How often are you and your husband intimate?

Wondering if you can ask this question to the page for anyone who is comfortable. I have known my partner 23yrs and we have officially been together 1yr though sleeping together on and off for 10yrs. I am currently 5months pregnant and a conversation last night between my partner and myself come up that he believes we have a sexless relationship because once a week in his eyes is not normal he says sex at least three times a week is what a normal relationship looks like. I would like to know what others opinions are on normal amount of sex a week is.

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How often are you and your husband intimate?

3 to 5 times a week here

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Mine travels but when he’s home 4-5 days a week.

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My husband and I are 3-5 times a week unless someone isn’t feeling well. We have been together for 9 years.

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There’s no correct answer for that. It will be different in everyone’s eyes.
Some weeks suck and stress, busy, tired, kids etc you can go weeks without, some weeks you do it everyday, then the next week none at all… it’s not something you should plan… if the time is right, if the feeling is there, do it. If it’s not, then don’t. There is no “normal” here. There is no bad and there is no good. Some will say everyday, some will say once a week, some will say once a month… it’s just whatever works for you.

Do what feels right for you

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When ever the house needs a good deep clean and I can’t be arsed Todo it :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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It just depends sometimes everyday sometimes 5-10 times a week sometimes 0 times a week lol I have 3 kids and we have a busy schedule sometimes I’m just tired hey atleast he getting it once a week lol

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Normal based on research is 1-2 times a week

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I wish I got some once a week :weary:

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There is no such thing as normal - it is different for all couples

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I’m gone 4 days a week but the 3 I am home it’s 1-2 times a day

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The last thing i wanted to do for most of pregnancy was have sex so dont feel alone in that aspect. Before/after pregnancy was more like 3-4 times a week though

Maybe once a week…I’m not a sexual person though

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At least once a day (hubs blames it on the pregnancy :joy::joy:)

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Girl me and my partner either go like 3 weeks of sex twice a day or 3 weeks no sex at all and we consider it healthy because we have sex when both want to I think it’s normal sex life when you both want it when it’s happening

We both have a lot going on both mentally so I’d say once every 2 weeks seems to be the norm for us since we had our son. Up till then it was 2 times a day lol

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There isn’t a normal amount! People are comfortable with different things and that’s their normal

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About 3-5 times a week here!

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It varies and depends what we have going on in that particularweek…I don’t think there’s a “normal” in this department? :thinking: for some people once a week is perfectly fine. For others, once a day or 4-5 times a week is normal.

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It how you feel really, some couples every night, some several times a week, just depends on their relationship, what they feel, schedule, etc. If I was totally into a man, he turned me on and was able to get me off shoot Ill be over him as much as possible lol but he is letting you know he would like to hv more sex with you so talk to him and just hv fun and enjoy each other, he obviously feels he isnt getting his needs met.

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We go through dry spells. But average at least twice. Week.

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When im.in a relationship every night unless it’s period week or I’m extremely exhausted

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Almost every day. Boy likes tacos tho so even when we dont he still wants to eat. Together over 9 years

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I have been with my husband for 8 years we have a 5 yo and we’re lucky if we have sec 3x a month some months

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Maybe like 1 x a week sometimes 1x every 2 weeks. Opposite shifts , kids , chores ,sleep. He confront me if it gets to bad. We both have a low sex drive…

I think once a week is pretty normal

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About 2 to 3 times a week. Been married 11 years

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We have it every day to every other day.

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3x a week. I believe in a healthy sex life. No matter what’s going on we need to stop and focus on each other.

I am a daily or at least every 2nd day with enthusiasm kinda girl

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Every day of the week over here :rofl::woman_facepalming:t4:

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Sometimes its every night, sometimes there is weeks in between. Other times its a quicky while the kids are out or busy. There is no week the same

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Dude sounds like he needs to befriend his palm. It’s different for everyone. AND you’re PREGNANT. He needs to lay off

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Everybody is different. I’m a sex addict is what my boyfriend calls me because I can go all day long but when we are busy it’s usually at least once a day sometimes once a week

There is no set definition of normal. It’s whatever works best for you and your partner. If one of you thinks once a week isn’t enough, try twice a week as a compromise.

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My fiance and I have been together almost 8 years. And we have sex usually once a week, sometimes once every two weeks. We work opposite shifts and I have no thyroid so I’m tired most days I work.

Usually my husband is gone M-F and so only 1x a week but even when he is home it’s only once a week usually. I just have no desire what do ever

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Been married for 6 years, and we do it everyday.

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I think he is a lucky man😊. Most of the comments I read must be written by rabbits. Lol

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Your boyfriend is delusional.

