We we are my in-laws every weekend almost. Your husband seems like an amazing family man and you should count yourself lucky, not whine that he wants to help his Mom out. Just my opinion though.
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Mine never gets to see his 
but i try to see mine at least my grandma every sat if i cant see her i try to see my mom on sat.
Why can’t you go with him? Mine does and i would go if he chose to go see his family…
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I go to my moms everyday. The only time I dont go is if I am sick or one of the kids are sick. Or if its very bad weather. My husband or anyone is going to tell me I cant spend time with my family. I am 5 mins away. Me and my mom work at the same place to.
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I live with my in law and I love every second of that! My kids get to see her whenever they want as do I and my husband. My parents are about 45 mins away and I try to see them about 2 times a month but definitely at least once a month.
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Hardly ever. But for events and maybe going by there every once in awhile. Maybe once a month! But if his momma need him I wouldn’t mind! There’s times she will call and ask him if he would come over and do something he does. I don’t mind. That’s his mom.
Not very often they are 9 hrs away
Omfg let him see his family!
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My husband goes to his moms at least 4 times a week. She might need help with something or he’s working (getting paid) on her house could be picking up our children(she retired to be a full-time nana no child care here yet!) I go over to my parents house and hang out every other Saturday sometimes I hang out for an hour sometimes all day long. We are very family oriented. We love spending time with our families but also if we have something to do, it’s not mandatory that we see them all the time. It’s just a want.
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Family values. That’s usually a good thing. Book in advance is you want time with him. Pick a weekend like 2-3 weeks in advance (that way he can’t say she needed something for that day)
Coming between a boy and his mama is a tough spot to be in. Never works out well for you
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Every sunday we have dinner at my in laws. Soon we will be over more often as my father in law will need help. I see my family like daily. If he ever complained about that i would leave him. Our time with parents is short. Spend time while you can. If you want to plan something plan it out in advance but dont be upset for him wanting to help his parent or spend time with his family.
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Not very often. His mom is in the process of moving to Texas, but even prior to that it was maybe once every couple months. His dad he sees maybe once a month. His brother and sister he sees regularly or at least tries to.
One day they will all be gone…yours and his. Be there now while you can😊
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I visited my mom every day for years and then COVID struck. Our visits were limited to shouting from the end of the driveway on a busy street. I lost my mom last month. What I wouldn’t do to have one more visit with her. Let him love his mom. He is teaching his children how to treat you in the years to come.
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My husband and I would go to his mom’s quite often. Then we moved in across the street from them. I wish we visited more. His mom died in 2016 and I would give anything to have her here so he could go and help her with something.
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It should be a balance …I know a lot of people are saying “family values” but his wife is ALSO his family and their marriage needs just as much attention as his siblings and parents. To the ones saying that his parents won’t be around forever, remember tomorrow is promised to no one and time should be given/spend with the ones you love and that includes your spouse 
My parents live down the street from us and I am a hardcore momma’s girl but my mom taught me once I am married, my husband and I begin a new family and that needs to be prioritized. I hope you and your husband are able to get the alone time you are wanting
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I feel like everyone is judging here incorrectly. We are very close with my in-laws, we see them very often! However, if my husband was spending every weekend at their house, even if I was included, I would not be happy. We have our own house and our own responsibilities not even considering “time for ourselves.” He should be present for his mom, but he married you! He should find a way to balance his time more equally. Good luck!
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My husband talks to his mom everyday. If he doesn’t call, she will. He was, one day a week, taking her to her appointments & doing all her running around. Would take the entire day. But he is the only son that lives nearby.
He’s a mommy’s boy but thats alright, she raised him to be an amazing husband and father so i try not to complain lol
His family not very much mine on the other hand we see daily we moved next to them for me to be around them everyday
We used to be there almost every day. Lately, only for holidays. Different families are different though.
This sounds like my family. We are always doing EVERYTHING together. My husband had a hard time since he barely sees his family but now he’s good with it and enjoys himself. If you love your family why not enjoy the time since you never know when it will end.
