How to get baby to sleep through the night?

My first baby slept in his own crib thru the night at 9 weeks. My twins began sleeping in their cribs, thru the night, at 6 months. All 3 did so without much assistance from me. My youngest is 2.5, and he still sleeps in a crib in our room. More often than not, he will sleep all night in his own crib, but that just started happening in the last 3 months. Last night he came into our bed at 4am. When he was really young (under 1) I lost many hours of sleep trying to get him to stay in his own crib, and finally decided that we all slept better if I just brought him into bed with us. Soon, he will have his own bed in a room with his sisters. Until then, I am enjoying the last few months of occasional times when he needs those extra snuggles. My advice: enjoy snuggling with your baby, she will outgrow this stage.

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These people on here are still dealing with their children sleeping with them because they have gave in and let their child/children sleep with them. It fine if you want that for a long time but it teaches the child from apparently up to 12 years old to still sleep with you. My actual doctor told me it’s OKAY to let them cry it out. I checked on my child if nothing was wrong i left and let them cry. My daughter is now in her own room and honestly it’s alot better. I think it teaches independence and she gets to enjoy her room and make it cute for her. I cannot believe the amount of parents still allowing this and honestly it sounds like they need their child next to them almost all times. It is astounding your children can seriously develop an unhealthy attachment. I hope you can find you and your child a nice way to get back to sleeping in own rooms. I would let them cry it out. It won’t kill. Also try low soothing music? Or a night light?

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Try putting a nightgown or an article of your “worn” clothing, something with your scent. DO NOT WASH BEFORE placing it on his crib. Worth a try.

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My daughter stayed in Cot in my room until 8 months so would suggest putting Cot in your room for a while. With maybe a heartbeat toy. When he gets used to the cot again move him back to his own room. Also check if you have a nightlight in there it is not casting horrible shadows. We also had single bed in daughter’s room so when needed we slept in there. However by 10 months she slept in the bed in her room as kept climbing out of the cot.

I think you might have to but the bullet and let him cry it out. They learn very young how to manipulate to get what they want lol

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Pray a goodnight prayer with your children. Start when their babies and by 3 they will know that prayer by heart. Also ask God to comfort them and help them sleep. Prayer works!

You could always put rice in a glove and sew it closed. Warm it up a bit and put it on the baby’s back when you leave. He will feel the warmth and pressure and the think you are still there. He will get used to being by himself again.

Music. The same music every night…played very low volume. It becomes a cue for sleep. I used Kenny Loggin’s…House at Pooh corner album.

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My smart mouth would have shot back with something to make his head spin. What he did was mean spirited, and no excuse for it. It’ll always linger with you.

Only go in once Whalen he starts to cry, tell him he’s ok he’s a big boy go to sleep or whatever and then walk out and let him cry it out and leave him to sleep in his own bed. It’s hard yes but he know you will break down and let him sleep with you if he cry’s enough so you just have to stand your ground. Good luck mamma❣️

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When my kids were little my husband & I would play Kinney G music, it’s just instrumental & soft, my son was hard to get to sleep sometimes & I would lay him in the bassinet, or the play pen beside our bed, so when he started waking up again I or my husband would be beside him & pat his butt or rub his face or back, which ever made him feel at ease to go back to sleep

Is he hungry? My grandson would not sleep well while my DIL was only breastfeeding… when we gave him solids along side his nursing walah… he slept very well

Fill a glove with sand and put it beside him so he feels like he’s next to you

Sometimes to get rest we just have to do what we can do. I would pull a toddler bed to the side of mine. The ones that has the 3 rails and even height of my bed. So maybe if you can just touch him, you both could sleep… I understand mine is 2, I work 6am shift…

At some point, you’re going to make him unhappy when you finally make him sleep in his bed. I’d do it next Friday night.

Can’t help, I coslept 3ys with the first one and now starting all over again with my newborn, I personally don’t understand why people don’t do it, at least you could have the cosleep bassinet next to your bed. My firstborn started to sleep almost through the night at 1 month old me being by her side topless helped her whenever she got hungry I just changed sides every few hours, so practically she never cried during the night.

I am sure no help i let all 4 of mine sleep with me i am 70 now and would do.it again

they really do have to learn to calm themselves down

Try something of your that smells like you it may help.

