How should I handle this?

I found my 8 year old as well

6 year old DONT NEED A PHONE MOM!!! First mistake… She prob not looking it up prob there because of some website YOU let her on

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6!? My daughter is 5 going on 6. How the hell would she know how or even become interested in such a thing? :flushed:
Take the phone away ASAP. You’re the parent. Ask her why she’s looking at it and where she’s seen it outside of home. Once you find out who it is… put them in their place and don’t let her see them again. We have to protect our kids!

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And there is zero sexual abuse or exposer I’m a full time mom to him

  1. She should not have an unlocked, unsupervised phone.
  2. Ask her WHY?
  3. AND this I learned in my human sexuality class, which I don’t totally agree with but understand, it’s human nature to be curious. But usually it’s a “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours”
    I’d definitely find out if she’s being inappropriately touched
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school lol kids at school probably telling her look up this look up that ect it’s curiosity aswell mixed in, not saying it right but ask her why those things

100% correct she didnt do this in her own

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Stop giving her the phone. That’s obvious. Kids are supposed to play with toys, not phones. Why are parents so quick to shove technology in their kids faces??

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Dang ! Take the stinking phone away from her… geezz… lock that thing down block all such immoral
Websites… parental control for childrens sake!

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Pay very close attention to who she’s hanging around

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Take the damn phone 6 is to young :unamused:

What the?? How does she even know key words to type in??? U need to get her help, something isn’t quite right. Perhaps she has already been exposed to this, if that’s the case you need to take a look at your surroundings and or who else she stays with.

Put a parent lock on devices so she can’t try look those things up aswel.

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So many things to consider here…

Does she have an older sibling, cousin, family member or friend showing her this or maybe they weren’t paying attention and she was watching them to learn how.

Did she walk in on something happening? Wouldn’t make sense how a six year old could search it up on her own though.

Is there a chance of sexual abuse? Everyone must be considered.

Did she search your Google history. Seems like the easiest option for a six year old who learned how to search up content. My daughter knows how to get on Google and has since she was six.

She should be monitored when using the phone. And maybe you could casually ask her where she learned how to search these videos without making it seem like she’s in trouble. It’s a very touchy subject and you absolutely don’t want to make the child feel like they’ve done something wrong, especially since you don’t know how she learned how to do this.
I hope you get some answers And not the bad ones.

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Parental controls and talk to her calmly about why she’s interested

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I love how everyone is more concerned about the kid having a phone. While yes SA is what usually jumps to people’s minds it seems to be a pretty common occurrence for kids this age to do this because my son did it and my mom says I did the same thing. Ik no one has done anything towards my son. He had older kids and class mates telling him there were videos of girls in swimsuits on YouTube. He got banned from YouTube. You can always put parental locks on your technology.

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At the age of 6 (that’s young) I would worry that someone has started grooming her and possibly already abused her.

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Curiosity doesn’t mean she’s been abused. My daughter did the same thing around 6 and I’d been home with her full time for 6 years. Kids have always been curious but now we get to post about it on social media lol

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My son when he was 7 had a PlayStation Vita. No internet connection and in the search bar he had typed in the word SEX ofc nothing popped up. So we asked him why he did that he said he heard someone on the bus say it😳 I work schools and it’s insane what younger kids talk about. Example 10 years old kids talking about body counts……… it’s just NUTS!!!

Whose phone is she playing with? Instead of focusing on her, look at the owner of the phone. If it’s her phone have you not put parental controls on it.

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Omg yall…just because she is curious…that doesn’t mean anyone abused her. :woman_facepalming: The fact that people jump to sexual abuse over every little bitty thing is a huge problem.
Kids these days are exposed to way too much, way too early. If she is in public school, she probably learned about it there. My son was 5 when he got off the school bus one day talking about sex. When I asked him where he heard those things he said he learned it from the big kids on the school bus.
She was probably exposed to some information and is now curious. Take advantage of parental controls and talk to her. Answer any questions she has make sure she knows she can come to you with future questions.

Number one make sure no one showed her .

