Leave his ass if will just get worse been there and I have 2 kids myself and had to start all over u will figure it out
You are ruining your children’s childhood by staying . It is so traumatic to watch your mother being abused whether verbally , emotionally or physically . I watched my father beat my mother and choke her till her tongue turned purple then release her after spitting in her face since the age of three .He withheld money for food and bills so my grandfather would give mom money in secret . If food wasn’t cooked to his liking he would throw the plates on the floor or walls , leaving my crying mom to clean up the mess. Those are the memories of my childhood . I am 60 years old now and they still hurt as if it was yesterday. Thank God mom stopped being a doormat when he tried to kill her . i would a million times preferred poverty struggles than to live like I did . Nobody understands my trauma and my psychological pain , don’t sentence your children to that psychological pain …please .
Home for abuse women all over the world get the help out.
Call a woman’s shelter first. They will pick you up and protect you through the process. Do it in the morning.
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Come up with a plan!! (Like really sit down and compare and contrast ideas) -Do you have family/friends? *Any money saved up? -Are you able to take out a loan? *Trade your car in for a cheaper one… with little to no, monthly payment(?) -Are you afraid of going to a shelter… and starting anew?
<<Government Assistance (?)>>
*Apply for Snap benefits, if not already receiving them (food stamps) -&- see if you are eligible for cash assistance… (since it seems you don’t have a lot of hours/income from work)
-Even if you can’t afford car payments/do not trade it in for a cheaper car… with little to no payments… (Can You Take the Bus?) -Temporarily
(Save up all money you get from work… *What he doesn’t know, will not hurt)
-You Have To GET OUT… -&- want better for yourself and your children!
Idk, possibly you could get a restraining order against the guy… (that could definitely remove him from the home) -Just speak of how you are afraid of him and how he physically and emotionally/verbally abused you as well as your children.
You have to leave NoW… especially if you have been contemplating it for years!
#HisTimeIsUp
(It is better to start over from scratch… get your healthy future going!!)
Stay strong and determined… (take step one… before worrying about step 2/3) -OH- -&- Step One… is to (
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Figure it out and leave, while your kids are still young, why would you stay cause you think it does your kids more good in a house with thier parents that is very unhealthy??? (Alot of people think this way) Trust me they will have resentment when they get older. Start stashing and get out.
My daughter is 20 and witnessed so much abuse up to age 2 and has so many mental health problems now due to that. You deserve better and so do your kids. Please reach out to these places people have posted. It’s hard, I’m not gonna lie, but it will only get worse for your children to repeat his actions and/or accept those same behaviors from someone when they are older. Many prayers to you to make the best choice for you and your kids!! 
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Your son is choking your daughters? Wtf! They will grow up thinking that is normal and it’s definitely not. I think your husband is more than semi abusive if your son has picked up on physical abuse to the point he is physically abusing his siblings. You need to be past contemplating at this point!
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Get out I did it twice you can do it
Get out now
I left 9 years ago
Started over, with nothing
I’ve never looked back!
Why did you marry him and have kids if he was that angry and abusive? You need to take your kids and run as fast and as far away from him as you can. I’m sure there are women’s shelters where you live that help abused women get away from their abusers. Please do it before it’s too late.
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Leave now. You will find a way.
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Semi abusive? Either he is or he s not. Call a battered womans shelter for help. You need to protect yourself and your kids. Your son has already learned its ok to beat women.
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Unfortunately you will need to decide what’s more important… your life & safety of your family or what you’ll have to give up. I’m sure it’s very difficult but one day he could lose all control & seriously hurt you &/or the kids or worse. The are sources out there for battered families, do some research & see what they have in your area…but you need to keep that from him
As a person who survived domestic violence. Get out n get out fast!!! If ur child is already showing the signs, it will only get worse. Look at this way, is it gonna take ur life or ur children’s to wake up. Run as fast as u can n get ur child help now before it comes to sitting in n out of prison because of him beating or worse killing someone. Ur girls will grow up thinking this is life. Believe me, I lived in it n grew to think it was fine til my ex decided my kids we’re his next punching bag. I got out even though I had no job, no place to go. I got out. Ur life n ur babies lives aren’t worth losing.
