Don’t tell him you are leaving. Get someone to help you get your belongings out of there while he is not there. Get to safety for yours and your baby’s sake. Get as far away as possible from that piece of worthless shit you call a boyfriend.
Goooooo girl go. Do not pass, GO. When he’s not home. He’s abusive and likely a narcissist. It will never get better. You and your baby come first. You will be okay
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Just pack up n take the baby with u. He doesn’t deserve a explain if u leave
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You absolutely do not tell him. You wait till you know hes going to be gone for a good while. Pack some things for yourself and your baby and get out. Get some where safe. I would definitely not tell him face to face or tell him where you are staying. He definitely sounds like a danger to you and your child. Do not fall for his I love you I’m sorry I’ll change I’ll get help. Men like that say and do whatever to get you back in that situation. Goodluck to you and stay safe.
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Leave when hes gone dont say anything… sounds toxic you need to do whats best for u and baby and get away
Don’t tell him shit! He’s obviously not telling you the truth. He doesn’t seem to have a hold on his temper so who’s to say he won’t hurt you and the baby. Your focus is bigger now. His feelings are no longer valid because clearly yours aren’t to him. Move in silence and protect your cub. No matter how lonely you get don’t go back DO NOT GO BACK! He will kill you and that baby. He had no regard for that child before it was born it’s not going to happen now. Run! Get out and protect your baby. You don’t need this and your baby needs mom. Protect your cub because a lion stands on its own. He is not standing and that’s not your fault. You have to get out of there quietly.
Get everything you need to leave and do it when hes not home…if you have a couple of friends who can help you bring them while hes gone
Honey if i was there i would help you asap…but you gotta be strong and careful
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You don’t tell him. You just leave and never go back
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Call a hot line they will tell you how to do this safely the most dangerous time is when you go to leave you dont owe him anything so dont tell him your leaving cause he could snap please call a domestic abuse hotline
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Baby you gotta go for that baby find the nearest police station put a restraining order on him get a gun learn hiw to shoot it cause thats just a piece of paper and live your life woth that baby before you end up on “unsolved” myserys or dateline bull shit
I wouldnt even tell him id pack mine and baby’s stuff and go while he’s at work. This literally almost made me cry reading I hope you leave and you and baby have a beautiful life without him. I’m praying for you two! All hoping it all works in your favor hun:heart:
May better days be on the way.
I am so sorry this is happening to you 
I hope you are able to get you and baby out quickly and as safely as possible. There are domestic violence shelters that will help you.
Don’t tell him. Get out while he is gone. Go straight to legal aid and get custody. Stay safe.
Leaveeeee dont tell him just leave. If not he seem like the kind of guy to fly off the handle …dont risk that on you or the baby , dont tell anyone of your location that doesnt need to know and file for the proper stuff
get rid of him he sounds like the typical abuser. And I worry for your safety please call domestic violence hotline
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DO NOT TELL HIM! Go and then if he calls or anything then you can Let him know you left. He never needs to know where you are (unless court ordered) I hope you have video evidence in case he tries to fight for custody! You have every right to leave by what you are saying.
Leave. Run. Take your child and hide somewhere. He will end up killing you both.
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Dont tell him pack up leave when hes not there call police to watch while you get stuff out just in case trust me been there you are not safe or is that baby
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Don’t tell him run now
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Text him after you’ve gone.
Leave asap and never look back do it when he’s at work dont tell him anything ! Fuck that piece of garbage you and your baby deserve so much more than that ! My prayers are with you and your little one
Think of your baby,tell nothing, just pack and go,dont worry about anything but cloths
Pack up and leave !! Dont say nothing to him pack what u and baby needs and go. Its not any of his business where u and your baby go! I was in this same scenario and it got bad i had no choice but to leave bc my kids wouldve been without a mommy. 4 yrs later im married to the love of my life and he accepts my children as his own as i do his.
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i’d kill him before he kills you or your child i’ve seen people be murdered bc a baby was crying BUT a more realistic suggestion is to call the police or before that call a family member who’s able to take you an your child in then you should have a police officer come an make sure you an your child are able to leave with no problems if he’s that much of a fucker tell them you’re scared he’s gonna hurt you when you try to leave an that he’s made threats they will come (w backup) an make sure y’all are able to leave safely i promise you they will then get a restraining order for yourself an your child an jus be safe keep some type of protection on you at all times like pepper spray or a taser or some brass knuckles stay alert bc you never know what someone’s gonna do
Leave! Doesn’t matter if you “don’t know how” you are a mommy now. Do what moms do and make it happen.
Leave NOW! there are safe houses in most every area. Been there, done that!
Get a restraining order. He sounds like he will retaliate. Save yourself and the baby. You got this!
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I really hate hearing these stories. But I hope you leave quietly and safely seek help. 