Put the crib in your room

House brick applied to the side of the head

If u want to sleep keep him with u in bed. At least you’ll get rest. Put crib next to your bed and hold his hand and talk to him. Try that. I wanted to sleep so mine stayed in my bed till I let them pick out there own beds then no problem

Put something that smells like you in his bed like a little piece of blanket or a piece of clothes and put it where he can smell it

I had to go through about 4 nights of baby crying… comforting… even cleaned up poor baby puke because he tried so hard. The 5th night he started to cry… i did my normal… give a drink of water… hugs… tuck baby back in bed say love you goodnight. ( he was about a year old) i listened to him whimper and fuss a bit then fell asleep. Never had even one more nights issue the rest of his life.

My pediatrician years ago said if you know nothing is wrong and everything is good, let them cry until they go to sleep. Now I’m older and my kids are mostly adults. Also the screaming will drive you nuts but eventually they will sleep.

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It would help to know what exactly the sleep/day schedule is :smiling_face: . Try to stretch out from the last nap until bedtime a little further out, and try to put a little one to bed with a fuller belly.

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My son slept through the night. I think it was because of the formal my Dr. told me to feed him–Carnation mild diluted with water (not sure any long the amount of water)

I’m going through a similar situation. My son is 15 months now. He started sleeping through the night and I got use to not waking up every 3 hours. Yet for the last couple of nights he’s been waking up during the night time and I don’t hear him anymore either!

If hes sleeping to much in the day then that could be the problem. I’ve got a 9 month old and he sleeps thru the night and only has about half hour in the morning and half hour after dinner and he sleeps thru, if I let him nap after his dinner at 5PM he will not go down till late and he sters all night

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Most 1-year-olds don’t need to wake up in the middle of the night to eat. What they have before bedtime can sustain them. Maybe perhaps stop feeding him and give him a way to self soothe because many babies wake up briefly in the middle of the night and self soothe themself back to sleep

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Is he sleeping in his own room?

Could be a growth spurt, waking up hungry

So you are saying that since your husband has taken over the nighttime stuff when he wakes up you sleep through and you would rather wake up to take care of him instead of your husband? Or is he finally sleeping through the night, if so that’s a good thing. If it’s the other then I would either tell your husband to wake you up cause you would rather take care of him. Or just get your sleep and let your husband have this time with him. Just because you don’t take care of him during the night doesn’t mean you don’t have a strong connection.

My daughter is 15months still has never slept through wakes up 3 times in the night for bottles… only has 1 nap in the day for around 1-2 hours :woman_shrugging: sorry not advice but they will sleep through when they are ready x

My hubby could get our daughter so sleep so easy for me she would be up all night, my son now only I can get him to sleep my husband can’t funny how things work. Just let him take nights mama and let him know to wake you if he needs you. Sounds like you got a good one

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My little boy is 18 months old and he used to wake up 3/4 times for milk he now only wake up 1/2 times for some milk the past few night he has woke up once sorry not really advice but I believe when they are ready they will sleep trough my little boy just likes to make sure I’m still there some times when he wakes up and he will only have 30 mins to an hour in the day xx

My advice would be to enjoy the sleep! I have done all the nights with 3 children now and working fulltime and studying fulltime, its killing me! I would love if my husband did all the night feedings but he doesn’t unless I wake him to do it, which is pointless because I’m then awake

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I only wish this happened to me, I’d love a good night sleep .

I’m feeling very blessed reading these comments. My kids never got up during the night for a bottle at the ages of these comments. They were off the bottle completely before 2 to start with. All four were pretty good sleepers at night unless they happened to be sick. That’s a different story.

Be thankful your baby has such a loving daddy with whom he has a great bond. And be thankful you have a partner who doesn’t mind waking up in the middle of the night with a crying baby. Sleep and enjoy. It’s their bonding time, let them have it, you’ll have your time too.

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I always woke the minute my kids cried, it was instinct. My hubby couldn’t be feed as I breastfed and they wouldn’t take a bottle.

So you want him to sleep through the night so the dad don’t have that bond with the baby anymore? I mean I don’t see what a problem is if your husband is the one getting up and taking care of him and his needs

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If you know what time your baby wakes up every night and want to bond with your baby and your husband simple set an alarm clock wake up before your baby does, that way you can have baby time together

Make sure he’s not hot …I always slept my kids in a cool room with cool clothes on …us as adults wake up at night if we are hot same thing with babies …is he waking up for a bottle ? If so try adding cereal to the bottle my in-laws would add a little gerber just to make it more filling …try smoothing music too

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Mine will be two in October and he still wakes up two to four times a night for a bottle

Let Dad do his thing you are blessed and don’t know it!! Enjoy the rest!!!

