What are you trying to say? That she is unruly even after she takes her meds? If that is the case get her into extra curricular activities or she will find her own. Or are you trying to say she doesn’t take her meds? In that case sit her down and ask her why she doesn’t want to take them.
You might want to pick up the book “Healing ADD” be Dr. Daniel Amen. It was very informative in helping me better understand my son’s ADHD.
Don’t Shoot the Dog is a good book to understand behavior mode and why some things work and others don’t. Give every intervention some time. It takes a lot of repetition to change behavior. It also takes a lot of practice to learn new things, especially when constantly distracted. Reduced screen time helps. Physical play helps. Good luck and remember to get professional help. Counseling for both the child and you because if you get overwhelmed and irritable, you can’t help them.
Having had ADHD my whole life (I’m now 37) I can tell you cognitive behavioral therapy along side medication is absolutely Key!
try running to the fence & back also try coffee or tea (No soda) it worked with both my brother & my daughter… check to see if she’s on the right meds too
Has she been tested for food allergies? They can do a blood draw and wheat in particular really changes their personalities… believe me my daughter would be like on hyperdrive and not listening
First of all she needs the right meds. Some are for add and some are for adhd. Vyavase is about the best I’m seen. Then she needs routine, consistency, and understanding so read everything you can on adhd. Finally pray, a lot.
Are you consistent with your rules and consequences. If they know you do more threats then follow throughs then they have you. Most children have something that they love doing or playing with be it electronics or having sleep overs. Find that thing you probably already know what it is. That is what they lose for poor behavior. But make sure you reward the good, remind them how proud they must be of themselves for doing well. Depending on age a chart with an agreement for a reward or special day can help as well. IMO
Routine and structure help kids with adhd not time outs for bad behaviour, you also need to teach them to handle their behaviour effectively, so i say to you start by reading up on this and change your behaviour
I can only relate what worked for me. Cut out all preservatives. Cut out all artificial food coloring. Cut out sugars. Increase physical activity. All helped him focus better.
Programs teach the parent how to use a reward system vs the punishment process. It helped with my kid.
Repeat repeat repeat it’s a hard road.my baby’s gone now but it was constantly repeating till she got it
Lady. Here is your answer. Your child needs deliverance. Those are evil spirits in her flesh.call me. Find me. And i will pray for her.pray is your answer. If you are seriour. Call me. Or get in touch with me. Waiting. Ok
When wanting them to do something give short directions. If your instructions are long winded they will forget the the first part. And let them fidget. It actually helps them focus.
Consistency is KEY.
It will not happen over night. One minute and rule at a time.
Yelling makes it worse.
Visual charts, clear set routine…SAME ROUTINE EVERY DAY DOWN TO 15 MIN SCHEDULE!
correct medication and the correct amount along with good old fashioned parenting, direction and discipline with clear consequences and limits as well as positive reinforcement
Medication changes as kids grow.
All 3 of mine are grown but were ADHD and youngest was also ODD…
A routine…
They need a time and space where they can let loose also…
You want them to be a certain way at school…church…store…eating out…but they are kids and need to be able to let loose too…
I had to avoid red dyes in foods with my kids as they became very ADHD and uncontrollable… Everyone thought i was crazy with mountain dew or coffee at bedtime but it put mine right to sleep… Caffeine helps slow an ADHD persons mind so they can focus… Sugar can do this too… As they got older in school test days my youngest would ask for coffee for school… We actually worked with special education teacher to get these modifications to help her and in turn help the districts testing scores…
She was also in counseling since 4th grade to help with behavior modifications associated with her ODD…
We are going through this with my 7 y/o granddaughter. She has ADHD and ODD. We also suspect she has autism.
I signed up my son in baseball, soccer and Poultry 4 h . Now he is 21 and he physically burns off the hyperness .
Kids with need 1 comment at a time so they dont get overwhelmed. Such as make your bed vs clean your room.
