Normal is different for each couple. I think he brought it up to you wrong, but I think he is trying to tell you he would like to have sex more frequently. Maybe bring it up again with him and have a kind discussion.
What do I WANT? 3 to 4 times a week. What is realistic with 3 toddlers right now? Once every couple weeks at this point.
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My man works 2 jobs. He leaves at 4 in the morning. Has been getting home around 230 3 the past few weeks. Gets up at 4pm and leaves for his second job. Gets home around 950 pm eats and goes to sleep. We have sex as little as not at all each week. Or 1-2 times a week. If weāre lucky and things work out we can have it 3-4 times. Other then that is usually on the weekand nights lol weve been together for 4 years almost
I dont think itās appropriate for anyone to say what is āNormalā. Every relationship is different. My husband does not get to dictate when we have sex. So for him we donāt have enough sex. We have been together 10 years married 3. I also work fulltime and have 3 kids and he never has a schedule. As of late it has been much less frequentā¦ almost none existent. At times it was every other day.
We have sex almost every night, been together almost 14 years
I wish I could get it 3 times a week at a minimum 
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My husband and I have been together for 10 years and we still have sex 5 to 6 times a week the only time our relationship wasnāt like this is when I was pregnant with my twins
And at that time I didnāt want to and he dealt with it
Honestly most of the time me and my bf go a week or sometimes 2-3 weeks between sex. Twice a week is alot for us and only happens if we both have free time and get to relax during the week. If itās been stressful or one of us is overworked it doesnāt happen
Almost everyday ā¦. 21 years .
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Depending on how long the couple has been together, most of these women commenting are also forgetting your pregnant so that might slow you down as well. Matter of fact that might slow him down. I think on average if your with someone more than 7 years 2 times a week is ānormalā. Again that is also not factoring in work load,children, and being on your periodā¦
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Whatever works for your relationship! No right answer here. If heās saying not enough sex then maybe you need to have a deeper conversation about what your feelings are, sometimes even if shallow lack of sex can break up a relationshipā¦ he wants you more often than you do him itās making him insecure maybeā¦ again just have a deeper conversation! Explain to him that you are extremely hormonal your body is changing and youāre not feeling 100% yourself and comfortable either maybe itās just a bad season pregnancy is tough.
Since Iāve been pregnant my husband and I only do it like once or twice a month 
but before pregnancy we were doing it about 2-3x a week! Weāve been together for 9 years.
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Thereās no amount of time, marriage is a two way street happy marriages keep that (no )word out of the bedroom
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It depends on what is going on in our lives we have been together 14yrs married for 9 years. There are weeks that we have sex 3 or 4 times a week but there are times that we dont have sex for a few months. It works for us.
Hereās the thingā¦ you canāt compare to others. Each relationship is different because each persons communication, ability and willingness to meet the others love languages, health, and hormones are different.
Statistically speaking though I believe itās 3x a week.
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Together 19 yrs . 2 kids . 12 year gap. Anywhere from 1X a week to 1X every few weeks
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Well Iām 64 and he is 68 been married 45 years plus 4 years. At least 3 to 4 times a week.
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Together 6 years, married 4 of those. Used to be 5 times a week, then turned to 3 times a week after the first child, and now we are 1-2 times a week because of both full time jobs and 2 children. Ideally I would still like 5 times a week, but Iām happy with 2-3
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I think it depends on the person. Once a week would kill me, personally lol
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Every relationship is different but I think the definition of a sexless relationship is 10 times a year or less.
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1x a week. married almost 7 years together 11. sometimes more on special occasions like vacation
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Ha. I am lucky if I get it once bi weekly been married 13 yrs. 2 yrs ago it was once every couple months due to health reasons
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Tell him if he wants more sex he can go get himself fixed because here lately the only thing that anybody wants is for the woman to get fixed so they can keep screwing her without consequences
12 years together here! We average 5-6 times a week. Sometimes 4 times a week because we do have 4 kids so some days we are dog tired!
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Once a day to 1 a year after 15yrs.lol
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I could go for every day, or more than once a day. Realistically 3-4 times a week.
