As someone with ADHD, I can confidently tell you that medication won’t solve her problems. She needs to work through her issues and develop healthy coping strategies. Therapy may or may not help.
ADHD is a vitamin deficiency. Specifically MAGNESIUM. Get her on vitamins and a magnesium supplement instead. Unfortunately, most of the food now days have very little vitamins and minerals in them.
She needs in home therapy. And work with a behavior specialist who will also help you. My daughter has ADHD and everything is a struggle. Schedule is very important a very strict schedule. They need know what coming and what is expected. My daughter acts out alot with new things you need to let them know what is expected of them. But definitely you and her mother have to be on the same page with everything!
Good luck 
hardest shit in the world to deal with! Only advice I can give is consistency and routine and no sugar
Change her diet. Cut out junk food . artificial dyes and sweeteners. More outside play
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ADHD is a tough condition to have as a kid. It’s hard to concentrate, you always feel the need to fidget, you have a messy room, everything you do annoys almost everyone around you. First off you have to remember that this is harder on her than it is on you. Second you have to realize that medication is not always a magical cure on its own. It helps you cope, but it doesn’t take away every symptom. Therapy is a large part of living with ADHD. The meds help you maintain enough focus to implement tools you learn in therapy.
Get her into an active sport she may like or other activity where she has to use her body like dance. Give her activities that stimulate her brain too.
Maybe check with a Dr thst knows more about it instead of punishing her for things out of her control? How would you like to be punished for a medical issue you can’t control?
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There’s a book called 123 magic… Works wonders but everyone has to stick to it. I had to lay down the law when it came to my child, even threaten to not let him go certain places if they weren’t going to play by my rules. It was for his best interest!!!
Legos and puzzles are what help my son. It gets him to sit and stay focus for a while because it keeps the brain thinking.
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If meds she is on aren’t helping time to try something new. Routine is important. No sugary foods or drinks. Limit anything with red dye. Behavioral therapy. Take things away she loves, make her write sentences. Be consistent. Yes that is hard. But if you put her in timeout and she gets up no eye contact no talking take her and out her back. Now this could take hours. It’s hard work. You got this mama.
How old is she? Routine is a huge necessity for ADHD kiddos, we also did behavior modification therapy and counseling for a couple years, along with medication. By doing the counseling/behavior modification, we found out a lot of ADHD kiddos usually have anxiety or depression too, we had to adjust his medication to include that. He is now on medication alone and is doing well. I suggest getting with a psychiatrist first to see what the needs of your kiddo are and if medication is needed or not. I’m sorry to ramble but just offering suggestions. Just remember, ADHD is not something you can medicate, wish, or cure away but it definitely can be managed. Hang in there! Message me if you’d like, it’s tough being a momma sometimes 
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I’ve never directly dealt with this but I recently watched this clip from Super Nanny which I feel might help in this situation, the domino block exercise at the end seems very helpful
ADHD Parent Support (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)
Parents of children with O.D.D/ADHD/ADD/ANXIETY/OCD
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Put them in a schedule
Adhd is hardly ever just adhd. But I find sticking to q schedule works and being consistent. If you say 20 more min. Of Tablet then you have to do your chores then no more than 20 min of tablet then chores. I have to set timers all the time to hold myself accountable.
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Deff need a therapist involved, Pronto, the meds may need to be changed. The way you discipline may also need to be altered. The child may also have odd, an opposition to authority. Meaning sterness / strictness will not work.
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Adhd kids need more time outdoors and need more outlet of their energy. I know from personal experience. Our focus is sooooo much better when we can get what I call the fidgets out.
The meds make you feel different. Im not a huge advocate for meds everyday but just as needed.
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First, I think it’s amazing that step-mom and bio-mom are working together. You don’t see much of that these days. Kudos to you both!
With that said, I’ve found that having my son engaged in something has helped with his ADHD. His pediatrician put him on medication and it worked, but it turned him into a zombie. He wouldn’t eat, all he wanted to do was sleep. He would sit there and just stare off. We tried different doses and different medicines and nothing worked. He seems to have it under control when he is focused on something. Sometimes it’s Legos or video games, sometimes it’s sports. With ADHD, their minds are racing almost always, that’s what makes them seem like they’re driven by a motor, can’t sit still, can’t focus. We tried different things, and found that they can focus and they can concentrate when it’s something they want… like my sons video games or football. He still talks a million miles a minute sometimes and kinda fidgets when he’s not focused, but looking forward to something he wants/enjoys, had helped. Like with school. Pandemic aside, he was having trouble focusing. We explained that if he wanted to play football this fall, he needed good grades, not only for us or for himself, but the coach requires good grades to play. I suggest finding something she enjoys and helping her engage in that. It will help direct all of that energy and focus. Keeping a consistent schedule helps also. It will take some time and a lot of trial and error to find out what works, because every child is different. Good luck!