You also have to watch diet as well and certain drinks with different colors
So my youngest has ADHD with serious impulse control issues. Before we moved we had him and his older brother who has ADD in karate with me. They also did wrestling and it helped allot. My youngest is on Vyvanse which helps but we have our bad days. (He was diagnosed in 2nd grade. We tried natural things but it didn’t work well. Had to get meds when he nearly lit the house on fire!) We moved from Washington state to Florida almost two years ago. Still a challenge as we cannot afford karate right now. However, just this year we managed to get fishing gear and go out. My ADHD kid loooooves it. I didn’t think he would as it takes time and you have to do allot of waiting. All he wants to do now is go fishing which is great! That’s helped allot more then anything else. He’s learning and baiting his own hook and picked up casting like a pro.
Meds only go so far. It’s still allot of work on the parents side. I thought I was gonna loose my mind over last school year with keeping him on task with classwork and having to have him send them in through the laptop. Never again…lol.
We have to give him structure but he started having issues with wanting to be on electronics. Xbox, tablet and such. Again it’s more work on us, the parents. Why he does well with being in school because of the structure.
Med wise… she may not be on the right combo of medicine. It took us a while to find the right ones and even then we still need to have things tweaked once in a while. Some meds make kids worse while for others it’s a good match.
Coffee or a mountain dew for my grandson and he does fine without meds
Sometimes a few simple neurotherapy sessions can really help correct the imbalances. We work with a lot of kids struggling with ADD & ADHD and can do remote work. Feel free to message me with any questions www.midwestbiofeedback.com
diet there is a special one my is 54 so I know it works
A good therapist can work wonders. You must have the mindset to advocate for yourself
STUCTURS, ROUTINE, CONSITANT RULES AND CONSEQUENCES. Lots of outside time, a sport or activity that helps them follow team rules.
Let her be a child and play!
Hate me if you want… and i know all you perfect moms will come at me… 
. But there’s nothing wrong with a good old fashioned ass whooping… only on the ass. Bend over, take your swats. You move start all over. It actually works. They grow up with respect. And Love… also grounding them works. When i say grounding. ((I mean grounding…)) To their rooms. With all their fun stuff taken out. Only things left is paper, pens/crayons, books, bed, thats it. Im serious. It works. Worked on my boy’s. And it works on my grands.
Neuropsychologist…can test. Bloodwork can find closer match
Dont want to know the real truth HUH. I told you all what works. But you all still consecrating on meds. I told you prayer and God is your answer.dont believe me.huh. read your bible talk to almighty God he is your answer. God made all of you and you dont believe of trust him. You dont even know him. ADHD is an evil spirit in your flesh.why not just start telling it to leave in jesus name an see what happens.your Doctor cant help you. Try jesus the one who loves you and Died for you. There is HEALING in the name of Jesus.command that demon to come out in jesus name. And watch what happens.then release the power of God into yourself or the child. Talk to God. He s your father and creator God loves me. Say it. Over an over. God loves meee
I heard things like Mountain Dew help
Along with different meds seek out some skills training through a therapist or counselor. It helps so much. They teach them how to express their feelings in a better way, how to explain how they feel, and how to handle different situations. My son had both inattentive and attentive adhd and ODD and skills training really helped him.
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I feel your frustration firsthand!
Are u sure about the adhd. My nephew was told he had it by a few docs and his school. The mees he was on made him a zombie. I would see a diff doc to make sure cause it may be the meds he is on
Sounds like a medicine change might be needed. My kiddo has ADHD, with combined presentation and usually about half way through the day his meds are wearing off and then it’s time for another medicine to help control his impulsive behavior. He also sees a therapist biweekly who helps teach him ways to redirect his energy when it seems to be getting out of his control. Best of luck to you!
Dr.Phil’s web sight might help.Dr. Phil has advised for everything
Instead of punishing her… find out how to work with the ADHD instead of against it.