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I love sex every other day. My partner- is not high in libido lol he prefers like once every week. Most of the time he will compromise and do it once every few days. I love sex tho thatās the problem. Iām a submissive woman and my last relationship he was a dom. I was so used to everything sexual, my new partner itās crazy itās not the same. I dont mind it, itās just different to adjust to. But weāve compromised and met in the middle with the sex stuff lol if it was up to me Iād wanna have sex every day
13 years together.
3 to 4 times on a bad week.
Usually every day or every second day.
Anything less than that and I get grumpy.
I think sex needs to be a priority for sure.
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Shouldnāt be comparing other relationships. My ex did the same deal but said we had to do it daily or more than once a day. That was a miserable relationship. Iāve been with my current husband 9 years and at first it was weekly ( he lived 2 hours away and only got to see him on the weekends) . Then when he moved in it may have been a couple of times a week. Then there was a month we maybe did it 1x. And what is he going to do when you arenāt advised 6w no intercourse? Force you to do it anyway making your feel guilty like my ex did. Iāve had 3 living and 2 angels and my now husband has always waited the 6w if not longer if I needed. I would say sexless would be maybe 1 time a year if that.
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Some weeks more then othersš¤·š½āāā¦its not constantly āletās have sex 3 times a weekāā¦some weeks I like him more than othersš¤£
We almost only do it every other weekā¦ or several times when Iām ovulating lol
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iām not in a relationship but if i was, i like it everyday. as much as we can get.
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Iāve been with my husband for 20 years and some years itās great, and by great I mean like 6-7 times a month.
Some years itās once a month.
Iāve never been a 3x a week person, maybe 3 times in one night every once in a while but I count that as one! Lol
Also we have had dry spells 6 months with nothing.
Everyone is different.
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Iāve been married for almost 10 yearsā¦Iām almost 30 and my husband is 31 we will go months without any sex. 
I just have absolutely no interest in sex anymore not sure why just donāt. I guess it depends on the person.
Once a week for me to 2 times a week. Together 7 yrs 2 kids.
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Depends on life. We both work, we have 5 kidsā¦ Some weeks, itās 3-5 times, some weeks itās zero.
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3 times a week is fairly normal. Pregnant and hurting? Nah. Normal? Yes. If it were less than 3 Iād be pissed.
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On a normal week, about 1-2xās a week. He just turned 40 and I am turning 30 soon. We have two children ages 7 and 3.5 and have been together over 9 years. Sometimes itās more, sometimes itās less. It all depends on a lot of factors going on during that week. But even if we arenāt having actual intercourse, we make it a point to be intimate with each other everyday even if thatās just an extra long hug and we just hold each other in a quiet room for a few minutesā¦
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1x a week lol?? No girl more like 3 or 4 times sometimes more if we can. We have 2 kids.
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Been together nearly 3 years and Iām grateful for the once a month sex
Almost 8 years married and we have sex 3-5 times a week.
My bf & I - 5 times a wk
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It depends but to be honest itās a rare week we donāt have sex every day and if not we make up for it on the weekend. I have a toddler and pregnant. We make time and effort for each other.
Once or twice a week. We also have a rule in the house that we offer the other one sex and if the answer is no then, we are free to take care of it ourselves, if we wish.
For the most part we are at least 3 to 4 times a week. Some weeks itās more, some weeks itās less. We didnāt have kids this past weekend and Saturday and Sunday alone we did it 3 times.
We have 3 kids between the two of us and we have been together for 4.5 years.
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Daily if I had it my way normally.
Being pregnantā¦ 2-4 times a week.
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Its been at least 3 weeks since me & my husband has. I would kill for once a week. I feel like im living with a roommate at this point
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My husband is luck if he gets it twice a month. I work 55 hours a week and take care of our children and the house and pets. Plus I am 45 and starting menopause.
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It varies from once a week to 3-5 times a week. Weāre in our 30s, been together 6 years.