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Also if you do go to a dv shelter make sure you file a police report prior because they want prove that there was an abusive situation I know this because my sister went through this with her ex
Jus leave if u feel that unsafe there is no need to tell him… obviously he domt care about u or the child m staying is not healthy for u or the bby… they have women’s shelters that u n bby can go.to that will help u get on ur feet again if u dont have another place to.go.right away
Pack your shit when he’s at work and take the baby to a shelter and leave a note saying your leaving . Women’s shelters will help you in anyway you need. Especially in an abusive situation.
Leave leave leave. Make a plan.Do it now. Have a list hidden away of all the things you need to bring with you. Quietly organise things for yourself and things for baby so it will be easy pack all when you need to move them. Bring all your official documents,
Birth Certs, you & baby
And insurance and medical papers etc
Passport…Make a list and put them all safely together.
Contact women’s refuge. They give enormous help to someone in your horrific situation. They will help you file for full custody so he can’t come and take your baby…Not he he’s likely by the sound of him, but best be sorted on all the legal stuff. They will help you get a safety or protection order, you should def file a report with police, you will have evidence of having reported him should he try to find ye or hurt ye. There is loads more the women’s refuge are able to help with…childcare… further education courses so you can better support yourself and your little one etc. Do not delay. Make a plan today and find a women’s refuge immediately for help, support and advice. Go to the police.It’s a big advantage that you have found a place you can move to. Do it now while ye are both still alive. Praying for ye 
ye will be happy. 
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One piece of advice if you do not want to be caught when he has a rage turn the video on just lay phone down you will be recording what he is saying he will never know. Advice from a LEO Mom
Do not tell him your leaving. The best way to leave am abuser is to have a plan, a solid plan with people in position to help you if he comes home early or just shows up, and you leave while he’s gone. Start putting important paperwork he might notice up now… Like you and baby’s birth certificate, any insurance cards, social security cards. You can get it all again but it makes it a lot easier if you have them. You don’t want him to know you’re leaving and you definitely don’t want to tell him. You just leave, ghost him.
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Dont tell him. Find a womans shelter take the essentials and GO. he sounds like not only would he hurt you but your baby too.
dont tell him momma…just GO
No fuck that think about that child leave before he kills that baby and you
LEAVE BEFORE HE KILLS YOU AND OR THE BABY. You dont owe this asshole an explaination.
Do not tell him a thing and get to a safe place with the baby.
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Dont even tell him. For 1, he ain’t on the birth certificate so ur solid on that for take off. 2, he doesnt treat u w respect so why even bother giving him the respect on telling him? If u really want your last words for closure on why u r leaving, then just leave a note and go!
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Dont tell him pack up and leave one day while Hes gone. And go get a protective order
If he doesn’t hurt you he’ll hurt your baby… let that sink in… that should help yourself in making the right decision.
I didn’t even need to read all this to know that you need to leave! This is so toxic! Leave. Go to a shelter. Get safe! RUN
Don’t tell him. Just leave. Do it now and make sure you and baby are safe and do NOT go back or be lured to see him again. This is a safety issue at this point.
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Pack what you can and leave when he’s not home. If he manages to track you down get the police involved and get a restraining order. You need to look out for yourself and baby
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Awful. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Please get yourself & your sweet baby away from that nonsense. No need to give him warning. If you have someplace to go, get some help packing and leave while he’s gone.
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Don’t say anything just pack up and leave while he’s “helping his co worker”. Nothing good will come of it if u stay.
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Do not tell him; pack up when he is at work and don’t tell him where you are going. Buy diapers etc & collect all records beforehand & save money if you can.
So sorry momma praying for you
Please do it dont wait tomorrow. Please you may not get the chance get you and baby out . You never know what he’s following on fb or anything like that. Wishing you safety for you and baby 
If They say they’re gonna kill you, you best believe them and LEAVE.
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There are over 400 women on here supporting you, telling you you can leave. You can do it
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Dont say shit. Take your child and leave. Make it a one day thing while he is at work. This is all abuse. Go now. Give your child and yourself a fighting chance. Go to another state. Peace and Light to you and your child for saftey.
Do not tell him that you were leaving or anyone else. People have a way of telling things they shouldn’t there are shelters for people like you I have gone through it once before 36 years ago that’s why he’s out you just have to take that step
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Just leave! Don’t tell him! You don’t want him to hurt the baby
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Don’t tell him you’re leaving just take your baby and go. And don’t look back.
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You don’t need advice… you need to LEAVE!
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Just Leave when he is at work. You owe it to your baby and yourself!! He is obviously an Asshole!!
Good Luck!!
Dnt tell him leave wen hes out. Pack ur bags, get you and your baby somewer safe!! He WONT ever change!
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Dont say anything just leave. Dont tell him where your staying at either. Block him from everything. He isnt safe. Hes an abuser
Dont tell him, just go, you csn leave him a note explaining why you left but I worry he will do something drastic if you tell him.
