Hey since tons of people are rude I’m going to tell you my mom ended up a single parent for 8 years with her 3 kid which is my baby brother, she left an abusive relationship in a country where she didn’t speak the language and we grew up just fine she involved us as her oldest on everything, we went everywhere with her,while we were in school she was in school, we cooked dinners with her ,I helped with my brothers since I am the oldest and we all survived just great and with all that we went through let me tell you it makes me so much closer to my mom I talk with her everyday, I confide in her and I love my mom with my everything and she had me when she was 15 so she was a kid raising kids! Moral of the story is you got this momma just give it your best and when you feel stressed just turn up your favorite music do the thing you love the most and keep on going single or not parenting isn’t easy but is one of the most beautiful things in the world
I’m pro choice so u know what I’m thinking , your 1st responsibility is to the children u have
U done it twice I’m sure u can be a mom to 3 … nothing is impossible u can do it mama never doubt yourself !
How old are the 2 you ready have? Think about your financial situation too, do what you feel is best for you, your children and your unborn child.
I had my youngest when my older 2 were 6 and 8… I was a single parent too and do not regret keeping my little one, my older 2 loved having a baby brother and helped feed him etc… X
Depends on how old ur kids are, if they are old enough they’ll be happy for another addition on the family. Hopefully u’ll take care of all ur kids and not make u new baby the responsibility of other kids, it’s sad when parents do that, give birth and expect their kids to parent the new baby that’s what causes tension and siblings rivalry
Single mom of six. Yes and no. Yes they’ll compete for your attention but they’ll have someone to help with and learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them. That love cam be shared.
It’s going to be just as hard as having 2… And idk why all these people are mentioning am abortion, I see no where in her post where she even mentions one… smh… why would that even be someone’s first thought when a woman is asking if having a 3rd child will be hard 
… abortion is not birth control, and should definitely not be your “go to”… I am only pro choice because I believe there are instances where abortion should be legal,… I won’t hate someone for getting one, but I sure don’t condone, recommend or encourage it #SorryNotSorry
You have the love for 2 sonyou will definitley have the love for 3 will be harder bit it’s worth it good luck
Why are people telling her to abort or use protection(bit fucking late for that) and even adopt the baby out?? she obviously made the decision to keep the pregnancy considering she’s asking about how it’s going to change her dynamic with her children she already has, and none of you know if she was on contraception or not so telling this woman to stop “laying on her back unprotected” or “keep her legs closed” (first of all how misogynistic, women are allowed to like sex you know) really isn’t going to answer her question or help her current situation, but it does make you look like an @$$.
You know how hard it is with 2 why would you think it wouldn’t be harder with 3?
Children adapt and will be delighted with their baby sister/brother.your relationship will be no different with them than it is right now.you can do this you’ve already managed with the two you have,congratulations by the way and best of luck to you in the future.
It wasn’t hard for me, I have 3
Ag come on if u bulling witout protection two tings STD or pregnant so jus shut up take tote
I’m a single mum had two then when got divorced had another a few years later. It was an adjustment especially for my middle one. But we have made it so far. Its bloody hard work but if you make sure you have a good support network around you. You will cope. My older two girls are 18 and 15 now. My wee girl is 6. I have no family in South Africa as all my family live in the UK. I have done it. You can do it. What helps is always making sure you include your other kids in all you do regarding the new baby and try at least once a week or twice a month jist spend quality time with your older two.
I’m sorry that you find yourself in this situation. No one truly wants to be a single parent. You don’t ever know that person will run out on you. However, those babies are always a blessing. Their smile will light up the dimmest days! You will cherish the hardest days with them, simply because of the love you share with all of them. Your other two will love helping you with the baby. Make helping with the baby something fun, so the others don’t get jealous. That makes them feel like they are a part of it all, & they are!! A big part of it. You don’t need a man that doesn’t need you and your child. All you need is the Lord and your babies. P.S. Look into getting fixed after this or some type of birth control to prevent future pregnancies
Keeping your legs closed maybe. Or some form of birth control. So now keep it adopt it out or get a abortion.
If you feel you can’t have another child after he or she is born put baby up for adoption.
Maybe stop getting pregnant by random dudes?
It’ll be hard but so worth it I have 7. It’s awesome the good out weighs the bad
Maybe adoption? Couples everywhere want a baby and can’t have them
Single mum of 5 ages 16 15 13 8 and 1 , mother and child’s bond is amazing… shit situation no one chooses to be in but it happens no one can predict tomorrow unfortunately …id be lost without my tribe , its hard work but so is 1 child 
my tribe love each other as much as I do them the sibling bond is just as strong as mother and child
No pregnancy or having kids isn’t hard ! But it’s definitely WORTH it ! Look for a church group or someone who can help when times get rough .
