Iām so sorry youāre going through this! My grandma was the same way, she told us that she didnāt want to live anymore and it completely broke my mom and my aunt. Just give her love and support, be around her as much as possible. Itās hard for the family but if sheās tired then thatās how she feels and Iām sure it is exhausting. I know this isnāt the advice youāre looking for but just give her lots of love and support. I wish you guys the best!
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How to help bonus kids through their mom's cancer?
The best thing is to be there for the 13 year olds.
If her kids arenāt enough to keep her going, Iām not sure anything you say is going to help. She knows they are loved and cared for. Unfortunately that makes it easier to make peace with her choice.
Do not push it on her! I lost my mom on june 22nd of this year due to stage 4 cancer. She just couldnāt take it. Yes it a very hard thing to go through but YOU SUPPORT HER AND THEM the fight is not easy to go through and losing a loved one is even harder.
Your love cannot heal her. Your love can allow her to pass with dignity and the knowledge of her kids always being loved and taken care of.
Be there for your bonus babies and their mom make sure they know and see that take lots of pictures and celebrate everything
Youāre a good bonus mom
When itās her time u have to just give her permission! Iām sure she would stay for her kids if she could! Thank u for being a great role model of what a step parent should b!!
Just love all of them through it. Support them all. Its a lot, but its what needs done. Help them spend as much time as possible together and just be whatever kind of support any of them need. So many prayers and so much love being sent to you all.
Iām sorry your family is going through this. Be there for your bonus babies and encourage them to be there for their mom. You donāt want them regretting anything.
Sending love and prayers for your familyā¦ just be there for those kids
My mom had stage 4 lung cancer so ive been on the kids side of this except i was 25. My advice just be there for her and the kids. As bad as u want to push her to fight dont. They already feel bad enough about leaving behind their family and the exhaustion and pain and sickness is unbearable for them. Just let her know that u will always be there for her children so at least she knows that she doesnt need to.worry about their care
At some point someone going through that weighs their ability to fight and beat it verses how much time they want to spend and remember with the people they love most. Love cannot keep her alive. The best you can do is support her decision, the kids and her family. It had to be an impossible choice, but unless youāve seen the way illness can impact families and the patient who has fought a long time you donāt always understand not fighting is a good treatment too.
Bless yall. 
Just love them through it. And support them as much as you can.
This is so sad just be there for them, and make sure they spend lots of time with there momma, just be there for them all. Sounds like our doing good.
Let mom go. She deserves peace and no more pain. Get the kids in grief counseling or Hospice counseling. If mom has Hospice they should work with the kids. Ask the mom what she wants in terms of saying goodbye. Have the kids do a memorial project, keep journals, involve them in planning her funeral. Love them. Allow them to grieve in whatever way and however long they need to.
Love and prayers, and then counseling
Fighting takes so much on her Iām sure 
just be there for them and her if you can. Through it all
Honestly make sure they make memory stuff now. Lockets, lots pics together. Get her to write letters for their 18th and wedding and anything important or video calls.
Voice recordings of her voice saying she loves them would also be good.
Hand writing saying I love you love mum. So they always have that and if they wanted a tattoo when older they could use her handwriting. Get her to wear alot of her most used clothes so they smell of her and have them made into a pillow for the kids.
Hand print canvasā so they can put their hands on it.
Cancer is hard and painful and sometimes itās too much. All you can do now is help create things for the kids to have to remember her by and help them grieve. Make sure theyve things to look back on. Itāll help her knowing how much you care and know the kids have you to fall back on.
Sending my love to you all
Make something for the kids from her so they can keep it forever. Cancer is so tough to go through. Iāve lost a lot of good people in my life from it. Best wishes
Just be there for them and for her. Be honest with the kids and encourage them to spend time with her. 
This is a choice only she can make. Your best action is to be there for the kids, and the aftermath of losing her. Watch the movie āStepmomā. It is well done, and a good idea of places/ways to start this new step in life. Best wishes.
Honey, first I want to hug you because you are amazing, second I am literally crying like a baby. Ok, now I want to tell you that there is nothing you can do other than be a supportive person for those sweet children, their mom, your husband, and rest of family. Go sit and visit her, make sure the kids are with her every moment they can be and be in deep prayer for her. Cancer is no joke and seeing it all my life through nursing and family, you canāt make her fight. When she is tired, she is tired
People know when itās their time. Cancer is hard. She isnāt giving up on her children sheās probably exhausted. It takes a lot to fight and be a parent, Iām sure. All you can do is support her decision because she knows her children are loved deeply and cared for. She trusts that yāall will care for them and she can go. Let her, just be there for her children when the time comes
Teach your children what dying with dignity means. It doesnāt mean giving up. It means choosing to fight a different fight with a brave face. Prayers to your family.
