Unfortunately, I have no idea. Definitely have to educate myself more on this topic. Seems like a definite question for a professional though. Good luck!
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I have a family member that has successfully had a child with their partner with HIV. There is hope and there is a way. I would suggest to talk with a physician that specializes with these things. Not everybody is the same or their bodies so best bet would to get processional medical advice and prayers your way.
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Ask your OB/GYN to recommend a nutritionist and speak to them. I’d also recommend making sure you’re on all the correct medication/dosages BEFORE getting pregnant. Good luck!
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Good luck and blessings for a happy life with you and your future family. 
Maybe the test was wrong.
The weight loss amd vomiting needs to be investigated first? See a physician and get that checked out and treated.
Then start folate supplements, pre conception…
Now u say you are HIV +, is ur husband + too or u are a discordant couple? If you are discordant there are ways to conceive without getting ur partner infected. Talk to ur doctor about that. Also consider PrEP (truvada)for ur husband
If you are both +, make sure your viral loads are both suppressed yo ensure you don’t pass the HIV to the baby…
I believe once the vomiting problem is diagnosed and treated, you will gain weight.
Good luck
Admin take a look at Jen Jen, I believe the trash needs taking out
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Jen Jen 
girl … man … Just delete your comment girlfriend 
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I’m not very well educated on HIV and conception. My best advice is talk with an OB/GYN who specializes in this, or maybe a fertility specialist could give you some insight… As far as the weight gain try protein shakes a few times a day and maybe a vitamin supplement to insure you are getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs. Good luck to you.
Stay hydrated and start taking prenatal vitamins regularly!!
Adopt. The medication doesn’t always work in trying not to pass it on to your child. Jen Jen I understand your concern and I agree with you. The gamble is too great.
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Please find an Ob/GYN who specializes in this. This something that needs to be addressed with professionals not on Facebook or other social media. Everyone is different and needs tailored medications and nutrition.
Good luck on your journey.
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She asked for advice. Not to be ridiculed.
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You need to get pregnant under medical treatment, so the best thing that you can do is talk to a doctor to see which options you have, good luck 
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HIV also has it’s own symptoms.
Take care of yourself.
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Ask your physicians.
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Talk to your Dr and see what they say. Good luck
Go to a specialist instead of asking Facebook…
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Why place an unborn child in a position to be unable to chose whether or not they want to live with HIV for the rest of its life??!!
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My best advice, make an appointment with your OB/GYN, you and your husband go in armed with a list of questions. You want to make sure that every thing is in place to insure the healthiest pregnancy and delivery for mother and child. Best of luck to you and your husband in creating your family.
I’m with the adoption recommendation… if you’re sick already your body is going to go thru it while pregnant and may affect the baby’s development and health. It will hurt your heart and soul if you try so hard only to have made it harder on your baby just to survive and the baby has any issues …. I was told not to have any more kids when they discovered I had developed antibodies from an injury in my 3rd pregnancy that let baby’s blood and mine cross the placenta. I didn’t listen and intentionally got pregnant with my son my 4th baby … my water broke at 18 weeks with him… i was in complete bed rest until he came at 35 weeks and he ended up being autistic. I feel like shit for not listening because he’s struggling and he’s going to have some difficulties and a hard time adjusting and dealing with people socially for the rest of his life.
Plus there’s so many babies that need loving parents…. Either adopt or maybe a surrogate situation?
Don’t get pregnant.
Adopt
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Go to a fertility specialist tf you asking fb for
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You’re really gonna take the chance at giving a LIFE ENDING disease to a child, bec you want a baby that bad?? I am well aware of the fact that it is not guaranteed to pass from your child, but you also have to think about the fact of what if it does and also you will be an extreme risk to your child for the rest of their life! There is absolutely nothing wrong with standing up for a life that has not been conceived yet, you have a disease that’s going to kill you in the long run… I have an uncle who has HIV and he isn’t even going to live to see his daughter’s graduate and he didn’t even get diagnosed with HIV until they were already halfway grown, thats how fast itcankill you! You will be making them suffer either by giving them the disease, or if by chance they don’t get it they’re going to lose their parents to it… I’m blown away this is too controversial for facebook hun
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Adopt why play Russian Roulette with a babies life. The medicine is not 100 % effective
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Keep in mind some people are so selfish they will never think about the best interest of the child over their own wants.