Of course it’s gonna be hard. Ur a single parent. But u will not regret one day with them 
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It will be very hard. How old are your other children. I found my self in that situation. My baby is now 6 weeks old. Hard but worth it. My older 2 are 7 and 9
I was/am? a single mother (I say ? Because people claim that once you enter a relationship you are no longer considered to be a single mother) and I have 3 and they are great. It has its ups and downs but it took me a long while and found a man that has taken on the responsibility and honestly it’s been the best 4 almost 5 years of our lives.
It will be no different from 1 to 2. Of course more challenging but communicate with your other two often and include them when taking care of the baby.
Its just like raising the other two, but with little helpers. Fuck the ignorance thats being put on here. Being a mother is hard regardless. Single parent or not. Reach out to the dad or dads, doesn’t matter if they’re different. If they choose not to help, oh well. You got this! Dont focus on what they will or won’t do. You got this & look for community programs!
I’m a single parent of 3. I have a 7&8yro. I left my husband and when I found out I was pregnant. My girls are 7 8 and 5mo. You can do it. A negative weak women would say otherwise
Ignore all the perfect people. Shit happens Its really not that bad. I was a single mom of 3 and it was honestly the easiest and happiest moments of my life. Im now a single mom of 5 trying to get back on my feet and im beyond happy its come to this point in my life and am excited to get back to being happy once again.
Include them in everything you can as far as the new baby… That way jealousy doesn’t take a roll to early. I had my 3rd when my oldest was 10 an my 2nd oldest was 8. I now have 4 kids an I find it to be extremely easy now since I included them in everything such as feedings an getting the baby dressed or picking out the clothes simple things.
You just have to adjust, plan, and tap into your village around you, you can do it ! 
God will make a way he has for me and mines and he will for you. You got this
Y’all saying birth control like it helps the current situation. 
You will be absolutely fine. As long as your kids are fed, clothed and loved by you.
I’m a single Mum of 4.
All these comments… Like you guys know ANYTHING about the situation, more then that is posted.
y’all psychic or something?
It’s not going to be as hard as you think. You got this! There are resources out there. And plus you already got 2 kids. Lotsa help 
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I am a single mother of 3. It really isn’t that big of a change. 
I dont think it would be any harder than the 2 you have…congrats!!
I’m gonna try not to shame or be condescending but there is such thing as birth control. It’s been around forever. If you’re single and don’t want to become pregnant, take it. It’s the same reason I give for abortions. They can be greatly reduced if you use birth control
I am a single mother of 4 and it’s a beautiful ride. Sometimes there are bumps in the road and sometimes it’s smooth sailing, but you’ve got this. You can definitely do it!!! Hoping you have a good support system and village that can help…find local Mom groups in your area. Go to play dates with your littles…perhaps you can find some cool people with similar interests and help each other. I did just that and it’s so amazing and wonderful. Wishing you the best of luck with #3 and Congratulations!!! 
U will be fine amazing even and ur kids will be delighted hugs best wishes and 
Yes. It is going to affect your other kids.
As to how much depends on many factors such as their ages, your relationship with them, their relationship with their father, your relationship with their father, your financial and time situation, etc.
If it is too much then at the time of birth (a) you can have your tubes tied to prevent future pregnancies and (b) have a private adoption set up for the new child.
My daughters were pretty upset when I got pregnant single. But you know what…they sure love their baby brother!
Babies are blessings. You’re going to make a way. You’re going to rock star through to being a single mom of 3!
You will be fine. Good luck with your new bundle
U will find yr balance that works for u. I had 2 boys 10 months apart then a girl 13 months later. Like having triplets. You make yr own schedule that works for u and stick to it. Easy breezy! Congratulations.
Nah, I think you will be OK! I wonder how old the other two kids are? My kids are 14 and 10, and I just had my daughter, she will be 2 in a couple weeks. I never worried though, because they’re amazing and have excellent bonds with their half sister. Just make sure you include them too, I’m sure once they realize they aren’t getting pushed aside they will be more than happy to welcome your new addition to your lovely little family.
