8 months is awesome! It’s ok to need to supplement, it truly makes you no less of a mom. You should be so proud of yourself! Also you shouldn’t be upset about a csection! Though I do understand. My first I was induced and her heart rate kept dropping and the doctor says to me… we need to get her out now. I cried so much because it wasn’t the plan. But didn’t make me any less of a mom.
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Your supply is probably dropping because she is getting to where she needs real food.trust the course.your a good momma some would have given up andd not pumped at the 1st sighn of issues.
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I heard the body armor drinks help but I’ve not tried it
Some of these comments are RIDICULOUS sweetie 
try Dairy Queens Breastfeeding Support Closed Group. It is the most amazing and judge free groups ive EVER been a part of. 
Good on your for pumping for 8months. My supply stopped with pumping at 4months and we switched to formula. Bub is at an age where supply isn’t required so much anyway, and they should be on solids aswell so don’t stress too much if you need to supplement with formula. Just see it as bub taking the next step a little sooner then planned. As for your husband, there is probably only so much he can hear of the subject. You say he is normally supportive of your feelings but there’s only so much one can do that especially if it doesn’t seem to be actually helping the situation. Sounds like he’s a great husband and is just over it. Cut him some slack.
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Try body armor drinks and cut out the fenugreek! Fenugreek can actually lower your supply sometimes instead of helping.
Fed is.best and using formula or having to supplement doesn’t make u a bad mom.pr a failure.just tell ur self that ur trying ur best and it sure sounds like u are that’s all that matters
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Men just can’t comprehend the mental process.
Be careful with fenugreek, it can actually cause a dip in supply in some women.
I don’t have children myself so I can’t understand your pain, but just from an outside perspective I feel that if you love your child and are feeding her any way you can, you are being an amazing mother. There is no one way to be a mother. Your # 1 concern is your child and that is all that matters. Many mothers can’t breast feed at all and they are still wonderful mothers. Your husband is probably stressed out from seeing you so upset when he knows your child is healthy and safe. Maybe he was harsh this last time, but people can lash out when they are frustrated. Be kind to yourself and just feed your baby any way you can. You are an amazing mother!! Your child will be healthy either way.
Peace, and take care.
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There is a medication your dr can prescribe to increase your supply
Fed is best. You’re not a failure. Before you know it your kid will be eating gold fish crackers from between the cushions of your couch. I promise you that your kid will be fine with some formula. Try to take it easier on yourself. Parenthood is a long ride. Don’t wear yourself out.
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fed baby is best… you will have your emotional days i had 5 breast fed babies and the last 3 got shorter and shorter with time my last one super preemie major medical issues and i only made it two months feeding and pumping each body is different. your husband is likely at a loss i know mine was… Do not be hard on yourself as you made it 8 months is amazing
Did they put you on birth control.My midwife did me with my daughter and mine dried up over night! At almost 1yr old.I had no clue.With my son I made it too 2 yrs old breast feeding. Let her nurse all she wants.The more bottles you feed the less your baby will want to nurse.
He is getting tired of hearing it and getting really annoyed.
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Have you spoken to lelache league? If not I suggest it. Also I was told to take brewers yeast tablets to make good supply. Sure worked I nursed 18 months ha well after 12 month I only nursed at night.
I think he may of said it a little wrong” but in a term there’s not much you can do about it obviously he has seen you try an get upset an if there’s not much more that is working he maybe coming/come to terms in that” … an that’s Not because u failed but sometimes we just can’t do it, I would see a doctor but if it’s making you emotional then maybe that’s not good for your mental health an maybe mix feed … Don’t see it as failure (I breastfed for 3 days an gave up) an no doubt his probably being supportive at the start but maybe he just has seen You try an he sees there’s probably not much more he can do to help you do it.
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Work with an ibclc that is knowledgeable in oral ties to make sure it’s not a functional issue on when baby can’t latch. The ibclc can also ensure your pump fits correctly and support you with a plan to boost supply. Make sure to keep hydrated and be careful with fenugreek as it can cause your supply to tank.
I had to supplement with formula for my first due to oral ties. It was very upsetting that the dr pushed formula on us and wouldn’t listen to me that I felt something was wrong with my daughters mouth. I finally found the right care team for us and was able to get rid of the formula and went on to nurse til my daughter was 2y 8m. Hang in there momma.
