Don’t tell him, leave when he is not home, get out as fast as you can. Then file for an order of protection for you and baby. Cut all contact with him.
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These ladies are right. Telling him gives him the chance to escalate. When he’s at work, get everything for you and your baby that you can’t live without, and leave. Block his number. Leave an order of protection against him on the kitchen table. Do not tell him where you are going. Get out of there before something terrible happens. You can do it. We are all here to support you. If you’re in Arizona I can come help. Please give us an update once you’re out and safe.
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Don’t tell him you’re leaving, just leave and get somewhere safe, get a PFA, get the cops involved. Make sure your baby is safe
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Dont tell him just go
Honey its not gonna get any better. Sorry for your woe
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Just take the baby and leave one day when he isnt home, leave a note if you feel it’s best, but you have to do what’s best for you and your baby.
Get a PFA against him… and then go. Do whats best for you and your baby before he hurts you both. Just go. As soon as he isnt home, run. And get that PFA for you and your baby asap.
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Just leave when hes not there. U and baby deserve better
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First of all people self-centered like that don’t hurt themselves. Second, don’t tell him you’re leaving. Just go.
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First of all people self-centered like that don’t hurt themselves. Second, don’t tell him you’re leaving. Just go.
Leave file for paternity and let his dumbass live alone.You deserve better ,first you must believe it
Leave and don’t say a thing . He doesn’t deserve an explanation. He deserves nothing
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Do not tell him, that is the time when he can become the most dangerous. Leave while he’s at work. Then cut communication, don’t go anywhere he may know. The best place is a domestic violence shelter. The first couple weeks after you leave are always the most dangerous
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Lets all pray she safely gets out …
Lord …we need you now …
We need. You to give her strength and wisdom to get out of a toxic situation. …
It wont be easy …but with you lord anything is possible…
Amen …
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Dont say shit. Take the baby and leave while he’s gone
Just leave while he is at work. Dont say a thing. He will literally like hurt you and the baby if you say anything. Go to a safe place and then to court for a protection order.
Leave get help in leaving
Don’t tell him, slowly pack yours and the baby’s things without him knowing. And then leave. If he threatened to kill you and the baby when pregnant what makes you think he won’t do it now. He sounds dangerous And you need to get out. Don’t worry about the house anything like that just get what you need and run. If he wants to take you to court for the baby etc make sure you mention that you are scared of him and make sure to mention the threats and why you left. Make sure you have someone with you when you leave, don’t leave alone. Make sure you tell someone where you going and keep in contact with them. I wish the best for you and your lo
Omg leave you’re in danger, just take what your baby n you need , and go directly to seek help, if he’s as bad as you say he’ll look for you n maybe makes his threats come real!!! Leave leave you deserve to be safe with your baby!! He’s a worthless piece of shit never look back take it serious its your chance…good luck!!!
When he is gone, take just what you need, the rest can be replaced. Leave before we read your obituary.
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Don’t tell him you are leaving. When he’s out or at work pack yours and baby’s stuff and leave. If not got time to pack much just up and leave with a few essentials and see if someone else can collect things later or replace. Block him on everything and have no contact at all with him
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Pack your stuff and go. Leave when he isn’t home. That’s toxic for you and your baby.
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You need to leave as soon as possible, get a protective order and don’t say a word pack for you and baby and leave while he is gone. I suggest a woman’s shelter, or domestic violence shelter. They will help with whatever is needed.
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Don’t tell him, just LEAVE. It’s truly that simple and you can do it! You got this, you’re so much stronger than you think!
Just pack up and go. Don’t tell him. Just go.
If you have a safe place to go, just take that sweet baby and leave honey. When he is not home. Do not tell him. Do not give him a chance to escalate the situation and potentially hurt you or the baby. Do not tell him where you are going. Reach out to your local domestic violence center as well, they can offer you advice and help to stay safe. You are strong. You are brave. You deserve better. You got this girl!
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Dont tell him. Leave when hes not home. Get to safe place and call police and file a restraining order
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Dont tell him pack your stuff and vanish. Go ghost.
