My daughter just turned 6 last week and this is the second time over the last month that I have caught her looking up adult videos on the phone. I have no idea how to handle this situation and am at a total loss. I’m going to look into therapy for her because obviously something is happening. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
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Take the phone away first but also you need to figure out what she is curious about and why? Ask questions!!!
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Take away the phone and talk to her
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No electronics? Communication. Why does she feel the need. Why is she so curious.
Why does a 6 year old have access to a phone? It also doesn’t mean something is happening. Kids are curious so talk to her. If you truly believe something is happening than take her to the doctor to check.
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Adult videos as in porn? I’d definitely talk to her!! I have a 6 year old and she knows absolutely nothing about that kind of stuff, and if she did at this age, I’d be very concerned as to how she knows!!
She’s too young for a phone
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No internet on the phone! Solves that problem. She’s 6
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Firstly take away the phone so she can’t look that stuff up and secondly sit down and talk to her about it
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Take the fucking phone ! She’s 6!!! 
Adult videos as in what?
Take away this immediately and address the situation. Good luck!
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Give her books to learn/read. Watch spongebob. Coloring. Dont embarass her explain that these other things are for her. Keep the phone away from her
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The phone needs to be removed. But my question how would she have known to look this type stuff up. 
I mean our youngest is 7 and she doesn’t have a phone but does have a chromebook with parental controls on said device but how does one of the age of 6 know how to look up …videos? Is it in the browser history or what?
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Definitely talk to her…get her a kids Amazon tablet that she can’t access those kinds of things at all…I have a 6 year old and he’d never even dream about something like that…something is definitely not right
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Try Sex Positive Parents Community.
Also make sure you address that what she saw was NOT real and sex in real life is nothing like the movies.
I was a hypersexual child, and you need to know you must NOT make her feel like she’s done something wrong. Don’t make her feel like this is a dirty thing. Try to balance “it’s ok it’s normal and natural to be curious” and “you’re too young to be watching movies like that”. Because it is ok to be curious. She just shouldn’t be watching that lol.
Kids are naturally curious and communication is key with a 6 year old. She definitely should not have unsupervised phone usage unless it’s locked to kids only.
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I’d take the phone away and talk to her,don’t get upset because it may make her feel like she can’t open up to you at all.
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So, I hate to say this, but I was a SA victim as a child. There is usually reasons we look at those things or anything else. I would get caught, pleasuring myself, at very early ages. The youngest I can remember was around 8.
Please take the phone away, a six year old doesn’t need a phone. But also, make sure no one is abusing her. Small children do not know things, unless they’re being shown. Older kids are curious, but six? I don’t know about that. Just my opinion.
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Why is she on a phone unsupervised
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Take the phone away. Put parental locks on the tvs.
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Kids that young do not need a phone.
Maybe a tablet with parental controls.
It scares me that a 6 year old is looking up that kind of stuff on their own.
I would re-examine who she is around. It sounds like she’s being groomed for sexual abuse. Get help now, this seems like a huge red flag.
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Take her phone away. Give her no access
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Therapy/counseling and take away devices with internet access also if your tv has internet access install parental codes
Why would a 6 year old even have a phone? In my house you would have to be at least a teenager and actually earn that luxury. This is ridiculous. SMH
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She’s 6 take away the phone and talk to her… it’s natural for kids to be curious but it’s important for her to know what she’s watching isn’t appropriate…but most importantly she can come to you with any questions she has and you should answer (age) appropriately
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Take the phone away. How easy is this she’s 6!!! Then talk to the counselor. But obviously no internet access. I’m not sure where the parenting position left the stage here.
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Sit down with her and ask her why she is watching the videos. Ask her all the questions, ask her how she knew to learn about these videos, then have the talk about the birds and bees.
If she is just curious, talk with her about her curiosities.
Taking her phone away and punishing her for this will only make her wonder more and rebel. If you are open with her about this now she will be more comfortable when she comes into something deep in life to you.
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6 year Olds don’t just normally look stuff like that up. I’d be asking a lot of questions about what prompted her to look it up and stuff. Also, take away the phone. They have phones just for kids that only allow calls.