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As someone who teaches women how to breastfeed there are a few things you can try, most importantly is try not to stress too much over supply, stress tends to inhibit the volume of milk that you will make so try to be as relaxed as possible when expressing and dont focus on the amount you are getting (try putting a sock over the bottle so you cant watch the milk dropping into the bottle as this can cause more stress), try to maintain a good healthy diet and plenty of fluids, you will probably need more than the usual reccomended 8 glasses of water a day. Try to feed or express atleast 8-10 times per day and try to feed/express between the hours of 1-3am as your hormones are higher between these times. As a last resort you could try to introduce fenugreek into your diet as a seed or supplement this is known to increase milk supply in the early stages but Im not sure how it will do 8 months down the line, its a completely natural supplement tho so wouldnt do any harm in trying.
Some womens milk supply does dip at some point and not everybody can best feed so dont feel guilty for feeding your baby formula youve done an amazing jobs for sticking with it for 8 months alot of women give up after a few days.
Also has baby been checked for tongue tie? That can be the cause of alot of latch problems when breastfeeding x
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Good for you mama!!! Stop the cookies and the treats and just hydrate and MOVE THAT MILK. I’m unsure if you spoke about latch, but bring baby baby breast because baby Salvia also activate the production of milk. Just move milk and stay hydrated.
About your husband. It sucks. Def write down your feelings and talk to you GP about post natal depression. It just sound like you need more support and more education but you are trying your best. Supplementing can be necessary but I think with the right support, you can get back on track and meet your long term goals.
Wic has a great breastfeeding program. They also offer replacement parts for pumps so I Def recommend changing your parts and cleaning your pump often to keep good air flow and suction.
I’m going to say see your doctor because they can help put you at ease or help get the milk flowing, you could be experiencing ppd and are being way to hard on yourself. Your baby is fed and healthy. You may have had a c-section but you still had a healthy baby
I get what your going for however feel blessed that you can give a high % of the milk be breast . I adopted and had no other choice and I am a fabulous mom . Do your best and be happy .
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Fed is best. You are a good mum. But if your milk supply is not enough, please supplement
Stop judging yourself so harshly.
Wether you have a natural birth doesn’t mean those mothers are better than us cesarean mum’s. You should be grateful you have even been able to produce any milk.
Be kind to yourself… oh and most men probably can’t understand this feeling.
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Sooooo…I’m curious… why do women think C section is not giving birth. I had 2 mostly natural…and 1 c- section… and believe me…that 3rd was just as birthed as the first 2. Too much emphasis on how babies come into this world these days.
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Gatorade and water. Also oats will help
I didnt get to breastfeed either of my kids. My first child, I only produced 1-2 ounces no matter what the doctor had me try, and then my second child, I didn’t produce a single drop. So I don’t Know what to tell you.
Just try what the doctor tell you and if it doesn’t work, you’re still a great mom for trying
Alfalfa!! It doubles, sometimes triples, milk production! And you can’t overdose on it either, so you can safely take a handful a couple times a day to increase your milk supply.
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Body armor drinks have given me a half oz increase to and oz. I did just purchase the greens from the keto diet casue i heard this would help. I to have tried everything and unfortunately have not had any luck outside of the body armor drinks
Fenugreek pills help quite a bit but they’ll make you smell like maple syrup. Lol. It’s what my ob recommended for me
BodyArmor drinks helped with my supply!
But please, do not feel like a failure!!! I had to supplement when my daughter turned 6 months old because I couldn’t pump enough at work to keep up with her growing appetite. She’s currently a very happy, healthy, sassy 2.5 year old.
As for your husband’s reaction/response, they don’t 100% understand what we mommas go through. They are unable to breastfeed so they can’t understand our struggles with it and the emotions that come with it.
Best of luck! You got this!
Oatmeal, feeding on demand and lots of water
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I got a lactation consultant and was put on domperidone
I’ve heard coconut water works.
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Anna Brown advice? My niece is can expert💖
I only had milk 3 months with both of my children.
I felt sad and frustrated because I tried everything… Really. And breastfeeding was extremely painful. I had to complete with formula and as time passed I understood that all that mattered was that both babies were full and happy.