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Something is def going on. Go to the doctor & have her speak to a child specialist

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Welp. An observation that is very unpopular… children are developing earlier. My kid, her cycle started this year. She’s 9. Her breasts began developing at 8. The curiosity and even sexual feelings are there. Sure of it. Im a grown ass woman and know what hormones are like.

Down to the bottom line, it is the

food we consume.

Or maybe your daughter has been experiencing sexual trauma. Either way, I recommend a therapist. Asap.

I damn well know now, I wasn’t prepared to be raising a daughter, at this age, with her curiosity and hormones. Her child therapist is so helpful on giving both of us advice on the difficult to approach, topics.

The question is why is she looking up adult videos? She just turned 6 yrs old. How does she even know what adult videos are? Something isn’t right here. She needs to go to therapy. Something could’ve happened to her. Definitely don’t let her have your phone anymore. Kids need to be outside playing or playing with toys and friends.

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Yall really need to stop trying to shame this mom because HER child has a phone. My 6 year old has my old phone. It was given to her so she could video chat with her dad,and work on her ABC mouse and learning app. it only works when she is it home on the wifi. I also allow her to watch kids youtube. Shes asking for advice on what she should do, not to be shamed.

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Turn off the net when she uses the phone. talk to her. Tell her anything she wants to know she can ask you about. Ask her if someone told her about this if so who. Reassure her the answers won’t get anyone in trouble (even if it’s an adult and certainly will get them in deep doo doo). Be open and explain that talking about things will teach her more than whatever is on the net. Good luck mama

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Parental controls she had to have seen something heard something for someone I hope you figure it out mama I couldn’t imagine

SOMEONE HAS CLEARLY SHOWN THIS CHILD SOMETHING!
TAKE ALL TECHNOLOGY AND LIMIT WHO HAS ACCESS TO HER ASAP!
FUCK COUNSELING -FIND THE PERSON INFLUENCING HER!
#saveourchildren

Just a thought: maybe she is getting the text spam messages for this stuff and clicks the link through the text message. My daughter clicked one and didn’t realize it was spam and hurried and closed it out

Perfect example that a 6 yr old doesnt need a cell phone.

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You need to lock your Google. So when she looks up anything like that it doesn’t pop up. Secondly ask her who she saw watching or heard about it from. Kids like to check stuff they heard :sweat_smile:

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When I was about that age (second or third grade) I must have expressed some sort of curiosity and my mom checked out an anatomy book from the library and told me how things worked and the differences between males and females. Maybe it’s just time for the talk.

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Omg really?
Take the phone away… Problem solved…

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Don’t give her any devices unsupervised

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She is to young to be searching for adults videos , Who’s phone is that ?
1. Maybe someone else watched and didn’t deleted the history and she just found them by accident.

  1. If the phone belongs to her why no one has put parental control

  2. Do she spend time with other adults with out your presence? Sleep overs ?

I will have ser seen an specialist because definitely there’s something going on

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Not shaming but take the phone 6 is to young for internet and social media. These things are so bad for a growing brain. There is no reason a 6 year old should have a phone or internet without parent controls. Second step would be figuring out how she found out about sexual content. Research is a parents best tool. Do your own you will find some helpful tips on controlling the content your child sees.

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Don’t give her the phone

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“Sexual Behaviors in Young Children: What’s Normal, What’s Not? - HealthyChildren.orghttps://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Sexual-Behaviors-Young-Children.aspx

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If it’s porn who is she around without you? People who groom kids show them porn and get them interested before and during molestation. I’m not saying this is happening but she wouldn’t know what to look up if someone didn’t show her already.

Maybe don’t give a 6 year old a phone?

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Is she just curious??

Eliminate screen time.