Step out on faith God has you
If you don’t leave it will become worse. Do not stay! Do not bring up the fond memories! Do not think of the what if’s! Leave while you have a chance. The longer you wait you lessen your chance of getting out of this toxic relationship. It will get harder. Do not look back and most importantly once you’re gone stay gone. Please leave.
First thing stop covering up for him, tell people the truth when they ask. Second there are lots of support and help out there that can get you sorted once you leave. Third if he kills you do you really want your kids saying to people “oh she would have left but she didn’t have a car now we don’t have a mum” I know it isn’t just about not having a car but when you dumb it down to just one excuse it doesn’t seem worth it does it. Call the support lines and friends and everyone will help you and the ones (friends) that don’t you really don’t need them in your life.
The safety and well being of those children is your responsibility,Work out a way,and go!,!!good luck.
Run run ! He will Never change . Do yourself the favor and Go, you waisting years you Never get back
Leave. Now. And don’t look back. Your children do NOT need to grow up witnessing that behavior!
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It’s ok sweetie. We’re here for you. If you need someone to talk to, I’m a spiritual life Coach. No charge. Inbox me 
File a restraining order
Contact you local department of human services, and ask if they have a domestic abuse grant to help you find a place to live. They also have work trying programs. Pack up what you need. Birth certificates, social security cards, photos, your marriage certificate, clothes. Hygiene products and go. If you don’t currently live somewhere with mass transit, relocate to somewhere that does. You deserve to live a life free from abuse, you children deserve a life from abuse and chaos. Best of luck!
I felt this on so many levels 
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Take this from someone who has been where you are…mine was mentally emotionally and physically abusive to me…awesome with the kids though…I put up with it for six years…I had four little ones and thought I would never make it on my own but guess what I did and my boys and daughter are productive adults and not an abuser…GET OUT now while you still can… protect your babies and yourself. It won’t be easy but you can do it. Good luck…
Get out now . There are shelters for that .
Please get the courage to leave, it don’t get better and won’t!!! Went through this for years.my kids still to this day talk about the abuse and it’s my fault. Go to a church, women’s shelter, family, friends, but do it for yourself. I’m praying God will give you the strength 
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Run, and run far! This is setting the ground work for how your son will treat women in the future (he is already abusing his sisters, it will get worse from there) and how your daughters see and accept the love that is shown them, you staying is setting them up for abusive relationships and a very horrible future! No kid should have to witness what yours have and only you can put a stop to it! Run girl, Run fast and far and don’t look back!
Support Services- CADA, DV Connect or call your local Neighbourhood Centre for other services and information. Be safe & take care!
Shame on the woman asking why she stayed or married him. Apparently none of you know what it’s like being with a narcissist. I pray you don’t ever find out. As for you I suggest you call the DV helpline. Get into a shelter and get a protection order for you and your kids. You will get help from DHS with proof of separation. It might take you a while to get on your feet but just keep pushing momma remember your kids are a product of their environment what they see is what they will do. I know it sound easier then it will be, but you have to protect yourself and your kids. The violence gets worse and he will probably eventually start going after the kids.
Leave him. No car is better than that. Call womens aid or whatever they have around you. Smashing stuff and going off on one is domestic violence.
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Get out now. Find an shelter and leave his sorry ass.
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I’m not sure where you live, but there are many resources available for people in you situation. They would consider you an emergency as you have children and they are directly being affected…look into what’s available in your area. Keep your head up mama, it’s hard to walk away from something you’ve been accustomed to for so long, but you can don’t ever think you don’t have a choice because you always do.
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Get out immediately! Call any domestic abuse hotline now! He will hurt you!!!
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Get out! I waited too long. It destroyed my relationship with my kids! There is help. Just ask! Praying for you and your family!