They are 5 and 3 now. And they are doing just fine.
Be gentle with yourself… In some time it won’t be that important. Other challenges will come with maternity.
Body armor and flaxseed in everything! I struggled with my teen daughters and I’m praying I won’t with this one but I remember flaxseed was a huge help back then and I’ve heard a lot of good things about bodyArmor drinks from lactation consultants and nursing moms. Also don’t feel like a failure most men just don’t understand and it’s okay to supplement with formula when the need arises. I’m sure your a great mom and to be upset over this just proves how great you are!
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With the not latching to you, has the baby been checked to see if they have tied lip or tongue? My daughter wouldn’t latch to me and we found out that was the reason. She has a procedure done to fix it (only took 10 min and they used a laser) she is currently healing from it, and we were told once she heals she should latch with no issue.
As for the milk supply, I’ve been increasing my water and drinking body armor and I’ve been able to pump 4-8oz at a time.
As for the husband, he may not know how to comfort you since he can’t breast feed and he doesn’t really know how to help since he doesn’t understand what women go through.
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Don’t beat yourself up. I’ve got 3 C-section babies, none of them got more than a week of breast feeding. The last one got none at all.
You are doing so good! Be proud of that! There’s nothing wrong with supplementing or switch 100% to formula like I did. You care so much for your baby that there is no doubt you’re a awesome mama. But make sure you’re happy too. Because a happy mama Is way more important than than how baby gets their nutrition, as long as their belly is full.
Sending lots of love your way. And remember, treat yourself like you would treat another mama in your spot.
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Exclusive pumper of 14 months here👋🏻 Though I did start giving my daughter one formula bottle a day from 10-12 months because she had low iron. My best advice is TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Staying hydrated and making sure you’re eating is so so crucial. Water makes up like 80% of breast milk. Stressing about your production also doesn’t help production. The amount of pressure we put on ourselves as Mother’s is insane. How and what you fed your baby is just minor thing in the bigger picture. Your baby is fed, healthy, happy, and loved. I promise your daughter isn’t going to love you any less at any point in her life because you had to supplement with formula. Good luck and best wishes, mama.
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It is 100% normal to be upset and feel the way you feel! Just remember that the bottom line is you are feeding your baby…I am currently pregnant and have big fears about lack of milk due to family history and my doctor reminds me at every appointment that the most important thing is that the baby is eating. You can try all the things in the world but sometimes your body has its own agenda and you just have to remember that if your baby is fed and taken care of then you are a good momma regardless of the type of food. My advice is to ask for a lactation specialist but keep in mind that formula fed babies are still fed babies! Praying for your mental health and peace, being a momma is hard and beyond stressful.
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I feel the same way! Don’t worry! I think it’s totally normal! I tried lactation cookies and brownies- but they didnt work for me personally. I just recently purchased “Mother’s Milk” tea. I add honey and drink 16 oz a day. My supply has doubled! I was pumping 3 oz total. But after a day or 2 of drinking the tea, I am now pumping 6-7 oz total!
Formula is so advanced these days. There’s nothing to feel bad about. And be proud you made it as far as I did. I learned with my first that the stress over an undersupply caused my supply to continue to drop. Supplement when you need to, that’s what its there for! I look at my 4 year old now and no one would ever know he was a formula baby. I look at daycare classes and can’t pick out which baby is on breastmilk and which in on formula. Don’t stress about it, just feed your baby and enjoy your time with him.
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I had my son when i just turned 19. I was barely able to produce anything and it was a huge tiring struggle. I saw lactation specialists and tried everything!!! I also paid alot of money to see her. It still didn’t work. It was never enough. I could barely pump anything 
for the sake of my son and my sanity i just gave him formula boom happy well fed baby. Fast forward 11 years. Im now 29, pregnant with my 2nd child and determined!! I thought- maybe i didn’t try hard enough to breast feed because i was young, dumb, impatient… Same thing this time. Except im producing next to nothing… my baby isn’t gaining the weight she should be and i cant pump… she is cluster feeding and im tired and drained. Sooo i go and see a lactation specialist again. Did all the same things again… and tried teas and cookies… the works to help my milk come in. Nothing… a month down the road i find out my baby has colic and i have to stop having dairy because she gets it through my breast milk but its not enough. We started her on hypoallergenic formula and she got some relief… i found out because i have hashimotos that i dont produce milk like i should. Its not possible. Dont feel bad, dont feel like a bad mom. You tried!! It doesn’t always work!! Dont beat yourself up!! Making sure your baby has a full tummy and you enjoy your time bonding is whats important
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Don’t beat yourself up over something you cant control. Make sure your hydrated, that makes a big difference. Supplementing with formula is not going to hurt your baby in anyway. They’re still getting all the positives from breast feeding, and also getting the calories from formula.