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Whose phone and parental locka

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“The Negative Effects of Technology on Children and What You Can Do” https://www.nu.edu/resources/negative-effects-of-technology-on-children-what-can-you-do/amp/

Yeah…she’s 6! Take the damn phone away! Smfh

Man you should see the amount of crap & inappropriate shit on parental lock kids YouTube
It’s everywhere

Get her to watch Netflix or Stan for kids shows on them

Did someone at school show her how to look this stuff up? Maybe get “The Care and Keeping of Me” book for younger girls if she’s curious about bodies, talk to her calmly, NO ALARM IN YOUR VOICE, & ask how she found this, why she was looking at it & explain its for grown—ups only.

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First of all how did she know. Second shes to young for a cellphone

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Don’t yell at her or get on to her. She probably was told my someone at school or something is happening to her. Don’t scare her and and maker her feel gross or like she did something bad. Talk to her and see what’s going on. Look into therapy, and monitor her while she uses the phone! Parental control setting should ALWAYS be set.

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Take the damn phone !

I would sit her down and talk to her.
Nothing to be ashamed of.
Maybe someone at school showed her something. Maybe she heard something.
Or maybe she is curious.

Also, let’s not judge a 6 year old using or having a phone.
Not your kid.

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This rings alarm bells to me

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Why does she need a phone at 6???

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Is there history on the phone that she’s clicking on? That seems to be most likely. Also, I would be thinking about everyone she’s been around & the possibility of her being molested or sexually abused. If she’s not been abused, then what has she been exposed to? She’s too young to have the random idea to look it up on the internet. I’d say it wouldn’t be as abnormal if she were 8-11+. Even 8 being too young but more justifiable than 6.

Also, she may be being groomed.

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Education and communication are the key factors here at 6 years old it is perfectly natural to want to explore their own body some times as a society we was taught it was wrong to explore our bodies but sit that child down and talk to her about her body and body party’s with the right names. For each part. I have a 3,4,almost 8 and a 10 year old my 8 year old has a phone because of after school activities he’s in. But we teach out kids at a young age their correct anatomy and that if and when they have questions to come ask us. Like my kinds know some women have penis and some males have vulvas. Also I would get her to see a therapist just incase she was touched inappropriately

Don’t let her have a phone. And any electronics she does have access to should have major restrictions on them.

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Yeah she’s six take the phone away, put locks on it and explain that it is not appropriate. Lord have mercy

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I would be figuring out who taught her this…

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Take the phone away !!! She’s six !!! Who’s the parent !!!

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That’s lretty extremely for a 6 yo

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Some one showed her how to get on this ask her who showed her that’s just not except able for any parent to have to go threw 5h8s and show ur baby that check into it hard prayers for u both

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huge red flag good luck to you

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Take her phone away. Only allow her to use it when you are sitting right there. My grandson was caught looking the other day, he’s 11. His phone is suspended and put away. No tablet, computer, etc.

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See has seen someone do this. NO WAY does a 6 yr old know anything about this stuff. Hopefully you are not letting her watch TIC TOC

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Shes 6 maybe give her some barbies and play with her, instead of giving her a phone and having the internet play with her :tipping_hand_woman:t4::woman_facepalming:t4:

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Talk to her. Ask her who showed her this video or photos before. Ask her if anyone has touched her in her private areas. Ask a lot of questions to make sure that this is not a result from anything inappropriate happening to her and by who, if necessary. If someone has, take her to the ER to be evaluated.

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First off take the phone away and set the parental controls on it then ask her where she found the videos and why she was looking at them someone could have showed her or she may be getting sexually assaulted by someone I’d take her into get her checked maybe some child’s play therapy

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Why does she have a phone at six. Also how did she know how to look it up. This is bizarre she is too young.

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Take the phone away. WTF???

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Talk to her, when kids get curious start the conversation not send her to therapy without your own attempt to talk with her. You’ll traumatize her if you do that and prevent her from ever opening up to you. Ask her why she’s interested in it, have a conversation. The topic of sex at any age doesn’t need to be shameful, just an age appropriate conversation.

6yr olds don’t need a phone!!!

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Who’s phone is it firstly that she is aloud to play with and how did she find adult material?