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Maybe say “morning or afternoon is for mom, nights are for me” and make restaurant, movie, or whatever reservations for you and hubs. Or the reverse: you spend the day/morning/afternoon with him & your child, he can check on mom at night. Go somewhere away so he can’t just drop everything: museum, park/playground a ways away, pool, or a kids movie (bonus is he has to turn off his phone in the theater).
You can plan a weekend getaway well in advance, and YOU tell MIL she is to rely on her other sons that weekend, and please not to call for just those 2 or 3 days. Tell the brothers they are taking the lead that weekend and not to call. Shut off his phone for the duration of the weekend as much as possible.
Also marriage counseling so a third party can tell him why he needs to change his ways. That way it’s not just you “whining.” Also, maybe uncover why he feels such an obligation to his mom that he neglects you & his offspring.
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Usually on the weekends just because we don’t get to see them throughout the week so that’s the only family time we get but we go over there as a family all the kids play we grill out stuff like that never singled my hubs out for only him to come.
Your little family is just as important as his
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Every Sunday. I completely am ok with it…as his family is important too. I go with him, and we all eat lunch etc. His mother is older and lives alone…it’s only right that he and his siblings help her. He speaks to her daily as well
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I go to my mothers almost every day. As my husbands mother has passed. But he never tells me no. 
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Mine goes every Sunday except for the sunday that he works. I don’t see my family but twice a year.
I’m gonna tell ya how this will turn out but you won’t listen, so……
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I mean I’m with mines family allll the time.
We at his family as much as we can my family when we can due to the drive
We live really far away. Just make plans for your family and when/if he realizes he’s missing out on his family fun he needs to make the choice. Be mommy’s bitch/errand boy or husband/dad Bc he can’t be both.
His family is spouse and children. If it’s a problem for you he needs to compromise. That would be too much for me too.
My parents babysit for us so I see them a little a few times a week. My spouses mom lives 3 hours away. We see her once every couple months.
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When you get married you worry about your family at YOUR OWN HOUSE. Its okay to help out sometimes but if its interfering then it gets annoying. They can ask one of his other siblings or hire someone if they have to. You need time with your man too. He won’t die not being around every weekend. 1 day a week is sufficient.
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You didn’t say if you go with him? If not why don’t you go and try to enjoy the visit, do you have kids? I can understand why you would like a weekend with your hubby, that is important too, try to plan a weekend trip somewhere that you both would enjoy, give him a couple weeks warning for the trip and if he won’t go tell him your going alone!
Tell him if he goes to take the kids with 
my man is absolutely a “home body” but he usually takes our child with or we all go. I have to add that I enjoy his parents company and they’re more helpful than needy. Even if they were needy that would be all the more reason to be there. If she needs help and that bothers you pitch in, get it done faster and be together.
Just means he is the better son. The brothers probably just use his mom.
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I like that my husband goes to help his mom when she needs it. He is one of two kids and lives the closest to his mom. She lives alone. I love that he talks to his parents and brother daily. They are a close family. That being said, my husband will jump to help all of his friends if they need it.
Once a year when he feels like dealing with their toxic traits for 20 mins
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I’m the spouse at my parents constantly. It’s a safe place and I love helping.
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Every Sunday. Most times I go too. Sometimes I don’t. It used to bother me when we were younger but now I realize how wrong I was. It’s to us important to maintain strong family bonds. His mom, my SIL, and I cook together and we all eat together. My kids are better for seeing their grandparents every weekend.
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Girl I’m at my husbands moms house a lost everyday. And she never needs anything
He sees his mom almost everyday and we go to his sisters every monday
We live in the same town and hes there a couple times a day. And anytime anything happens he has to deal with it.
Leave him alone he mommas boy i wish my husband go away every weekend to his mom it wouldn’t upset me it’s his mom
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Don’t make him choose between family members. It won’t end well for you!
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We go every day to my in-laws sometimes twice a day with 5 kids to help clean, do gardening, go shopping, take his sister to appointments and hangout, we love it 
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Not very often. His mom lives 16 hours away.