I’m going thru the same thing but, I don’t want medication…
My Grandson has ADHD, and structure was everything, decreasing environmental stimulation, and a daily plan. We, as a family, worked very hard. He is 28 and follows what he learned as a child and is doing well.
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Chiropractic can give you a new child. Make an appointment for her. Homeopathic is also good. Find one that will treat the whole child. That doctor should spend an hour and a half at first to assess her. Take her off regular medicine, it is not good for her long run. Good luck!
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Nutritional support. Omegas. And behavioral therapy. But not constant scolding. Find something that interests her. And do learning in 15 min increments. Adhd people are often smart and brilliantly articulate. Sticking to one thing is hard for them, so dont require it. Small projects, like one room to vacuum, and then roller skating. As an example.
That sounds like a question for her pediatrician and the neurologist who is following her for her ADHD. Structure and clear boundaries along with consistency is key
You need to play to her interests, and maybe get her into some physical activity.
I raised 4 kids ADHD kids and stepkids, and I too am ADHD. Only one was on medication briefly. I take Ritalin 4 days a week for focus.
I also race bmx.
I found physical activity tires us out and gets us to focus, as long as it’s something we are interested in. If you force us into an activity we don’t like, it won’t work. Wrestling, soccer, football, baseball, physical training, and bmx racing while they were growing up worked well. But I didn’t do them all at the same time, as they lose focus and motivation for it when they get bored with it.
When they can’t do physical activity, play to indoor interests whether it’s art, music, etc.
I found physical punishment such as spanking doesn’t work. It only pisses both them and you off, causes resentment, and verbal and potentially physical aggression. Temporarily Taking away an interest worked better. Grounding works if you’re taking away something physical, but can be a huge stress for you both if you can’t redirect during their time of grounding.
Things like caffeine work opposite in ADHD kids than they do in others. It tends to work much the same as meds in bringing them into focus. However, I only used it with them when I saw they were still off the chain after activity and redirection.
Watch for obsessive issues and addictive behaviors. It’s many times goes hand in hand. We obsess about things for some control, as our thinking can be so out of control. It can be obsessive thoughts, or the need to have something a certain way. If it’s not detrimental, let them have it, and respect it. But don’t let it intrude into your life, or they could start obsessing about these things in your domain too. My oldest boy had drug addiction issues in his late teens. After he joined the military, he had an issue with alcohol. Now it’s gaming and soda. But I see how alcohol will raise its ugly head on occasion and he goes through spurts of heavy drinking. My youngest son had alcohol addiction issues. My stepson is currently fighting alcohol and inhalants addiction, especially after the recent passing of his dad. They all have ADHD. I found my addiction has been with racing. I never had alcohol or drug addiction, and have no desire to start. I have obsessive thinking, and mild OCD behaviors.
ADHD can be very difficult to deal with, but middle ground can be found. Have patience, but don’t let her take over. Boundaries are very important.
Don’t go to Facebook for help. 
All seriousness. Each child is different, and it may be time to speak with a professional. 
Here are some books that may help. I worked with students at a community college that had ADD and ADHD. I found these extremely helpful. Many of my students completed college. Best wishes.
Try a different medicine .
For the sake of your relationship with your child, please try to reframe your reaction to some of the behavioral manifestations of ADHD. For example, change “she doesn’t listen” to “she has a hard time processing the directions we give her”. In this way you can focus on helping her problem-solve rather than punishing her for being neurodivergent. This will not only help you find solutions for her but improve your relationship.
Try to look at it as a learning difference not a disability. Please remember ADHD does not affect intelligence. Pick your battles. Meet with the school to get an IEP in place. She is not being disobedient (most of the time) her brain works differently. Your attitude can make a world of difference to this child. Will she enter the adult world feeling strong, supported and capable or never good enough? That is on you, the adult who decided to enter this relationship. Please reach beyond the frustration and oh boy I know it’s frustrating! She is worthy.