SAY NOTHING. And leave!
Leave while he is at work. I would honestly still call the police just to be there while you get your things. Just in case if he were to return from work early for any reason. So they are there to make sure he can’t hurt either of you.
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I really hope an admin in this group reports this to the police. This is where the welfare of this poor child is at stake and we need to be advocates and make sure this child doesn’t end up dead because face it 9 times out of 10 of a mother is asking this question she’s not gonna leave and her and that child will end up abused or dead!!!
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Tell him after you leave and have arrived to safety. If he threatened to beat you and kikk the baby while he was in the womb, he just might still do that.
It takes a messed up person mentally to say such things. Get out.
Don’t tell him. Leave. Get a restraining order, if you can. Change your phone number. If he were to suddenly care about you or the baby it would only be to control you. If he takes his own life, that’s his decision. You have no control over him. It’s all a battle for control over you. So you focus on controlling your life and raising your child and maybe someday you’ll meet someone worth being a father. My aunt did that when the man she was married to started bringing other women home. Came to stay with her siblings and never went back. He didn’t come looking for her either. My mother would have straight up killed him if he had, so it was probably for the best. My uncle raised her kids. It all turned out well. There’s hope. Good luck.
No need to tell him anything. Gather your baby, your belongings, and go. Let your mutual friends know not to give him any information about you and your location. NOBODY should have this kind of power over another person. God made men to lead, not to destroy.
Just go don’t tell him anything.and be safe.
File a police report of all the things that he has done to u & also the fact that he has threatened to harm u & the baby. He’s an abuser & I would get the hell out of there quickly and file a restraining order asap !! against him. you’re better off without him (both of you are ) & tell him nothing, he doesnt deserve to know !
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Dont tell him . just take baby and leave. You can call later and tell him once youre SAFE . please please please get you and the baby out of there asap
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Let him kill himself, not your problem. You make sure you and your baby are safe. Dont even tell him youre leaving, just go. Your baby comes first
Wait until he’s at work, pack your stuff and go. He isn’t your responsibility. That baby is.
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It’s easy, you don’t tell him until after you’re gone and somewhere safe. Preferably somewhere he doesn’t know about. Get you and you’re baby out asap, you don’t need that bullshit in your life!
I agree with cheyanne. Have the police come while you collect your things
Domestic abuse will help you and your baby
Don’t tell him. Walk out the door when he’s not there. File a restraining order and ask for a police escort to go if you need to pick up more things later
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Go to the victims crisis center and ask for help they will get you a restraining order just don’t say anything but get the hell out of there ASAP
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When he is working pack that sweet baby and yourself and go. Let him come home to his shit. If it’s a mess, leave it like that. He didnt sign the birth certificate, I cant imagine he signed the recognition of parentage either. Which means he has no rights. In mn even if the father does sign those papers, he still has no rights. So that’s his loss. Dont tell him where you are. Just go girl. So toxic. So dangerous for you and your baby!
Get an order of protection for you and baby.
You can always call the police station ask for a escort when you leave. Explain to the officer that you only want someone there when you leave. You already have things lined up but you can’t leave safely.
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Pack your things and leave. If he’s treating you this way, and threatening y’all’s kid, then he could be the same way with your child being born. As a mother always put your child first.
Wait until he is gone, pack up and leave without a trace
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Call the police to escort you if you really need to tell him otherwise I recommend leaving without so much as a peep, he’s threatened your life and the baby’s life there really shouldn’t be a question and anyone who judges you for keeping your baby away from their abusive father is insane
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Don’t tell him just leave and stay gone .
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U dont need to tell him anything just leave when hes not home and get the fuck out of there before he hurts u or the baby make a police report tell a close friend.And always have a plan and a fone close to u
911 is the number to call that is a direct threat
I’d like to hear a update if she does end up leaving I would like to know if she and baby are safe
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Tell him to fuck off and get a restraining order!! Why would you stay and let your baby be around that?! He’s clearly unstable and could hurt your baby at any moment. You need to leave now! Pack your stuff and go. Yes it’ll be hard and you’re gonna doubt yourself and he’s gonna try to win you back with his smooth talk but get that restraining order and choose that baby over him!!
