How often are you and your husband intimate?

Depends some times its a few times a months some times its none for a few months and then sometimes its every night or 2. Every relationship is different and not everyone has the same normal.

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Thatā€™s funny. My husband would be so happy with once a week. For us weā€™re lucky if we get to do it more than once a month! We have 2 special needs kiddos who never sleep hardly at all. If they do sleep a couple hours Iā€™m too exhausted to do anything besides sleep myself!

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My husband was in a truly sexless marriage, he was lucky if he got it once every few months so he is happy with at least one a week with me but yes he would like it more often but with a small child and how hard we work once a week is good for me. I tell him quality over quantity and the quality is always good.

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I agree with your husband. For a happy/healthy relationship 3-4X/week would be normal

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I can do 5 times in a week or I genuinely can do once every 2 weeks if thatšŸ¤£ thereā€™s no in between! Definitely donā€™t force yourself into doing it more than what you want to pleasure him, I believe in quality over quantity and I tell my partner that!xxx

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There is no normalā€¦ Everyoneā€™s sex life is different for different reasons. The bottom line is, he is telling you he needs it more. You guys need to work thru this because if u donā€™t it will cause other issues. It could lead to cheating and then youā€™ll be on here with a different story. But he will have already told u what he neededā€¦ Not justifying it, just saying. It will cause other issues within ur relationship if u donā€™t sit down and work it out. Sex is an important piece of a relationship. You have to hear each other and be willing to work with each other on what you BOTH need. Thatā€™s it. Thereā€™s no normal, so get that out of ur head.

My husband and I only have sex once a week. But itā€™s because of our work schedules. If we had a different work schedule, weā€™d probably argue more and still only do it once a week. :person_shrugging: With our schedules, we see each other on the weekends. Weā€™ve been married 17 years and it works for us.

Like every other day or 2. Sometimes longer

I mean we donā€™t live together but we see each other around 3 days a week only because we live almost 3 hours apart. Some weeks we donā€™t do anything, and some weeks we do it 5+ times. Strange to set an amount when you donā€™t know how you all will be feeling that werk

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Once a week, if we have time. Mostly quickies. Talk it over with him and you both come up with something. Surprise him. Change things up a little. Work together. Doesnā€™t really matter how many times others do it or donā€™t. Itā€™s all about your own personal time with each other

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There is no normal . Everyone is different but its not a sexless relationship if thereā€™s sex weekly

I would die if I had to do 3x a week. I like my alone time watching stupid videos on YouTube. :grin:

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It is different every week. Maybe Iā€™m tired or my husband of 13 years is tired. We both run our own business. We have 3 young school aged kids. We try to make time for each other but once a week is completely normal

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Whatever is comfortable for you. There is not really a ā€œnormalā€, in my opinion. It is whatever works for the people in the relationship.

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Sexā€¦ā€¦ what is this you speak of ??? :thinking:

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Me and my husband only have sex maybe 2-3 times a month depending on how often each of us wants to. Weā€™ve been together for 3 years.

  1. ā€œNormalā€ doesnā€™t exist.
  2. Compatibility does exist.
  3. Your sex life is a barometer for the relationship based on point #2.
  4. Hormones impact everything (!!!)

Whatā€™s in the way of more sex? Trust? Connection? Not actually being turned on enough?
All of these things are navigable/ are approaches or skills that can be learned/developed in your relationship, and all of that starts with an honest look in the mirror, and then an honest conversation.
:two_hearts::pray:t2:

Not everyone has the work availability to be able to have sex multiple times a week. Especially if you have young children or like yourself are pregnant. It doesnā€™t just work like that. Emotions. Time. Physical attraction. It all plays part in it. You can be intimate without sex believe it or not. Some men are crazy. Seems he wants more and if youā€™re not available to give it to himā€¦ well you know the rest.

Every dynamic is different. Ideally sure, minimum 3-4 times a week. However this questions is asked without the other details. Do yā€™all both work? Do you have kids? Are the kids involved in extra curriculars? Are you guys in extra curriculars? While yes I would prefer 5-6 times a week, between a full time job,clingy toddler, his job and work schedule that ideal may not be doable or attainable. Some days even when the opportunity is there, we still are just too tired from everything else that cuddles and a nap or show till we fall asleep is more ideal for us both.

