home school and make a schedule that makes it so she has no time. make her earn everything she gets.
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Therapy 1st. And now.
Sadly, she’s going to bully the wrong one and it won’t end well for her. 
Keep her grounded. Period. No nothing…take it all until she can behave. Phone, tv, iPad, all of it.
Since the letter didn’t work, ok…
She needs to stand in front of her class and apologize to everybody. If she’s in middle school, she does a different public apology in each class.
Then, when it’s shopping time… It’s all 2nd/3rd hand shopping. 
I love 2nd hand, but she won’t. Other than underwear, it’s all 2nd hand.
Over the summer, she needs to volunteer at a homeless shelter, weekly. Then, she needs to write abt her time there, weekly.
There’s tons of ways to slap her with reality. Do all you can.
Let’s be real, bullied kids are shooting up schools. So, good for you for stepping in. 
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She Obvisouly needs some therapy. Or a nice ass whoopin. You need to get her help before theres no help left for her.
Have u tried making her go to the girl at school in front of all her friends & make her apologize??? & when all else fails, try whooping tht a$$
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My daughter was a victim of bullying for the last 2 years in school and recently she has became the bully. I have had to sit her down and explain taking your frustration out on others who are helpless like you were is the worst kind of bully. That does not make you superior…it makes you a coward. That’s just reflecting the hurt and embarrassment you once endured. Imagine screaming and hitting a baby or a kitten… You would never do that right… So then I told her if you continue on this path you will be spiritually lost and forever alone… Some people die alone with no one by their side. Not even their kids or parents because of how ugly and mean they had treated those around them. She honestly was shocked and prettt scared of ending up a lonely soul. Every day I’m trying my best to work with her. I recently considered getting a shared journal where her and I can write eachother comfortably without judgment. I think many times our child are afraid to express how or what they are feeling in fear of the response they may receive.
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God’s word in her life and her heart can make a difference. Praying together and for others changes people, too. A good butt whipping and loss of all privileges… ALL OF THEM couldn’t hurt either. If it were my child she was bullying, I’d hope you’d leave her with me for a while because we’d be having a come to Jesus event real quick.
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not to be ugly but eventually shes gonna get her ass whooped… maybe try a behavioral therpist
Straight up pathological narcissist
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Make her wear a sign that says “I’m a bully”…?
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Get on her ass, put the fear in her! Also I like the idea of going to school with her, and taking all privileges away. Bully her a little bit, show her how it feels, it’s good that you pay attention and aren’t blind to your daughters actions! Some parents think their children can do no wrong, not me I call my kids out on their bs!
Send her to another school. Where no one knows her. Let her be humbled and humiliated.
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I have a fear of raising s bully as I was a bit of a bully. I honestly think if I was in your shoes I would invite the girl she’s bullying over to my house and make them talk it out… try get them to become friends. if that don’t work I’d get nasty lol
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Have the police scare her straight!
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Take her to the nearest university teaching hospital/med school and tell them how bizarre her behavior is toward her victim, everything that has not worked,her attitude. You need a diagnosis, inpatient treatment somewhere, and help to access what she needs. I’m no fb diagnostician, but you are not describing a normal young girl.
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There could be something else going on with her. I would take her to see a therapist or at least talk to her doctor and see what they suggest.
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Whoop that child’s ass! Bet you haven’t tried that yet!
Regardless, your daughter IS troubled, psychologically. No child is naturally mean - unless there’s something wrong with them. But yeah, what Ann Varnadoe said!
You say that like it’s a bad thing…
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She will be a bully until someone puts her in her place hopefully you can teach her before some girl has enough and lays her out
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Public shame her , do what she is doing to the child , join her at school , make firend’s with the other child and give your child no attention …
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i was bullied at school i quit in the 8th grade because of it it was never ending some kids get off on bullying,back in our day we didnt bring guns to school or kill ourselfs because we were bullied, today they do, i,d take your daughter to see someone because you talking to her isnt working and the schools are the same when i went to school they don,t give a dam, they knew i was being bullied and didn,t do anything about it, i was bullied because i was hearing impaired, good luck,
me again have you seen the movie christmas in caanon based on a true story this white kid didn,t like this black kid so the father got together with the black kids grandmother who raised him,and the kids had to stay at each others house for a few days and moral of story ended up good freinds,
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Take away her priviliges…stop her doing something she likes …send her to.therapist…
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Tell her the next time she bullies somebody you’ll beat the bully out if of her and then do it! She’ll stop.
Make her water a sign saying I am a big bully. Have her ware it for a few days at school. Go with her to her classes.
