I lived in a beautiful house in the country got reunited with my sister after 37 years of not knowing she existed. My niece begged me to move over to where they were so I willingly gave my house up moved in with my sister. Her house was condemned only had two weeks to get out of that house had a big dog nobody would rent to me so I took all mine and my husbands savings and bought the house we are currently living in. I didn’t want to see my sister and her man in the street so I put them on the deed with us.
Now I am stuck with a mortgage for a house I bought for my dog who we had to put to sleep five days after we bought the house. And my sister and her man are always fighting with me. He gets mad over me telling him they need to help with bills and mortgage. And she gets mad when I have people over to visit will start a big fight then not talk to me for days sometimes weeks.
Now I foolishly put them both on the deed and I’m kicking myself in the ass everyday. I was informed since we are all on the deed nobody can kick anybody out. These people lie about me and everything. I cook clean take care of their pets go to all their appointments with them cater to them. They stay in their bedroom 24/7 it smells so bad in there they barely bathe if I say anything to them about it they run and tell my niece everything that wasn’t said twists my words and belittles me. My sister is 60 and has a mind set of a 5 year old and her man is 62 has a mind set of a 6 year old.
I know I can’t kick them out I just need some advice on how to handle the situation and some encouragement please.
You need to consult an attorney in your area and do a partition suit to separate the ownership of the home and have it all come back to you. Once the court orders it, a new deed can be done and they can be removed from the property.
Ur up the creek without a paddle u should have never put them on the deed. U can stop paying bills if u pay them all Internet change the password don’t let them have it lights take all of the light bulbs out of the house use one take it wherever u go yea sounds like a hassle water cut the hot water off unless u need it cooking only cook for ur self don’t cook or buy food for them necessities only buy for ur self
You might as well enjoy your new life lmfao get a lawyer because that’s what you need why in the world would you buy a house not rent and put them on something they didn’t buy lmfao wow your sister made it clear you aren’t important because she wouldn’t have allowed that to happen
Sorry but your first mistake was putting them on the deed to that house you are going to have so much trouble getting them out of here and off that date but good luck to you and I hope things get better
This is why I never do favor for family or friends. 2. You’re gonna have to take them to court and as a judge to let you sell and give them their share since their name is on that deed. 3. Please don’t bring people to your house ever again. Good luck!
Save up some money, they won’t know your not paying the bills. Then rent an apt or townhouse before ur credit takes a hit. Leave them stuck there, and have the bank foreclose. It’s not the best options, but you need to take care of yourself and your husband.
First of all stop doing things for them …… second only buy and prepare food for you and your spouse. If you have to lock up what you buy …… it’s bad enough you still have to pay all the bills but you don’t have to feed them or supply their household items
Stop during for them you are the maid, cook and house keeper and let’s not forget the bill payer and what ever they say you do it , that why the niece did’d move them in her house or stay with them everyone’s play you and still been play on , open your eyes dumb dumb
It seems like you fraid a di niece. Cuz when me done beat pots and pans and invite the whole community in my house dem woulda sick a me cuz since it’s my money buy name or no name. Me a get peace inna dat and nobody nah eat my food much less. All light a cut off. Me nuh care.
I wouldn’t cook and clean for nobody… take nobody to appointments. Mfkas would be taking care of there own pets. Your a push over! Clearly… and they know and will continue to do it until you put your foot down. Might have to be MEAN and stern for once.
Is selling the house and buying another house without them an option? Surely they wouldn’t see any of the money if you can prove you are paying for it?
So I went through this UT depends where u are canada us ontario?? I bought a house cash and 8 months later met a guy put his name on the house I was able to prove that I paid for it out of my own money and his name was removed I had to pay the laywers fees ans such but it was worth it in the future never put anyone’s name in anything I won’t even put my current partners name on anything at all now based on past experiences
You can remove them from the deed say that all the money that you used to buy place was yours only. And if home owners insurance is only in your name so that as proof
Sounds like you now know why their house was condemned…quit being a maid / servant… make a relationship with your niece only… sounds like your sister and man are users / moochers… you might need a lawyer… your not their👎 keeper
Make it unbearable for them misery loves company show them what they do to you theyll get tired of it n leave don’t pay the bills don’t clean do do sh*t
Call the cops on them each time a fight occurs , after a few times get a restraining order, then then they can’t go within so many feet of you and won’t be able to live there then start the process of getting them out of your lives.
Act like you’re having them sign something but when it’s actually them taking themselves off the deed. I hope this makes sense I’m running on little to no sleep
Tell them move out of house ASAP and don’t want to involved between you and her, her man. You need to focus yourself and your husband too. It too much drama and problem period
Document the condition of the house, and the conditions that prompted buying the house in the first place, and sue them for damages to your half of the house.
Shouldn’t have put them on a deed. I would talk to a lawyer to see how to go about taking them off. Also I wouldn’t do anything for them if they wanna eat they can buy their own food, cook it and clean up after theirself. The longer you keep enabling them the longer they will use you.
Take some time to find a place you can rent away from them move in then take yourself and husband off the deed stop paying the bills. yes your going to loose money but money isn’t everything especially if your not happy
If they both have the mind set of young children they cannot make good decisions so you should be able to take them off. They would have to be declared incompetent.