Communication. Have a conversation with him, voice concerns and wants

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Normally daily 5 times a week. Sometimes more but 5 is average

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Atleast 5 days if not more a week some dayā€™s a couple times a day.

Regardless of numbers and articles, studies and science: you KNOW when you are not compatible and this is one of the red flags.

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No such thing as normal because every relationship is different.
Maybe you can meet in the middle with 2xs a week.

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My husband and I (high school sweethearts) have been together 25 years and married 22. We have a son that will be 21 on Saturday and a daughter thatā€™s 7. I do not believe there is a normal. Every couple is different. Thereā€™s times we are intimate 2-3 times a week and other times 2-3 times a month. Every couple has different lifestyles and things they have to do.

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Thereā€™s no such thing as Normal to start with , each relationship is different and unique. Some people will have equal sex drives and others not , being pregnant can make woman feel like more sex or the opposite , itā€™s quite natural for sex to wane when the couple have been together for some time and it sounds as though you have been on and off for some time . This is the time for intimacy and no that doesnā€™t mean sex intamacy is a bonding in the relationship SEX is great but itā€™s not the be all in a partnership .

Every relationship is different. My husband and I have been married 14yrs and have a very healthy sex life.I donā€™t think it was very active through my pregnancies. But if he is feeling the loss maybe you and him should try to sex it up a little moreā€¦ got to be a compromise in there somewhere

Have lots of sex before that baby come only if comfortable to do so

Man what?! Itā€™s like 2-3 a day out here yā€™all

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If he would give it to me every day I would take it every day

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We had a lot of it during my pregnancy but I was lucky to have an easier pregnancy than some. But after I had my child it went way down. Sometimes we do stuff a few times in a week or we go a month without and every where in between. Honestly setting up "appointments " can help. We got so busy at times we are like ok letā€™s plan for this day. Each relationship is different and each person sex drive is unique

Each couple is different. My husband and I have been together for 16 years and are intimate 3 to 6 times a week but he knew from the get go that Iā€™m a very sexual person as is he. Find a medium and do what makes you both happy. :heart: Good luck

Maybe once a month. If I am lucky. Sometimes less than that.

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Honey after the baby is born he canā€™t sleep with you for 6 weeks minimal. And heā€™ll be lucky if he gets it once a month. Babies replace slot of your time. Heā€™s gotta get with the program. Your pregnant itā€™s gotta be on your time right now.

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At the beginning of relationship multiple times a day. During pregnancy maybe once a week or twice. After pregnancy maybe 3 times a month. Once both kids where born and over a year old it went back to multiple times a week. Now with 2 kids age 10 and 8. And both of working different shifts itā€™s when ever we get the chance lately itā€™s been about twice a month. Been together 13 years and married 10.

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There is no normal! Every couple has there own unique dynamic!

When it comes to sexual frequency, we tend to compare ourselves to what we think others are doing.
Rather than engaging in these self-defeating mental gymnastics, try focusing on what makes you happy.

Focus on what it might take to ensure a mutually Pleasurable experience for Yourself and your Partner.

Communication is super important.

How do you define sex - does it always have to end with penetration or are there other ways for you both to enjoy it.

Best of luck! Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Im back n forth, i lose my sex drive often, so some weeks we have sex 5-6times, other times we go 2/3 weeks without, but I also warned my partner of this before we ever got together so he knew thats how it would be and was okay with that. Everyone is different, Iā€™ve had exā€™s that once a week was fine, and others that if they didnt get it everyday, they where looking elsewhere. If u guys canā€™t come to a middle grounds over it definitely something that should be taken into consideration

Like together??? :rofl::rofl::rofl: kidding folks kidding

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2x a week is our norm, I want more but my husband is like na Iā€™m too tired.