My MIL lives behind me lol we share the ranch. Ive come to live with the fact that hes the one who does everything for his parents hes just a mommas boy for life i cant change it. Sometimes i get a little jealous that i don’t get to see mine the same amount(fam lives in colorado)
My husband goes to his mom’s on the weekend to take care of her but every few months he finds someone to fill in and we spend the weekend together now slap him upside his head and tell him what you want
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How many years did she take care of him?
This isn’t about it being a weekend, you would be upset regardless of what day it was.
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We live in a two family with my in laws so he sees them daily
Can you go with him & help her too? Why would you want to limit the time he spends with his mom? From someone who lost all 3 parents young she won’t be around forever. Let him make memories hell cherish later.
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That’s one of the main things that tore my parents apart. My grandparents house always came first and our house would have to nearly burn down to get my dad’s attention and if the washer broke it would take forever to replace but if my granny called needing hers fixed it only took hours.
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It wouldn’t be a problem if he wasn’t blowing you off. You’re his wife and he should be making some time for just the two of you. I understand that would be extremely frustrating and annoying. If he is literally there every weekend then he needs to make time for you. I wouldn’t like that at all. Everyone saying it’s his mom let him spend the time. That’s ridiculous! The whole point is that he isn’t making any time for you!!! That is not ok. When you get married you create your own family which is just as important.
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I was married once before and my husband at the time spent every waking free minute with his mother (his dad was not in the picture ever). If he was off, (when he worked) he was at her house doing thing for her… she always needed something. To an extent that is totally acceptable but our marriage suffered greatly bc of it and bc of her obvious involvement in our lives. I mean he was there constantly and she was always coming by and calling and “butting” in to what wasn’t her business (not sorry… she literally crossed the line on numerous occasions) she was toxic and caused a lot of trouble and I think she enjoyed seeing me suffer bc of it. Maybe not, I hope not but she was one of a kind I tell ya. We divorced for many many other reason but that was one of the top ones too. Fast forward now I’m married to a great man who puts me and his children first (luckily I didn’t have any children in my 1st short marriage). He works hard everyday and dedicates himself to his family and our lives together. He goes out of his way to do special things for me and always be there for us. He is also one of a kind but in an awesomely diff way as the one I described before. I say this bc he has been pretty close to his mother most of his life. That’s one of the things I loved about him, was how close he was to his parents and family. However, he had some hesitation and now I know why. He knows them the real them and they are all pretty drama Oriented and 2 faced. I used to think that at least his mother had good intentions but now I’m not so sure. They can cause a lot of issues if they want to and I never made him choose, but he saw things for what they were and how they were, he hasn’t spoken to them in 2 years and my kids don’t even know their grandparents on that side. Sad, but necessary for our fam unit to not take on extra drama and issues… his sister is the same way and it’s the same situation! Good in-laws are hard to come by, if they are close and have good intentions, by all means do your best to spend as much time with them as you can while they are here. However if this time is affecting your family and marriage, then it needs to be reevaluated and prob at least talked about. Our parents will be gone one day and it’s a hard thought to think.
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Almost never, I wish we had a close knit family like that. Having people that surround you that always have your back is a good thing, having a “village” sort of speak would be amazing. If you have something you specifically want to do on a weekend or something make specific plans ahead of time. Try spending & enjoying time with his family too if it’s what he likes to do. That kind of behavior doesn’t usually come out of the blue, so you knew what you were marrying into.
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I’m at my parents often, they live close. My in-laws are a ways away or I’d probably be there often too.
If we still lived in the same town I would say I would see my in laws daily my husband every second day ish
His mom and I FaceTime daily
Lol my hubby gets a call everyday day from his mom. His older brother actually lives with them. But they still call him to come help. I think it’s adorable.
I constantly wanna visit my family. One day they aren’t gonna be here so I try to make the most of them while I am lucky to have them. However I also get wanting more alone time with your husband so If anything maybe set up a time frame to help get some balance in the relationship. Come together and try to compromise
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Every weekend he visits his family but my mom lives very close so I am at her house multiple times throughout the week.
Maybe once every three months we all get together.