Honestly it isnt good to try and make her fight. That is more exhausting than fighting. The children will be heartbroken and that is ok. However (and I had to learn this) it is selfish to try and make some one that is suffering to try and fight to stay and suffer. Not that this is a bad thing Iām not shaming you. It is so difficult to see, to go through, and to deal with. Just be there for them and love them as their mom would. Be patient and kind but firm when needed. Nothing should change other than the fact their mom is gone. You love them as your own and the mom knows that so it is going to be easier for her to transition. Love is a strong bond and It is going to be difficult but just by the way you talk about your bonus babies i know you got this.
Please just assure her that you will always remind her kids how much she loves them and that long after sheās gone they will know she fought long and hard to stay there with them. Prayers for all.
She knows her body, and I fully believe people know when itās time. My heart is breaking for your family. This could not have been an easy decision on her part. No mother wants to leave their children, Iām sure she has gone back and fourth with this thought many, many times.
I would support her- let the kids spend as much time with her as possible. Make these memories last a life time. Be a family, set everything aside, and support her.
Iām just crying like a baby reading thisā:cry:
From someone who is fighting stage 4 cervical cancer with Mets to the lungs you have to let her make her own decision on how much she can handle. I know first hand how hard it is. Iāve been battling it for 4 years now and have had 3 reacurance. You get tired. Be there for her and your bounis kids. Make sure they have someone to lean on and spend as much time with their mother as she can handle!! Im sure she would keep fighting if she could for her kids.
Prayers. This is so sad. Just keep encouraging her to fight.
Itās a hard situation I havenāt gone through exactly this but similar I looked after my dad with terminal cancer and he fought like hell but it got so painful and bad he kept saying what she is saying and sorry but it was his way of begging for peace and for us to let him go in the last few days we said ok u had ur fight he was happy dispite the situation he was only 56 died Nov last year
If anything, the only thing that might work is reminding her that her babies need her. But she may just not have any fight left. If she feels confident her babies will be loved and cared for, she may let go.
Iād encourage her as you can, but also focus on helping the kids prepare and encourage them to tell her all the things they want her to know. This may be their last chance to feel like it ended on the best note possible.
Sorry youāre all going through this.
I lost my mom to cancer almost 8 years ago. I was with her at the end and saw just how much pain she was in. She wanted to fight, but her body just couldnāt take anymore. Try and help the kids understand that sheās not giving up on them or that she wants to leave them. Just be there for them and let them grieve in their own time. Have her make videos for them if possible or letters they can open in years to come. My heart goes out to you and the kids. I was 30 when my mom passed away and I canāt imagine being 13 and having to go through that. Feel free to reach out if you want to chat about anything. Love and hugs 
Promise youāll keep her memory alive. Youāll celebrate her life with them. And youāll protect those babies for life.
Also, watch Stepmomā¦ tear jerker, but itās about what youāre going through.
My mom told us as she was dying from colon cancer that āit will be harder for you, but easier for me, when the time comes you just let me goā
It was very profound. Her mom died of lung cancer and my grandpa kept asking her to fight even after she was ready to give up. And my my mom didnāt want to do that. She wanted to go in peace. It made so much sense that we were the ones being selfish by asking her to stay when she was at peace with her decision and ready to go.
I have told my patients families this over the years as a nurse, because itās a hard thing to not think about yourself and put yourself in their place.
My sister decided the same thing at age 45 she was tired , tired of the chemo and radiation and when you have more bad days than good you just lose the will to fight a fight you know your losing . I was behind her decision 100% I miss her everyday but I know sheās at peace and no longer in pain and suffering !!
Thatās so toughā¦have them spend as much time with her as they can. Much love to both families
This is a hard situation. But you are a wonderful person just you wanting to help them through is amazing. You canāt make her fight all you can do it be there for those babys
I am so sorry. Iām sure this is really hard. Itās hard to say what to do because if sheās hurting that bad. I feel like itās inhumane to make her suffer or feel guilty. But on the other hand I know the kids would be heartbroken and miss their mom. The only thing I can say is surround her with love and make sure everyone is spending as much time as possible with her. Maybe sheāll change her mind but if she doesnāt at least before she goes, she knows just how loved she is.