You need to get out and NOW.
DONT TELL HIM JUST DISAPPEAR!
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Leave when he is at work. Call the police and get an escort and CHANGE your NUMBER. He WILL call and ask you to come back, and finesse you into it and you won’t be able to leave again. Change the number. Go to a shelter or call an old friend. Even if you haven’t spoken in years they WILL help you. GTFO while you and that baby can.
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I wouldn’t even tell him Hun. I would wait till he’s gone for hours back a few things a bag for you and your baby and just leave. No note no nothing because of he can threaten to kill you and the baby, then Hun, I think he can do it… I would tell him where you’re at because that gives him a chance to hunt you and your baby down
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Don’t wait for him to act on this call local pd and show them that message he sent you Prayers for you
When that dog is at work, you get your crap and LEAVE. He doesn’t deserve to know you are planning to leave, nor when you decide to leave. Get yourself and the baby out of that place. Nothing good will ever come if you stay. <3
Hey get a restraining order and get the fuck out. I’ll come get you if I have to. I fear for you and the baby.
In this situation, there doesn’t need to be an explanation given. Pack a bag while he is at work and be gone before he gets home. Act normal. Be smart. Take necessities and then get a police escort for the things left behind.
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You dont have to tell him you’re leaving!! If you’re afraid he’s gonna hurt you or your baby, just leave when hes gone! Dont tell him!
You need to plan this very carefully… this is a dangerous situation. Make sure you 100% have somewhere to go, pack and leave while he’s gone… cut any and all contact with him, change your number, block him, and if you work let them know the situation Incase he tries to come to your place of work. And I would immediately go get a protection order in place the day you leave… anything you can use that shows he is a danger to you and your baby needs to be documented… and do not tell anyone he associates with where you are going.
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File emergency protection order under your and your child’s name, wait till he leaves pack your stuff and leave. DO NOT TELL HIM. I’d also get a gun because it is just a piece of paper but if you’re NOT a gun person, buy pepper spray and a taser.
Dont tell him. Just go. It’ll be better for both of you. He doesnt care about you or your daughter if he’s acting this way. Be strong for your baby. You’ve got this momma, you’re a SURVIVOR.
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Please call 911. They’ll make sure you make it out safely and file a restraining order. If you have ANY evidence of abuse on your body, show the police. They can arrest him on DV charges. If they do, make sure you follow through. Most courts will provide a victims advocate to accompany you to the hearing (personal experience). Hopefully he doesn’t pursue guardianship of your child just to have a reason to harass you and if he doesn’t, leave it be.
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Document his behavior. Keep copies of texts/emails/recorded phone calls. Pictures of any physical abuse or damage to the home while in anger.
Don’t tell him you are leaving. Get your baby and go. TODAY. Call the police and have them escort you to the house for the things you need and find a woman’s shelter if you have to.
You can do this and you and your baby deserve better. Your situation IS bad and even struggling and being “alone”
Would be better than what you’re dealing with.
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Does he know where you would go? Because literally, fuck that whole dude. What is happening with you girl that you want your baby to grow up seeing that and that you’re okay being treated like that? The second old boy told me he’d kill my kid and me It would’ve been all over for him 
Boss up girl you deserve better!!
Honey, pack yours and baby’s stuff and get outta dodge. He’s mentally and verbally abusing you, please Don’t give him the chance to physically harm you. Don’t say anything to him, just leave while he’s gone and never say a word.
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Leave, then tell him you are not coming home. Most people say they are going to hurt themselves to stay.
Think of yourself and your baby…
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This is such a scary situation you will have to most likely get law enforcement to escort you. Go to your local sheriffs office when you are mostly ready to go, give them all this info and tell them you are afraid for you and your child’s life. They will stay with you while you finish packing and should also escort you away to make sure he doesn’t follow. Still try to make it during a time he is not home but one hundred percent I would have a law enforcement officer present
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Dont tell him. Pack up that baby and get the hell outta there asap.