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Need to be hands on and keep the girl busy with activities as much as possible. I had to get my daughter out of the house as much as I could even if I was dog tired. Consistency. Routine. Hands on. Too many toys and games can be over stimulating. Less is more. Take away things she cares about when she is being naughty. Encourage positive behavior and reward it. Their brains work so much more different.
Behavioral Health, a solid schedule that is lived by in both households to the best of y’all’s ability, and ensuring a good diet. M son has ADHD among a few other issues. He’s non stop and moody as can be. Lashes out and tantrums. The whole nine yards. But with the therapist, schedule, and better diet he has gotten way way better.
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Get her in sports or extra chores. She needs to get physical and sweat to help with some of the hyper activity
Omg it’s so so tough…my son is 16 and we just now took him off meds and are trying the holistic approach and damn what a turn around…attitude 180, listens, helps around the house is enjoying his food and siblings and is learning to control it on his own not saying we dont have bad days but the good ones far outweigh the bad lately
Mine listens… give her small tasks that she can follow to keep her focused
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If you don’t have a behavioral therapist get one. I’ve found they are better at getting the right prescription for your needs and recommendations/referrals to other therapies that will help.
Pick your battles. Otherwise you’ll lose your mind. If she is straight up not listening/ignoring you, that is not adhd. That’s just obstinance and defiance. Could be the age but you’ll have to fond her currency and take it away when she doesn’t listen/mind. If she’s just not completing all tasks given to her, try giving her one task at a time. Once finished move on to another. When it comes to cleaning an entire room. Tell her to pick up all the such and such first. Once completed move on to picking up something else. Then dust. Then vacuum. So on and so on. Write a list and have them follow it in order if needed. If you overload someone with adhd, especially a child, with too many tasks at once they’ll just get lost in thought and lose sight of what they’re supposed to be doing. Hope this helps some. Good luck and hang in there. It does get better.
My 3 year old Autistic daughter also has ADHD. Let’s just say we are NOT ok! 
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What age is the child? Have you had her tested for other diagnosis’, like autism, ODD, anxiety, etc. I’ve had ADHD my whole life, but I listened. Is she outright not listening, or is she listening, but not following directions? If it’s the later, she may need a different medication. If she seems to be ignoring you, she could have one of the “conditions” I listed. It may be that she truest does not hear you. With ADHD people you have to make sure you have their attention. I’m 44 & quite often I can be looking right at someone when they talk to me & don’t hear a word they say. They have to make sure try EYS have my attention.
Routine and a way for energy release
Speak to the Dr and try diff meds until one works, or maybe a different dose. Consistency is key! Counseling helps! We were told show them photos of what a clean room should look like and tell them you want it to look like that, rather than clean your room. Just an example. Letting them know in 5 minutes we are leaving so finish up your game etc.
Check out neurodivergent narwhals. Great resource. Find actually autistic and ADHD spaces. They have some amazing tips (even on Tik Tok). Visual aids can be helpful. Heavy sensory work, accommodations, and lots of fun, one on one time.
You can’t punish the neurodivergence out of someone. They tried for years in institutions with shock therapy and other torture methods. I promise that harsher punishment won’t be effective.
Also check out Lady bug girls and parenting autistic children with a PDA profile (from neuro-affirmative resources). There are a lot of great strategies.
Co- regulation is a valuable tool that works wonders no matter what your child’s neurotype is.
Do you have any fish oil capsules give them to her. I found out when my brother was diagnosed he was allergic to red food dye
I find my kids focus better when I feed them lots of fats. Think eggs and bacon, ham or sausage for breakfast. A cheese sandwich with Mayo and avocado for lunch, etc.
Organic, free-range and gluten-free meals when possible. Lots of fruits and veggies, too…think smoothies (without adding juice and sugar) so berries, bananas, avocado, spinach, yogurt and water or milk of your choice.
