My best friend is male. 6 months ago his wife left him of 10 years and took his kids with her. His dad and brother died and after that to
Cope he started drinking. She had her faults too. Both of them are at fault for the split. For 3 months he’s been with me and a month ago he tried to take his life. He is sober and trying but now has severe anxiety and depression. I’ve been helping him breathe through the attacks that I’m around for but he keeps hearing things about what his ex is doing and it triggers him. He filed for divorce and she’s not responding. He pays half her rent and her car note and helps with the kids with anything she Asks. She still has access to his account In case of emergencies.
He’s always been a private person. But he’s now shutting everyone out and I won’t lie that now I’m paranoid about finding a body one day but also just concerned for my friend.
I really don’t know what I’m asking but if anyone can think of ways to further help
Him anything would be wonderful to hear. Outside of his episodes he’s a great friend and such a huge heart. I guess I’m wondering how long this lasts? Stages ? (Also he is going to therapy but it’s not helping much & on medication)
It’ll take time, 10 years is a long time to be with someone and getting your kids taken from you is heartbreaking alone. Plus his dad and brother dying on top of all that is…terrible. As far as the divorce, I’m not really sure what could happen since she isn’t responding. From experience with my parents divorce… my mom wanted one, my dad didn’t. He didn’t show up for the hearings, nothing. The judge granted my mom the divorce since he didn’t show up multiple times ( he thought they wouldn’t do it if he wasn’t present but it just showed the judge he really didn’t care to fight for it ) so they got divorced without my dad being a part of it. Anyways, it’s different with everyone. Some people are okay after a few months, some it takes a year or longer. Maybe suggest therapy? He’s gone through a lot of trauma in a relatively short period of time, so talking it out can always help get the weight off your shoulders. Besides that, just remind him how great he is, that you love him, that he’s a great friend with a great heart.
this breaks my heart, and i can’t offer advice. i just wanted to say that you’re an incredible friend for being there, and that he’s an amazing fella for going through all that and still standing. i’m a stranger but i want to hug you both, to let you both know that it’ll be alright one day. life is complicated but there will always be a future, there’s a future for everyone, life isn’t cut short. somewhere, down the line, life will be re-written. that’s always worth remembering x