chore…and don’t putrhe weight of being responsible for the new sibling on the older one(s) as the littler one grows, it makes a world of difference.
My kids are 10 years apart…and it’s hard. 
ha I’m not ok hahaha