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Stricter schedules helped with my son. Finding a time out he didn’t like. Corner when he was younger. Now we find things like. If he’s not listening I will make him go jump on the trampoline for ten minutes. Sit in a chair by itself. My son was on meds and they helped but he was a totally different kid.
I had to learn alot of patience
Shower them with Love and Patience And hope for the best
Seek therapy and counseling
I found discipline made things worse and spiral. I choose Behaviour Therapy and meds temporarily. My daughter has ADHD. She was just like that around Grade 1/2. Behavioural Therapy was great, it help me learn and her to learn to cope with ADHD. She is now 13 years old and you wouldn’t know she has ADHD, and no meds now for few years. She is back into behavioural therapy currently to learn to cope with emotions in healthy way. Joys of Pms.
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seek professional assistance instead of social media- HUGE step forward . And " hope for the best " is EXACTLY why you should be speaking to a professional. Great call Martha.
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Sorry if this has been said already but there are many different meds and it can take trial and error to find what works best for your kiddo. A good doc will understand and help you thru it. Its feels tough to change things, but worth it to see your kid happy and enjoying school, and usually behaving better once they feel better.
Adhd you need more research the man her founded ADHD before he did came clean no such things they are m asking billions on this and ruining lives the medicine messes with your head i would get a holistic Dr pull her off meds and punish her poor behavior and reward good I do not know age so I cannot go further do not trust all drs also did you know that long term effect on alot of these drugs have never been done they will say there is studies chk them out it will piss you off
My son was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD at 9. I wasn’t to fond of medication so we opted for a home behavioral therapist and keeping him active. He wrestled and played baseball so he stayed active. There were some rough times when his diagnosis got the best of him but we kept going. Now he’s 17 and has learned how to control himself and is an amazing young man. He learned over the years that drawing and physical activity helps him so much.
Sometimes the biggest and first allergy is cows milk… it can cause brain swelling. Goats milk is easier to digest.
Make checklists! Having a visual reminder helps a lot. Talk to her doctor to get tips on how to help her in particular and get good habits started and in place.
My 11 yr old has adhd keeping her hands and mind busy help , we make sure she does something to release all of her energy as well as daily reminders and task lists to help her organize what is expected of her .
She doesn’t currently take any medication because she doesn’t like the way they make her feel or the side effects of them which is fine as long as she’s able to cope in school we don’t need her dulled down at home
Find her currency & use it for rewards for listening. We have ADHD, ASD, ID children & they are all different & respond differently
Behavior modification can help when they are young. Praise for when they do things you ask them to without arguing. So far as not listening, lists can help. Write down what they need to do and then check off the box as each item is completed. Then give positive reinforcement as things get done. Focus on what they complete and not so much on what they miss.
Teach them how to approach problems with tools they can use for life.
Does she see a therapist and do you see one or a specialist in kids with ADHD? They can teach parenting skills that work better for nuro divergent brains.
A scedual and check lists help.
Each chore can be broken down into steps and a check marks allows them to see work accomplished and what’s left to do.
There is alot to ADHD so do lots of research . This may help in seeing what else is part of ADHD and use those key words I’m looking for info on how to help.
Why isn’t dad involved?
If he is taking a hands off approach to her ADHD that could actually be a HUGE contributing factor to her behavior
She could be acting out trying to get his attention
Dealing with this with my son. Hes 8 and also on medication. If you find the secret, let me know!
Talk to the Dr. Who prescribed her medicine. My son was diagnosed less then a year ago and his meds are still being changed changed adjusted.
My son is on a strict routine and goes to therapy and both seem to help… trying to understand how they’re feeling and talking is also another thing that seems to help not sure how old she is but my son is a preteen
As with my granddaughter, the medication may not be the right one for her. When my son was young the medication worked the reverse in his system.
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My son has SEVER ADHD and sees a counselor twice a month and media check once a month… its helped him SO MUCH to be able to talk to someone NOT me or my family. I found that after that and having his meds changed (it took a GOOD year to get a good medication!) Think about it like this: your kid is growing up, her hormones change and so do her meds
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A routine is the best way to go. More importantly, if medications and therapy aren’t sorting the issue out, you may need to push for more testing. ADHD can often be misdiagnosed in place of high functioning aspergers/autism. We are encountering the same thing with our daughter. Best of luck to you.
