Naptime. Same time, every day. Start a routine for naps, toothbrushing, and bedtime(at least a half hour to put on pjs, brush teeth, use the toilet, and read a book) or youāll have a harder time with 3 kids. Use that extra time to plan out activities for your son. Put your 10 month old down more. You need to teach your baby that they can play solo, or with the brother. Have a music time, learning time, and get your children involved with each other. Take more time to hold your son too. Explain to him you love him the same. Set consequences for bad behaviour.
Make sure your son and your 10 month old learns what cleaning is. My baby loved washing tables with a baby wipe, picking stuff off the floor (she never ate stuff on the floor because I taught her to hand it to me), & she takes pride in putting her toys away (āAll clean!ā "Good job!").
Pretty soon your 10 month old will get into everything too. Put things on shelves or the top of the fridge. If thereās something they keep getting into, tell them youāll take it away if they donāt stop. Baby proof your cabinets. If your child is restless consider they are tired, hungry, need the bathroom, or need a distraction because they are bored.
Use a folder to keep track of your ābusy activitiesā. Keep it handy. Keep a bin of āboredom goodiesā that you can give to your son when he needs something new to entertain him. Buy a kitchen timer. Give him 5 minutes to go crazy, run around the room or yard, and get out his excess energy. Heāll love it. You can also use the timer for quiet time. You can call it āmommy timeā & turn it into a whisper game. When the timer is up give them big hugs and thank them for giving mommy time to clear her head.
Put your baby in a bouncer near the kitchen too and ask your son to help you cook. Heāll enjoy the time you spend together and will love pulling all the ingredients out for you & measuring things. Itāll keep him out of things you donāt want him to and youāll be able to keep an eye on both of them while things get done.
When you need to use the bathroom, ask your son to sit outside the door and sing to you. Tell him it helps you go potty faster. If you donāt hear him, say loudly in a sing-song tone: āIā¦ Cantā¦ Hearā¦ Youā¦!ā Heāll come running back.
I hope these tips help some. Good luck!