Is there anyway you can take them off the deed? I wouldn’t do ANYTHING for them. Wouldn’t cook, clean, take them to appointments or anything. Put YOUR FOOT DOWN!
Talk to a lawyer and find out about Adult Protective Services and how you can get them out through the courts if they are so dirty! But protect yourself first and find out the way to do it!!!
Get rid of there animals if they aint taking care of them!!! Tell them if tbey want the house they need to buy you out because otherwise it needs sold!! You cant afford it on your own any longer, let them live on the streets who cares!!!
If you were just finding out you had a sister you should have visited for afew days or a week first- before making any decision to move anywhere. If you bought the house and added them to the deed after the fact you may be able to remove them
Sell the place, leave them behind, and move on. If they have paid anything towards to mortgage, give that back, and run. If they haven’t, don’t give them a penny, and run faster. Then change your phone number.
You fucked up like royally there will be absolutely no way to get them out without selling the house and even then you’d have to split what you made off it
There was no reason for them to be on the deed and I feel like if it was their suggestion she grifted you
Act like a psychopath and get the cops called, someone has to get arrested, don’t worry of you don’t have a criminal record it will get throw out later, once someone gets arrested there will be a protective order in place and they’ll have to move out and they won’t be allowed to go near you or the home. After, you’ll have grounds for a restraining order. You just got to stand up to them and make it very uncomfortable for them.
why on EARTH would you put people on the deed that didn’t pay the mortgage? Honestly sounds like your best bet would be to get yourself off the deed and move out.
Sell the house or your share . I have more to say but I’ll keep it to myself. People please be smart and dont ever add anyone to your mortgage or car note etc . Biggest mistake you can make
There is so much wrong with this, I don’t know where to start.
All I can say is talk to an attorney.
I hope there is some way out of this for you.
More importantly I hope you never make this mistake again with anybody.
If you sell then what? Could you suggest your going to sell and give them a time frame im pretty sure they won’t realise they can’t be kicked out from what your saying and if you sell the clause surely doesn’t matter speak to a solicitor they will advise you x
Why Wld u put them on the deed after giving up ur home n moving in w her for 5 days to condemned home to turn around n buy new home cause they have no money???
You done fucked up the moment you gave up your house willingly. Then just kept fucking up after. Why in the world you you drop everything to go live with someone you didn’t even know. My goodness. You’re a push over and until you decide to put your foot down and ACTUALLY do something about it, nothing will change. So you are pretty much stuck with taking care of two grown ass babies. Look into getting them off the deed legally. There HAS to be a way. Idk how but GOOD LUCK
Since I can’t see all the comments I will add STOP HELPING THEM AND THIER PETS.YOU ARE INABLING THEM. GET AN ATTORNEY. YOU PUT ALL THE MONEY DOWN. THERE HAS TO BE A SOLUTION. AGAIN STOP TAKING CARE OF THEM. GOOD LUCK.
Girl there is no advice for you sounds to me like you have a mind set of a 6yr old also… Your sister is litterly a stranger so that’s on you to be so galable to do what you did!
Make them sign a contract indicating they agree to pay a set amount for their half of all Bill’s within the household.
Make sure you include that if they dont pay on time each month they then have 30 days to find a new place to live…
Once a contract is established make sure you ALL sign and date in front of a notary service provider via County Court house or a Bank. They will stamp a seal on it.
That’s probably my best option for you in this matter. Should put an end to all further agreements
Abandon the house move to another state quick… buy another house before the other company finds out is all I got…
Why in thee hell wud you put their names on a deed for a house they didn’t put thousands of dollars into with y’all!!! While y’all used t he last of y’all’s money…dumb as hhhhhhell. Wait and this is the missing sister you just met 40y later!!! I caint. Did you not see the nasty ass raggedyasd-smellyass condemned house before you sold yours!!! They won’t even commit to each other … they’re 60 plus yo talmbout boyfriend girlfriend!! Alllll of them saw you coming and came up!!! Wow. You are stick with them for life
What you need to do is sit the fuck down and figure out the hell is wrong with you that you saw ALLLLLL the warning signs flashing lights n yellow tape but pushed it all out your way n went forth anyway. Maybe divorce your husband y’all liquidate all assets and maybe then you can get away from them then y’all get remarried. I mean Wow…just Wwwow.
Keep proof that you pay everything and they don’t help if parents can kick there kids out u definitely can to u cuz we learn the hard way never mix money, home or business with family
You can technically kick them out with a 30 day eviction notice. You just need to go through the court to do it get an attorney. Its your house. You pay all the bills. You have proof.
If they are on the deed , they must sign to remove themselves off the deed . The only solution is to convince the freeloaders to sell , take your loss and call it a hard lesson. If the non borrowing title holders refuse to sell, hire an attorney who will seek that a judge force them to sell based on the hardship they cause you and irreparable differences, much like a judge would order to sell property during a divorce dispute.
Well for one, you put them on the deed so that was the biggest mistake.
Now you will have to go get you a attorney that might work with you and take them too Court to get them off the deed if the judge even does it at all.
Talk to them about renovating and selling or creating two separate units. Idk the layout but I’m sure there’s a way to separate it so your family has one part and the other has theirs.
I’m running on little to no sleep
so cringe
to u cuz we learn the hard way never mix money, home or business with family