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Are you sure the meds are the right ones? We had to go through a few before we found what worked best. Activities and being consistent also important. It sounds like a small thing but when talking to them making sure they are looking at you and having them repeat what you said helps in following directions. All the distractions internal and external are so hard for these kids. I also agree about limiting their sugar intake. I could always see difference in my son when he had sugar. I wish you well. My son is now in his thirties and it does get better as they grow and learn their own coping skills.
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My son was on med for this it was in the 80’s . I for one didn’t want to give him meds! Coffee was the answer for me! He loved it and it worked opposite on him. So really nothing changed except he drank coffee and yes back when we could spank a child no means No and he dang well knew it! Most kids will push anyone to the limit. This see a counselor isn’t going to help believe me.
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Please ask your dr to look at the meds. It doesn’t sound like they are the right ones for her. Also, ADHD and Anxiety are often confused!!
My nephew has been treated for ADHD for several years, many meds making his behavior worse his Dr has now decided to treat him for anxiety and 360 degree difference
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Try to praise her for good things she does. Punishment really doesn’t help much. Watch for stimulus overload . Too much noise or crowds. I could tell in the morning if my son was going to have a outburst that day. If he got too wound up I would take him to the park running track and let him run around and around til he wore himself down.
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Hard to respond if we don’t know how old she is. Age 4 is different than 14 in terms of how to handle it.
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I’m studying to become a naturopath. Learning about the human body and how it works is truly amazing! Everyone is unique and what works for one may not work for another. Medicine is absolutely important but a good look into nutrition and supplements if required can truly have amazing outcomes 
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My son was diagnosed as hyperactive at age 2 and by the time he started kindergarten he had the ADHD diagnosis. One thing my doctor told me was choose my battles. If he can’t get hurt doing it, ignore it. (For example picking his nose) If he is endangering himself or others, put a stop to it. (Playing in the street) I also learned to count to calm my voice before correcting him. No one wants a parent that always yells at them. Save yelling for serious situations because it will catch their attention. Monitor diet to see when activity is best or worse. Keep records to show doctor. Regime is important so they know what to expect next. Simple instructions and “to do” lists. I had one son that I gave medication to year-round. One son only needed it for school. And remember, the child isn’t choosing to act this way. It is part of them. Be their cheerleader.
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Not that it makes a difference how old is she ?
My son had it he now is ADD he’s 33 but he was diagnosed in the 3rd grade he could not have sugar we gave him coffee( black no sugar or sweet in it) it works just opposite with kids with ADHD and the doctor said peanut butter and he played outside we did not give him electronics remind him watch TV for a long time ( winter) makes it worse but back then they really didn’t have a lot of medication so every child is different definitely talk to your pediatrician/ Dr ! His doctor said kids with ADHD and ADD need to keep themself busy so we got him in sports and so he can run all of his energy out that helped tremendously if she’s old enough to do sports try sports( soccer n swimming n played outside) he was very active but like I said it was way back in years ago today they have medication to help and to control good luck
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My son has severe ADHD…we had to completely take electronics away. No screen time except a little TV. It has changed our life drastically. Hard for the first week or two but we had put all our energy into building LEGOs, dojng puzzles and trying to just stay busy with being outside or walking. Try the electronics, it’s amazing the difference
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Get her off the meds, keep her busy and this too will pass. Drugs aren’t meant to make parenting easier, its meant to enhance their life.
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Take her off sugar and food additives. Healthy eating is essential. Do lots of puzzles and legos. Outside riding bikes, swimming, scooter, jui jitsu, walking running. List to follow bedtime, getting up time, getting dressed, bath time, meal time make a schedule in other words.
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With my son nothing worked except vyvance. And we had to try to remember that if he felt like things were his idea and or that he was really helping me out with something he was as good as gold… may have to continually remind him of what he’s doing but in conjunction with the meds it made life tolerable. We also supplemented with coffee or 5 he energy drinks.
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Honestly CBD has worked for us. I could never get our daughter to calm down and go to bed. A small dose of CBD was a game changer. It calms down the overactive neurons in the brain. Not getting enough sleep can really affect behavior. Also help her find things that interest her to release that energy and help her produce dopamine naturally.
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Take her outside let her run her energy off my son also has ADHD AND HE IS MED FREE when he told me he don’t want to take meds we changed stuff his activities oh and also give her a Mt. Dew in the morning it helps alot
My daughter has AdHD has since she was 3 years old she’s 23 now! Sounds like she needs her medicine changed or up the dose
Better meds! Whatever she is on is not working effectively for her. She either needs a higher dose or different meds
Take her to a Developmental Pediatrician; she needs an assessment so they can work with her.