I visit with my family at least once a week. It makes me happy. It does get to my man sometimes because he likes to plan things just us and I somehow want to include everybody but it works out. You guys can compromise and find a middle ground.
Depending on how you view marriage and family, everyone is different. I love my MIL, more than my own mother honestly, and I would be upset by this. In my marriage, the family we made comes first. Of course we help our parents, but again, our family we made together comes before anything else. Period.
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My husband is only almost 36 and both his parents are gone. If they were still alive and needed his help for something then he could go help. I’m sure he wouldn’t be over there the whole day or I’d go with him to help as well. If he’d go and not make time for me as well, I may get upset. There’s gotta be limits to some things and if you’re feeling neglected, speak up!
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girl you’re wack. best hope your son dont grow up like you.
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Leave … his a mummas boy 
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Try going with him… my husband sometimes feels the same way because I get up and randomly go to my mommys house and get in her bed and take a nap. 4 a.m 7 a.m
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I prefer her shower over my own🤣
And she has a old clawfoot tub that stays hot for houurrrrrrrrrrs
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Mine works on the road. But I spend every weekend with his parents and brothers and as much time as possible during the week too. It’s comfortable there to me.
I live 45 minutes away from my parents I have 2 siblings that live in the same town as her as I do not but I am the only one who goes to see them multiple times a week my boyfriend is the one who drives me and he never complains he knows I’m close to my parents my parents are in their early 50’s and yes they need help with things here and there our weeks are full with kids both of us working and him doing side jobs and me visiting my parents but we make time to do it all we don’t ever really get time to our selves but we make the best out of our drives going place to place it works for us and we stay up when we can with each other just so we can get alone time here and there but it’s not often cherish the moment’s you DO get with him because life it’s full of responsibilities including family responsibilities
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Go with him. See what he actually does.
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My father passed in April and I’ve been at my parents house everyday for the past year, helping and doing what I can. Guess where I am? I’m still here to comfort my mother. Once they’re gone, that’s it. Thankfully I have a very supportive man who comes to their home when.he gets off work. He stays until its bedtime and then he goes home. He spends his weekends with his mom doing what she needs and if she needs something during the week, he’s there. She’s fixing to have heart surgery on the first and I’m going to be there when I can but my daughter will be there during the day. I’m grateful daily for having such a wonderful support system. Life is never meant to be easy but to cherish those moments we do have.
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My man hasn’t seen his parents in over 20 years as they live in Mexico and he is here and doesn’t have the funds to travel to go back his dad passed 5 years ago but I know if they were close by he would be over there helping any time they needed him he has 5 siblings that live down there with his mom and only 1 helps his mom
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Everyone having a go at her and all she wants is to spend a weekend with her husband for once! I’d speak to him and say what if we have two weekends out of month together and the other two weekends you can spend with your family and I’d like to come too, see what he says maybe he just don’t get it because men can be like that till you spell it out to them 
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Can try to make plans on the weekend he shouldn’t ignore those unless an emergency but I see my family very often and I help my family with lots of stuff often as well we are close and have each other’s back I lived with them for 18 years of my life and always have a bed if need be they are my family they are always a priority but my smaller circle comes first if my kids and the dad wants alone time we make plans and unless there is an emergency we just stay together and do something just us he let me know he would like more just us family time so I make that happen more now. Communicate about making more family plans even to just hang out at home but understand that he just loves his family (most likely) and thinks to see them in his free time also but if it’s not enough family time for you or not enough private family time anyways then he should try to make an effort to give you that I don’t see anything wrong with it. He maybe it also brings him happiness to be able to help with her house up keep I enjoy being able to help my dad when I can with whatever I can he’s a great dad but I also always invite my kids dad along and we aren’t even actually together we are just close and care about spending time together as a family especially for our children
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I visit my mom at least once a week ,this week 4 times as she is recovering from heart surgery. We continued through out the pandemic standing outside, building a veranda so we could be more comfortable. I am close with my siblings and all but one( lives out of state) visit as often. I see my husband every day,we have time every night. I realize many people are not close to their parents and I find that sad. Hopefully your children will model your husband when you are old.
