Do a reveal with her saying surprise you’re a grandma… and have her on camera… it’ll be easier cause she should stay calm on video and hopefully once the initial shock wears off she’ll be happy!
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You tell her when YOU are ready to. You’re an adult, and clearly on your feet. If she’s not happy about it, that’s her loss than. You’re wanting to share news that you’re happy about, and excited about with her.
Pinterest has cute ideas on how to tell people you’re pregnant! Maybe see if you can find a cute idea on there and make it a little more special for her and you.
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Truth is the best policy and who knows your mum may surprise you 
but what ever happens it sounds like you and your partner will give your baby all the love she or he needs. Best wishes to you both 
Just tell her. It doesn’t matter what she says, when she holds that baby…it will capture her heart. I had my first at 20 as well. Had him shortly after turning 21 and we got married a couple of months after graduating highschool. But you know what? Everyone loved that baby as soon as they laid eyes on him
I would just get it out and in the open to get that weight off your shoulders, and enjoy your pregnancy
Sooner the better. Just tell her. She might be mad but shell come around. I was 20 when I found out I was pregnant, gave birth at 21. My mom looked at me and said I fucking knew it! And she was mad mostly due to the fact of who my partner was but she very quickly came around and was helping me choose names
Just tell her you are happy. She knows you share an appartment. So just tell her she is going to be grandma or give.her an ultra sound picture and tel her that is her grand baby. After all it isnt 1950
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Well, you’re an adult. You live with your partner so you are not under your moms roof. It really has nothing to do with her.
You could try some cute surprise for her to open, but if you really think she won’t be happy then just tell her. My mom wasnt happy and cried on the phone when I told her and asked me if I was okay. I indeed was okay and had been trying to get pregnant (married and 22). I thought she would be happy so I guess you just never know!
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Tell her sooner than later if you think she wont be happy, cause she will prob be upset of she thinks you hid it from her. Becoming a grandmother is such a special milestone. Suprise her with a cute gift idea to reveal maybe the ultrasound or something.
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I was 18 when I got pregnant to my long-term boyfriend, 19 when I gave birth, mum voiced her concerns, but she knew how in love and happy I was, so she gave her blessing, not that it was compulsory lol. It kinda helped that my older sister got pregnant, single, at 15, and had her baby at 16 and raised him solo… I was 18 and in a long-term relationship…
Maybe make it fun so it’s not as much of a shock? Incorporate something she enjoys. For example if she enjoys knitting get her some knitting stuff with a cute sign that says she needs to make a baby sweater with a date. Whatever she finds joy in, do that.
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You know… I was newly married and we desperately wanted a child. We didnt have any plans for kids- eg medical savings or private healthcare. We were renting a 1 bedroom. And I was hit with the news that I would never be able to have a child because I suffered from endometriosis. Girl, I was devastated. I yearned for a baby. A lot of women don’t understand that these days. They tell you to focus on your career or studies. You can do both. Its difficult but you can do both hun. My mum wasn’t too thrilled when I told her. But boy does she love the crap out the little one now… I’m sure your mama will come around… Take her with to your ultrasound maybe and when she hears that little heartbeat- I’m sure it will all change❤
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I was so sure my mom would lose her mind when I was 18 got pregnant. She didn’t. I asked her about it later. She said she realized it wouldn’t have done any good. It wouldn’t have changed anything. If your mom gets upset or even angry, she will come around.
My mom wasn’t thrilled when I got pregnant , I was 25 though. Just tell her. Try to go easy, but just say it. If she is gonna flip out, let her. She’ll come around.
I was kinda in the same boat… granted I was 23 and had lived with my boyfriend since 19 but I did it in a public place so she couldn’t cause a scene. She took it well tho. A new baby makes everyone happy 
Telling my mom was the hardest thing ever ( I also lived with her) and her reaction was not very nice buuut she loves her granddaughter sooo much now and they have a great relationship
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Your adult so it’s your choice if u can hide it I would wait till u have a scan picture put it inside a card saying grandma let her open it see scan if she wants to make a scene well that her problem your 20 not 16
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Congratulations!! Give her a congratulations card that says you are gonna be a Gramma!! Look up cute announcements!! I thought my parents would be unhappy but they were excited.
Had my first at 19. I’m 32 and have three kids and my mother barely speaks to me. She hated me ruining my life at 19 and trust me… She was right. I should have waited. 
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The sooner the better 
so you don’t have to stress-and she will have time to get over it. Lol
I was 18 when I had my oldest and he was the best thing that ever happened to me. He is now 12 and the kindest person. Your parents might be mad at first but a baby changes everything even anger ! With time everything will be okay.
Wait till 13 weeks/second trimester. Anything can happen within the first trimester so it’s good to keep it on the down low until then.
I did surprise specials for my family/in laws… cakes, t-shirts, bday cards (that read grandpa LOL)
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She might not like it but just wait until the baby arrives
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You are an adult , tell her streight up
Just tell her you’re grown and have your own place what does she expect seriously if she doesn’t like it then oh well
Just let her figure it out as you get bigger!
I will wait till I know exactly what I’m having and hand her the ultrasound picture what else can you say then you refer to the baby by name
As long as you dont your parents roof things will be fine people get mad and get over it this is your decision
I never told my anyone other than the father. Everyone else just figured it out.
You’re an adult. You dont live with her. She doesn’t pay your bills. Wait until you want to and say “hey I’m pregnant” that simple
My mum went metal im 21 with a 6 month old but honestly what she going to make you do get rid of it… Your body your choice im still happy to this day and she thought i couldnt cope and i did. Its what you both want not what your mum wants
Why would she be anything but happy and excited? I mean you’re not underage and you already have a place to live. Just be straight up with her so she has 9 months to get over it.
Your an adult… it shouldn’t be up to her… you guys have a place together so not like she will be raising the child
Your an adult and have your own place she’ll get over it
My daughter was 17 when she told me… she came to me and said “mom theres something i need to tell you, promise you wont be mad” i said hmmm sureeee then she showed me the pregnancy test… and i was upset a bit obviously… but it worked out now im a proud gramma
Straight to the point “Mom I’m pregnant like it or not it’s happening”
Now. Mom, I’m going to have a baby. I’m happy. It turns out.
Your 20, you are an adult
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She’ll probably be happy to be a soon to be grandmother 
Just be honest.she will be Happy
I was terrified to tell my mother for all three. But she’s a bitch so whatever.