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I’ll probably get shot for this but idgaf. The medication doesn’t always work. I would not risk it. Adopt or foster instead
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Why on earth would you want to bring a baby into this world under those circumstances??? You are sick in more ways than one!!!
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May be too early to test but you sound pregnant
"There is a 15 to 45% chance of passing HIV on to your baby if neither of you take HIV treatment.
However, taking the correct treatment during your pregnancy and while you breastfeed can virtually eliminate this risk."
So I say to hell with asking Facebook anything. You’ll only be ridiculed and fed their ignorant opinions. Talk to you a doctor that has extensive knowledge in this area. Don’t listen at the ignorant and unknowing. I wish you the best and I hope you get the blessing that you want.
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What a selfish thing sorry.
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To the OP: Hey there! I am glad that you are asking such an important and heartfelt question on such a public forum. While you do run the risk of running into the “Jen Jens” of the internet, you will also find PLENTY of folks who are in similar situations, or can advise you! I’m not a mama , nor a doctor, but I am a Social Worker and have worked with mamas that have had children that were not born with HIV, and perfectly healthy. I wish I could help more, but just know you have me (and from the looks of it, lots of others) in your corner. Hang in there and good luck! 
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Try adding probiotics to ur diet. Sounds like ur having digestive problems. Lots & lots of probiotics . Make smoothie with the probiotic yogurt
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Adoption would be the best I think
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Definitely not a question for Facebook. Go see a doctor!!
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I wouldn’t want to risk the chance of passing the disease onto a child . I also would be very skeptical of the said drugs they say you can take and what effects they can have on an unborn child .
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Ensure… might help… won’t hurt!!!
If you and your husband want to get pregnant, it is Your choice to make. Reading some comments on here, and there are soo many ignorant people, as in rude and/or lacking knowledge. In reference to you feeling sick, I suggest that you make some pine tree tea, as the shikimic acid has a lot of beneficial properties, just don’t drink it however, once you were to become pregnant.
As for food that you can eat, Pineapple,
and lots of it. I had a friend who had been trying to become pregnant for a few years, and had no luck. I told her about pineapple and she left that day to go research it. She came back to me next day upset however, as to why I knew something that she didn’t. Not my fault I was educated on it, and I was just sharing the knowledge that pineapple indeed does work. Fast forward a few weeks later, and I noticed she had a small belly bump! At this point she was no longer talking to me, go figure, and another colleague confirmed to me, that she was indeed pregnant. I walked by her afterwards in class, and just said to her, ’ looks like the pineapple worked!
Find a sergeant. Why risk having an HIV positive child and what not.
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Technology and Medicine come long way and It’s so cool to see it. Do you. Find a specialist. Internet bully trolls are just going to be upset and hurt you. Don’t let them get to you brush it off and do what you need to do. If you can afford it find the best hospital in the state that helps. Check out some facebook support groups that are dealing with similar situations you are in. Best of luck 
Wow I’m like super speechless about some of the comments . Like super selfish ? Um where did you grow up ? The god damn 80s where they think hiv is contracted from fucking breathing on someone ? No. My in law is hiv positive. There are safe ways to have children. The chances of the child getting it when protective measures are put in place is rare. You guys talk to a doctor and do what’s best for you and your future family. Everyone deserves love and children despite the obstacles. You got this !
You’re already sick and puking. Wanna take care of a child, also? You sound greedy.
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So many people in this thread are clueless about HIV and it shows
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To the op: I apologize for all these uneducated comments.
Seems like most of them procreated knowing they suffer from mental illness, knowing they suffer! And not giving one damn about passing that along to their offspring.
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Ignore all the negative comments Woman brings woman down shame shame shame
I don’t know the solution to ur problem but girl i hope u are pregnant🤗 lots of love and hugss❤
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That is a question for your doctor… Ignore off the wall comments of people that have no clue of your medical history… You and your doctor can work thru this where you and your child will be healthy…
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If you think your doctor could be missing something, you should get a second opinion.
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You must be a very horrible person . If you with HIV why would you bring a child in this world to suffer . Are you out of your mind . Don’t even think about it.
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Because she hiv doesn’t mean her child will have it🤷🏾♀️
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There is actually preventive measures available to prevent spreading hiv to child. I would take to my dr about options
Wow so call grown ass women coming for this woman
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Some of you seriously need to educate yourselves.
