I raised 3 mostly on my own. I look back, don’t know how I did it, but I did it. Hard as hell…but I did it. You will pull strength from places you never thought you had. Good luck, be patient with your choices and with life.
I was in the same situation 21 years ago. It was hard. 3 kids. You have to be strong. Do you have family & friends supporting you.
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The comments on this are absolutely disgusting. I hope y’all don’t point with the same hands you eat with. Nobody knows this girls life, she didn’t ask to be judged she asked for advice
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What I always say… “If you going to do big girl activities, you’ll have take big girl responsibilty when shit hits the fan”
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First of all you’re a rock star…own that stuff! It will be hard… all the good things in life is never easy. Make sure you have a good support system. And as for the kids change is never easy but they’ll get thru it and gain another best friend for life. Make time for yourself and make time for them. Take advantage during the pregnancy to spend time with them as best you can. Do your best that’s all you can do.
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It’s gonna take more energy, money, food, time, and love. If you can handle that, you’ll be fine.
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It’s hard, but so much fun and so worth it! I had my second baby I had nexplanon as my BC and it was the best thing that happened to me!
Do whatever you need to do to protect your current family and yourself… its your decision…
3 kids here and rocking it! Own my own house, work ft and working towards my masters degree. You can do anything you put your mind to. Hang in there. It’s not easy, but if you don’t give up, you’ll be a hero for those kiddos 
I’m a single mother of 6. It’s hard but the best job in the world! Just take it a day at a time.
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Where is the baby daddy. He should really stop up. Kids need both parents even if they’re not together. As long as hes not a dead beat piece of shit.
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At first it’s going to be hard. You stick to a schedule and work hard. Find your tribe and they will help you. I have been there. Now my older two are grown and on their own. My youngest is in middle school now. Lots of work and faith goes into it. You can do it!
People speaking about this womans unborn baby like they are something to look down on shame on you. You may fool yourselves saying it is the mother you are slating but that innocent baby has not even began life yet and they are in the firing line of your snide hate .the woman asked for advice not moral judging from the fb court of hypocrites.
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Prayers to you girl, you’ll do fine, one day at a time,
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I have three and my ex is involved but does very little, it is all on me. It is hard but I have family and he will do things if I ask for help. My girls are teens now and they understand so it gets easy in some ways but harder in others. I think being a parent is a tough job no matter what. I wouldn’t change a thing honestly. It’s been so worth it. Best of luck.
Ok this group needs to change its name or something
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I am sorry that is happening to you but this is not the place b for those questions
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I had a 10 yrs old and a 6 yrs old and then had another child . I married the child’s father just before she was born and he moved in with us but he upped and left when she was nearly 2 . I brought the 3 up on my own . I was lucky enough to work as my mum lived very near , but I was only allowed to keep £12.00 of my earnings but I worked because I didn’t want to claim benefits . I had to claim for my rent as I said I could only keep £12.00 of my earnings in those days (1986. ) I basically worked for nothing because I had to pay to get to work and we had to wear proper leather closed in shoes and tights, so i actually lost money by working but I had a job and I was pleased with that .
Good luck and I am sure you will manage just like I did . If you choose not to keep the baby , then that’s your decision and one only you can make . I wish you the best of luck which ever road you take . My youngest daughter is now 35 and is a teacher , with 2 children of her own. Xx💝
If you know that it’s going to be hard on you and you cannot handle it, you can choose to terminate the pregnancy. People are so quick to judge, but it’s not about them, it’s about YOU. The choice is YOURS. If you decide to keep this baby because of other people’s opinions, then you must be prepared to handle whatever comes with that decision. So think long and hard about your situation.
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My dad brothers were 19 and 14 and would have helped my grandparents who were 50 and 46 when my dad was born. Sometimes older children offer some support. It’s your choice. Do what you feel is right. I would feel like you if I was in your situation.
Well, you have 2 so you already know how tough it is. I’m not sure what advise your asking for. Pregnancy is always a possibility when sleeping with someone. Only thing you can do now is make the best out of the situation you’ve created. Do what’s best for the littles and if you weren’t on birth control, make sure you are taking proper precautions in the future if you choose to sleep with people.
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It will be hard and you will sacrifice so much with little appreciation towards you. In the end you’ll look back at your life and say, it was all worth it! Sending love and light your way!
#Mother_Of_Five 
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Should have thought bout that before you got pregnant again. Learn from your mistakes . Don’t just keep making more.
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Do you have a good support system? Is the father aware that you’re pregnant? I’m not much help but I hope it works out and congrats on the new baby.
