My daughter was 18 when I had my 2nd baby
It’s AMAZING! I highly recommend. My son turns 13 in November and my little turns 4…i also have a 10 year old daughter. Having big kids around when you have a little one is hands down the best. They’re so much help!!
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It’s awesome!! My oldest is 12 and youngest is 1. She is so helpfull and loves the baby so much, it’s been a blessing.
I have 14 yr old twins and 4 yr old. Like anything has blessing and headache. Biggest issue seams to be picking family movies to watch
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I’m 15yrs older than my brother, just him and me. It’s interesting the gap but so much fun. Your daughter will be fine as long as you include her and let her have some input in naming, buying and even feeding
I have 15 yr old twins and a 5yr old. It works out great until its time to decide on where to eat at lol but the older ones enjoy the little one and they are super close
I was 9 & 10 when my little sisters were born. Theres obviously pros & cons but the older one will most likely be SO excited and a ton of help! I remember being so proud to show off “my babies” to all my friends lol
Mine are eight years apart. It’s so nice to watch him help her as she learns new things. We do have to be very intentional about carving out time for just him because she does need for more given her age. They actually get along very well. She looks up to her big brother.
I don’t have kids, but my “baby” sister and I are 12 years apart. It didn’t cause a rift. I love my sister and I was so excited for her arrival. I helped my mom take care of her and everything. We are both adults now (she is 28 now) and we are close.
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Mine are 13 yrs apart. It keeps you young!!
My brother is almost 9 years older than I am. He was a great big brother always protective. The biggest issue we had was him not wanting to hang out with his little sister when he was in high school. Lol. We are the best of friends as we’ve gotten older. The differences in perspectives melts away as the years pile on.
As long as the older ones are not expected to act as stand-in parents, like some families do unfairly to their older children, it is a blessing. When there are large gaps, you can spend undivided attention with each child as they grow older and you aren’t worrying about doing double-duty of everything (ie diapers, potty training, etc.). It can be wonderful and actually more enjoyable as a parent!
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It’s awesome 
my sons are 11&10 and my daughter is one. They are a lot of help and very protective 
I have 2 kids, my son is 26, and my daughter is 14 years old both of them were not planned, but i am glad i had it that way , u will see it is great my son was old enough to watch his sister so I can go shopping and etc 
I have a 17 year old and a 7 year old. They love each other. They annoy each other. The little one looks up to my oldest. They have the best relationship
I have a 23 ,18,17,11 year old and I’m due with my 5th child in 2 weeks. Age differences have never been an issue for me. My oldest 4 can’t wait to help with their new little brother.
My sister was 9 years older than me. She just took over when I was born. She did everything with me,taught me to read and everything.
It is amazing! I have an 11 year old, an 8 year old and a 1 year old all girls. The older 2 are such a big help with their baby sister. They love to read her stories and play with her. They even change her diapers as long as only a pee pee diaper. Lol!
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I’m the youngest of 8, my eldest sister is 16 years older then me. No problem.
My youngest and my oldest are 23 years apart, with 3 in the middle. 
it’s fine. Seriously.
Will be fine just had a baby and the oldest helps a lot.
It should be fine! I’m the youngest of my siblings them being 10 and 11 years older than me, I always loved hanging out with them and they never minded. But once they moved out it kind of sucked because I was alone and I’m now 25 and not close with them at all, only talk on holidays and birthdays. I just had my third child a little over a week ago and still havent heard from either of my brothers lol
It’s not as bad my first born is 14 she loves her little sister. Then my son is 10 and he is the biggest help. My LO is 14 months 
My sister and I are 11 years apart and we’re still super close. They are old enough to help at that age.
My two daughters are 10 years apart and I love it. My older daughter was so helpful with my daughter when she was a baby, and she loves her sister. They fight like every other sibling but also play very nice together. I just make sure I give my oldest one on one time with me.
It’s not bad… my daughter is the oldest and she is a great help but also it was hard for me having to start all over again with loosing sleep, diapers, bottles etc… to me that has been the hardest part even now that he’s two.