Check out J9 they can help
Girl leave his ass and do It ASAP. Things won’t be easy but its better than you being physically abused and your children being verbally abused. I doubt it would be long until he started hitting the kids. And if your kids are already starting to pick up on the behavior things have went on way too long. Do you have family that can help you out? Maybe a place to stay with one of them? A shelter if you have to, temporarily. If you have someone willing to watch the kids for you during the day, see if your job will give you more days/hours so you can save up and get a place for you guys. See if you can get government assistance. Idk if you have section 8 or housing by you but if you do see if you can at least get on a wait list, it may take awhile but hopefully you can stay with someone till then. I know it’s all easier said than done but I really hope it works out for you.
Apply for low income housing, there are shelters as well, sign up for W2, there are options out there it’s a huge step And I know it’s hard but you can do it Ans I know you know it’s for the best
Please get out for you and your children’s sake. I was a child that witnessed domestic abuse for years and it still affects me now as a 39 year old woman. I agree reach out to a womens shelter, we had to stay in one when I was a child and they are amazing. Financial help is out there. A car is replaceable, you are not. X
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Please leave it’s damaging your children. Go to a women’s shelter or call your local agency for emergency housing. 
Why have 3 kids into this toxic life, for your kids please get up and walk away money and cars aren’t worth anything if you kids haven’t got a good upbringing with role models to look upto
Look at the damage it’s already doing to your kids get out now before it to late
Every state has a 211 look up battered women shelter! I left many years too late now my children look for men like him. Please do it for your kids get a restraining order to protect you and them!
Get out get help there is help out there. Refuges they will help you start a new life for ur self and ur kids xx
Contact a domestic violence victim advocacy program in your area. They will help you plan an exit strategy and assist with finding resources to help support you financially and mentally. Typically your local police station or courthouse will have information on how to contact these programs. Good luck
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There will be better ways than keeping your children in this environment - they shouldn’t have been born into such a situation so don’t make them live in it any longer . Try and look for local refuges, council houses etc and there will be income support options. Look after yourselves, it’ll work out in the end if you make that first step. Stay strong and keep up hope . You’re amazing
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Make a safe plan and get out. I waited and planned to leave my ex when my boys were 3 and 1. It takes planning but do it wisely and immediately file a PFA.
Get out of that situation, theres a lot of help out there. Prayers for you and your kids.
Please get help, there are so many resources out there for you. Don’t worry about the material items, you will get them in time.
Get out of there! Every town has services to assist abused families.
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How long are you going to tolerate it? Now your daughters are being physically abused by a brother, lady if you don’t make a change NOW you are going to lose your children. AND GET COUNSELING FOR THE BOY
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Oh momma I am so very sorry you and the littles have had to go through this. Start by saving every penny you can. Stash it away where he won’t find it. Start looking for women’s shelters you can go to. Is there family or a friend you can go to that you trust? If so tell them what’s going on and that you have to get out. One of the most dangerous times in DV relationships is when the one being abused tries to leave. So make an escape plan and stick to it. You and your babies deserve so much more than this. Remember his actions are not your doing.
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Get out of there. Get a pfa and I’m sure they will help you with housing. Once your away you will be so much better. Walking on egg shells suck everything out of you.
You need to find a women’s refuse place type thing, in the UK we have women’s aid where they help people and children escape their perpetrators and can offer a refuge for women Nd children to live in while they get away from the perp and move on to live without them, they help with everything down to new housing, counselling for adults and children , police involvement ect ect call up your local authority Council and see what is available, please stay strong for u and your children 
it’s going to be a roller coaster of a ride but the first step is leaving safely xx
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Take them to a safe house they will help you rebuild your life
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Your children will grow up in that environment and as adults will mimic those same behaviors and relationships. When I made the decision to divorce my husband it was because I didn’t ever want my kids growing up believing that what was happening was normal or ok. If you’re not willing to leave for your own sake, please do it for theirs.
Please get out before it’s to late. I to was once in an abusive relationship. I got my kids walked out… I was lucky I had family to help me after I left everything owned behind. Please please I beg you get out now! It will get better 
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My X husband was a tyrant & I can say without a doubt get out. You don’t realize the damage this is doing to you & your children. I am divorced for over 10 years & the damage done is still there . I remarried the most remarkable man 
. My 2 boys suffered many years after the divorce because it affects them way more then you realize, just because he doesn’t hit them means nothing , it destroys who they are as people. Please , please get out . So many resources available . Praying for you & your children
everyone is saying GET OUT, of course she want to get out of the situation but its not that easy , babe i suggest u go ghost for a few let your loved one hide u cause he’s sounding dangerous.