Don’t tell him, just leave when he is not there, I am speaking through experience, if he already threatened to hurt you if you leave, chances are if you tell him, you WILL GET HURT.
Just leave and go to someone house that is safe but don’t tell him just good
Don’t tell him pack your stuff and leave block and delete any way he can contact you
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Leave while he isn’t home. Have friends come help you. Get it done sneakily and as quickly as possible while he is gone “helping his coworker fix her car” or wherever and you know he will be gone for a while. Have someone you know who is bigger than him be there with you in case he gets home while you’re still moving stuff. Do NOT stay with this man. He is going to hurt you or your baby and has already told you that.
Don’t say a damn word. Wait for him to leave or say your going to the grocery store n leave.
Just go, girl dont even say anything
Get all your stuff and babies stuff you can and leave. Best time is when he is at work! If you wait and tell him then you risk him hurting you and your baby. My sister waited till her husband was at work (( he was very abusive too )) bc she wanted to avoid a fight and being talked into staying
DO NOT TELL HIM!!! You plan to leave while he is at work or while he is “helping” that coworker.
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Just leave. You’re better than him. Do what you gotta do to protect you and your baby. You got this.
Dont say anything. Take the essentials. You need to get out now!
Just leave… dont tell him. Just up and ghost him…
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I agree with everyone else saying to just leave. Don’t say shit. Pack what u can and need while he’s at work or “fixing some other females car” and gtfo. You cannot hold the weight of him hurting himself. He’s gonna do what he’s gonna do. He’s a grown ass man.
Don’t. Just get out off there and never look back!!!
Do not tell him you’re leaving. While he gone just pack as fast as you can, take the baby and go to someone/somewhere you will be safe away from this asshole.
DO NOT TELL HIM. Just go. Change your number, block him on everything. Disappear. And please for the sake of your baby in the very least, do not contact him once you are safe.
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You don’t need to tell him. If he’s threatening you or your child you need to leave, and telling him would probably make him violent toward you, maybe even the baby. Put a restraining order on him.
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Pack your shit and leave while he is gone!
Don’t tell him. Just leave. Only meet him for the baby in a public place and never alone! I’ve seen this so many times.
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Just leave for your safety and that of your baby.
You don’t have to tell him anything!!!
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Speak with gardam and tell them u want them there when u leaving in case he comes home early
U know what you need to do.
Girl run. Load your shit and go.
Pack y’all shit. And leave when he’s at work. Leave him a note. Don’t NOBODY has to be treated like shit. You have a child to worry about.
Just walk out when he is “helping someone fix their vehicle”. I wouldn’t want him doing anything for my child after the things he has said…you read about people (mostly men) who beat the child to death because they were crying 
. Just get out and don’t look back, I’m thinking he could give a rats ass about you or the baby, he’s just interested in the control he has over you. You did what you had to do to keep your baby safe while you were pregnant and had nowhere to go. Do what is safe for you and your baby now by leaving … especially since you have someplace to go, leave before something tragic happens, your baby has to come first.
When he leaves pack bags and leave to save you and baby because he will hurt both of you just go and don’t look back
Don’t tell him your leaving just go…
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Just go don’t tell. Telling him will trigger him.
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I didn’t even read this whole story. Get out, just get the hell out away any way you can. Get rid of that loser and raise that baby right!!
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Don’t tell him. Wait until he’s at work and leave!! Only take what you need. Get a restraining order immediately. Do not hesitate! Do not tell him a damn thing. Change your phone number. My ex almost killed me… you have a baby he’s threatened over, you need to escape! Have the cops come to protect you while you pack up and leave to be safe.
I wouldn’t tell him. But if you think you must call the police and tell them when you are going to and have them come sit with you while you pack and leave.
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Go seek woman’s shelter. That’s so scary! Don’t tell him anything.
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Dont tell him shit. Make sure its someone you can trust and if you have the evidence of getting a restraining order then do it. Then you get a gun to protect yourzelf with or if you dont like guns go for a self defense class
You don’t tell him. You gather the essentials and leave while he’s gone. Change your number.
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Either leave while he is gone or get a police escort and file an RO. If you fear for your life and/ or your child find a DV center for help. If need be call 2-1-1 for resource help
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Don’t even tell him just pack your stuff & the baby’s and leave girl. He obviously doesn’t care and legit is telling you that he’s cheating.
Do it while hes gone and tell him after get a restraining order if he comes near you then you can have him arrested
Just go don’t tell him anything, he don’t care anyway I’d would have left when he said he will hit you and kill the baby. Let him go to the girl that he fixed her car.
Don’t tell him, just leave. Who cares if he hurts himself? The only way to protect yourself is to not tell him where you are. He sounds like a complete psycho.
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Run! You don’t owe him shit. Pack what you need and leave without a word. He could and probably will hurt you or the baby. Just run.