Punishing behavior cause by adhd doesn’t work. Figuring out what is actual “bad behavior” and adhd behavior can be tough.
Set a routine and schedule. Include expectations (for example - school work will be done even if it’s late and you cannot receive credit for it). Sleep and decent nutrition and exercise/sports.
My son is being diagnosed for ADHD I totally understand your concerns, all they do is rebel. Only way he calms down is when he either has his tablet (which I try to limit for no longer than 30 mins a day) other than that it’s playing with blocks or else whenever he has a tantrum he cries it out.
Could be the wronr meds.my greatgrandson has adhd .and his meds are working.its so nice not to see him suffer.and they do suffer cause they cant help it.
Perhaps an increase in the dosage. As my grandson gained weight his med needed an increase. Keep in mind when the meds wear off her adhd is no longer as controlled. Patience, find her feel good phrase of action. Praise works for some, hugs work for others and some need hugs and words of praise. Best of luck. It is a difficult time task raising ADHD children. Find what works best and both home stick to it.
The key with our son was providing advance notice of everything and then counting down…15 min notice, then 10 then 5. Structure really helped. Finding the right meds were key. He did better on the gradual release for a day vs the build up over time. If I needed him to do something I would bet him he couldn’t do it before I sang take me out to the ballpark. We had a marble jar for good behavior. Marble added for positive behavior. Once reached so many marbles we went to the dollar store and he could pick something out. Worked wonders. By high school he no longer needed the meds and could control himself. I found patience really is a virtue!
My daughter was on meds and coffee in the morning worked well. Structured activities, routines. She tumbled for years,and it was very helpful to focus and learn. She is a wonderful woman I am proud of.
Are you sure its adhd… Sometimes it can be a bipolar disorder… Watch the movie" no letting go" on Netflex … I saw all the things my son was trying to make me see how he felt… See it maybe this is actually what could be happening… God bless… Sending 
your way
My 9 year old has adhd and odd now they believe it’s a type of autism that got missed it sucks trying to figure out what meds and actions to take
As a fellow parent of a child with ADHD I can honestly say time outs don’t work for us. We use a pom pom system. If you do what is asked or are kind, etc you get a pom pom (extra if you do a bigger chore that is not your usual chore), arguing, not listening etc…you loose a pom pom. They get to cash in pom poms for small rewards like a lollipop, whoopee cushion, bath bombs etc. We keep a basket of rewards. It works great. We also have a star chart for getting ready in the morning and evening. Ours has pictures and words since she can’t yet read. You may also consider OT or possibly a different medication. Hugs momma!
My grandson has it and they have had a very hard time with him. He’s 15 now and seems to be better, but sometimes it’s very trying for them. I have no advise. They have tried everything–therapist, ect. And prayer. Good luck.
Caffeine could make a big difference! And even with medication ADHD is still hard to get a handle on. Most kids do grow out of some of it. But they will almost always have tendencies
Try positive reinforcements. Reward her when she does things right. Instead of constant punishments. Like say $1 for good behavior. Whatever motivates her.
She may have. ODD. Look it up. They tend to be very stubborn and impulsive.
Ok my son is now 40. He was 2lb4oz 12 in long when born .and has ADHD i found that when ever he got upset or could not slow down and control himself i would tackel him and start tickel him and ressel him around intell he forgot to be mad .sometimes he would pee his pants and i would let him tickel me
I’m sorry you’re having to go through that my son was ADHD and actually I think I started pulling my hair out when he was about two. When he was slightly older he was on medication he did got better when he went to Head start and was with other kids and it was just very difficult my son as he got older he outgrew it which was great but by time he was older and he wasn’t listening to me we went through counseling programs and ended up going through the court system wanted juvenile detention a few times. But the order he kept getting the better he got and he outgrew it and I’m proud of the way he is now and who he is
Routine, structure and consistency is key to ADHD management in kids and adults. I agree with getting her involved with sports or some sort of creative outlet for her active brain. Keep her brain busy, and her behavior will likely be better. Also a good idea to limit sugar caffeine and highly processed foods. She’ll feel better
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karate work with my son. They taught him how to channel his energy and emotions. He earned a black belt and was working on his 2nd degree black belt we
Just because she’s on medication doesn’t meN it’s the right med. maybe need dosage adjustment or different medication all together. Explain to her doctor how her behaviors are and be as detailed as possible.