Encourage the mom to write letters to the kids. Encourage the kids to tell their mom whatever they need to say. I was 12 when I lost my mom. And there were so many times I wish she had been there to give advice. Things I wish I had said to her. I didnāt know how close we were to losing her. Be honest on how close they are. Afterā¦ encourage them to talk about her. And catch them when they fall.
I just lost my dad a month ago. An amazing friend had me get build a bears made for my kids with voice boxes with his voice in it as soon as he was diagnosed with non-alcoholic liver disease and cancer. I thought it was an amazing thought and I get comfort from hearing him through their bears too.
I am so sorry, as a mama I can only imagine what she is going through to be able to let go. You have to let the terminal patients take the lead on how you move forward. No matter what. For us it was the opposite, everyone was saying my dad would be gone very soon and he wanted to fight until just a few days before he passed. I was his cheerleader the whole time even though I was watching him deteriorate
I have 13 year old twins so this breaks my heart! As a mom you always fear, passing away and your children not being loved the way you would love them. Sounds like she wonāt have to worry about this. I agree with some of the other comments about getting the kids in counseling as soon as you can, be patient with them as they fight through their grief and create opportunities for them to have lasting memories of her. I live the idea if the mom writing letters for their graduation day, wedding day and maybe even the birth of their first child. Maybe some video messages from her as well. Lots of love and big hugs to all of you. 
I was 19 when I lost my mom to cancer, it was probably the hardest thing Iāve ever done to watch her be in so much pain and literally beg to die, my regret almost 10 years later is that I didnāt spend the time I should have. My advice is not to try and convince her to keep fighting But to spend all the time you can together
You cant make someone fight. Quality over quantity here.
Help the bonus kiddos prepare for it. That, while it hurts to lose someone, she will finally be free of pain and her spirit will always be with them and sheāll always be in their hearts.
Spend as much time as you can with them and her . Take pictures lots of pictures . I recently lost my mom and realized how few pictures we have of her . Even at her lowest point this is when she is loving them the most . Prayers to you all .
Getting them Slumberkins sprite and an otter to help cope. Have her write them letters to go with. Take lots of pictures. Maybe take her favorite article of clothing and make each kiddo a little heart.
Iām so sorry you guys are having to go through this.
I was 18 when my mom got diagnosed with breast cancer. I watched her fight for 9 years. She fought so hard but eventually it was her time to be free. It is hard all around. Understand that their mother didnāt arrive at that choice easily. And the fact that she did come to that decision shows that she knows she has some amazing people to trust her babies with. Just keep being amazing and supportive.
This is a hard one. I understand wanting to give up, try encouraging her to fight as long as she can for those babies. Encourage her to write them letters that they will be able to keep for a lifetime and make as many special memories as you can. Her body may be telling her itās time to stop the fight. Respect her and help her to make the memories!
Support her. Spend time with her as much as possible. Make more memories. Talk about the good times and reminisce some.
i love to see that you treat/love/care about your bonus kids the way you do. most step moms donāt care. but i think they need to spend as much time with her as they can, before she actually quits fighting. maybe that will help her decide to keep fighting.
Finding a support group now would probably be beneficial for everyone.
Iām so sorry your family is going through this. I cannot imagine.
I so sorry n ur an amazing person to the kids n the mom for caring so much try n have them spend more time with her n plz plz plz take lots of pictures of the kids n mom n try n get kids to counseling also if u n ur husband want to go to counseling to for urselfs threw this n just keep telling the kids they r loved by all of u
This is a hard one - prayers ; she may want to be at peace ; talk about memories and spend as much time as they can
When a person is done fighting they are done there is almost no changing their mind. Encourage her to record videos for each of her kids with everything she wants them to know. Any stories she had from her childhood memories of their births first words everything important she does not want them to forget. Get lots of photos of them with her. The best way you can help your bonus kids is to be there for them be compassionate especially when she does pass allow them time to grieve.
If you love someone enough let them go. Know they will have that peace and be in a better place.