She doesn’t need therapy

She needs guidance

Talk to her about the Birds and the Bees and the dangers

Its never to young to be careful

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you can put a block on her phone to keep her from getting on things like that and looking up things that she is to young for

She is only 6, she doesn’t need a phone and if she has any electronic devices make sure it is all supervised and put parental control on them. You can also put locks on any search engines on devices.

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Something or someone has showed her where to go and how to look up stuff like this and I would also talk to her about people touching her in places that should not be touched and let her know that she can come and talk to you and tell you anything maybe if someone is doing something she will let you know.

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I know alot of 6 year olds and their parents has a block on their phone

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She can’t search for that stuff on her own… it must be popping up, ads etc. She needs to be monitored while on the phone and have child blocks… and since she had been exposed to such things needs to have the talk… or a 6 year old version of it… not her fault at all. She shouldn’t have access to it

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She’s a very smart 6yr old don’t underestimate her at all. My grandson was 4 n was pushing randon buttons on his mother’s computer and seen necked pictures of women n showed it to his mom n told her that they need to put clothes on. She was surprised n locked it everytime she got off of it.

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Download Google Family Link. You can control everything on their phone.

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Why does a 6 year old need a cell phone??

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Therapy is the best start.
I’d take all electronics away from her for starters. Then talk to her about it. How she discovered it, why she’s interested. It could be that she just stumbled upon it but usually that’s not the case.

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Take away the phone. A 6 year old doesn’t need a phone, expecially one without parental controls or supervision

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A 6 year old doesn’t belong with a phone for MANY reasons… this being one of the big ones… my daughter is 8 akd only asks for a phone when shes around her cousins that have them… otherwise she never asks… she knows that the answer is always going to be no. The things kids can be exposed to online is a big enough concerb when they’re old enough to go online… why introduce them to that any earlier than they have to be? My daughter has zero idea what sex is and would probably feel sick to her stomach is she ever was exposed to that at her age. You need to find out how she even learned how to look for that kind of stuff because someone clearly showed her.

Set up parental control on the phone and any other device she can access. Also if you have sky or similar set up the same parental controls. In my house anything over a pg rating needs a code to be entered. Also if my son wants to download a game I’ve set up everything so I get an email asking my permission before he can download it. Which means I can look into the game before he plays it

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Take her out of public school.

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Restrict age on phone or take phone away!

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In my opinion 6 year olds shouldn’t have that type of access. Have you asked her any questions about it? Doesn’t have to be deliberate but danced around the subject? 

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I have a six year old girl, I can’t imagine her doing this or even knowing how. Someone showed her or it was there to see and she keeps going back to it. This is bizarre that she has your phone. I think we need more info here. What is she looking up?

This could definitely be a sign that someone is sexually abusing her. Do you have a thought on who that could be? Who has access to her? Counseling is a good idea but you also need to find out where this is coming from and how it’s happening.

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Take the phone but also watch who she is around

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This is disturbing. Poor 6 year old.

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Are you for real? If she is accessing adult material
You know that’s your fault right? It’s your responsibility to make sure she is not exposed to this material! She’s 6! :woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming:

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Take the phone away.

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Take the phone away from your 6 year old for starters. Children that young shouldn’t even be on the internet. Bust out some crayons and coloring books and let her be a child!

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Remove all devices :woman_facepalming:

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It’s her dad’s doing she’ll hopefully grow out of that.

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That is NOT the norm. Someone has shown her that or talked to her about it. Time to see her ped. Or counseling. Why does she have a phone. At 6??? Much less internet excess?

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Someone has definitely Shown her no way would she Have found that by herself. Why Does she have a phone in the first time 6 Is to YOUNG. Why aint you watching what she goes on!!

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Don’t tell her it’s wrong what she’s doing - just because she’s curious about a body Don’t make her feel it’s wrong or nasty - only you know how mature enough she is to talk about just enough detail about it - you don’t have to say everything about the subject- set her down and explain the basic reason what she saw - let her asked all the questions she wants and respond about with couple words- once she understands she will move on from it---- there is nothing wrong about her wondering-

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Learnt behaviour from a sibling or adult safeguard is paramount lock the phones it take it of her this is a concern

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