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Your 6 year old is looking up porn? My 6 year old can barely even spell 
Do you have blocks on the phone? I have so many questions.
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Why does she have unrestricted access to the internet at 6?? How does she know how to look it up at 6?? Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with her and pay attention to who she around. Something is seriously wrong in this situation. YouTube kids and restrictions are there for a reason. This is part of the reason why kids DO NOT need phones escp with internet access…
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Talk to your kid ! Not everything requires a professional…. Not everything means SOMETHING is going on! Ask her why she’s doing it not in a disciplinary way in an actual talk way. If she has questions answer them age appropriately but honestly. Explain to her that what she sees the two ppl doing is normal and there’s nothing wrong with but it’s something grown ups do - depending on how your choosing to parent explain it’s for fun it’s for babies it’s for ppl in love which ever your choosing - but you can’t shame her or make her feel wrong for being curious or for wondering.
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Must definitely ask her where did she learn that from/ who
Therapy is definitely a good idea. You should speak w her openly though. Ask her without threats of punishment, where she got the idea to look those things up. I’m sorry to say but I’m worried she’s been abused.
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Downloady an app on your phone and hers called family link you are able to lock certain things from her accessing them and be able to set lock times on it.
I have it on my o yr old sons tablet for these reasons to make sure he doesnt lock up anything
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Kids are curious, but the fact the child is looking it up on the phone don’t sit right with me. Don’t question them in a way that puts ideas in there head, but definitely talk to them. I’d also got to our pcp and make sure no one has done anything to the baby.
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First of all she’s only 6 she don’t need a phone 2nd if you’re not going to supervise what she’s looking at and there should be a child restriction on it so that stuff doesn’t come up. It’s probably just curiosity or something that she’s been subject today inside your house or around someone. there are several factors for children her age to do this but supervision from a parent can at least encourage the child to look up educational our child base games
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She’s probably just curious. You should be honest with her about the topic.
6? Something is going on with or around her for her to even know anything about adult videos!! She probably can’t even spell yet! 6 is very young and this needs to be addressed asap!
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Take her phone from her and tell her that will not be excepted
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Umm my question is, how does she even know what that is at that age and how does she know how to look it up!?! Something’s not right.
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A 6 year old shouldn’t have unrestricted access to the internet. There are child safety apps and locks you can set on all devices to alert you when certain keywords are used. Definitely get her in therapy, but I would take the devices away for a long time and when you return them make sure safety measures are in place.
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Why does a 6 year old child have a cell phone? She should be playing. You should be playing with her. Sounds like a phone is being used as a baby sitter. You asked…
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Pay closer attention to the adults around her. Even if you trust them with your life.
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Why does a 6 year old have a phone?
Most behavior is copied from home. Children are innocent and feel no right or wrong. Has daughter been exposed to this environment? If so it might just be normal for her. That might be something to consider. Change her environment then change her behavior. Access=control
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What’s a 6 year old doing with a phone ? There’s so many questions ?? How does she know how to look up adult porn ??? Who showed her ? Take the phone away period ! Solve who showed her how to look it up because a 6 year old doesn’t just happen to be looking up porn out of the blue honey prayers an hugs
Is there a man in the house? I just don’t believe a 6 year old would know how to do any of that.
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Sit her down and let her ask questions. Better she learn from your, than a video.
Uhhh maybe look a little deeper into the issue… Why does she know what that is?
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A 6 yo shouldn’t have a phone. Or if watching cartoons, supervised and limited. TVs and phones aren’t babysitters
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Is she actually typing it in , or clicking a ad and went to it ? I’ve had to delete a few games from my kids tablet cause of the inappropriate ads. If she is going to school she might have heard a conversation or classmate told her. My twins are 10 and the recently came home talking about sex because a classmate told them.
Curiosity is natural but you need to set her down and tell her this is not okay.ask where she learned this room. I’m going to assume school. 
but Put a lock on the internet and definitely app stores they are full of chat rooms.
Come back with the whole story ma’am then we can maybe better understand why you kid is doing such things.
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Way too young to have internet access without supervision or at all for that matter. But, you should start by talking to her about why and how she even knows about that.
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These kids are 9, 13 , 10 , they have restricted internet at school, none at all at home.