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From someone that lived that life for 15 years… please leave! It seems like the biggest thing in the world to do right now and that u can’t/ won’t cope or have the strength to do it alone, but trust me the peace inside you and ur children is worth it! You will look back and think I wish I had done it earlier it wasn’t half as bad as what I imagined it to be like and I was stronger and more capable then I ever thought I was.
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Leave, you’ll have a car again one day in the future but your future is only heading one way if you stay. One precious life, leave and don’t look back x
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Ring a helpline when his out. They will move you safety. If he wants to see his kids he can go to court and go to anger management. You will pick more hours up and you will be able to get a car in the near future do not settle and put up with this behaviour anymore. It will be hard at 1st but it gets easier. X
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I’m so sorry you and your children are dealing with this. I left behind an 18 year marriage last year for this reason. It’s hard to leave, but know that when you do it will get better with time. My children witnessed stuff and ended up being abused themselves. It never stops, it only gets worse. Please reach out to your local domestic abuse team. You can also add me as a friend. I’ll be here for you and help you anyway possible. I’ll be praying for you.
It’s so easy for us all to say leave some ppl aren’t strong enough I really hope you get help with it tho it’s horrible that you no deep down it’s not good for u and the kids it’s very hard place to be in I really hope u get the strength to seek help to get out of there it’s a worry thinking about how u cope with work n stuff it’s ok for ppl say leave like it’s easy when you have been in that place for so long
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Callthe local DHS, they provide daycare, housing, job training, etc.
You need to leave, now! It won’t get better. Every relationship i was in was abusive, til I met my husband. He has never laid his hands on me and never will. My daughter saw it happen at the time too. She would freak out crying and screaming if my husband and I were even play wrestling because she thought he was hurting me like the people in my past. Took her a couple years to stop that. Leave for them babies, because its damaging for them too. Be safe momma <3 if you need someone to talk to message me. I’m always here
If I were you I’d get my kids out of that environment, it will affect them a lot more as they get older.
Leave him i luckily didn’t have any kids but my ex husband was really bad i had more bruises then the house had holes. It was scary and I thought I couldn’t do it without him but finally got the courage to leave only took 2 weeks i was back and he almost killed me on my bday and told me to leave so I did and walked miles with some clothes and my dog and bike. He tried telling me I was gone long enough and to come home of course I said no I have now been gone almost 8 years I may be 40 next year and have a 3 and a 5 year old and there is no toxicity in our home their father is an amazing job. I never thought I deserved more or better but I did and you do to. A man that hits a man is not a man at all.
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I know ull be affected financially but for u & the childrens well being leave him , it will be hard at first but there is light at the end of tunnel x
Oh dear it’s time to leave quietly
Look if there is a room to rent near to your work use a blow up bed for the kids for the time being
Easier said than done, but you have to. I know it runs through your head maybe he will stop, but it won’t and deep down you know it. He will seriously injure you or kill you one day. There are safe houses that you can take yourself and your children to. Don’t worry about finances right now they will help you. There are so many places looking for workers you could get more work and more money. But most important get out with your kids.
1st of all im proud of you for coming out with this!!!
You will be stronger without, you can get help in alsorts of ways even where money is concerned, you and your kids deserve better and thos is the 1st step to many of getting out!!
Inbox if you want a chat with someone whose been in a domestic abuse relationship and come out the other side xx
Get out i waited 34 years and it only gets worse. I have MS and disnt know how i would do it. But alot of friends help and went to adrc they help too. Its not worth your life or your kids. Theyll be mad at you later that u stayed or worse i was almost thriwn sdiwn 20 steps. Just do it!!
There is no such thing as SEMI abusive !! You either are or youre not and he sound like he is !! And he is influencing the behaviour of the children! Get out ! NOW !!