I dont know what country the op is from but here in the UK, thanks to the current strategies there’s now less than 1% chance of the baby having HIV. This falls to 0.1% if the mother is on treatment with an undetectable viral load. Back when those interventions were not known and commonly used, the risk of transmission was 30-45%.
Also if this lady is taking proper treatment and following it through, life expectancy is the same for someone who has no HIV.
I know there’s always a risk of transmission but honestly no need for horrible remarks.
There is a 1 in 1000 chance of transmitting HIV to the baby during pregnancy and delivery, when a woman is on antiretroviral treatment and has a viral load below 50 copies/ml (undetectable).
Probably should ask you doctor…
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Considering all of these uneducated people you probably should’ve just omitted the HIV part.
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Sergeant pls dont risk the baby’s life. And it sounds like stress that’s making u physically sick. Try to relax drink some echinacea tea drink lots of fluids to stay hydrated take vitamins and get plenty of rest. Good luck to u and your husband and God bless
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When you and your husband dead and gone who going take care of the baby?
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Second opinion sounds best
There’s so much ugliness & hate from so many, you may want to walk a mile in her shoes before you pass judgment. Hopefully you find an OB that specializes in cases specifically aim towards the care you would need to have a healthy baby.
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I’m sorry but regardless if I had a .09999% of putting a sick child into this world 
I would think of the child and not myself
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The amount of ignorance in the comments is sad. People are literally dumb
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Too whom it may Concern: Most infants born to HIV-positive women in the United States do NOT become HIV positive if the mother and infant have good prenatal and postpartum care. Your doctor will recommend you start anti-HIV treatment during your pregnancy, if you are not already taking it.
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Eat banana and make sure you drink ginger tea
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Not gonna lie, having a hard time with this post. I will just leave it at please be responsible and manage all parts of this with a doctor’s assistance. This probably isn’t the best place to get the answers you need. (For those who are not supportive, I understand the sentiment. But if she is determined to have a baby, the doctor is the best shot at a healthy baby.)
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Drink manzanilla tea 
is super good.
I recommend talking to your doctors about your plans. They will offer the best level of medically sound advice to support you.
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A bunch of these comments are very ignorant. Most of them don’t know what the hell they are talking about & really need to educate themselves on HIV since they think they are so well versed on it.
You’ll be amazed at how far they’ve come with medication & treatment.
People are living full, long lives with the virus. So much so that the virus is no longer detected in the blood for many.
The virus isn’t a death sentence, hell you barely hear about it anymore because there are so many other diseases that are more deadly.
I hate that this woman came to social media asking her question to complete strangers instead of speaking to a medical professional.
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Well for starters, how the hell would Facebook people know what’s best for your body? You may need to consider other fertility options like surrogacy so your HIV doesn’t transmit to your husband or baby. And thirdly, it’s all on gods timing, when he’s ready for you to have one, you’ll have one., Don’t pressure yourself or yourself about it. And if those options don’t work, consider adopting, there’s lots of infants who could use a loving family to belong to💖
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A lot of women have brought babies into this world as poor, drug users, alcohol abusers, physical abnormalities, mental abnormalities and etc. Don’t let these ignorant people make you feel bad. But it is definitely in your best interest to speak with a specialist because if your body is barely making it now, being pregnant will be worse. I also believe that a lot of people’s problem on this post is “thinking” HIV is a death sentence. Every HIV case isn’t the same and we don’t know the details in your case so speak with a specialist that may have seen cases similar to yours. There’s too much judgment here, from people that couldn’t even get a college degree. And definitely would never have the potential to become a doctor.
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Girl gain weight if your under. Eat healthy and you can have a healthy baby regardless of hiv! Sending prayers to you and stay positive!
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My best advice, try a vitamin D supplement from the doctor and progesterone. I had a very hard time myself conceiving. It took years. Also, start a prenatal vitamin with folate.
Sweetheart quit stressing and trying… Talk to a prenatal nurse. Not a bunch of wanna know it all’s.
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Stress sounds like it’s getting at you. Maybe lowering the stress and pressure you’ll be less queasy, ask doc about the diet stuff though there might be some fats that are healthier for gaining
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Check your vl and continue adhering to medication if undetectable remember that undetectable untrasmitable.all the best for wt gain inbox me
If some of you uneducated folks are going to suggest she do a surrogacy pregnancy as least learn to spell surrogate then be bullies about it…
ginger chews for your nausea, get them at GNC or a health food store.