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My husband thinks that 1-2 times a day is normal and I just canāt do it anymore weāve gotten into fights about it because I just couldnāt keep up so guess what I aināt giving him anything at all and barely even kissing or hugging him through the day. It been this way for over a week and until he can respect my boundaries Iām not planning on having an intimate relationship with him till then. Sometimes you gotta put your foot down
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It honestly depends on the couple and their sex drives/work schedules. And if you have children. Currently we are doing it twice a week probably. Sometimes more. Sometimes only once 
Well you are pregnant, you would think heād take that into account. Normal is whatever you and your partner are satisfied with. He obviously wants more and is not understanding SMH
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Daily is normal for usā¦ 18 year relationshipā¦ with our second child, my water actually broke after intercourse. So when you get to your due date remember this because it will help induceā¦also lots of walking!
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Once every 3 months lol
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Once a week here most the time, though I would be 100% okay with more
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That depends on your age. And the older you get the less. You wonāt it. At 85. Once a weak. Is enuf
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Everyday we have 3 kids and together 15 years. If either of us are super tired weāll skip a day here and there. Every relationship is different though if youāre not feeling up to doing the deed maybe just do some playing around might help
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Umm. Guess im way behind. Lucky for a few times a month 
. We have 5 kids, the 5 year old literally never sleeps and we have different work schedules
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Iāve been married for 20 years. For us each year is different but mostly 4-5 times a week.
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Age & # of kids plays a role- dont underscore either. Plus career/job schedule & responsibilitiesā¦
Background- we are both 48 & both work full-time. Heās a director in software design- primary breadwinner. Until recently- I owned & operated a brick & mortar kids shoe business. Had 3-5 employees at any time. So I essentially worked 7 days a week even if not physically in rhe store.
Weāve been together 12 years, married for 10. Kids are 8 & 4. Prior to kids, we were 2-3x a week. After kids, we are 1x/month. Just too tired. Plus I was diagnosed w Lupus while pregnant w our 2nd. Kids are horrible sleepers so Iām going on 8 years of not enough sleep. No libido when the only thing you want to do in a bed is sleep.
Hubby & I are very much still in love & have a good marriage. I support his need for more sex. So porn and a sock given the situation. I simply canāt do any more than I am right now. We know itās a situational thing & weāre in it for the long haul.
Me and my man go weeks with out sex Iām also 5 months pregnantā¦ things are just different now that Iām pregnant and he respects that. You should talk to him and let him know how you feel.
Been with my guy 10ish yearsā¦ Still canāt get enough of him lol
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Once a week here been married 13yrs
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Together seven years and average every other day.
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Every relationship is different. Ours varies from none a week to like 4 a week. Everyoneās schedule works differently, yāall have to do something that works for both of you.
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I been in a relationship and maybe 5 times weekly is normal and that twice a day or 3 times it depends on everyone .I have a toddler and 2 six years so I get exhausted a lot
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Ohhh boyyyyy! This is a tough question because there is no correct answer you canāt force yourself to ābe in the moodā especially when heās acting like that. Donāt feel guilt. Itās okay to have different sex drives. Of your partner takes issue itās good to communicate about it. But that being said YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO HAVE SEX WITH A PERSON JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU ARE NOT THEIR PROPERTY!
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I donāt think there is actually a number that is normal. Itās all on the mood. Me and my hubby can do it once a week or we can do it every day of the week and we have been together for 10 years. itās all on what works for you guys. Never a certain amount just as long as you both are happy.
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In my opinion, 3-5x week is healthy and normal but everyone is different 
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Depends. Sometimes its 2-3 times a day for a month, then maybe itās once a week the following month life is busy sometimes. We both struggle with depression and anxiety, so it really varies.
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At least every other day
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Normal is a setting on the washing machine.
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Sometimes we go 2 weeks or even a month with sex we r both exhausted but then Sometimes itās every night for a couple of weeks everyone is different
We have been together 19 years but our kids are still young we are lucky too have time once a week 
if I was pregnant it would be much less
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Mine now is 2-3 times a day (maybe 8 if weāre feeling it) but we just have high sex drives and been together 4 years but Iāve been in 10 year relationships where once a week was normal but I didnāt have the attraction anymore
Yall have too much time and energy. Me and my husband might maybe twice a month every other week 
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Must be nice. I havent had sex in months.