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My sister and some friends swear that chocolate milk helped increase their supply! I’m not sure how true it is, but it couldn’t hurt
Firstly your feelings are valid and real. Men just aren’t that great at understanding how to respond emotionally. He just sees it as it is what it is. But to you its sooo much more to it than that. Try reaching out to an LC they’re very helpful with these situations. Also recommend lots of skin to skin and hydrate hydrate hydrate and hydrate some more lol. Water intake is soo critical for supply. Try body armors or powerade. Coconut water is an excellent natural source of electrolytes. Also if you noticed the dip shortly after taking the fenugreek I’d try removing that and see if that brings your supply back up. I’ve heard fenugreek can hurt more than it helps. Breathe mama your doing an amazing job!!! You got this!!!
Men will never understand the pressure that comes with breastfeeding/pumping. I felt the same way and I cried a lot. Don’t beat yourself up, your baby is getting what they need and the fact that you’re upset proves you’re a great mom. My supply didn’t increase until like 3 months postpartum and I supplemented as well. I found that self care helped my milk supply, specifically eating enough and drinking a lot of water. I know it feels really bad but you’re doing great. Hang in there.
The more you supplement the more you’ll have to keep supplementing. It’s called the “booby trap”. Also, products that may give a temporary boost like fenugreek can have the opposite effect and tank your supply, and also can make baby really gassy. The best way to increase supply is to put baby to breast. The more milk you remove the more it signals your body to make. I would also consider power pumping.
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I had a c-section, and start giving my baby formula after 3 months of struggling, you are not doing anything wrong, my husband told me one night : is the baby crying? Is the baby sick? Is the baby hungry? And I say NO so he told me: So there is nothing to feel bad about it, my baby is almost 18 months now and at the beginning I feel bad about it. Your husband is been supportive all this time its just sometimes is difficult to them to understand why a woman feel that way.
So I have had four kids. With kid one and two, I had a very difficult time with breast-feeding and didn’t seem to have enough milk. Plus my nipples hurt really badly. With the third child, I requested a lactation consultant to come in to assist me. I told her to pretend this was my first one and show me how to properly breast-feed my kid. She assisted me in proper technique and it really seemed to help. She showed me how to keep the baby on one breast for 15 minutes and then to switch to the other one to feed for another 15 minutes. She also gave me tips on how to stimulate my breasts and a whole bunch of other things to keep in mind to be as successful as possible. I breast-fed my third kiddo for way longer than I did my other two without having to supplement. When I started working full-time, it was a little more difficult at that point, and I had to go to formula and my breast milk supply that I had frozen in the deep freezer. But please keep in mind that some people can only breast-feed for a certain amount of time and milk production sometimes is not there. Please do not let this make you feel ashamed or upset. My first two kids, who I was only able to breast-feed for six weeks and three months respectively, came out beautifully and are in wonderful health. The longer you can do it, the more antibodies you get the kids. Doing it for only a few weeks is better than doing it for no time at all. So please don’t stress about how long you were able to breast-feed. It’s OK. Some have only been able to formula feed because they were not able to breast-feed, so please don’t be too hard on yourself.
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WATER!! can’t stress that enough yeah lactation cookies help a bit but increase your water in take and power pump you’ll see how much of a difference you’ll start producing
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I would drink a Gatorade and eat an (little Debbie) oatmeal cookie every day for mine.
My baby was born at 29 weeks, I also had to add formula to breast milk ( help her gain weight)… it was a huge struggle to get breast milk. I spoke with a specialist and she had me pump every 15 min all day/night and I took a medication for about a week.