1st of all show her your love for her as well as your love for her kids. Then comfort her by letting her know you will always help them and she will have a place in your family always. Then work with momā¦ tell her to write letters for their special days like weddings, graduation, birthdays, births of their children and tell her you will give them those letters on those days so they can read her words and feel her presence. Talk to the kids. Let them be mad, sad and feel their emotions as well as your husband because at the end of the day at some point he loved her enough to have children with her. Help the kids make molds of them holding moms hand or purchase the kits at least. Talk with the kids about their mom and be a listener. This is hard! But be glad you have this time to prepare them. It doesnāt make it hurt any lessā¦ but at least you can have these things to help the process. Also purchasing a photo shoot for her and the kids may be nice.
Spend as much time with her. Sheās done fighting because she knows her babies will be okā¦with you. So give that to her. Let her spend her last days/weeks/months with the kidsā¦and you. And just help the kidsā¦just be there to support them and help them. Exactly what youāre already doing.
Its gonna be hard but maybe speak to mom about making a memory box/trunk. Videos, notes to each child for future graduation or marriage. Life advice. Pictures. It doesnt sound like itās the same case but there is a movie. Incant rememberthe name but the mom has cancer and the stepmom finds out and they didnt get along but then came together creating memories and things like that.
Can you go meet with her and make different milestone signs like happy graduation happy 21st bday happy drivers license photos? As future gifts for the kids maybe help her with out cards for there special occasions like engagement wedding that you and their father can give them when they hit milestones so they know mom is with them! Maybe ask her ?s on things she would want them to do or to tell them as they grow older it would mean alot to the kids if you took that time and knew what she would have wanted for them!
Start preparing the kids for the worst be there for them as much as you can make sure they have plenty of time with their mother
Honestly in my opinion, at that point they are trying to work thru pain that we canāt even see or feel and I couldnāt imagine that type of pain to where its a feel of inside physically pain to emotional pain knowing your gonna die. And instead of trying to convince her to keep fighting. Maybe try and make her feel more comfortable in her own situation and be there for her at every step of the way u can be, and showing her that u are there foe anything might help her fight her own fight. But for the kids you just have to be there emotionally foe them and just let them know that you are there to help. all u can do is prepare them for their Lost. And always let them know u are their to hold their hand and for a shoulder to cry on. And maybe buy them flowers to give to their mom, and little thought gifts and stuff like that, or help them cook dinner for her one night and just the little things that matter and that might help the kids to knowing that your willing to help them do these things and then some. Iām sorry for what your family is going thru and I hope/pray for the best of the situation.
You sound like an amazing woman . The kids are lucky to have such a great bonus mom in their life . If That was me I would feel more at peace knowing that my kids would be left with another great mom. My dad passed when I was 16 and it was a rough time for me . Keep the family together and Donāt give up on each other
He best thing you can do is pick up the pieces to what sheās been handling and try to find a way to memorialize her for them.
As someone who is currently ill, she did not make her decision lightly. It is killing her to finally say enough is enough. If she had the fight in her, she would fight. Trust me. I only fight because of my baby. When I had to face possibly having to say goodbye and leave my baby, it was completely unbearable. I felt like Iād never have enough time with her. I felt like she would never truly understand how much I love her. I cried for every single thing in her life that I would miss, every holiday, birthday, school dance, graduation, marriage, babiesā¦ All of it. Itās a decision I would never wish on my worst enemy. Fortunately, I did not had to make that choice at that time, and I pray that Iāll never have to. All you can do is be there for her and those babies. Love her and them. Understand that her decision is breaking her heart just as much if not more than yours and your bonus babiesā hearts. Take tons of photos and cherish absolutely every single moment you have with her until she goes. After she goes, keep her alive for her babies. If they do something that reminds you of her, tell them. If they wish that their mom couldāve been there for them, let them know that she is there, maybe not in person, but in spirit she will always be there. Iām praying for all of you, and will keep you all in my thoughts.
Itās not your fight. I lost my mother to cervical cancer. Chemo & 38 rounds of radiation to her pelvis destroyed her body. When your done your done. Have the kids spend as much time as possible
With her. After support groups & therapy will help.
I would recommend watching the movie āStepmomāā¦. I know itās a movie but i think it may help with some ideas. Maybe make a bucket list of things she can do with the kids and you and your husband. This will help build memories and a bond the kids wonāt forget. She needs all the support she can get and the kids need all the love, memories, and support they can get.