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Sex is awesome when pregnant.

I used to be every day, but now we are lucky for twice a month. We have two babies, a 3 year old and an EXTREMELY clingy 10 month old, (who also cosleeps) so we have very little time for sex. And when we do, more touching is like the LAST thing I want. :sweat_smile:

I’ve been with my husband 16 years it’s everyday thing unless my monthly friend is around but I still help him in other ways around that time

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Once a week on average. Sometimes less if he’s being a d*ck. 💁. Married 13 years. Together 16

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:rofl:
A lot of people were raised not to withhold sex from your man or he’ll find someone else. Which leave a lot of people having sex out of obligation and not bc they WANT to.
Depends on your relationship. If you feel wanted, appreciated etc. You have sex more. It’s a fact.
My husband and I, some weeks are hard and it’s once a week. Some weeks it’s 2-3 times a day 5 days in a row lol.

My husband and I have been married now for 20 years,we have 7 kids. When we first got together it was every day. The more kids that we had the less time for sex we had,plus he worked midnights. We probably have sex about once every 2 weeks now. It works for us. Every one is different.

Usually once a week for us we would like to more but I just had our fourth baby so we can’t always and that’s okay if he’s complaining about once a week he’s gonna be really upset when you can’t for 6 weeks from giving birth. He needs to chill

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Once in 12 years. Get over it, Figure out what you want and what’s important to you!!!

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Everyone is different :woman_shrugging:
But 3-4 times a week is average

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5-6 times a week. Least amount a week is 3 times and thats when we both are working 60+ hours a week almost 5 months pregnant!

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When my partner and I are together, it’s every night…

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Shoot I wish we did it once a week!! :joy: 12 years together. Our 2 year old is a major c block!! Haha! But we are good, we just try when we can and sometimes that’s once a month

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Once a week definitely doesn’t seem normal. 3 times a week minimum sounds more normal🤷🏻‍♀️

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When my husband and I first got together we had sex almost every night. Five years into our marriage and 3 kids together 5 in total with one each from relationships before and now we barley ever have sex. He’d be lucky to get it once a month. At five months pregnant I am literally never in the mood

Twice a day for me, so a good estimated average is 10-14 times a week.

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At 5 months pregnant I wasn’t having too much sex myself. It was exhausting and required bending where I couldn’t :joy:Now after birthing my last child 3 years ago, we have sex 3-4 times a week if it’s a good no distractions from kids week lmao! If a lot of distractions, 1 time that week. It fluctuates a lot. Hope this helps!

Everyday if we have the chance .

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Sometimes it can be 3 plus a week other weeks 1 and then other times it could be weeks in-between

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My husband and I have Been together 8 years.
We have 4 kids ( from previous marriages) between us.
We are intimate every other day. Some times every day for a while. Hell sometimes morning wake up and lay down lol. I think it’s different for everyone. The youngest in our house is 11, so I’m not spending the entire day chasing babies anymore

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There isn’t a normal amount. Communicating is key. Being in love is key. Helping one another, respecting one another, keeping it fun, being trustworthy all go hand in hand for what a normal amount of sex is.

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Mine works a lot so normal for us is like once every 2 weeks. Once a week sounds normal and definitely doesn’t sound like a sexless marriage lol

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Once a week isn’t enough for me either. I’d have sex daily or twice a day if it were feasible. There is no “normal”… there’s what works for your relationship. He obviously would enjoy more often.

been together for 15 years I’m lucky if it’s once a month :rofl:. I have two little boys with autism so I’m extremely tired and they don’t sleep. Ugh. I believe everyone’s situation is different.

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When preg he’s lucky that he gets it once a week! I’ve been married to my so for 12 years together 16 n we do it whenever sometimes we go 2 weeks and sometimes we do it every night. All depends

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These is no “normal” sex life. It’s literally what works for you and your partner. My fiance and I sometimes go once a week and then there’s days we do it multiple times a day. Depends solely on our moods.

Morning, night, sometimes an afternoon quickie. I know we’re not the norm though.

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Everyone’s “average” is different. There’s some weeks that I want it constantly. There’s some weeks I’d dare him to touch me.

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Depends, sometimes it’s once a day for a few weeks, sometimes none for a week. Every once in awhile it’s numerous times a day. There’s not a set amount that’s normal in any relationship. Sometimes we’re too busy or tired.

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1-2 times/day & at least 4-5 days/week…When I was pregnant,it was 3-4 times/day nearly every day.

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13 years, every day. If I’m lucky I can push it to maybe 3-4 times a week lol, sometimes I’m too tired.

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I think it’s up to what a couple is comfortable with.