Iā€™ve been married for almost 21 years and I donā€™t think thereā€™s a ā€œnormalā€ every relationship is different. In the beginning itā€™s was 7 days a week sometimes multiple times a dayā€¦ 21 years and two kids later itā€™s can be 2-3 times a week, some weeks itā€™s only 1 time, and some times itā€™s 1 time in a monthā€¦ Life is busy and we are tired! Lol

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My fiance is 60 Iā€™m 59 he could do it every night weā€™ve been together for going on 10 years I could care less about it but then three times a week is good enough for me and him

There is no normal. Every relationship is different. My husband drives truck, so we do maybe 3 times a month. Been together 18 years, married 17 years. It sounds like your bf isnā€™t happy and you need to work on it though.

We have sex 2x a day everyday usually. Been together 3 1/2 years. Known each other forever.

Its weird that anyone would think this is something that can be labeled normal or not :roll_eyes:

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ā€œNormalā€ is halfway between what you want and what you can get. :wink:

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My husband hasnā€™t touched me in 2 years. Before marriage it was every day. Been married 4 years

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Tell him to shut the f up!! You are 5 month pregnant carrying a baby!! Once he is five months pregnant he can have an opinion on how many times!

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Weā€™ve been together a year and a half and we have it pretty much every nightā€¦ we both have high drives though. Every relationship and person is different. Itā€™s important to talk about it what you each want and try to find a meeting placeā€¦ but when I was pregnant we had it a lot less. I wasnā€™t tired and didnā€™t feel up to it a lot. He just had to understand

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About once a month. Twice if things get extra spicy. :rofl::sweat_smile::neutral_face::expressionless:

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As much as we can! Together 10 yrs, married for 9yr and we are very active in the bedroom. Atleast 3-5 days a week.

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We are 40 & 42 with 6 kids, 6 dogs and some health issues. Our sex life went from every chance we got meaning daily or multiple times a day to maybe twice a month, less for a while. My husband would like it ALL the time but life is hard and he never pushes me. We know a time will come when we have the house to ourselves and life will slow down. Itā€™s not what most couple think their life will look like but itā€™s the reality of our life and Iā€™m sure many others. My suggestion is to learn each others love language. His is probably physical touch but that doesnā€™t HAVE to mean sex. You can read into it and try new ways to show him physical attention (with clothes on). Bottom line, there is NO such thing as normal for everyone. Find what works to keep you both happy

Iā€™ve been with my husband for 15 years. Our intimate relationship has varied over the years, sometimes heā€™s more into it and sometimes I am. I think ā€œnormalā€ is different for everyone and itā€™s absolutely okay if your normal isnā€™t the same as his right now. Find other ways to connect and make him feel valued.

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Sorry Iā€™m with him! My husband thinks once a week is fine and I want it daily sometimes twice or three times a day. Poor man is 54 and just canā€™t keep up. We will be married 13 year next Wednesday.

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Fk wait till you hit menopause then tell me how many times a week your at it :rofl:

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Iā€™m long distance so unfortunately I can only do it every weekend. But itā€™s all day everyday but if we lived together itā€™s definitely atleast once a day but thatā€™s for my benefit I love it just as much as he does lol but if you donā€™t make think if heā€™s not pleasing you to make you want it more than one day a week.

Tell him to stop gaslighting you about what is a ā€œnormalā€ sex life. Your 5 months pregnant with his baby,he can chill out and show a little compassion towards his wife and the mother of his child.

Doesnā€™t matter what other people think is acceptable this is something that is between partners not the ā€œnational normā€ this is coming from someone who was in your shoes well probably worse cuz I have issues lol see was not ever important to me but it was to my partner. I seen the changes and the differences some people see or have see for a different reason than others. So not answering your question Iā€™m sure just saying he isnā€™t crazy nor are you!! Good luck either wayyy!