Woman, enjoy the sleep! My girls (18m & almost 3) both still wake up at least once a night and the little one sometimes just refuses to go back to sleep from 2-3am until like 8am, the big one gets up about the time the other goes to sleep and she stays up all day majority of the time (she is very anti-nap). I’m pregnant with our 4th (and last) and I am exhausted constantly. If you can sleep before they’re grown, do it and don’t feel bad about it in any way, you have plenty of bonding time during the day, he’s not going to love you any less because dad actually parents him too. My husband doesn’t wake up to them at all, sleeps right through, even if he didn’t have to work and wanted to get up with them at night I would still have to wake up to get him up for it so this is phenomenal for you, take it. Lol, lucky lady.

Just thank your lucky stars he sleeping through the night!!

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I would say enjoy the sleep! Lol my son is 1 (18 months) and still wakes up at least once or twice a week in the middle of the night. My daughter is 3 and does as well once in awhile :joy::woman_shrugging:t2: But cutting down on naps through out the day can help with your kid sleeping throughout the night, a snack before bed to ensure their Lil bellies are full doesn’t hurt either!! And one thing I noticed i was still giving my kids their sippy in the middle of the night so it was kind of routine for them, once I cut that out that helped a lot.

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My daughter would only sleep laying elevated. I had a little napper thing that she slept in until she was 14 months!

The other thing I’d recommend is a schedule. Every night bed time being the same, read, cuddle, lights out.

Good luck!

Let her cry it out for 10, go in a comfort her then leave for 20 do the same if she’s still crying after 20 she wants food or she’s too hot or cold after that try 20-30. Worked for both my kids, they only wake up now when the light is on or they’re thirsty.

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How many naps is she getting during the day

is the cot too big is she feeling a bit lost? going from a warm tummy to a cozy bassinet is the cot to big -can u get a co sleeping bed and put that in her cot so its not so big she can feel a bit of security .using one of ur shirts as a fitted sheet in the co sleeper if she is use to sleeping near you ? routine is def key but sounds like its the cot thats the issue ? my son did this at 12 months and it was due to the sides since moving him on a single mattress i havent had any issues wishing you all the best

You mean a crib when you say cot right? If so adjust the height to your bed height and stick it against the wall. Then remove one side and put your bed up against it. I would let my kids lay with me to fall asleep and then I would slide them over into the crib. If they wake up they are still next to you and will typically just scoot closer to you. I would just get the child back down and slide him/her back over into the crib. After about a week they got used to it and stopped waking up. Then I moved the crib across the room and put the rail back on. Then later move the crib to their room. It worked for both my kids

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Omg, let your children sleep in the bed with you!!! I slept with my mom and dad until I was 12. I had my own room. But my parents loved me

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I have no advice, just here to give you a virtual hug as I had a baby who would instantly wake up and scream the second his body hit the crib and I now have a 2 year old still sleeping in my bed :flushed:

My son would not sleep if the room was too quiet and would get so upset with himself. My husband downloaded an app for white noise and played it somewhere in his room and he’d be asleep in a few minutes. His favourite was the sound of a train on tracks, the washing machine and purring cat were close behind.
At one point I thought my own child didn’t like me, it was such a struggle to settle him, yet dad would let him lay on his chest and he’d put on the train tracks sound and he’d be asleep in no time, and then easy to transfer to his cot if he could still hear the train.
We forget that it’s actually quite noisey inside the womb, babies hear the constant rhythm of mum’s heart, muffled talking voices, and even the sound of mum’s last meal working it’s way through her system. Some babies find silence unsettling.
Good luck. X

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Is she going through a sleep regression?

Not that everyone else is me BUT I allowed my kids to sleep with me. They slept better I slept better and working 12s I needed a tiny bit of sleep… weird when they wanted to sleep in their own rooms it was never a fight. 6 kids and I did what worked… can baby go next to your bed and hook up to it!!!

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Put the bassinet in the cot :person_shrugging:

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You tried putting the bassinet in the cot ?
Maybe she feels lost in the extra space

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My youngest hated the bassinet. Have you tried a pack n’ play? Maybe try nap time in the crib/cot and slowly transition? I had to lay on the floor next to the crib until she fell asleep until she got used to it.