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Wow so many judgemental women… Not surprised women are very judgy 
. OP the only advice I have is the relationships will change if you allow them too and its only going to be hard if you allow it to be hard. I was a single mom to 4 kids after I divorced my ex husband and it had its moments. It was all about schedules, spending time with all of them and them one on one still. Life is what you make it to be. There are some amazing parenting classes, supernanny is amazing (no really she is). Yes a new addition is coming soon but nothing needs to change. When I say its only hard if you allow it to be I mean it, no parenting isnt easy but it is being strong for your kids and having the strength is what makes it less harder. I have 2 pre teens n 2 younger ones and they are open with me. Just be the best parent you can be n make time for all 3 kiddos. One day you will look back and say it wasnt hard
I can’t have kids and pray for them so I’d imagine being unprepared/not planning one you end up with is equally daunting , think back to the 1st and 2nd I bet you were just as freaked out maybe just in different ways?, You did it though and you can again the ones you have now will grow so fast and time will fly with a newborn , you will get more love and give it and so will your other kids. Try not toe scared you’ve managed with two you will with three one step at a time IF that is what you decide but do not let society tell you what to do follow your heart, the fact it is fear shaking you up not lack of wanting the baby says a lot and that you never mentioned not wanting or keeping the baby so I think you already know deep down you’re having the baby it is ok to be scared but you can do this a fear is only as scary as you allow it to be don’t let it live rent free in you x
Judging by some of the nasty comments some clearly don’t have a clue what sleepless nights and how hard having children are. I have 23 months between mine oldest now 17 and autistic and i struggled with him. My youngest son is 15 and didn’t sleep until 2. That’s was hard.
I’m confused about your post. I’m a mom of 4, have been a single mom through most of it. I’ve never at any point of being a mother have ever had to question my relationship with my children. I feel like if you’re feeling some type of way that you would need to question that, then there are already issues. Maybe start some family therapy now. Have you tried talking to them and getting a pulse on how they are feeling? I would start there.
Everything is gonna be ok mamma but honestly it sounds like you may be in need of someone to talk through this.
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Lawd. You should already know twice now
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It is going to be hard but you made this choice
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Im not sorry this is happening like everyone else cause well you laid there . But as long as you continue to let your other kids know you still love them unconditionally and still give them the attention they need i dont see a issue dont give them a reason to be jealous
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Maybe get a job. Stay off your back…keep your knees together
Birth control???
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You will work it out
Single parent, shacking up with a man and got pregnant, what the father of that child doing? The reality of the situation, women dig holes for themselves and when shit hit the fan want to go out in public and cry for help. If you know you can’t handle the existing kids, then focus your time and energy trying to provide for them than looking for pleasure. other than that, there’s family planning free at the health centre use that. Poor innocent life now in your hands should you think to kill it.
This page had lost it’s freaking mind 
Some of y’all are fucking disgusting human beings… if I should even call some of you human. WOW
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Stop fuckin’ all the time and use some damn protection!!!
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Adult activities have adult consequences. Don’t play if you cannot pay. I learned that when my cousin gave birth on her 16th birthday. Get your priorities in line. Your children should be your top priority. kt
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Many women have done this and it can be a true gift of love for you and your kids. Life should be all about love and growth teach them the beauty of life😊when you are old and look back on your life and children you will always appreciate the experiences that each one brought to your life. Being scared is natural it shows your a good woman that cares . May all your children grow to great adults that bring you a lot of love and adventures
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Birth control? Perhaps?
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Seriously this same post was on another page. Attention seeker!
No sympathy here. Actions have consequences!
Kids adapt well. As long as all are treated well and you make sure they know they are loved equally by you. They will fine. More work for you. Hard these days to raise children . EVERYTHING is so expensive and i CANNOT IMAGINE THE STUGGLES WITH HOME SCHOOLING AND MASK MANDATES. GOOD LUCK. TAKE SOME TIME EACH DAY TO BREATHE I HOPE YOU HAVE FAMILY SUPPORT AND SUPPORT FROM THEIR FATHER.IN THERE LIVES. .
Yeah close ur legs, no one wants another cribmidget running around
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Don’t complain if you can’t keep your legs closed!
Get a job now!!
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Invest in condoms or close your legs.
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Well u knew what happens with unprotective sex. Goodluck
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Congratulations when u meet this little person planned or not you will see he or she is no mistake but a blessing good luck xx
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Advice? GET BIRTH CONTROL!
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Yes it will be hard. You need a strong support system. Your family? If your not involved with babies dad- are his family wanting to be involved?
You bond w your kids with that new baby you teach them how a family works together to care for each other.
Ignore everyone ready to slice you down. Focus on your self, your kids, do online schooling to get certified in something to get a better job. Remember one-day at time and enjoy your kids. It’s very important to take time to enjoy them.