I lost my dad at 11 from cancer. I love that you want to help your step kids. I was told to be strong for my mom. I wasnāt allowed to grieve because I had to shove my feelings to the side & be strong for her. Tell these kids to cry on your shoulder, scream, throw things, cuss whatever they need to. Let them see mom as much as she wants. If they need to take off school for awhile let them. Itās ok if they fail a grade. In the long run an extra year of school isnāt going to hurt them. Missing time with mom, her last moments will hurt them. Absolutely put them in counseling. When mom does pass let them be involved in her arrangements. Itās scary & uncomfortable but being involved helps them feel important as they should.
Explain to the kids that their momma is so tired and ready to go.
If she says sheās done, sheās done. My mom fought cancer for years, many different types, and the day she said she was done we respected that and she passed less than 24 hours later. I have no advice on how to help the kids through it except love on them and keep her memory alive.
As a bonus mom myself, I would support her wishes as much as possible. Spend time with her and see if she has wishes for her babies that you may can fulfill for her. This breaks my heart and I am so sorry you all are going through this. Prayers for you guys during this rough time and all the future times they wish they had their mother. I pray to give you strength to make these babies and moms wishes come true. Iāve never had a spouse pass away and leave a child but I went through this with nieces and the best advice I can give is just listen, support their feelings and love them unconditionally. Best of luck to you momma your family is definitely in my prayers.
I have no advice, but I wanted to tell you what a fantastic bonus mama you are. I love how much you care for not only your bonus children, but their mother. Lord knows we need more women like you in this world 
prayers for your kids and their mama!
Just pray but the fact that you are so supportive
Maybe look into grief counseling for the kids discuss with mom what she wishes
I had something similar happen when I was 14. My mom had toxic shock syndrome. Back then Drs didnāt know how to diagnose it right away so my mom became severely disabled with brain damage and amputations. My step mom/mother in law (another story for another day) was amazing towards both me and my mom. She gave me a place to stay and she would let me talk, cry, scream, curse God. Whatever I needed she was always there to hold and comfort me. She was amazing towards my mom too. Thirty some odd years later, after the loss of my mom and her son (my ex) we remain the best of friends and she will always be my momma.
Have her prepare future things for the children. First dates, graduations, marriages, babies. Take lots of pictures of she is up for those types of things. Thereās a movie called our friend, and itās a same situation type. Strength to your families through this time.
I lost my dad to cancer when I was 14. Talk to them and dont sugar coat it, my stepmom was completely honest with us as he got worse. I ended up in therapy and in antidepressants. Just be there and support them all. Give them space and let them know grieving is not linear, that they can cry whenever they want to, they can be mad too.
Iām sorryā¦ive got no advice other than she canāt take anymore and she hasnāt given up easily
Let her pass in peace knowing you will love and care for her babies
My heart goes out to you all. 
As a Hospice nurse I say this. Itās her fight alone. And if sheās done she is. Now is the time to get everyone together and on board that she doesnāt want to fight anymore. Sheās in pain. Itās taken itās toll and to pull together any unresolved issues. God love her soul.
I think the best thing you can do is assure her that you will be there for her kids & love them as your own. Even if itās written in a letter. I would give her peace, because youll be the one walking her babies through life with their Dad. Be there for the kids & all of you should seek grief counseling, thatās a horrible & tough situation for anyone to go through & you will all probably need help trying to process everything. Goodluck, & thanks for being such a loving & caring bonus mom
Itās not your fight. If sheās done, then let her be done. Sheās hurting. Let her rest.
This going to be hard to understand. But maybe she is ready to let go. She is not afraid to go and she knows her kids will be taken care of. Yes it is hard to let go, but in my opinion it is just as hard if not harder to watch someone suffer and hang on when they canāt anymore. She is not giving up. She is trusting you to take care of her kids.
People know when they are done fighting. My brother in-law and sister in-law both passed at young ages due to cancer. Respect her choice.
I donāt have any advice, but they are so lucky to have you
God bless her 
Praying things get better
Find out HER wishes for the kids and try to make every one come true.
Just spend time with their mom and hear her wants and wishes for her babies. Maybe make a video for them with her to show them when their 18. You are an amazing step mom for caring so much, this is so rare to hear of. I bet she knows her babies are in good hands being loved by you 
They will need all the love and support you can give them. They will have a rough ride of it. I married my Husband with 4 children after their mom had passed away from cancer. Itās not easy.