Look at getting baby seen for lip and tongue ties
Also make sure you drink water and stay hydrated
Powered zero or Gatorade zeros for electrolytes…the sugar frees one so you don’t get unnecessary sugar for you
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Hun, it happens and the more you worry the less you make. But I assure you, you are not “a failure of a mother” because your supply is dropping or you have to supplement. All.that matters is you have a happy, healthy fed baby, no matter what form the food is. I dried up in 9 weeks after the birth of my son, and 5 weeks after the birth of my daughter, I tried so hard but sometimes our body just says enough. Yes I felt terrible at the time too, but now I know I did the best by my kids, yes I fed formula but now they are happy, healthy, bright 9yo & 11yo kids so what was there to stress about really.
Breastfeeding for 8 months!!.. You my friend are are A SuperMom!! As parents we often feel Not good enough but I’m telling you You Are A Wonderful Mom! just the fact that it bothers you so much you ask questions to other moms!! I’m no expert but don’t worry yourself about what milk she drinks!! As long as she’s happy and healthy. she’ll be eating table food in no time! and look on the bright side… maybe you and hubby can make some time together after letting it go! Guys aren’t like us he’s not gonna worry unless she’s missing a toe🤷🏽♀️! Take it easy mom just look at her she’s fine isn’t she!! She’s not gonna hate you in 20 years for this decision!! God Bless!!
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Drink Body Armour drinks. One of those and many of my friends and myself were completely engorged the next day. I usually drink it mid day that way night and morning feedings are well supplied. Plus pumping.
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Since your daughter is probably eating solids now that can cause your supply to decrease because she’s getting nutrients in other ways! It’s totally natural lasting 8 months breastfeeding is AMAZING and you are doing such an incredible job. Breastfeeding is HARD, emotionally and physically. But around this age there is a natural and normal decrease in your milk supply because she herself is getting ready to eventually stop nursing. You can also just introduce regular water at this age in small increments if you’re concerned about her fluids. Don’t be too hard on yourself mama!!!
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Could baby be tongue tied possibly? It might not be you mama ask the pediatrician to look stay strong mama your doing everything right no matter what
Formula is fine. Breastfeeding isn’t great for everyone
Look up domperidone groups on fb they saved my breastfeeding journey.
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Have you tried a nipple guard? It helps with latching on. My now 5 yr old had the same problem, in the nicu he was so small and couldn’t latch so they tried that ans it worked.
Warm water hitting ur boobs may help increase supply. Stand in the shower and see if that helps.
My friend went to class for breastfeeding & they told her to drink a beer a day
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Breast milk supply increases on demand, i.e., whenever the baby is latched and sucking. Pumping won’t do it, and supplementing with formula takes away from the time the baby could be latched. It sounds like you really need a lactation consultant to help you with the latch issue. If you want to exclusively breastfed, then that’s the route you may have to go. If you can, call the pediatrician’s office to see if they can recommend a lactation consultant.
I just want to say you are doing an amazing job. What a fabulous mum you are.
be kind to yourself! I put so much pressure on myself with daughter. With my second i’m doing best I can plus supplementing with formula as needed. Warm heating pad on back use to help, oatmeal, water and not stressing out.
Oatmeal!! Oatmeal cookies and body armor drinks helped tremendously…also cuddling with your little one, maybe feed and pump at the same time…I exclusively bf and had a hard time pumping 
…there are struggles every way. Ultimately know that you have reached an amazing goal and have given your little one the best nourishment ever!!!
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I know the feeling. I’m on my second time around of breastfeeding and it’s a huge struggle. Neither one of my babies would take formula so it was even harder when my supply was low. I did find that lots of water and granola bars helped.
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Coconut in any way. Also oatmeal. Keeping yourself hydrated is also super important. Drink drink and drink!
I don’t have any suggestions as far as increasing your supply of breastmilk. However perhaps instead you should realize that God made you exactly the way you are and he made you that way for a reason and and you are perfect just the way you are. I wouldn’t be so upset about not being able to supply as much breastmilk as you want, just be happy and thankful that you were able to supply as much as you could.
As far as your husband goes… Men don’t always understand these things. He probably just wants you to not miss out on the rest of your relationship with your child and to not miss out on the rest of what it means to be a mom.