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We do it maybe 3 times a year :grimacing: so you’re fine lol (I’m not sexually attracted to people, I go by other things, so sex isn’t a priority)

Depends on energy levels and time but on good weeks I’d say 3x week, sometimes it’s 1 time a week, and other times we’ll go a couple of weeks.

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3-4 times a week, sounds about right.

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3 to 4 times a week depending on how tired we both are :rofl:

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I wish it were every day but right now it’s about once every 3 weeks. I desire it everyday haha but by the end of the night it doesn’t happen :joy:

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Honestly it does not matter what others are doing; what’s right for you is what’s right for you.

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Depends me and my partner have went over a year without sex. It just depends on how we feel we can have sex once a week or month or om the other hand go months without it we have known each other since we was 8 years old we have been together for 9 years will be married 8 years this Halloween

We’ve been together off and on 17 years, married 7 years. For the last 4 years it’s been once a week, every once in awhile more, less if he’s getting on my nerves or pissed me off. Every couple is different, what’s normal to one is above or below normal to others. I dont think there’s a number to make it ‘normal’ it’s what you both want and can do.

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As if you need to be told - the average defers from couple to couple, even person to person. It is what YOU and YOUR partner agree to (even compromise), as well as feel comfortable with.
Do NOT, and I repeat, do NOT let any of these women in here make you feel guilty and as though you are not doing enough.

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2 to 3 times a day most of the time for us.

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Once a week doesn’t sound sexless to me :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Im good with 1 or 2 times a month…him not so much. He would like it 2 or 3 times a day🤣…but it is not about what works for other relationships it may not work for yours

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Normal can range from never to multiple times a day. It’s going to be based on both of your needs and what satisfies you both.

Mine gets it whenever he wants it. I get it whenever I want it. That’s normal for us. It probably doesn’t work for most others.

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Everyone is different… but for me, once a week is not enough. Maybe some weeks its ok to have once or twice a week. But to me sex is an important part of a relationship. Its whatever works for the relationship, if your partner is opening up and saying their sexual needs aren’t being met im sure you could consider having sex more… and if you don’t want to have sex with your partner that often… are you with the right man??

So we’ve been together 10 years, married almost 8. Truthfully, we haven’t been intimate in a few months. Sometimes we will be intimate 2 times a week. But long stretches without isn’t uncommon for us. We have completely different schedules and I have a few medical issues that makes it not pleasant for me. Luckily my husband is completely understanding and doesn’t pressure me.

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You should talk more Intercourse is not the only thing meaning sex

I’m 7 months pregnant, hearts are sex days😂

I’m lucky to get it once a week. We’ve been together for almost 4 years. I wish it was more but between work schedules and kids we don’t have the time.

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Just depends…26 years together. Sometimes daily then sometimes 1 time every few months. We work alot of overtime and opposite shifts. So exhaustion takes over. When we have time it happens but it’s not something either of us dwell on. Our love for one another doesn’t change based on sexual desire. We respect each other’s needs and most of the time, 4 hours of sleep a day is more important than sex😉

Sometimes it’s multiple times a week sometimes its a few times a month and sometimes its once every month or so. It honestly depends on how we are feeling. A sexless marriage means there is no sex. Once a week isnt sexless

Depends on the person, with my ex husband it would be weeks sometimes a whole month :woman_shrugging:t2: now with my current husband I just can’t get enough if possible all day everyday :drooling_face::drooling_face::drooling_face:

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Honestly, I would love it like once or twice a month. He’d love it everyday, multiple times if needed. You can’t force someone to be intimate with you. Set boundaries if needed. It’s your body and your life.

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Every day or every other day. Depends on how tired we are.

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When I was pregnant we only had sex 3 times. PP we didn’t have it til she was like 9 weeks. Then maybe once a week since (if we are lucky)

Been with my man for nearly 10 years. In the beginning it was at least once a day. This last couple years have been tough as I’m the one going through a lot mentally. When the drive is there, it’s way up there but last for a very short amount of time. When there is NO drive, it’s completely nothing and can last what feels like a life time. I’m unsure of hiw to get out of this major up and down roller coaster ride.

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Well, it just depends on your relationship and sometimes pregnancy interferes with that. Does he make you feel safe? Does he make you feel good? Is it an enjoyable experience for the both of you? And maybe you just don’t want to have sex more than once a week and that’s okay. There is a lot of factors and it’s really hard to tell you what my normal is for you, because I don’t have influence of what satisfaction looks like for you. If you’re okay with trying more, maybe you guys could go out on a date or have romantic evenings that put you in the mood.

Try to every second day as we are ttc. But normal 3 to 4 times per month

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