I feel this. My aunt battled a blood cancer for 17 years. Her body finally gave up the fight last year. Just let it happen. When someone says they are ready, they truly are. You and others may not but there are ways to help cope with something like this. Celebrate with her! Be with her! Give her a big party sheāll always remember. Itās not a good bye but a new beginning.
Itās not your place or anyone elseās to tell her she has to keep going. Cancer & treatment is absolutely brutal on the body & if sheās tired, sheās tired. Assure her you support her decision, that her babies will be taken care of no matter what once sheās gone, and most importantly be there for the kids. They are going to have a lot going through their mind & many emotions. They all need support.
I lost my mother to cancer when I was 13 the one thing I wish someone would have told me was that I was going to be able to get unconditional love no matter if my mom was living or not. I thought that the person that was suppsed to mold me and love me more than anyone was gone and I would never find that in anyone or anything again. Now that I am 40 I know that I get love from God abd give it. Away and as long as I keep giving he keeps giving me more.
This writing changed my life this is what I needed all those years ago
As far as human beings are concerned, it is very simple for us. There are only two things that we need to worry about. One is āLoveā the other āfearā. One of these two emotions is the ultimate cause of everything that has ever happened to you, for you or near you.
Every positive thing that has ever taken place in your life is the result of some sort of Love; every negative, some sort of fear. It seems like the more simple the idea, the more abstract it appears. I think that we really are too smart for our own good sometimes. After more than thirty years of searching for the meaning of Love, someone finally gave a definition that made sense. They said Love is when you have no ill will towards a person. Simple enough statement right? I ask that you stop here for a moment to really grasp what was just said. It might be the most important lesson you ever learn. The most striking thing for me is that itās how I feel about you, not how you feel about me. I thought that in order to feel Loved, I needed to find someone that would Love me or give their Love to me. Notice that every time I use the word Love itās capitalized, this is not a typo. I was taught that God is Love. Love is an aspect of God & therefore He is the source or ācauseā of Love. What a tremendous relief! I spent more than thirty years trying to wrestle Love away from other human beings & failed miserably. For the past few years, with this new found understanding of Love, I have a fantastic relationship. No fighting & arguing, lying & cheating; no abuse or neglect; nobody is taking advantage of anybody; no one is being taken for granted. And why? Is it because I found the perfect girl? Or is it because I have a better understanding of Love? Here is the answer: No one is perfect! I donāt demand that she Love me, in fact I donāt need or expect her to. Why? Because God is Love! I get Love from God & as long as I give that Love freely to others, never, ever expecting anything in return (thatās what āgive freelyā means), then God keeps giving me more. God is the source of Love, not my girlfriend. She is the opportunity that God gave me to demonstrate (or manifest - covered later) His Love. If you donāt believe in God yet, thatās ok, just stop trying to pry Love away from other people. Try to just simply let it exist inside of you & then live by the principle of giving rather than getting.
Pray for gidance bc grieving is different for everyone!
Iām so sorry. I take no joy in saying this. As the child of someone that was chronically and terminally ill, you can not invalidate her. She has given it her all, and telling her itās not enough and she needs to keep fighting is hard on her. We canāt even imagine what they are going through. My mom used to beg for death as she twirled in the bed in pain. Of course Iād have liked her to keep fighting, she couldnāt though. She was done it was too much, and honestly I wouldnāt want her fighting and being in pain anymore. Thatās hard. Itās hard for everyone. Please donāt invalidate her though. You donāt want her to go feeling like that. You donāt want your love to be selfish. If she has it left to fight she will. She also needs to know itās ok to be tired and want to give up.
Donāt make her feel bad, when we canāt fully understand the fight. Prayers for her kids. And Iām glad they have you and their father. It wonāt be easy and death is hard but only she knows what she can take. No mother EVER wants to think of life without her kids so for her to say that then I can only imagine how she feels. That is heartbreaking. Maybe she wants the time and chance to say bye. Take lots of pictures.
You assurr her youāll be their for them babies and they are gonna be ok one thing you should know about the cancer patient I learned with my own grandpa watching him battle lung cancer for 6 years baby when their ready and they give up the fight itās not them itās their body finally saying itās quitting time this is the stage you need too make sure them babies are seeing her more and understanding whatās going on with their momma so when she dose go they know itās the body that gives out not the person that gives up. Iām so sorry they are going through this my prayers to them babies and you as well family itās hard but stay be there for her comfort her and then babies hug them extra as well.