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Me and my husband can do it every day or 3 times a week or even sometimes once a week. Itā€™s not always about sex. Yes itā€™s nice of course but when you have kids sex is the last thing to worry about when you are exhausted

Well it depends on the couple and their lives and many other factors ours is 20 years and he works swing shifts at work with massive overtime so he hasnā€™t had a whole day off in months a day off to him is getting off work and getting home at 9am eating shower in bed and then back up at 4 am to be at work so that shirt 22 hours he got off was spent resting and sleeping and trying to fit in a ballgame for our daughter so and iam very sick with health issues that have all yet to be fully diagnosed so honestly we havenā€™t had six in 3 months not because we donā€™t want to but because life has swept us up and my hubby is a very strong healthy energetic man and I used to be before I got so sickly so we are suffering in that area we just had this conversation the other night iam very blessed that he understands and doesnā€™t complain even though I know he isnā€™t happy so we have decided to take a weekend to ourselves and to our marriage and head to a cabin where thereā€™s no distraction just him and I so we can get to know the new us a little better as in my health issues and limitations it puts on me so I would say to always stop and remember why your with that person and stop and make time to spend with that person you have to nurture your marriage as much as you nurture your chil I mean really we make a conscious decision every day to live that person that is a choice we make daily and like all other things in life love needs to be nurtured as well just my opinion

We have four kids ages 3, 2, 1, and 9 months. We are lucky if we do it once a week lol.

There is no right answer for how often you should be having sex ā€” only what feels right for your relationship or sex life. Once a week is the average, but that doesnā€™t necessarily mean itā€™s the right amount of sex for all relationships. Please donā€™t go by everyone elseā€™s relationship and do what is best for you and your spouse.

My old man would be happy with like 1-2 a month maybe and I donā€™t think thatā€™s healthy. I want more

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Thereā€™s absolutely no one in my life, period that I need to know this personal info. :roll_eyes:

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Yes but at my age I have tell someone so I donā€™t forget.

Hmmmm he would definitely hate me, weā€™ve gone 1mos without sex and after giving birth it took almost 3mos. He was patient and understanding, known each other for 20+yrs, togetherfor 12. With a busy schedules, a nosy son (hes doesnā€™t let us), personal injuries. It can get tuff, but as long as your intimate other ways it works. Were always hitting on each other etc. Sex isnt always everything. We get created of course but men do get sexually frustrated and honestly we do too. Best of luck and dont let him get to you. I do know a few people whos men have to do it every night! I mean cool and all but all the time forever! Its whatever works and makes u happy. Thats whats important and matter. Your sexual drive its a rollercoaster during and after pregnancy.

honestly it depends on the people in the relationship. There is no normal amounts of time. You establish that with your partner. we are usually busy throughout the week so sometimes it is once a week because we just enjoy our presents but on other times weā€™re like bunnies. communication is key. honestly whoever is more sexual in the relationship should definitely try to spice things up and entice the sexual favor.

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Damn I would love to have sex 3x a week unfortunately Iā€™m lucky if I get it once a week :roll_eyes:

Been with mine, for almost 13 years, and for him 2xs a day is greatā€¦ But minimum once a day. Other things play a factor, we have 6 kids, all little ones. We also both work ft. He works about 15 hours a day, i do 8/12

I think itā€™s dependent upon the people in the relationship. ā€œNormalā€ is different for everyone. Me and my partner may go 10+ times a week and other times we may only have sex 3 times in a week.

We just have sex when I want it mostly lol which is usually more than once a day and Iā€™m nearly 39 weeks pregnant. Itā€™s been this way since we started living together almost a year ago. But everyone is different and if he expects more from you then what is he doing? It goes both ways.

We have been together 17 years and we have sex once a week. We have kids and busy lives so I feel like this is fine

Mine isnt on Earth any more but we averaged 3 xs a week . we were3 days shy of 33 years married and he was almost 55 .

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Ummmā€¦ my love and I have been together about 7 yearsā€¦ we are intimate when the mood strikesā€¦

But, we are known to go without for a couple months at a timeā€¦ other times, weā€™re like rabbits :woman_shrugging:

Nothing is permanent, but heā€™s my best friend :grin: our relationship wasnā€™t built on the physical side of intimacyā€¦ it was an amazing friendship that just progressedā€¦ soooo, our situation differs from mostā€¦

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1 time a week is perfectly fine

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We are 30 and 32 both work 40+ hours a week and have 3 kids ages 14,12,and 4ā€¦ I could go forever without itā€¦lolā€¦ but he wants everyday. We settle for 2-3 times a week. It really depends on how tired we are by the end of the day.