My son is 12 in October and daughter is 1 in January so 11 year age gap, my sons brilliant with her, adores her and helps out a lot. He was desperate for a brother or sister for a good 3 years though.
14, 4 and 3 are my kiddos age. Its been great!
I have a 9 year age gap between my girls and their bond is incredible, my 10 year old is SO in love with her baby sister & is so proud of her! we always kept my eldest fully involved with everything when I was pregnant (I was worried she’d feel left out… but actually they leave me out ) & the new born stage, she was/is mega helpful, we never make her feel like she HAS to help ever, but they have so much fun together they laugh all the time the only prob I find is some family days out are difficult finding something suitable for them both to have fun xx it’s amazing honestly xx
Wonderful my daughter is 12 and my son is 5months old. My daughter adores him. She is my helper. She calls him her real baby doll.
I have a 13 year old, a 16 year old and a 3 year old. It’s so good, because the older ones are so helpful with the little one. My kids were super excited when I got pregnant.
I’ve got a 1 and 10 year old and their relationship is so sweet. They truly love each other.
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I’m the youngest by 8 years. My oldest brother (10 years older than me) says I ruined his life 
we actually get along great. My only advice, don’t make your oldest daughter feel like a second mom. My brother (8 years older) became like a second dad and we resent each other because of it. Brother (10 years older) and I get along great!
My sister and I are ten years apart. I cant give much insight from the mom POV but as a sibling it wasnt terrible. We weren’t exactly close due to the age gap but I always had someone watching my back growing up. She gave me a hard time like siblings do but if anyone else tried she was there. And I was too young to remember, but she was supposedly a big help to my mom once she started driving picking me up from school and stuff like that. I kinda think it was a god send to my mom. She worked third shift mostly so having my big sis to watch me during the day was a huge help to her while she slept. It was also kinda cool having a sister that much older than me. She used to do my hair and makeup once I was in middle school and I got a lot of awesome hand me down clothes (she always bought name brand) so I was always the best dressed. Lol. It had its ups and downs but all in all not too bad.
My sister and I are 18 yrs apart and we are super close as I grow up now best friends
I feel like that age gap is actually alot easier than having them close together!
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My youngest was born the year my oldest graduated High School. She’s like a second mom to him and he adores his older sister!
My girls are 17,15, and 9 months and it’s definitely not a bad thing
My youngest sibling and I are 15 years apart. She’s my bestfriend.
I have a 16, 12, 6 and 10 week old baby…They all love their baby sister. It’s awesome 
I do! I have 17, 14 and 4. MY daughter is 14 and actually she really enjoyed helping with things.
My sister and I are 7 years apart. We are best friends. We never fought never had anything to fight about. She was in fifth grade when I was a senior. We later became best friends
There is an 8 year gap between my two boys and my daughter. They absolutely adore her even as grown men. She couldn’t have better protector than her 2 older brothers! I also have siblings that are 11 and 13 years older than me and we are pretty close as well.
My sisters and I are 10 and 13 years. Please I ask as a child who grew up being the little mama let your oldest still be a kid. If the child steps up thays one thing, but dont just assume that the child will like my parents did. It was very hard growing up and constantly being the one who cared for them typically cuz once school was over I wasnt allowed to go to friends houses or anything cuz I had a job at home to take care of 2 littles. So sadly I’m more of mom than my own mom to them.
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I have a 15yr gap between my 2 girls an my eldest adores her lil sis they are so close already its unreal xx
I have a 13 and 10 year old daughter and have a 3 month old son. Both my girls are amazing with their brother! They are a great help for me too! They dote on their brother and it’s so lovely to see them with him 
My middle and my oldest are 14 years apart. She was more than ready for a little sister! They have an extremely close bond
There’s a 10 year gap between my 2 daughters… my daughter was 10 when I had her sister and they have an incredible bond though sometimes her sister who is 2 now bugs my 12 year old
Little late for that question…lol
Our oldest was 7 when our 2nd baby was born and then 8 when our 3rd baby was born, now they are 9,2,1 and it’s awesome. Our 9 year old it’s such an awesome helper, he loves being a big bro!
My oldest is 20,then 11, then 3.5 yr old twins.