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I used to get into the cot to settle mine :joy: then creep off

My daughter was same. I put bassinet in crib. I think the crib was just too big.

Sleep is developmental. Nothing you do will help a baby sleep through the night until their brains are ready to.
I’d personally never let my baby “cry it out” bc it teaches them you won’t come when they need you. A baby needing you is normal, you’re the safe place.

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Lay her down when she’s sleepy and drifting off. If she wakes, leave her to cry for a little bit. Eventually she’ll fall asleep

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Try the Nested Bean sleep sacks! They are weighted and have been a miracle for my 4 month old, who just transitioned to his crib and out of a swaddle. It can take a few nights but even the first night was so much better than it had been previously

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You might find a different mattress or try a crib or a different cot. Some kids are just picky.

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Yessss been through that where my son flipped right out of bassinet onto bed ; thank god.
I had it adjusted low.
They will start standing and shaking bassinet; which is the time to say bye bye to that sleeping place.
Be safe.

Put the bassinet in the crib.

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Snuggle with your little one at night…no one likes to sleep alone…especially babies…it completely goes against the biological norm…everyone will get more sleep.

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My son (3mo old) falls asleep on the bed with me and my husband and then gets moved to his bassinet after. Good luck mama. You got this

Try swaddling in the bigger space. Or putting rolked up blankets under the sheet around him.

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It takes time. My daughter was 2 before she slept through the night.

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Keep baby up as long as possible during the day. Maybe early naps. Then before bedtime, a nice chamomile bath before bedtime to.help relax.

You have to teach her that this is new new bed. Naps are in the new bed to get her used to it. Just let her sit in the new bed while she’s awake so she gets familiar with it. It’ll happen. Routine for a week and she’ll be fine

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Try putting the cushion in the bottom of the bassinet into the cot.

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Put the basket part of the bassinet in the crib

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Make a routine and stay consistent. Dinner, brush teeth, bath, cuddles, cot. Comfort when crying BUT after comforting return right to the cot. Stay in baby’s room while comforting. Make sure lights are dim, no distractions (like tv), white noise can help. But make sure everything is order to conduct a sleeping environment. If there is commotion, tv, and a lot going on babies will want to be a part of it and it is counterintuitive.

My kids didn’t sleep through till 4yrs. Not helpful but it’s normal and best to just go with it

Worst come to worst put the bassinet in her cot :see_no_evil: untill she gets used to it theb try a full transition x

Put her in it during the day with toys and put her in it awake with you singing or reading a story at bedtime. To help with this (sounds gross) rub bedding on you before putting in the cot. If you’re breastfeeding still put some milk on the sheets. The familiar smell of you is probably all over the bassinet without you even realising even if the sheets are washed but the cot won’t smell the same.

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This is still biologically normal

Pool noodle under the sheets to make it seam smaller and more secure like the bassinet

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Take the legs off the bassinet and put it in the crib

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Time, patience, and consistency. Repeating over the next few weeks of picking up and putting down. Mind you it’s normal for kids not to sleep through the night for the first 2yrs

Try putting the bassinet in the cot for a few days , that’s how I transitioned my daughter into the cot and maybe get a boomerang pillow and pillows ( put under bottom sheet ) on the side of the baby to make it feel like the bassinet . Hope this helps x

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I ferberized my son about the same age. It was a rough week that worked well for me.

Can you put the bassinet inside the cot somehow?
You should also try to put her in the cot during the day as well so she gets used to it, is just a big change for her

will bed part of bassinet detach so u can place it in crib & let her start making transition to crib?

I always put my daughter in her crib for naps only to get her used to it, before I transitioned from bassinet at night.

My son did not like the mattress in the crib. I changed mattresses and that did the trick!. It was 25 years ago but hey. It worked.

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Absolutely get rid of the bassinet - - - it’s time for a baby bed with guards on the side.

Can you put her bassinet on the floor or in her cot Untill she gets used to the transition
Also put her favorite toys in the cot at night time
Yes she will play but she will tier herself out and fall asleep where she is

Put the bassinet in the crib. Something about it comforts her. Then if she falls out or over, she is supported by the crib. Good luck with this, let us know the outcome <3

It’s tough for the first couple nights but the cry it out method works wonders…