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I drank Body Armor before I pumped and it helped me double my supply
Wow 8 months of pumping GREAT job mom!
Im currently going through the exact same w my 1 mnth old now. I love all the feed back you got. I found it extremely helpful:). Also look up a recipe for Assie bites they’re delicious and good for milk supply.
Try increasing the amount of fresh cloves of garlic in your foods. This should help
Don’t stress. I know that is not easy but it will cut down your supply. Even if you don’t feel like laughing do it often especially if stressed. It will help.
Do the best you can with breastfeeding if that’s your goal. Just know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing both! If baby needs a top off with formula, that’s ok. You are doing an amazing thing!!
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Drink lots of water and body armor drinks, eat oatmeal, and try increasing your fenugreek to 4 capsules 3 times per day. When everything smells like syrup that means your taking enough. I mean everything sweat, urine, and milk lol. The most important thing is to try and relax and not stress about how much milk you are making.
I know how u are feeling. I had to have a csection which I had tried so hard to stay away from. Then few hrs later he was hungry I swore up and down he was not going to have formula but I couldn’t get him to latch on and he was hungry so I said ok to formula. Went to lactation counseling 2x a week. Found out at 6 day checkup hes double tongue tied. That’s why he couldn’t latch. At 1 month got his tongue clipped but by then he still couldn’t latch. Tried for 1.5 month to breastfeed by pumping only getting about 2 bottles a day. My body wasn’t making enough. Plus I don’t think it was nutritious for him Cuz once I stopped and fully gave him formula he finally gained weight. Took him 2 months to get back to birth weight. Literally nothing I wanted went right. But I had to adapt and do what was best for my baby. Ya it took a while to get over that feeling of failure but I didn’t fail I just had to tell myself that I was doing what was best for my child. I was feeding him even though it wasn’t exactly as planned. He was healthy and now hes a giant almost 11 yr old. Hes 5’5" by the end of summer he will be my height or taller. Size 11 men shoes.
I’ve turned my feeling of failure by not being able to formula feed to I tried did the best I could I gave him what I could. And once I stopped trying to breastfeed and pump the stress for both of us decreased tremendously. Feeding should be relaxing for both of you not stressful. You were able to give your baby 8 months of breastmilk. That’s really good you should be proud of yourself for getting to that point. Don’t be hard on yourself. Do as much breastfeed a day that you can and formula feed the rest so by the time you run out it won’t be a big shock on baby. Start weaning her off of breastmilk now while you still have it so that if and or when u run out baby will be fine with all formula. Now I had to give my son gentle ease formula Cuz he had bad spit up with regular formula.
But again your doing so good by getting to 8 months of breastfeeding. Don’t be hard on yourself.
my sister drank vervain and it worked pretty well
Do things to help you relax, warm bath while your husband watches baby, yoga or stretching exercises, light walking outside, whatever helps you to not worry or stress. Try body to body cuddles with your baby, cheek to cheek before you breastfeed or pump. Do not take it personal that you are not producing, maybe that is what your husband means, it is a normal thing especially when you are pumping. The more you stress yourself the higher the chances of you not producing milk.
You haven’t failed anything you have done much more than a whole lot of Mother’s are willing to do. At 8 months baby should be eating some food and water formula or breast milk from a cup. What you pump today should be what your body makes for tomorrow. Have you gotten your period. Perhaps if baby is eating well you’ll only need to feed a couple times per day.
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Body armor drinks helped me so much along with oatmeal
Its fine your baby has had a great start its all good i couldent continue when i had my baby and she did great healthy no skin problems baby will be fine and you can see how much bub is drinking now a full baby is a happy baby
Dark beer
Power pumping
Cluster pumping
Cookies the milk has some quick boost cookies, brownies and cookie dough that many moms swear by to help with a boost in supply when needed
If you are having latch issues, try the hakaa nipple shield, it’s just like a bottle nipple
Oatmeal, steel cut is best (steel cut helped me better than regular rolled oats)
Stay away from fenugreek!!!
Coconut water
Greater than sports drinks, drank them for 8 months and helped me stay hydrated.
Body armor on occasion but they are high in sugar. If any drink increases supply, it’s because you are dehydrated.