Jade-Marie Starr, any insight or advice?
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My kids are 16 years apart.
15, 12 and 1. My older two boys adore their baby brother. I had no idea they were going to think he was this cool and want to play and interact with him like they do.
It’s honestly been a ton of fun.
My oldest and youngest are 9 years apart (2 in between them). Even though they’re 9 years apart, she’s his twin so he tolerates her😂
My oldest will be 20 on Saturday…my second is 7 my 3rd is 6 and my youngest is 2
My cousins are ten years apart and they are very close
My youngest son was 10 when my 5th child was born n they r close. The ones closer together on the other hand r mean as hell to each other.
I’m glad I came across this post! My daughter is almost 12, and I am currently almost 14 weeks pregnant. I have been worried as my daughter has been an only child and I worry about how she will react.
Mine are 9 years apart and have a sweet relationship. Now, we do homeschool so they’re together all day too.
My sister is 13 years younger than I am and we’re not close. She started kindergarten the fall after I graduated high school.
My boys were 16 and 17 when their baby sister was born. They were on love with her. She’s 2 now and has both wr brothers and Daddy whooped.
me and my baby brother are 8 years apart and besides my kids he is the most important person in the world to me since day one. never had any jealousy issues or transition issues to a new baby. i’m now 28 and he’s 20 and our relationship has always been great
My brother is 14 years younger than me and I adore it, it’s the best feeling as I can help out and do cool things with him
Mine are 18 years apart and they’re as thick as thieves
My boyfriend’s daughter is almost 10 years older than my daughter/her half sister. They’re close-ish now when they see each other but because they don’t live in the same house, I feel like they will grow up separately with their own separate lives and it’ll just be a casual relationship instead of a close one
Me and my bro 10 years me and my little big sis 8 years
No problems at all
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My brother and I are 9 years apart. He’s my best friend
My oldest two are 9 and 10, and I now have a 1 year old and a 9 week old. It’s been brilliant, they get on so well and the older kids love to help out and play with the young ones
My girls are 10 years apart and they do great together. Sometimes I feel a little bad because they can’t play together the same way they could had they been closer in age, but my oldest adapts well for the little one. We’ve tried to make sure they both have quality time together, as well as apart.
Just try to keep your oldest involved. Make sure they don’t feel forgotten in any way. You’ll find a groove. Good luck!
I just had a baby and my oldest is 10. It’s really great. The 10 year old loves to help take care of him. Very sweet relationship.
My kids are 12 years apart and my oldest was not thrilled 
I have an 11yo, 5yo, and 1month old. They argue over who gets to hold the baby
Im 12 years older then my sister and 13 years older then my brother . And my sister is 12 years older then my son . Its a blessing in my family
My 2 boys , (men now) are 10 yrs apart. The 1st still acted like an only child. He took part in my youngest boys life and all the sports he was in. They werent very close and now are not close at all. Your oldest will prob still want all the attention as a only child for so long. The 2nd is an awesome man and joined the military at 22yrs old. He is doing better in life by not being spoiled.
21, 19, 16, 5, 4, and 15 months. You’ll be fine. There is never a right age gap for everyone. My youngest three love their big siblings. The 19 and 5 are like best friends. It all in how you raise them and how it works or doesn’t.
My sons are 12 years apart
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And will be 9 months in 2 days
I have a 14, 10, and 3 year old. I was so worried when the baby came along, but oh my goodness, there has been nothing better than watching the relationship between the 2 older ones and the little one… especially the teen. He is her BABY!
I have a 10, 6 and in 2 days an 11month old
My sister is 10 years younger than me, at first I was jealous as I’d never had to share my mum but soon understood and I absolutely adored her… still do now x
My son is 9. My daughter will be 1 in two weeks so almost the same. It was weird in the sense that it was like having to relearn all the baby stuff again and dealing with a newborn and etc. But my 9 year old is amazing with her and he’s so helpful and he loves her so much. She just chills in his room playing with toys while he watches movies or plays games and gets mad when I take her out sometimes. She loves her brother. So yeah I don’t see anything wrong with it 
it’s just as they get older the oldest probably won’t wanna play as much but I’ll cross that bridge when I come
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9 years apart and they best friends
My kids are 17 years apart it was hard but they love each other either know my youngest is a toddler
I have a 26 year old, a 23 year old, a 7 year old and a 5 year old. Also, 3 grandkids, 7, 6 and 5. It’s an exhausting crazy fun time when we all get together!