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You’ll be surprised of yourself, this is the hardest part of it all! You’ll adjust naturally and you’ll see the change in your children (which will show you that you made the right steps) reach out to local support women aid, charities. And just remember you are not alone.
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I’ve been there , it’s down to your choice if leaving or stay…it feels so hard but walk out the door and ask someone for help!!
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You are stronger than you think , you can leave when your ready by the sounds of it you are there … …I know it’s a scary situation to be in .you can get help from the government. …you don’t need to a vehicle there will be people out there to help you. You can do this and when you do … you won’t look back . I went threw a abusive relationship/ marriage for a long period of time almost 2 decades… last year I found my voice. Please take care of yourself… you need to be strong
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You are setting the example for your daughters of what is ok to accept from a man & for your son of how he should treat women. You need to remove yourself & your children from that toxic environment.
Reach out to some shelters or other agencies that can assist you. I’m praying for you, that you’ll have the strength to do what you know you have to. Step out of faith, trust God……He will give you more than enough
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Get out now. Do what you have to do for your kids. Those kids are the # 1 priority right now. It only gets worse. Trust me on this. GET OUT RIGHT NOW BEFORE HE KILLS YOU AND LEAVES YOUR BABIES MOMMYLESS OR KILLS YOUR CHILDREN AND LEAVES YOU KIDLESS. not trying to be hateful or mean. Im just very emotional on subjects like this. Thise babies deserve better and so do you
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If you can make it to the police station that’s the first step. They can direct you to help that is out there. Your kids will thank you later. Time to get your power back. Praying you find it quickly
Please pm me if you need to talk.
I have been in a similar situation, please dm me if you want to talk. Its been 2 years since I left the toxic relationship I was in, its by no means been an easy ride. And I still have struggles to this day. Sending love, it is doable to come out the other side x
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Call police,when it happen,they will put him in jail!
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Get the F out now. You should have left years ago. I only read 1 paragraph. Enough !!!
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Womans refuge. Honestly you can do this your kids are with you for life males come and go . You have the strength just let it flow . You deserve so much and I bet someone out there is willing to do that for you and your babies .
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You and the kids only have one life and he is taking it. He sounds exactly like my now deceased father. Plan a life for you and the kids away from him.
Just leave. With nothing if you have to. Then ask for help. Don’t go back… EVER. I walked out with 5 dollars to my name, no support system and 2 kids. You’ll live. It will be tough for a while. You’ll regret it at times. But once you get through you’ll be happy your living and not dead. Also, it matters a lot that your children are seeing this. When you’re able get them some therapy. It’s necessary. My kids are 13 and 9 now and I left when they were 4 and 1 and they still had issues.
Do whatever you have to to get your children away from him. Go to a shelter if you have too and get a good divorce attorney. Good luck!
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Get out .Runnnnnn…it’s gonna be hard but the Fadda will give you the strength to carry on …Dig deep you gonna find inner strength.
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Find better employment and leave you don’t need a car that has payment you can get are used car get you and your kids out of there
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Do what it takes to get by until you have a plan in place and somewhere to go. Also don’t say a word to him about it. Leave while he’s at work. If possible move some stuff out before you leave him that way there won’t be as much left when the time comes. Rent a storage unit if need be. I didn’t plan that far ahead, so when I left I had black eyes and he burned my house with everything in it… I wish you success and strength.
He isn’t “Semi abusive”. He IS abusive. Fully. Leave.
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Please leave. I know you have hope that it will change…. Or that it’s not that bad… but don’t normalize a situation that is scary just for temporary peace. Do it for your kids, have strength. You can do this and will be ok. Money means nothing, you can find help with your kids
Leave not only for yourself but for your children. You see your son picking up on his behavior. It will be hard but it’s something in us Mother’s that make a way
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Buy a gun, it’s more affordable than a car. Learn to shoot it and leave with your kids! Only advice that will work! Cops won’t do anything for you until he finally kills you.
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Talk to a local women’s abuse shelter, if there is one. They have the resources for everything you might need - legal, housing, financial, etc.
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Take your kids and run
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