As a survivor of SA from a very young age, something inappropriate is happening or has Happened to her.
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Why didn’t you take it away the first time? Why are there no parental locks on this device? All of this could’ve easily been avoided. You need to have clear communication with her. It may be time to have the talk with her. She probably has a ton of questions. I do also wonder if something is happening to her/around her to provoke this behavior.
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Does she go to school with other kids? If she’s not getting this at home, that’s where she’s getting it. My kids were coming home asking questions about stuff they shouldn’t have any knowledge of because kids at school brought phones with internet access. And some were looking things up on their school devices
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She is 6 and she got a phone. Take it away. Put her on kid appropriate sites.
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At that age, she had been exposed to it - most likely. I dealt with this with my children. Extensive therapy. One of them did residential treatment for 7 months. Please don’t ignore the signs or flags. Seek help.
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This has so many red flags, my oldest is about to be 5 and she doesn’t even know to ask about the birds and the bees yet. I would definitely put her in therapy, but as the parent you should have a private conversation just you and her and ask her why she felt the need to look that up and ask her if she even knows what that stuff is. Make sure she knows you are her safe space and find out how this was exposed to her. There is absolutely no way in hell a child especially that young knows about any of that without prior exposure. It’s going to be stressful, but hang in there and just know you’re doing the right thing by addressing the issue.
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You can put parental controls on google and you tube so if she does try to look up anything nothing X rated will come up. There are also apps you can download to block/lock certain apps so that she doesnt have internet access on the phone.
Have you tried talking to her and asking her why shes looking up those things and if someone has been telling her things or doing things? Therapy is a good start but talk to your daughter to. 6 yr olds shouldnt know anything about sex in my opinion.
First and foremost you should have parental locks on the phone after she did it the first time.
Second off you need to sit her down and be very blunt and stern with her and tell what she is looking up is not for kids.
Third you need to ask her if someone has touched her or done anything to her body to make her uncomfortable
Fourth how is she even knowing how to look up adult content without being shown how to because most six years don’t even know how to spell things correctly
Fifth off keep the phones away from her she’s six years old and doesn’t need a phone whatsoever at that age and if she wants to watch YouTube then put it on one of the TVs (most TVs are smart TVs so it’s accessible to download YouTube) and put parental locks on YouTube so it only shows kid appropriate stuff
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I would be talking to her openly, asking about how she discovered/who showed her them. Also, parental lock on the devices when she’s using them Xx
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Somebody has been showing her something, or she has seen them do it.
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How the hell would she even no what to search for
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Y’all mad she has a phone. But not asking the question how does she know how to look this up and what to look up. 6 year olds have phones in this dang age. Every 6 year old ik has a phone to call family and play games but not once does any of these 6 year old know about adult videos or how to search them. Instead of shamming a mom why don’t we support her in trying to figure out in what is going on with her daughter to feel the need to do this.
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How does a 6yr old know how to look up “adult videos”? She probably seen someone doing that too and is copying😬
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OK so this makes me think someone has showed her how to do this and can be a sign pedophile grooming or CSA. Often abusers are family members or close friends.
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I would be extremely concerned if my 6 yr old knew how to look up adult videos. Someone told her or showed her this. Please sit her down and ask her if anything inappropriate has happened to her. 6 is too young…something is not right.
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Take away the phone!
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Please look into seeing if she was exposed to something. Get her into therapy and also let her know she can talk to you about anything.
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So does somebody watch her for you?
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I’d be asking her how she knew to look this content up . She is 6 . She had to be shown this or it was already on the phone an she clicked the content
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In the mean time while waiting for therapy, remove her access to anything that can play that material.
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Does the phone stay unlocked all the time? Take it away. There must have been something seen for her to know about adult videos. Your job is to find out where this was!
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Take the phone away…
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I’d take the phone/iPad/tablet whatever it is away
Take the phone. Sit her down and ask her how she learned it. A 6yr old don’t just decide they wanna watch adult videos. Therapy asap. I’m concerned someone older has influenced this behavior.
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Why does a 6 year old have a phone??