Everyone shaming tall are just the perfect hootooz huh! You don’t know any personal details. I wish I could be as perfect as all you bi*ches
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Ursa Major read the comments here
There is adoption if you questioning choices. Your baby could be a welcomed blessing and cared for.
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Well…it’s been fun guys but I miss the old page. Time to exit stage < left…blessed be everyone and I hope everyone finds the answers they seek…happy mother’s day <3
If you have 2 you already know what you’re doing. Make a financial plan for your maternity leave and enjoy your baby. Parenting is hard married or single no matter how many kids you have
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God brought you to it & he will see you through it…
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Should’ve thought about that before you chose to be irresponsible… smfh… Every child deserves to have its biological parents… Yet it is apparent you think your hormones are more important… Your concern is more about yourself instead of your children, it should be the other way around.
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Get an abortion. Being pregnant and staying pregnant are separate things.
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You got this it’s not going to be easy trust me I’m a single mom of four kids just take it one day at a time
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Sorry not sorry I don’t get this women continue to have kids and single. Dear your just making it harder on yourself and the other kids. Please get on birth control and stop having kids. Your already struggling with the ones you got again I stress pleeeease get on birth control and stop having kids until you’re stable. This is completely irresponsible.
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Jeez people have some grace! She’s pregnant for God sakes! No baby is ever a mistake,if anything this baby will bring you guys together. It will be hard as sometimes the older ones might feel left out because obviously a baby will require more attention. Use this time to make it exciting for them,involve them in the process. Also use this time to take online courses and get yourself together and definitely get that child support as dad is as responsible as you whether he wants to or not. Hope everything works out for you!
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Did it with my 5th and 6 th kid single Ull do fine
Children are a blessing. Many woman do it with a partner and without. I am on baby #7, it is easy, amazing, and worth every single minute shit if I could have a football team I would in a heart beat but this is mine and husbands limit. I have raised many on my own it’s all about stability and love and not giving up and making sure your able to care for them and devote time as well. Best of luck to you but if you feel this is so damaging as it’s what it seems then you may want to look into other options and after stick with a form of birth control as no decision is easy it all has ups and downs but you as a woman should know what it is that is best for you at all times.
Take it one day at a time , I raised my 4 kids . As a single parent. Show them love and be #strongmom you got this , you raised 2 kids . You can do it and enjoy your family .
I’m sorry everyone is being so rude it’s not like you don’t have enough going on and obviously reaching out because you need real advice without all the judgment.
Being a single parent is never easy but as you know being a mother of two already it can be done. It will be challenging adding more to the mix but I think deep down you already know this as well. What you should be focusing on is the positive. Along with preparing the other two children of the new baby. Set a plan or some type of goal and work towards it. You can do this
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Tbh…3 is easier than 2 in my opinion and idk why! My last two are 8 years apart and it’s definitely made us grow as a family
Rubbers sound good right about now, huh? 
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Guys she didnt say it was her if u read the very top… it says FAN QUESTION!
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What the hell is wrong with all you people?!?! why do you think it’s ok to comment such disgusting rude as hell comments instead of just being caring and giving helpful advice. Like shut the fuck up if your so compelled to say such immature things.
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I feel for your poor children ,you need to learn to be responsible ,and get sterilised
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Ok…
To those saying “abortion”, could you kill something and live with the grief and guilt?
Envision hitting a living being with a motor vehicle in a street… Then pulling away. How’s that feel?
A heartbeat signifies life.
To those saying: birth control. Since when is it SOLELY a woman’s responsibility to provide it? There are two parties in any sex act. Therefore, two parties SHOULD protect themselves and each other.
To those saying: Adoption…
Could you part with someone who’s not only a part of you but your other children and family?
Children are curious and ask questions.
How’s that gonna work?
My advice:
It’s gonna be hard as hell but I’m sure you have a support system that you don’t even know about that will back you if you just ask for help.
Advice??? How about getting on some birth control
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Not saying you are but so many women get pregnant on purpose and dump their man for a check. Once they got that what they need him for. They can Literally live pretty well off state assistance and child support alone. It’s a screwed system.
you can get FREE birth control at your local health department. Think about this or better yet, abstain.
Is this a bot posting all these obscure scenarios? What in the
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I do not understand this. In this day there is birth control for just about everybody. What were you thinking 
already have 2 and on the third.