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For the first few years of my relationship 2 or 3 times a week was normal. But we got closer and now weā€™re at about 9 or 10 times a week.

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My man would be happy to get it at least once a week

Not to mention you are preggersā€¦ uggghhhh MEN

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Hubby and I go back 16 years and have been married 10 of those. Sex opportunities fluctuate considering our work schedules and home duties with chores and our kids. But we average 7-10x a week on a good month and 3-5x a week on a slower month.

Depends on the week sometimes u can find time often during a week and fully up to it next week u might be more tired and or busy there is no specific number plus being pregnant I also know u may not always ve in the mood sometimes u have to put your head into it and your body may follow.

Normal is whatever you agree on. We happen to do its about everything other day but that is just us. Your husband might need it more than 1 time a week. Maybe you can find a way to compromise

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Before this pregnancy basically daily. (Our schedules have changed a lot so our time together changed dramatically) 2x a day was common. This pregnancy (4th) not daily but still a few times, estimated 4 or so a week. Never more than 2 days between on days we donā€™t.

Psht when I was pregnant I didnā€™t have sex for like a whole year :joy::joy:

I go hard all week. But, I take care of my hand making sure sheā€™s not dry and chapped.

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We go through phases where itā€™s sometimes twice a day. Sometimes once a week. Sometimes 3 times a month. Itā€™s just what works best for you!! Sex pregnant can be painful for some and sometimes youā€™re too tired to do anythingā€¦ he should be more accommodating to your needs during this time. Hugs. :two_hearts:

It varies with my partner and I it depends where weā€™re or how tired weā€™re or if his working or Iā€™m away somewhere or if the kids are asleep :rofl: sometimes 6-7 times a week maybe more and other times maybe 1-2 sometimes none :woman_shrugging:t2: I donā€™t think thereā€™s Really a set amount of times or lack of is ā€œnormal ā€œ

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Whatever you both agree upon is my answer.

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We are in our 50s and b4 health issues with hubby a year and a half ago it was 5-8 times a week now sometimes it 3 times a week and sometimes once a week it depends on his breathing difficulties

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Together 12 years and always every day except during pregnancy, then it should be what youā€™re comfortable with he should be supportive I mean you are growing a baby.

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1-3 times a week is average

Once or twice a week

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It totally depends on the people :woman_shrugging: Some people are fine with once in a blue moon. Some are ok with once a month, some once a week, some once a day, some 3 times/dayā€¦ etc. There is NO NORMAL! but you have to be on the same page or compromiseā€¦

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Hahaha men! Thereā€™s no way to compare. It really depends week to week. We run 3 businesses together and we are literally together all day everyday. We have sex like 3 times a week. Sometimes moreā€¦sometimes less. We have realized once it had been almost 3 weeks since we were intimate. That was a wake up call. So we try to always have some sort of intimacy. Massages, oral, quick shower sex, etc. Donā€™t let him tell you anything isnā€™t ā€œnormalā€ who has a relationship thatā€™s normal.!!! Not a single one of us.

I donā€™t even remember the last time sadly.

Honestly there is no ā€œnormalā€ answer here. It depends on the couple, and how they feel.

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Wait till you been married over 30yr. Six month stretch is nothing.

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Wow I go months without sex and Iā€™ve been with my spouse 20 years when we were younger yeah we had sex way more but on average 1 a week sometimes more if we had time and none while I was pregnant :pregnant_woman:

When I was in my early 50 till 54 every night at least two times now maybe 3 times a week

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3 to 5 times a week for me but everyone is different

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Lol my man nd me ar lucky enough to do it once a week some weeks nd other times we go at it heeps of times a day everyday it depends on how we feel nd wat the week nd day has been like so for other people it mite be heeps but not everyone is the same

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Lmao we have 3 kids and have sex multiple times for about 1-2 weeks and the other two weeks we usually donā€™t :rofl: we just did last night and it was the first time since like the 2nd week of February :joy: weā€™re just tired all the time. Iā€™ve been wanting sex since thursday and my husband works really hard so he fell asleep n I didnā€™t wanna wake him then he was gonna stay up an give me D the next day and IM the one who fell asleep :roll_eyes::rofl::person_facepalming: