How should I handle this?

Talk, talk & talk to her! You need to find out how she first saw this & what makes her keep going back to it, what is making her curious? She is only 6 & should not have access to your phone freely, put kids mode on & sit with her whilst she has a LITTLE screen time. Can you think of who she has shared screen time with? They possibly showed her.

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Call up your Internet provider and put a block on adult content.

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Talk to her and explain these are adult things … even at 6 it may be time to ask some questions as well as answer any that she has… don’t make her feel embarrassed as she may never come to you … also put parental controls … like if it were YouTube put YouTube kids so she only has access to that etc…

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Parental controls. Talk to her she is obviously curious about something that led her down a rabbit hole.

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A 6 year old shouldn’t have a phone. Take the phone away and find out who showed her about it. A 6 year old didn’t find that on her own.

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She shouldn’t have a phone at 6. If you haven’t taught her about sex, then I imagine she’s heard something and is curious, or she has been shown something by another sibling/child/adult.

Take the phone away! Omg

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You need to sit her down & talk to her. Make her feel comfortable, & tell her she isn’t in trouble but she needs to talk to you one on one. Put kids mode on the phone if you want her to continue to use it.

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Your child needs to see a psychologist urgently

How did she find out about adult videos who has shown her this? Is this child possibly being sexually groomed or fiddled with ? Only a psychologist will get to the truth …

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Ask the right questions. Who is she with a lot or even a little bit? Is someone taking a interest in her? Any tale-tell signs at all! She should not be even thinking of anything like this. I pray that you can take care of this quickly.

How the hell would a 6 year old know this? Hope you sort it.

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Sorry but someone showed her porn was my first go to. Kinda like the video a number of yrs ago if the 10 yr old puffing a blunt he watched someone smoke many times

I started doing physical things at this age and younger, I was also being molested, ask her if she knows what she’s looking at and try to ask questions about if those things have happened to her, therapy doesn’t always help, she needs a parent and someone to be understanding not some random person to talk to .

Take the phone! :woman_facepalming:t3:

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That’s easy. Don’t let her have internet access. She’s a child. She doesn’t need a phone. She needs to be a kid.

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Definitely an underlying issue, get her help, she has learned about this from someone. Please don’t wait to seek help!

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Don’t leave her alone with anyone anymore. Someone is showing her that. then there’s the rest of the situation you need to deal with.

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What tyoe of adult videos are tpu talking about? Like bad language or porn? My 6 year old will just watch whatever he sees he thinks he will like. Sometimes stuff i dont want him to watch but i dontwatch that stuff he doesnt. He has clicked on stuff that im like i dont want you watching that and he changes it

I don’t understand why a 6 year old has a phone. But besides that, she either came upon these videos accidentally or someone is showing her these videos, which means you may have a predator in your mist. I will talk to her and first find out how she found these videos and how important it is for her to be honest with you, you may even want to tell her that you already know and you’re just waiting for her to be honest. There are parental controls that will only allow her what you allow her to have, it also controls anyone texting her, you have to approve them, but in my opinion she doesn’t need a phone

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Take the phone away from her and sit her down .get a forensic child psychologist!

Sit her down and have a one on one talk with her.
Get her some counseling and therapy, but also set up a security thing on the phone so she can’t access it.

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Block on ur phone too

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Ummmmmm at 6 how does she even know about this???have you questioned her about it… who phone is she using???does she know what she is watching??? I got to many questions :woman_facepalming:

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Take the phone and ask question!!! Its either been done to her or someone showed it to her!!! I’ve dealt with it first hand!

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Are you letting her watch YouTube? I’m not sure if you’ve ever left that running but it goes to some weird shit sometimes. If your 6 year old is seeking out adult videos I would definitely seek some advice from a dr or therapist.

Set parental controls on her phone and remove the internet. She is too young. Unfortunately kids have the world at their fingertips with the touch of a button. Protect your baby and have a conversation with her

Why is a 6 year old even allowed to be on the phone and even know how to look it up??? That’s the problem.

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Plenty of apps out there to control her phone.

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Take… the… phone…. Away? Talk to a therapist, but clearly someone showed her

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At six, she should not have enough unsupervised access to the internet to do that. Somebody taught or showed her how to pull it up, that isn’t something a six year old finds on their own. Take her to counseling and for God’s sake take the phone away. Their oxygen does not come from that screen, they will survive without it.

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Please try and see if she is being sexually abused. That’s the only way I knew what that stuff was.

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Why does a 6-year-old need a phone

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Umm take the damn phone she is 6 like Wtf. I don’t get it.

I would take the phone away. And counseling is always a good idea!

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block those sites on the phone from being accessed…parental control not hard

Six year olds do not need a phone. They need to be outside playing.

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A 6yr old shouldn’t have a phone 2 begin with js

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She’s 6 and has her own phone! That is the problem! The second you hand them a phone, be ready to accept that they’re on the internet! No way is 6 old enough to be on the internet unsupervised! Don’t wonder what is wrong with her when you handed her the access to see these videos :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Maybe not give her a phone with unrestricted access?

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Don’t give her your phone and maybe talk to her about what she’s doing at 6 year old I’m wondering how she knows about this stuff

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100% look into what has caused her to do so. Hate to think the worst but if an adult has shown her that is abuse I would not sweep it under the rug and just take the phone away I would be getting to the complete bottom of it and start trying to connect the dots even before you considered therapy. Find out why she is doing it first

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She’s 6, why does she have a phone.
Secondly you need to find out if she’s been sexually abused

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Not always does it mean something is happening…curiosity could be it as well… When you hand a 6 year old access to the internet they will find it and see it in videos you wouldn’t think for a second it’d be in…talk…explain…do not make the child feel ashamed or they will shut down and not talk to you…always supervise internet use if they have access

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I would ask her why she feels she need to look this up and maybe where did she learnt the info? Don’t get angry or accuse try to talk with her. Also maybe look into an Amazon kids tablet for her instead. You can set age restrictions and screen times. Very very happy with it for my 3 year old. She can enjoy some technology without having access to the whole world lol

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First of all at 6 she doesn’t need a phone but of she’s gonna have one download a site blocker. My son is 12 and I have one on his devices. He can’t access any type of adult website without a password, and even then it would alert me through my email

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According to d2l.org children can be curious and the internet has access to all kinds of inappropriate things for your child, so letting your child have full access is not a good idea. But this has opened a door that you now need to discuss with your child. There are specialized therapists trained in this kind of behavior just in case someone (child or adult) is touching your child. (As a child I knew a little about sex, on accident I had caught my parents, but you can never be too careful when it comes to your child)

Don’t let her have the phone! Problem solved.

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I think this is very normal for children to be curious about their body and we live in a sexualized society so maybe don’t give her access to it and talk to her about it. Before the days of internet my great grandma wrote in her diary that when she was curious about what a boy looked like she took her neighbor boy’s diaper off and had a look around the same age. You take sick people to the doctor. She’s just a little girl with a phone that is teaching her about things that probably make her feel even more curious.

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Restrict their access! I just gave my 3.5 year old a tablet and it is sooo parentally controlled he can’t even go on any websites without my knowledge. Certain apps shut off after an alloted time, he gets locked out of the device completely after his daily time limit has been reached, cannot download apps without my phone getting notified. YOU are the parent, YOU make the rules. Period, giving a child that young unrestricted access to something so vast was a misstep to begin with, you need to control their content in life & virtually or they will hear and see things that isn’t age appropriate or that you simply don’t want them to

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She has learned this from someone

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What things are being taught in school? Has there been “special” story times? I have a friend who had no clue what was being taught to her daughter at school at such a young age. She was livid once she found out :sleepy:

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Why the heck does a 6 yr old have free range access to the internet??? Why does a 6 yr old have a phone?

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I have a 3, 5, and 8 year old that use my phone and computer to go on YouTube. They don’t get unlimited access, but none of them have went searching for that. Because they don’t know to. This makes me worry about how she came to know of these videos. This is what you need to get to the bottom of. Have a frank conversation with her, without anger.

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No more phone or internet!!!

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Take the phone away and have a body safety talk with her. Most of the time if they’re looking this up it’s because someone has shown them similar things. FYI abuse statistically occurs from someone trusted by the family. Do not focus on the videos, focus on why she’s looking.

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Do YOU not have any COMMON SENSE at all??? Why does she even have access to a phone or comp?
She needs other activities.

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Don’t let her have your phone

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If children as young as 5 didn’t have phones this wouldn’t happen…

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First take the phone or put a code where you can block all that stuff . Set down and talk with her and ask why ? Let her know it’s unexceptional to look at that stuff . She’s much too young. That why God made parents to protect them from all this evil in the world !

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Restricted mode on your phone. Its sad that most videos these days even when kids are watching cartoons inappropriate ones pop up. Go to the app store and there should be a security section and permissions it will allow you to choose what is allowed and blocked.

I’d be more concerned how she even learned they exist or how to search for them. 6 is really young to be curious I feel. Someone close to her has shown her something

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Why does she need therapy?? It’s available and curious, don’t make it available?

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for goodness sake take the phone away from her, she is apparently to young to have a phone

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At 6 years old
Has she been touched? I’d be more concerned about that

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I learned about porn through classmates and I was around the same age. I also became curious, but I didn’t have access to internet. If she’s using your phone it would be easy to find. If she’s not, you need to add parental controls.

If she’s curious than it’s your job to address it and educate her.

Why does a 6yr old have phone

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She’s 6! Keep the phone away from her!!

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Why does a 6 year old have a phone?! Easy fix take the thing away. Obviously she is not mature enough to have that kind of freedom yet.

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How does she have free access to the internet? Phones have locks. The internet has parental controls. She’s 6 ffs.

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Why does a 6 year old have access to a phone and the knowledge to look up adult videos?

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My son is 6 and he wouldn’t have the slightest clue on any of that. Either someone showed her those things or has done something to her to open her mind to it. That’s very sad honestly. I think there is something much deeper going on you need to look into.

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First ask her if anything happened to her. Explain that grown up videos are for grown ups. Have the talk of no one but her touches or looks at her privates with the exception of a doctor WITH MOM PRESENT if something hurts. Get her examined if there is even the smallest possibility something happened. Get her into therapy and if she goes to the school talk to the teacher to make sure none of the other kids are talking to her about this stuff. If it comes up that nothing has happened and she just heard as is curious, talk to her and answer her questions and see if a pediatrician would recommend testing her hormones. She may have an over the normal limit amount of homones making her curious like a teen. And finally TAKE AWAY ALL ELECTRONICS.

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Lock any device don’t give her access to it

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I was being molested my female cousin a couple years older and started watching porn at 5. Not saying it’s correlated buti wouldn’t have known what I did without mycousin. Time to inform medical professionals and counselors. I’d rather spearhead it than worry. You got this. Take phoneaway. I’m very very smart and I was for my age it sounds like your baby might be the same that means if she’s gonna have phone privileges she needs to respect phone rules higher than her age group

I would be more worried about why and how she knows to look that kind of stuff up then her being on the phone. But clearly stop letting her use the phone and seek help to be evaluated

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Explain to her that those videos are inappropriate and ground her from the phone.

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First of all WHY would a 6 yr old have a phone? Is it yours mom? If so why wouldn’t YOU have a parental lock on the phone?

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I agree with Catherine, someone taught her how to do this, who is in her immediate circle? TAKE A CLOSE LOOK!!!

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Not give a 6 year old a phone with unrestricted internet access feels like a liiiitle too obvious….

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If it’s your phone she’s using delete your history so she cant view them
Shes 6 ! Talk to her

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I stopped reading at 6 and on the iPhone. Super easy fix. And obviously she is seeing to much as a child to know how to do that.

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The heck is a 6 year doing with a device that has internet? I’m sorry but dude there’s your sign :roll_eyes::thinking:

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How does a 6 year old know hiw to look up those sites in the first place? She shouldn’t even have a clue at that age.

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Take her phone- she’s 6. Try to find out the source how she knows how to look up such videos. There might be more to the story, It’s not normal curiosity at all for a 6 y.o … if this was a 16-year-old boy I might not question this as much. I would be extremely concerned how she learned/or who showed her how to find them… Also, there are locks and ways to block videos. Depends on your specific phone and carrier. definitely call your carrier if u can’t find them. (I understand for emergency situations why some young children would need to have a phone).

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Why my son doesn’t have access to a phone anymore, he’s 10, caught him doing the same thing.

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Take the phone lol. She needs Interaction not an electronic.

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Maybe download children’s you-tube, or maybe it’s call you tube kids.
My son has his tablet and watches mr beast and some other you tuber.

I’m wondering if she just found it in the search history and was curious as to what it is. I would get her in to talk to someone though just incase something has happened to her.
Wishing you the best xx

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Therapy yes. She doesn’t need a phone. Safe guards onn it

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Take the phone away to start :roll_eyes::rofl:.

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Hello… simple… take her phone away and monitor any computer researches…come on !

I’m no rocket scientist but. How about taking the phone away from her

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I agree with Betty.
I would first talk to her & try to find out how she came across the porn site, try to get some info,then I would find out how to place Internet safeguards on phone if you plan to continue giving her phone use.
She is only 6 so hopefully no damage or no abuse has occurred. Therapy to uncover if you cannot.
You will get through this …

She’s 6 and has a phone?
She’s 6 and has unrestricted access to her phone (no parental controls)??

Step 1
Parenting class
Step 2 take away her phone

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I think you need to put her in therapy. She may have been sexually assaulted and the pedo showed her them.

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A 6 year old should not have a cellphone with complete access to the internet. She probably took it to school and she and her friends looked it up :person_shrugging: she might not need therapy, but you should get some, and take parenting classes

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My daughter is 6 and has my moms old phone (mom passed away and was cheaper to keep the line then turn it off) but I have parental controls on it… I control them from my phone so she can’t change anything… but she doesn’t necessarily need therapy, everyone jumps to therapy all the time… talk to her without yelling or acting like she is doing something wrong and figure out why she is doing that… kids get curious especially with how much people are pushing adult stuff on kids now a days.

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Definitely therapy asap, if there are other signs as well. Has she had personality changes, is she isolating, acting out, etc?Have you asked her any questions? Like has anyone touched her, made her feel uncomfortable, why she’s curious about this, etc?

No more technology unless you are there. Talk to her and tell her why she shouldn’t be watching those types of videos.

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Stop giving a six-year-old a phone

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