Try to drink the recommended amount of water according to what you weigh. If you over drink, it can have actually cause a dip in supply.
Manual pump, some people get much more with a manual.
Be sure flanges are the correct size for nipples.
Massage breast while pumping, you can also apply heat for 10-15 minutes before pumping, massage breast going downward towards nipple, the pump
That’s all that helped me throughout my year of exclusively pumping
Just know you are doing great and even an ounce of breast milk is super beneficial for baby 
Alesha McCurry any suggestions
Breastfeeding is hard work! Congratulations on getting this far. I can understand the feeling of sadness of a decreasing milk supply. Sometimes we just don’t have control over things like this. If baby is happy and satisfied with formula, then that could be all that you need to know you’re doing the right thing by giving it to baby. It sounds like your husband is frustrated seeing you upset. And his past compassion isn’t helping you to feel better about it. Sometimes you just have to let go and let god. Enjoy the little things before they aren’t little anymore.
You are not a failure and eight months is something to he commended. ESPECIALLY being an EP momma. 
My IBCLC told me to pump extra after every feeding, pump at night before bed too. You tend to get more in the mornings so try an extra sitting in the morning as well? Squeezing in extra pumping sessions triggers increased demand. Not power pumping but pumping a little more frequently.
EP is more of a challenge I think so an even BIGGER kudos to you momma. It’s natural to want to provide enough for your babe but sometimes our bodies don’t cooperate. Not. Your. Fault. Do what you can for your little and rest easy knowing you gave it 110%.
It is unfortunate that you feel your partner doesn’t support your desire to not have to supplement. He might just not get why it is so important. I’m sorry momma.
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My gosh…I didn’t get to give birth to either of my children and I didn’t get to breastfeed. Both were adopted at birth so I never got the opportunity. Personally I never Understood the hype (for lack of a better phrase). This is certainly not something I would lose sleep over.
You are not a failure as long as your child is healthy and happy. It doesn’t matter how they’re fed. Do your best and forget the rest!
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I couldn’t breast feed at all, I pumped exclusively and I was completely exhausted by 8 weeks, let alone 8 months. You’ve done amazing. You need to learn to let some things go. It doesn’t always go according to plan, although it’s a hard pill to swallow, you have to accept that. Your husband should be supporting you in whatever you decide, but maybe he feels you’ve exhausted all your options & he wants you to move on and be happy.
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I made skim milk and had to supplement with formula after nursing every meal with my oldest. My youngest had a wild reaction to something I was eating and needed formula while I pump and dumped (we couldn’t use it for a bath because it looked like an allergic reaction).
Fed is best- you are doing your best and that means making sure your little has milk whether it is from you, a donor, formula, allergen specific medical formula (which I feel for your pocketbook if that is the case because it ain’t cheap!). Men can talk about having to breastfeed when they are the one doing it. Your mental health is more important than anything when it comes to the wellbeing of your baby, so please, be kind to yourself.
At 6 months my supply dropped significantly too, probably because he was able to eat table foot by then. I was already supplementing, which I hated. Finally after a 4 oz bottle spilled on my lap at work after pumping (which I was only able to pump maybe 6 oz a day at work), I cried, whipped my tears, and made the decision to be done. It hurt, I had a hard time at first with it but my anxiety got 10 TIMES BETTER!! And you know what…he didnt even notice! 
So at the end of the day, ya it sucks and I do think breast milk is probably the better option, but you have to weigh out the pros and cons. My husband and I were bottle fed as a baby and we turned out fine. To me, it wasn’t worth the stress of working full time and trying ways to keep my supply up. Just something to think about. Breastfeeding was, to me, harder than giving birth (which was a c-section), either way you made it farther than many have done, give yourself some props! 
Speak with a lactation specialist. You baby may have tongue ties that haven’t been addressed. For many women all those snacks and teas made for nursing actually do the opposite. Best bet is to stay hydrated and pump more often. As far as your husband goes, it doesn’t seem like he’s being very supportive, but cut him a break. Fed is best, and men tend to be more analytical like that. Plus if you were dealing with him being an emotional wreck for 8 months, you might get a bit agitated yourself. Plus, men will never be able to fully understand what it’s like to carry a child and be their life source, so I’d probably let it go and deal with the specialist.
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