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I know everyone has their two cents to put in. Maybe try adopting a baby. That’s just an idea.
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Awww. See when young I used think it was such dirty disease and they was dirty people.
Bit com on guys hiv one of the worst things I’d rather have compassion for the person.
They may of been given it. Which is a life time sentence really
But does that mean this women , male. Doesn’t deserve to be a parent heck no it doesn’t.
Yes chance baby can be I’ll and born with it personally I would adopt. Myself. I’d want give child everything I could possible but number one thing is love. Support and a open household.
I would suggest. Maybe IVF. ++.
Can be implanted then. —. And may skip the carrying gene.
But wish you luck. And hope it happens for you soon.
As rest you here disgusting.
Hiv is life sentence but there not dirty. There not inhumane.
They certainly not unable to create babies and endure it with love for rest it life.
If this person come here she needs uplifting not brought down. .
Be kind people.
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This has taken the person some guys to write up.
Being private means they even too petrified to ask this question publicly.
I hope who ever you are. I hope your dream comes true for you. And wish you well and much success 
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You don’t. Period. Your concern should be getting yourself healthy, not bringing a child into the world so they can suffer, too.
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HIV and having a baby!
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Ivf I guess, but I hope you really look into the risks for the baby
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Make sure your medication will be safe while pregnant- also don’t have a baby if you already vomiting and losing weight- too much can go wrong here
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It could be your subconscious emotions blocking your body, I know ppl that have used NAET therapy to help reset emotional energies
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This is a question for your doctor, who knows your specific medical needs.
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Everyone is different, this is something you need to discuss with your Doctor and professionals not seek advice on FB.
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HIV is not death on the clock. Advice for healthy pregnancy…start taking a prenatal vitamin now. Track cycles. Track temp/ovulation.
Increase protein and decrease sugars/carbs. And relax!
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Seems like some of you need to educate yourself on HIV a bit more.
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So I would read this page for information and discuss things with your doctor. There are many things you can do before pregnancy and during pregnancy and birth to reduce the chances of passing HIV on to your baby. I have not personally done any of these as I don’t have HIV but this page seems to have some good information on it. Definitely worth bringing up to your doctor. Your doctor would be the best person to discuss this with as he/she knows your specific medical history and can give the best possible advice for you and your situation. Good luck to you!
https://www.womenshealth.gov/hiv-and-aids/living-hiv/pregnancy-and-hiv
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HIV negative babies have been born to HIV parents. Nature protects . Bless the baby
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Just eat healthy, and keep your immune system up & running. There are some vitamins you can take I think at your local drug store, just check them out and see which one fits the category you’re looking for (if they are okay to take with your antiretrovirals). See if they have for immune system vitamins and vitamins to help with fertility. Eat healthy, more oatmeal, tea, fruits, oats, granola, salads, if you’re not allergic. Drink more purified water, buy a filter for you’re home sink. Try to go to a spa or do at home spa like treatments for yourself to ease the tension, talk to a therapist, whatever helps with the psych.
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Personally not a risk I’d take with an innocent life but if you are gonna, stick to your docs advice.
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I work with HIV positive clients. Having a child while HIV positive is perfectly safe as long as you take your medications and follow doctors orders, there will be no transmission from mother to baby. I feel you may be stressing a lot about it and this could be causing your body to react with the weight loss and vomiting, just take a moment to relax, maybe see a counselor and don’t make any changes from your normal routine.
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HIV is not anything like it was in the 90’s. Please try to understand that it isn’t a death sentence anymore, and babies no longer are born with it thanks to many advances in medicine. Some of you need to get educated or be nice. Practice what you learned in kindergarten.
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Have you tried any nutritional shake herbal life has some wonderful products high in protein, with lots of vitamins you just drink, so good too. FYI I have a child that is HIV positive so no judgement here, Jabe Passmore will you send here some info if she wants?
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Selfish as fuck. Educate please.
Your trying to get pregnant with HIV??! Have you read about the risks for the baby??!! Adopt ??!
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I would say carbs but I’m not sure because everyone’s body is different. I just noticed that I lose weight when I cut carbs. 