Why get pregnant AGAIN as a “single mother”? Make the father accept responsibility. You don’t HAVE to do this by yourself, but as women we need to think of ourselves and our families first and foremost. Maybe consider tubal ligation? Please learn from this and don’t keep repeating the cycle. Also, I SAID WHAT I SAID, I’M NOT GONNA ARGUE ABOUT IT, AND I’M ALLOWED TO HAVE MY OPINION. I WON’T ARGUE WITH ANYONE BUT I WILL BLOCK THE HELL OUT OF YOU, NO WARNING.
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I’m a single mom of 3. You’ll find your groove.
I’ve had one. Unless you are a millionaire then no 3 is plenty.
Going from 1 to 2 is harder than going from 2 to 3. 
This is a road you have already travelled.
You can answer your own question, yes?
Why be scared? You didn’t make that baby on your own. Make that baby daddy step up to the plate or have the judge resolve the matter through the court system.
Birth control? You’re scared to be a single mom to three but we’re okay being a single mom to two? Is this question for real or a joke…
2 kids of fine; 3 is fifteen. 
You will have one hell of a road that’s for sure. It’s not easy and never will be I have three kids all under 7.
God bless!!! I have 7, the father of my kids up and left while I was pregnant with my 7th child after almost 17 years!!! You got this Mama!!!
Se não te mata, só te fortalece .
Get on some form of birth conttol
Hmmmmm birth control would have been helpful. You already have two kids so you know that having unprotected sex could(and did) get you pregnant again. There’s no reason why in this day and age that anyone can not get birth control. You need to think girl before laying down about adding hardship to your life and take the necessary precaution to avoid that. But since you didn’t, yes it’s gonna be hard, yes it’s scary and yes it’s gonna be a struggle. Hope you learned from your careless mistake
No more harder or easier then you have now
Hope he not a deadbeat. You should be getting child support. Not govt aid. Go to civil court child support. Nothing else
I’m on baby 3 it’s not so bad
Get a support system going so ur not in it alone . Friends , family etc. connect with other mamas in ur area via Facebook. You can do this .
Its gonna be hard yes. But you got this mama. Lean on your family if can. Hopefully ths father will be in the picture and you won’t be a single mama any more . Hugs
They will have to adapt
Why are people being so mean? Talking about birth control as if she didnt just say she’s PREGNANT? Little late for that?
Anyway I’m a single mom of 3 w no dad in the picture and it seems like alot but you fall into your swing of things and its all so worth it. Your relationship with your 2 kids will be fine, every kid adjusts 
Sometimes even the most effective birth controls fail. Antibiotics and other medications can negate birth control for the course of the medication. Don’t go bashing her because we don’t know if she was on birth control, or what the situation was. She’s looking for genuine advice guys
Seriously guys, you don’t know her or what she’s been through. Don’t judge someone or bash them. Shit happens and she was looking for some helpful advice bashing the girl isn’t going to help and honestly that kinda attitude towards people is why there is so many damn problems. Someone can’t even ask others for a little encouragement. Put yourselves in her shoes. She’s also probably a kick ass mom. If you ain’t got helpful advice don’t say shit. And to the one who did write this post, happy mother’s day to you and you got this hun. Just do what you feel is best and don’t let other people bully you. Just do be safe
I know sex is fun and feels really, really good but you do know that sometimes no matter how hard you try you can get pregnant. That should be at the top of the list of things to consider before having sex and/or beginning a relationship with a man! If you don’t have a plan, you shouldn’t get involved sexually!
You need to accept the consequences of your ignorant actions. Sorry, but there is soooo many forms of birth control in this day and age, why were you so irresponsible? The child will end up paying for you decisions.
It will be hard, especially if you are going to be an active parent. Develop a support system. Keep your kids first. Do Not allow men to meet your children until you are sure it is serious. Being a good mom = sacrifices. Ask for help! Make time to quiet your mind- teach your kids to meditate with you
Keep your legs closed then lol
As a single dad I can tell you it will be fine my daughter and now 2 grandkids (boy and girl)it was hard sometimes Raising her by myself but in the end was well worth it
Your taking about from the two you have now. It’s not fair for them or the baby you have now. Your only stressing out yourself and the kids. Your not supposed to get pregnant if your just hooking up. Js.
I’m not a single parent, but we’ve just had our third baby and my partner is at work all week. Honestly it’s so much easier adapting going from 2 to 3 children. Youll be fine 
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I have 3 kids and yes it’s diffacult. They are just another reason as to why I don’t want to have anymore kids. They are enough for me I truly love them and I don’t want to make them feel left out or abandoned by my bad choices so I got put on birth control. Not only that but this world there is alot of kids suffering in many different ways and I don’t want my unborn child to be apart of any of it. Even tho I’m not pregnant I don’t want to bring an innocent child back into the world. It’s not right I feel after you’ve already had 3. Hopefully you are the type of mom that give all your kids the same love and a big love. Teach them good ways of life.