The same way you parent any other child. Boundaries are set in stone. Every action has consequences, good or bad. Patience and love but do not bargain with terrorists.
Teach her to do something that she will like so that she has a place to direct her energy, maybe a little garden that’s all hers? Maybe ask her to think up something safe and that she will enjoy? I can’t sit still, never could and as a child I always got in trouble, when my kids were small same thing until I got some ideas from someone and the one thing that worked with them was getting a big roll of paper and taping it to the wall that way they got to color and draw whenever they wanted to and most of all they didn’t get in trouble and I didn’t have to give them pills, as they got older I thought them how to cook and do other things!
Punishment does not work for neurodivergent children when it’s a symptom of something bigger. I can tell you that she wants to listen, she literally can’t. Find the things she really likes, because it’s easier to pay attention to something you like, and incorporate it with what she needs to listen to.
When you have adhd you dwell on only the thing s that internet you. If people force you do what you don’t like you will act out. Its made me a loner somewhat. I don’t try to compete with others. If im better than average im happy
Meds didn’t work for us. Our team for our son consists of an OT, brillia supplement, chiropractor, bionosity, and we did some behavioral therapy. Also added sport and music. Team approach is key.
Depending on age, sports and activities work well. If she is a techy try apps that are geared at educational topics. My son is ADHD and aside from his meds he loves swimming and gaming. He also likes science and insects. The mind of an ADHD person is very fast and its imperative to find subjects and interests to help with their curiosity. Good luck and I’m happy that you and mom are working together. It takes a village
Start with one step directions. Instead of go clean your room try take your dirty clothes to the laundry room. Do 10 problems in math instead of do your homework. ADHD. Is like the the bugs and the snakes in the pond. The bugs jump all day never going anywhere and the snake wiggled but gets to the other side. You need to see the snake not the bugs
I’m a nurse with twin boys with adhd. You have to find the right drug then right dose…when you find that sweet spot as I call it…life starts to calm down. It might take you months to find the perfect one but you will. Keep on the Dr’s if you don’t think a certain med or dose works. You are her advocate.
Stop punishing her for something she does Not have control over. Guide her through those moments so she can learn how to do it herself one day. It’s real, I know bc my middle child has it. He is 30 years old now but in the beginning it real. I’m not saying never punish or redirect but know the symptoms of her actions so you can tell the difference.
My nephew has adhd . and the meds didn’t help
I have adhd what helped for me is finding something I liked doing and that would help me focus
My grandson has ADHD. The Dr as well as us didn’t want him on meds. After awhile the Dr put him on clonidine. Yes it’s for blood pressure but used for other things. Once it runs it’s course it leaves the body. It doesn’t mess with his BP at all. He takes 0.01 mg at night to help him sleep. If not he sleeps about 3 hours. Then during the day he takes half of that. It has done wonders with him calming down and focusing more. He will be 6 in the fall. His teacher can tell the difference as well. His speech teacher says he focuses a lot more. The key with him is a strict schedule. He takes his meds at the same time everyday. He’s in bed at the same time. He has just started playing games on the phone and game system. He has a time limit. He really has learned to focus at playing the games. He has a huge imagination when playing, which in my opinion I believe children should be playing and develop an imagination. He does best when outside and using his hands to build, climb, ride bikes, use his hoverboard and so on. Its not always possible to be outside. So he plays army, with his cars, something to keep in quite. He also knows when we say no it’s no. I don’t treat him any different that the other boys. Yes their brains think differently, and he’s highly intelligent, but don’t let him use it as a crutch for excuses. He has a huge heart, but has discipline. He has to take timeout just to calm down then may continue playing. Rash child is different and should be treated accordingly to their needs. If one thing is not working refocus them to something else. When you find the one thing that they love keep it as back up and tell them we’re going to take a time out to work on this, whatever this is, ours is him going in his room by himself and playing hot wheels. He will let us know he wants to be by himself. He loves to cook. Our next adventure is karate. We had to wait on his age. That was a game changer with my son.
My daughter has ADHD, so many days I wanted to run for the hills. Her teacher took me aside and suggested i start giveing my daughter about 4 oz. of diet Mountain Dew with her pills. She got another 4 oz. at lunch and then again with dinner. Made a world of difference. Better focus. Less mischief. Many more calmer minutes. Just a suggestion.