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Why does a 6 year old need a phone anyway. Take it off her straight away. Do not allow her to own a phone until she is much older. I have really concerned how she was able to look up the adult video’s in the first place. Someone has got to have shown her is my first thought. I would question her as to who showed her how to find those video’s, And take it from there. But take her phone off her NOW.
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Was she purposely looking it up? Or did she google like men and women or something curious like that? My daughter when younger googled “a mans body”, because she just learned male and females bodies were different but she didnt fully know how etc so she innocently googled it. And of course came across some inappropriate things. Which made her even more curious. We found out and she was embarrassed but we explained she should come to us with questions like that because theres things online that arent child appropriate and that also arent true. She was like 6 and i think she was using like her gaming tablet or something, some device we didnt even know had internet on it lol Nothing might have happened to your daughter, she could have heard something at school, a song or movie etc and got curious and innocently came across more than she could ever comprehend. Obviously be mindful etc but dont freak yourself out and immediately jump to that she has been abused or groomed or something. And dont make her feel badly even if she was looking it up on her own. She is 6, a 6 yr old is supposed to be curious, about literally everything. Its how we grow and learn as people. Just make sure she understands that there are some things she needs to get her answers from you (and dad etc) and not the internet. Id also take advantage of parental controls. Goodluck!
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My daughter is 4 and she knows how to click the microphone and ask what videos she wants on kids you tube… dont be surprised at kids and technology… dont bash the mum for screen time and whatnot thats not the issue. The issue is why shes watching it and how she became exposed to it and how to deal with it.
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She’s likely been groomed. Who is alone with her? Who would have the time alone to show this to her?
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Kids are curious it happens…not always a red flag so before you jump to assumptions I’d gently talk to her and ask her why she’s looking this stuff up? Where did she learn about these things ect… I remember being in kindergarten and kids talking about sex I had no clue what it was but they put it on my radar and Thankfully there was no cellphones or internet lol
She learned it from someone. Or it’s in your search history. Get her to see someone right away somethings not right. And take the phone away.
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Terrible some things she is hiding from you, maybe some one has done terrible things to her 
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Take it away a 6 year don’t need a phone and y can block adult stuff anyway .
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First off , why does a 6 year old have a cell phone to begin with? I mean to each their own but that’s a little young . If there’s a purpose for her to have one then parental locks .
Second you need to ask her where she even got the idea to search that wether it be another adult/child that she saw looking it up . Or if she witnessed someone doing the “acts” or if she has been touched.
I’d be asking questions ASAP!
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Do not talk to her about it. It opens doors that she been told not to let open. She’s being groomed. Seek help now. Someone that specializes and knows how to ask and respond accordingly.
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A lot of people love to jump on the SA bandwagon… I feel that’s like a last resort after all other things have been acknowledged and talked about. Does she have older siblings? Does she go to school or hang with older kids in the neighborhood…. Talk with her and ask her why she’s watching that’s stuff. How she found out about it. Who showed her that kind of stuff. Where the behavior or idea for it came from? Tell her you’re not mad… you just need to know why, how she found it. If she’s ever seen anything like that in real life? Etc. no leasing questions. Just leave them open ended… let her tell you. And speak openly about it.
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I would suspect sexual abuse if this were my 6 year old. If looking for this content prepubescent than she is trying to rationalize or justify something that has happened… Or maybe even just something confusing she walked in on accident?
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My 6 and 8 year old wouldn’t even know what to type… farts? Butts? Poop? Maybe boobies 
this screams something deeper than just curiosity 
Take the phone away from her…
She obviously didnt type it out…
My son turns 6 in August and knows how to unlock my phone, and the only way he can search stuff up is my microphone.
I would definitely be investigating ASAP, seeing if any of your history is possibly redirecting her there or there is someone definitely educating her on this subject which 6 year olds know nothing about.
Im assuming this is your phone, change passcodes. Talk to her. Therapy ASAP.
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Why the hell does a 6 year old have a phone?
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Take all electronics away. And take her to see someone right away. Also ask why she was looking at that. Open ended questions. So she can give you answers. Not just yes or no. Don’t interrogate her but try and help her feel that you are on her side so she will open up. there is a reason for this.
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take her phone away from her!
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