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Honestly there may be something else going on. And public shaming her might just make it worse. I was getting bullied in school by this girl. To find out she was getting bullied and just hadn’t told anyone. Could be that. Could be she’s stressed. Maybe she just wants to fit in and putting someone else down makes her feel better. Try putting her in one activity that makes her feel good Abt herself. Sit down and talk to her and see if she’ll tell you why she’s doing it. Maybe have her talk to someone else she feels she can talk to(grandparent, aunt, uncle, etc). Even therapy.
Just some suggestions
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Is she the only child you have?
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Call the cops on her. Scare her. The police will pretend to arrest her because bullying is wrong and alot of kids that get bullied kill themselves.
Shit is no joke
Walk around school with her for a couple days
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At least you care about your child being mean and want to fix the issue. That’s comforting to me.
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She would receive a air mattress to sleep on. No fancy name brand clothing. No hair straightener. No name brand nothing. Make her wear dollar store or goodwill. Their is a way to get through to her.
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How bout a good old fashion ass whippn? Believe me. She will stop
Good for you to see how she is, maybe some community service. Schools doesn’t help i had to change my grandson school because of bulling. He’s much bettet but schools don’t helo cause they don’t know how to besides expeling the child with the problem instead of helping him cope
Take her little butt to school and let the other girl or girls do the same thing she does to them and then give the other girls your phone number and tell them no matter what you call me if she does it again and start the process all over again and again until she gets the message she can’t go around bulling people end of problem solved for ever
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Dont ground her. That lasts for awhile and they know it.
Make it her new way of life!
If you cant be around other kids without making them feel like shit, guess what? You are not being around other kids!
All the moms suggesting therapy dont get it. There are just mean kids that bully because they think its fun.
And you know what? She’ll be an adult bully.
Are you Catholic? Think about Catholic school. Those nuns dont play. They’ll put an end to her bullying at school, the rest of the time her ass sits at home.
Thank you for being aware and trying to fix it.
She’s doing it because she can? Once the victims return the same and she sees she can’t get away with it and how it feels?
Don’t allow her to dress “popular” she’s 11 get control of this now. Buy her a uniform. Hair in a ponytail everyday no “cute” styles. Run her life like boot camp.
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Your daughter is not a nice girl. She is a narcissist. She’s nice when it suits her needs. It’s all about manipulation. I’m not being mean here, I think your on point and see the problem. You need to get her into therapy. Isolation is not the answer, but a very strict home life is in order and if you visit school daily at various pop in times she’ll know she’s being watched by you. The school will not help here. Zero tolerance policies are a joke. If they don’t see it they won’t do anything about it. Get her professional help NOW. Your window on this is closing. She will become a permajerk. I think you are on point and am so thankful you are aware and committed to protecting her victim! Your a great mom. You just need some back up!
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She needs a change of heart. She needs Christ to change her mind, thoughts, needs, desires, urges. I will be praying for you and her.
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Oh darling, don’t doubt yourself our children will always make mistakes and trying to be popular is just one if them . Lead by example if she feels bullied by her parents then she will continue to bully others … talk to her ,why does she need to be in control ? Good luck I’m sure this is a passing phase x
First well done you for being a good mother.i think she needs to find out what it like to be unpopular for once. I once had a situation where my child was being bullied.with the other parents approval I invited the bully round for TEA EVERY SINGLE WEEK.!!! They never became the best of friends but it worked
First off good for you for stepping up and realizing the problem. That is the first step in solving it. To many parents don’t want to admit when a problem of any kind exists and then the problems just get worse. So I want to commend you on stepping up.
Second you are the only one who knows what kind of parent you have been and what steps you have taken so a simple answer isn’t going to happen. Many have offered great suggestions like take her to church, but maybe you already do that ( don’t get me wrong I believe a strong faith is the foundation of good people but maybe that’s is something you already do. If so keep doing that for sure. If not find a good church home)
Therapy is also a great suggestion but make sure you find a good therapist. There are some out there that will feed the problem.
I like the idea of homeschooling because she can’t bully if there is no one there to bully. However you may be just delaying the Inevitable if you don’t socialism her properly. If u homeschool make sure that you invite other children over. May be good to invite kids she in particularly doesn’t like so that you have control over the interaction and she learns to be kind to everyone.
There are so many things that can be done. None of which are going to be quick or easy but she is worth the effort. Don’t ever give up. Make sure she knows you do not tolerate her being mean to others.
I will be praying for you
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Contact Dr.Phil & / or Dr. Laura Schlesinger for advice. This needs changing now before it’s too late
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If possible take a week off work. You now go to school with her for a week. My mom did this when we where little to my brother…it worked…
Or, bully the shit out of her until it clicks. “Hey, being treated like this really hurts.”