Who is supporting these kids. What are the fathers saying about this. When you had your 1st kid you should have “adulted up and put your kid first and now you would be on your 3rd
Sorry but the mentality of girls today(boys too) is terrible all sleeping around and not using protection bringing kids into the world
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Abortion is always an option
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I can’t stop laughing on how many y’all are seriously ignorant and can’t obviously read. Didn’t know being a single parent and have a child is such a huge issue and frowned up by so many. You don’t know what this girl is going through or she could of been recently single by the sounds of it. She looking for advice with the 3rd child’s arrival how it could possibly effect her relationship with her other children as she would give more attention to the baby especially when a newborn. Any advice if this will change the relationship with her children and she’s scared because obviously sounds like she may be newly single
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Adoption is the best better then abortion
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And is she working or is this another child to be supported by tax payers? I became a single mom after i divorced my alcoholic husband. I knew i cudnt afford another child so i made damn sure not to get pregnant. Society makes it too easy for people to.pop out kids like a pez dispenser
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I raised six boys alone. Easy? no. Doable? YES. Don’t concentrate on what you don’t have, but the BLESSINGS you do have. Have a budget and stay within the budget. Do things with your kids that are free. Take walks, ride bikes (bikes don’t have to be new-pick them up at a yard sale or ask people if they have extra they are getting rid of). Never let YOUR Pride get in the way of your children’s happiness. You take backseat until your kids are raised and then you get your time to do what you want. Read to your kids, encourage imagination. Camp in your backyard. Play games. You will get more joy, LOVE and BLESSINGS than you could ever imagine. I had my first son at 27. My youngest passed away on 11/12/15. My second to the youngest is graduating high school this year and is going into the military. My oldest went in to the military and then graduated college with an Engineering Degree in Construction. My third oldest graduates College next year with a Bachelors in Forensic Science. My second oldest and fourth son are working in their own designated fields. Currently My fourth son is contemplating college at 21.
Don’t have an abortion. I went down that road when I was young and am haunted by it EVERY DAY!!! I also lost a baby. At almost 55 years old, I wouldn’t change the time I have had raising my six boys. There were hard times, but there were LOTS of laughter and fun and great times too.
moving from 2 to 3 kids really isn’t much different. if your other two are a little older it makes it easier. my boys love helping with my daughter. they’ll watch her while i shower and stuff. of course it gets rough some days, you’ll be overwhelmed and over stimulated, over touched etc. but it’ll be okay. include the other kids as much as you can even if they’re younger. you don’t want them feeling left out
Eventually you should figure out what causes pregnancies.
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You should have prevented then:smirk:
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At my age with 2 kids out of diapers…all I hear is abortion.
Everything will be alright, just have alittle faith and hope!
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In case you may not be aware, SEX is the leading cause of pregnancy😒 An innocent baby should not be punished for someone else’s actions. Now that there is a life in your hands, you must have courage and do everything in your power to nurture and preserve that life. Every child is a blessing, thus saith the Lord.
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So judgmental I have 3 kids and I’m a single parent it’s not hard luv them all same it’s easy
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No this is not going to be a major change with the relationship with your kids now. Your just adding to your family. You’re already a mom of two,you already know what to do.You will have a bigger family and more to love. Good luck to you.
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So many judgemental people on here.
Yes, it’s going to be challenging, but also rewarding. You’d be surprised of what you are capable of, especially when you strive to do what’s right.
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Maybe find a worthy man and not open your legs to every thing that tells you sweet nothings in your ear:smirk:
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Children bend and sway with you if your an attentive mother. One more is one more and what a child May say it first changes with the first meeting. Your going to be 3 times the lady … That ain’t a bad thing.
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Theres no shame in any choice you make …
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It is what it is youll get threw it
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Some of these comments are shocking 
hope the person don’t read them, why are some people so vulgar and disrespectful to others.
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Get an Abortion. Problem solved.
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If you don’t want to have anymore children, talk to a doctor about getting your tubes tied. If you want an abortion that’s entirely up to you. And if you want to keep it I’m sure you’ll do great.
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Get on the pill then
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Abort. Seriously. Abort.
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I mean adoption is an option. Or abortion or keep them. You know what you need to do for your family. But it will be a change you’re going from 2 to 3 kids but they’ll adjust and be fine if that’s what you choose 
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There’s nothing wrong with needing help and asking for it, however, I would say it would be better if you ask a professional this question. Make sure it’s an unbiased person so don’t go to anti-abortion clinics, don’t go to any biased centers. Do what you need to do for yourself and seek help by a mental health professional or your doctor. I’d say it’s gonna be hard whenever you have more kids, but do what’s best for you and your family!
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What do all these PG/OB-GYN questions have to do with “lies & cheating”?!?!
Evidently this pg has now changed from its orig. stated purpose. Perhaps rename to be more in keeping with what it is now!
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