Slap him round the face with a condom and tell him if he used one you wouldnāt be knocked up and not up too it. Heās a dick 
Youāre 5 months pregnant. He knows that pregnancy changes your entire biochemistry, yes?
Itās unfortunate that there are so few resources for expecting fathers. See if you can find an expecting fathers group in your area or online.
As for whatās a ānormalā sex life, everyone is different. It varies a lot by age and by individual.
I strongly recommend coupleās counseling. You two arenāt on the same page. Heās using the symptom (ānot enough sexā) to avoid the real problem. I donāt know what that is, but it sounds like you need a therapist to help you two figure that out. Do it for your future child.
Been with my father of my children for 7 years. Every night, sometimes during the day as well when he isnāt at work 
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Together 18yrs married 15. We have 3 kids and both work full time. We are about once a week. Sometimes more but if you average it out I would say once a week lol
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Shit, Iāve been with my husband for 11 years and have 3 kids and Iām lucky if we have six a couple time a monthā¦
We have sex almost everyday or every other day. Sometimes we will go 3 to 4 days without. It all depends lol we play video games together so sometimes we rather play video games than have sex
Every night skipping period week
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Depends on the relationship and the people itās a conversation you two need to have and work out the needs of each individual and go from there
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Weve been together for 14 years and can vary sooooo much. Sometimes its 2 times a month. Sometimes its 3 or 4 a week.
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Depends on our schedule. I work nights and he works days. So sometimes we go weeks, if our schedules donāt line up, but when they do, itās day after day, multiple times a day 
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2-3 times a week is typical
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He needs to chill ā¦your pregnantā¦donāt allow anyone pressure you into sex especially when your 5 months pregnantā¦tell him to pipe it down and enjoy the pregnancy
I mean whatever is normal for you is normal for you. My husband and I have sex around 5x a week or more (itās usually every night even on the 
& thatās just our normal.
Together 3 years known for 12. Sleep together almost every night. But we do go a couple days apart lately as most nights im to uncomfortable at 7 months lol its getting harder to do.
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Every day but if I am not in the mood I just give him a blow job.
I can everyday and then not for weeks. But my husband knows not to complain lol.
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It really depends. Sometimes maybe twice a month. Sometimes once a week. Sometimes a few times a week. It just really depends. Weāve been together 10 years.
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we do daily. if a day goes by that we donāt do anything at all (not even oral) then weāre both kinda grumpy and frustratedā¦ I feel like honestly we arenāt normal though and maybe thatās why weāre good together because both of our 1st marriages we did it like 3x a week and there were major issues on our ends. it caused fights and ultimately divorce. so idk if weāre considered normal. even us, when weāve fought weāve gone at most 3 days without anything and it almost caused us to break up.
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Together 17 years 2 kids 2 dogs we both work have activities for kids & still make time for 3 times a week
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My husband and I have been together for 10 years at first it was everyday multiple times a day and if my mom had our daughter for a few hours/all day then we would spend a lot of our time having sex on and off that day. Then as time when on our sex life changed and is still changing the past 3 years we have been having sex a lot less to once a week or once every other weeks every now and then we will have sex more then that but we also hardly get anytime alone as our kids are 8,5, and 2 and Iām also pregnant due in a few weeks. But also my husband is almost 32 so his sex drive could have also slowed some and these last 3 years have been stressful. I believe everyoneās sex life changes as time goes on and everyoneās normal is different for others
Together, 15 years, married 12, four kids under the age of 12, and we average 3x a week. It used to be a lot more, but between me in school and his schedule, we just donāt find as much time. 
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Everyone is different!!! What is normal in you house isnāt normal in another. Only thing in the house thatās normal is a setting on the washer
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Depends on the week and how busy we are but at least 3 times a week. Sometimes more sometime less
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