My honest opinion in my CASE I found it extremely hard 
my son hated pregnancy and would never talk about it. When his brother arrived there was no bond. I struggled with the gap had massive post natal depression so that probably added to the bond between them
Both. I love my boys so much but yes I wish they were closer they are 13 and 24 now
My brother and I were 10 years apart. I absolutely adored him we were very close. Then I hit teen years and it became difficult and we were just on different pages.
I’m ten years apart from my sister. I’m 29 and she’s 19. We do not get along at all. She used to love me when she was little but once she hit puberty she started resenting me.
My oldest is 21, second is 14 in 3 weeks and youngest will be 3 in December . I think the age gap works great for my family, the older brothers adore their little brother . I used to be concerned how my oldest when he was a teenager used to get irritated by his younger brother a lot but now they are very close . I think as long as you tell the kids , especially the older one ,to be patient with the younger sibling they will grow to love each other. Have them spend time together , make it a point to let the older sibling help you with the little one .
I was 10 when my mom had my brother and we get along better then he gets along with my mom but I only spent 6 years at home left the house at 16 and I’m still helping my mom raise him I think he hated not having siblings at home but he’s also a mamas boy so idk he got the advantage of getting spoiled but he’s also ungreatfull at times so it’s both good and bad I guess
I’m trying to have another one, my son is 8. I never wanted them that far apart but looks it will be.
My kids are 17, 7 & almost 3. It was so much easier having my kids 10 years apart verses 4! Go for it! My oldest is a great help & big brother to his little brothers. I had many people ask me why I had my kids 10 years apart as if it’s weird or odd. It’s no one’s business honestly. We were young parents with my oldest & I had a tramatic delivery as well & miscarriages so there are many reasons why. Live your life how you want to. There is no right or wrong way. Your baby & oldest will be loved no matter what because of you.
My oldest daughter was 9 and a half when i had my second child. She was grossed out my whole pregnancy but once she saw her brother she fell madly in love with him. She is the best big helper ever. I have 2 step kids that were 6 and a half when we had our youngest and they are amazing with him as well.
My oldest brother is 9 years older than me and I adore him he’s always got me covered when I need advice. I try to do the same thing for my youngest brother who’s 15 years younger than me.
I’m currently pregnant with my 3rd…my oldest is 10…my second is 5 will be 6 this month. My oldest is excited to be a big brother again. He’s already been very good in helping with his brother and he’s excited to finally have a sister
There is 11 years and 5 days between my sons. And he was over the moon to find out I was pregnant and has so much love for his baby brother who is now nearly 10 months and there is 9 years between my baby son and daughter and the same again she was over the moon and loves not being the baby no more she really enjoys being a big sister x
My kiddos are (the first 4 were all born within a five year span) then 14 years later I found out I was pregnant lol so my kiddos are now 21,19,17,16, 2 . The folder kiddos love each other and their baby brother a LOT!
You gave to relearn to all the baby stuff again, my sister and I are 9 years apart, and my mom included me a lot in the things she did for my sister. It is hard cause I remember my mom dealing with me at school extra stuff I had to do, with the sleepless night with my sister was a lot
My oldest son was turning 12 and my daughter 10 when my youngest was born. They loved having a baby brother! Of course my daughter tried to mother him and my son said all the girls flocked when he had him lol.
My daughter’s fight a lot!!! 6 and 15. The 6 year old always wants the 15 year old to play with her and she does not want to.
I’m 31 and my baby brother is 8
I have 2 daughters aged 13 and 5 and believe it’s a big help for me as my elder one is like a second mother.
I had a 10 year old when I had my last baby. My 19yr old was thrilled with her baby sister and keen to help out. Mind you I never expected her to care for her baby sister! I think that is the key, older children are not there to mind their siblings.