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I married a mamas boy I knew that when I married him. I didn’t marry him to change him but to love who he is and that is apart of him.
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My ex was this way. I wasn’t sure at times if he was married to her or me. She would hear about things before I would-things that affected our finances, etc… When we moved out of state, he would talk to her at least 2-3 times a day. At first I loved his relationship with his mom and eventually I saw how unhealthy it was.
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during my 2nd marriage we spent every Sunday with his family. That was the only time the kids saw their grand parents and he saw his parents but it was a family all day visit…got old some times. Now with my 3rd husband, in 9 years we have been to their house 6 times only. FYI both husband’s families are local to us so it isn’t a distance thing. Current hubs has choosen to distance from his family due to issues with his brother who lives at home.
I think there should be a balance, maybe some weekends are for alone time or he spends less time over there on the weekend. You are his wife which makes you one of his main priorities and he needs to treat you like it Just my opinion 
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I would be furious. Family is important, but he definitely needs to spend more time at home!
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Thata to much of a mommas boy unless she has alot of health issues. However if he has other siblings that can help her out she should be set. Nothing wrong with him tell mommy that he’s gonna ha e a weekend with you. Ever relationship needs private time together. My bf and his mom lives across town and so does my mom. He only sees her maybe usually once a month sometimes more but not every weekend. It just depends on whats going on. However I go with him.
Sounds like you need to have a girls weekend every weekend then … where ya at … let’s go
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My fiance is at his moms atleast twice a week… nothing wrong with him wanting to spend some time with his mom, unfortunately they aren’t here forever… We go over pretty much every Sunday.
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Mine visits his parents daily. We live by them. Anything they need they know we got them. Same goes for my family.
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I see my sisters and my nan all the time. I couldn’t imagine it any other way. My fiancé is the opposite, doesn’t mind nor would I xx
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Maybe go with him and then leave from there to have your date? I know when I go to my parents alone it’s never a quick run for me, I end up being there for hours lol…i just have a good time there. So maybe if go with him he’ll need to rush and get it done quick. Sometimes my hubby will call it to my attention that I take too long with my parents, but honestly, times flies when I’m with them. Sometimes I’ll take my hubby on purpose to get pressured into leaving earlier lol, funny but true. Don’t see the negative side of things, just try to find a solution to makes things workable. I understand his struggle, but I also understand where you’re coming from.
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Why cant you go along with him? Spend time with him there? I love my partners family so much, they are my family too… we see them all the time and I love it. We still have our date nights ect too so we still have our time together. I would tag along with him and then organise separate time alone together x
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He should help his mom when ever possible but he should want to prioritize time with you as well . I would not want to force someone to spend time with me . I would go do fun stuff without him and let him take the kids as well .
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go with him and rearrange her house, when she asks why tell her u’ve seen she needs alot of help around the house since she asks ur husband to help every weekend. im sure she’ll get the point
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When my husband’s mom was alive he did everything for her. He also had a single brother that lived at home that couldn’t manage to do anything.
Daily and I am very okay with that. He does their lawn care. Property upkeep and anything they need done. I could only hope my sons will be as wonderful when I no longer can do these things.
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You said it Jennifer when his mom was alive! i am a mom my boys come over for dinner and do thing for me thay bring the kids and wife i cook and i clean up won’t let the wife help me because that’s their day to relax i love them all one day mom want be there 
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Is he married to you or his mother?
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I spend no time with my family they live too far
Every weekend, hell everyday. He works for his parents. I don’t mind I’d rather someone be close with their family than estranged. I also adore his family so I love going over there as well since my parents are 2 hours away.
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My hubby was the one his mother could depend on too. You acept it.
I want your husband!!!
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Almost every day… We live 5 mins away. When we use to live 2 hours away we would spend the weekend with them. That was definitely too much because of traveling . But now that we live close its much easier and we just visit about every other day for a couple hours. Enjoy them while they are alive
Sounds like he wants to get away from you/his responsibilities. I’d have a serious talk and not let him weasel out of it. There’s no reason the boys can’t take turns helping her.