Things will fall into place when baby arrives. Start teaching your other 2 to help pick up their messes and help now
I got six girl its fun 
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Regardless of how this pregnancy came about, that baby is going to be your kids brother or sister. The only way that will affect any of your children is if you were to treat them differently. I think the main thing to consider here is wether or not you can do this on your own. As a single mum myself I know it’s hard but the love we have for our children is unmeasurable and that’s what counts. As for all the people that are judging and making derogatory comments let’s hope that no one close to you is ever caught up in this predicament.
My biggest advice it for the next none months start stashing money out of paycheck… and n if possible pay a little extra on utilities. That way when u have to take leave at work your not stressed at falling behind. If your doing it with two already you will be able to handle this girl!! It’s gonna be hard and it’s gonna be stressful but it will be OK. I raised three on my own for years and it was tough but I made it and they are happy healthy wonderful children
Try to sign up for WIC, they help with formula and diapers, I’m not sure what else.
Ask the father of this baby to help you out it takes two to make baby. Depending on how far along you are to maybe other opinions you can consider
Get your tubes removed after this one
Do you have any family support? Not financially but support for your mental health or a break once a month.
I always wonder how single mothers get pregnant.! 
I seriously think that the admins need to review some of these people in this group and block them. When people post, they are asking for not only advice, but support. You dont know if they are reaching their limit or not. Have some respect.
It won’t be easy but it will be worth it 
If you see anyone being rude, please report it! Lets get some of these rude people off this group. I feel bad for the ones reaching out just to find a lot of judgement when that wasn’t the point of this page.
Well at the risk of blowing up a comment thread again with this advice, I will say this - Do whatever you end up feeling is right for you and the kids you already have. Please don’t let these judgemental people here or live and in-person in your life guilt you into something that isn’t right for you. Depending upon how far along you are remember that you have options. People will undoubtedly reply to this comment with their own personal beliefs and demand you and others adhere to them, but at the risk of bursting their bubbles - Their personal beliefs and opinions are just that… theirs. Only you know the inside story to your life. Don’t let outsiders tell you what to do. Seeking advice is wise. Others are entitled to their opinions. You are entitled to do what is right for you and your kids.
Abortion and adoption are options
I’m almost “afraid” to comment because apparently single mothers are abominations.
Honey please keep in mind that if you don’t feel as if you can take on another child adoption is an option. There are so many families that would love to have a sweet baby. If not, a support system is key. I lucked out and my ex husband and I coparent better than most people I know. Things happen to relationships and marriages. We can’t all be perfect like so many portray themselves to be in mamas uncut.
I don’t know your story and no one else does either, so chin up and be strong enough to make the best decision for you and your family.
God bless.
Going from 2 to 3 was definitely hard and I wasn’t a single mom so my heart goes out to you. It’s going to be harder just have to remember to take a little time.out here and there for one on one time with each kid if that’s what you’re worried about, evenly dispersing your love and attention. Even if it’s sitting down and building blocks or reading a book to one of them one day then doing it with the other another day. I get it, I’m due for my 4th in August and I’m about done having kids because keeping up with each one can be exhausting on all different levels not just attention.
You’re not new to this. Of course it will be a challenge, but you got this 
I think 2-3 is easier than 1-2
Strange but true. You just kind of know what your doing by then… ish lol…
I found going from 2/3 easier than from 1/2
It will be hard at first of course it will but best thing I did at the time was put some money aside in a separate bank (if you can) and when baby come get all three kids into some sort of routine
If you are doing it with two you can do it with three but other options are out there
I am a single mother to 4. Is it easy? no. Is it worth it? Absolutely!
I had two kids n found out i was pregnant with my 3rd just after hubby left me. I was terrified but im a single mum of 3 kids(dad has every 2nd weekend) and it’s hard but its completely do able if its what you want to do. Do what feels right for you and your family but you got this, 3 isnt much different. Good luck xx
Wow so many judgemental people on here
I’ll take it that you are all so perfect and have never made any mistakes yeah.
Nothing wrong with being a single parent
You have two all ready I’m sure your be fine and there is support out there if needed
And I’m sure your other kids will be just fine with having another brother or sister
You are stronger then you think once the baby is here I’m sure you will be surprised how strong you really are x single mums are strong and have the best relationships with there kids in my opinion
You don’t have to worry about me getting you pregnant