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Leave while hes gone!!!
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Girl you better gtfo before he kills you and your baby.
I HIGHLY advise you leave with your baby while he is at work. Pack early in the morning as you can, go to your local courthouse & file for emergency custody if you think he will fight you for custody & a order of protection for you AND baby (good idea to even if he may not want custody, establish that you are the primary parent & are not safe with him). Best thing is to talk to aides there about the best way to go about this. They can explain laws specific to your state about this situation to ensure he cant come & take your child. Do NOT tell him where you are going & don’t tell him youre even leaving.
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No, Baby girl, you make your plans and just go
Reach out to a women’s shelter possibly. U gotta find a way out. THis is a bad person.
Two words Get Out!!! Prayers sent
Pack a bag and leave while hes at work, girl ive been there and its the most scariest time of your life. I know exactly how you feel. It was the hardest decision ive ever made to leave everything that myself and my daughter owned but a suitcase we shared. I stayed with my daughter in a homeless shelter for battered women for 6 months. It was the best decision I’ve ever made. Its easy for someone who is on the outside looking in to tell you to leave but those who’ve been there first hand know the internal struggle. If you have a place to go…set a date and go. Goodluck to you and your baby! Theres a better life waiting for you just need to get past this bump in the road!
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Um you very obviously don’t tell him anything You just go. Why would you tell him face to face and give him the opportunity to follow through with the physical threats against you an your baby. 
U leave w/o a word or second thought and if he bothers you after get an o.p. he didn’t sign the birth certificate he has no intention of being a father to that child and is obviously has no care or respect for. Sounds extremely dangerous
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Leave when he’s not home and block all contact. Get a restraining order asap
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I wouldn’t even bother telling him. Just leave. He may try to stop you and you might not be able to get out alive.
Don’t tell him anything. Wait for him to leave .
Don’t tell him. Just leave and get a restraining order. Then deal with custody later. It sounds like he might hurt you or the baby. Telling him you’re leaving is not worth it.
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Get your shit and get out when hes at work before your baby or yourself end up dead from him
I wouldn’t tell him anything. Let him come home one day and the two of you be gone. If you are worried about the dogs take them if you can, rehome them or call animal services and tell them your afraid he is going to hurt them. But you and your baby just disappear. You dont owe him any explanation at all. I would also get a protective order to keep him away from you. If his temper is as bad as it sounds your going to need to hide out for a while till he cools off.
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Wait for him to leave and get the hell out of there and dont look back!!
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Don’t say a word to him! Wait till he leaves for work, move out!
Take the baby and leave
Dont tell him just go to a safe place and dont ever go back. You are not safe with him and neither is your baby…good luck
Don’t tell him!!! Leave while he is gone! Start getting the most important things in order - you can act like your getting rid of stuff to clean the house better - act like your your purging things say it dont fit, to old, dont want it etc. & Pack your things & haul butt!!!
boil some grease up. and hit that MF with the pan and grease!!! LEAVE NOW GIRL
He’s a DOUCHE BAG!! NO HE’S WORSE… CAN’T EVEN THINK OF A WORD…
Been there. Leave when he’s not home, Don’t tell anyone where your going. I had a good friend killed by her abusive husband. Please keep this secret, your life can depend on it. You will be ok. God bless You.
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You can call the police. Tell them you are ready to leave but your afraid the boyfriend will hurt you. They will escort you out and to your new place. They can even put an injunction on him amd give you a saftey order. I went through the same thing only i had a 3 year old and almost 1 year old. Its scary but you need to go
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Do it when he’s at work and don’t even tell him. Anon post or not I’ll be keeping you in my prayers and please update us all to let us know you’re okay and the baby too
Go to a shelter asap…you don’t want to involve a friend…these shelters can coach you and give you POSITIVE ways to help yourself…this is what they are good at…dont involve a friend…not good for them…
Call the police when hes at work and get out of there
You dont owe him a explanation. He is toxic. You will endanger yourself and your baby if you tell him. Wait until he’s gone and go. Please. It’s about you and this child. He is abusive and dangerous.
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