My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years he has a 11 year old son living with him and a 6 year old daughter he sees every other weekend we have a 7 month old baby and another on way my question is he pays $200 support for his daughter (signed legal papers) plus always treats her to McDonalds or pizza everytime he has her so spends $25/$30 each time we have argued over this topic alot he doesnt pay me support I told him to get stuff for baby because he was struggling financially not for long time just short term but he only ever gets 1 can of formula once a month ($40) and argues he sees baby and is with him so that should be enough and I always want more and more just because I’m asking him to provide a little more financially he says he works hard for his money and should be able to spend as he wants it’s so frustrating because it’s like he doesnt respect me as his gf and want to financially provide for our infant but he spends 4 times as much for his daughter he tries to turn it on me like I’m asking too much I’m not sure how to end this on going arguement and make him understand he needs to equally provide for all kids especially an infant please only positive advice!
Put him on child support.
Ok I’m bouta unfollow this shit cus these woman dumb ASF for these questions omg
Then why the hell u with him get your shit together and leave
Tell him what you need him to provide every month, or how much you need from every month and if he doesn’t, put him on child support
(Dump him and) go after him for court ordered child support
Make him pay child support. It sounds like hes buying his daughter’s love since he doesnt see her as much,so he wants her to be happy and have whatever she wants to compensate. Nothing will change unless you make changes.
Well if your gonna be treated like a single mom and work like a single mom…then be a single mom and take his ass for Child support. (Coming from a single mom). It gets harder the older they get.
Court ordered child support. Now.
My husband always uses the excuse its my money and inearned it ill.spend it how I want it pisses me.off. hes on CS for his son and I’m pregnant with our child who’s due in may and he refuses to buy anything yet. Makes me so mad its all me
choose a man with a couple of kids, you’ll deal with him paying support. Period. If he doesn’t pay child support to those kids, what makes you in a million years thing he’d support yours should something happen? You chose him. You knew he had kids. You knew he had a child support order. Deal with it. And why on earth would he pay child support on YOUR kids if you’re together? YOU BOTH should be supporting YOUR kids together— If you’re fed up, walk away and go after him for child support through the courts, but you can bet your backside his previous kids will get the most benefit from a court ordered child support too. pick your battle sister
You have to realize your kids arent his only kids. He had one before you came around. He should be buying stuff to help with your kids to though. If he cant then he needs to pay you chikd support. If he can make those babies ve needs to support them all.
Send him receipts every time you guys baby stuff and tell him he needs to reimburse half if he doesn’t want to pay for his baby and obviously can tell him you will just file for child support then and he won’t get the option to or not $40 a month is bullshit
That’s awful sounds like my brothers wife.
He needs to understand they’re all his kids and he shares responsibility for all of them not just 1 or 2 he chose to make another baby knowing the financial situation so if he can’t help he should be out and on support payments
Put him on child support.
It sounds like he’s not doing enough for any of them. $200.00 a month for a 6 year old isn’t much at all. He needs to step it up for his daughter and your baby
Damn… make him pay fuckin bills… or kick him out he will figure out quickly what his hard earned money should go for
Do you all live together? Do you work? Is it financial? or are you jealous? There’s a lot left to ponder in this… If you’re that hard up for funds, file paternity & file for child support. Seems like you knew how he is & had a baby with him anyways…
Sounds like he needs to grow up. When you have kids, your money becomes their money. Shape up or ship out.
Maybe he feels like he makes up for time not spent with her by spending. Does he pay bills at ur house? Most of the time when you get with a man that has multiple children with diff mothers this is what happens. Not saying he’s right or wrong.
You talk as if you aren’t together. Just because he pays child support doesn’t mean he can’t spend money on his daughter 
he does need to provide equally for the children. You work to provide for your family. Either work together and support the children equally or leave and file for support. Either way the children come first. There are government programs, WIC, that helps with formula
Start a new joint bank account specifically for the needs of your children only, you put in x amount and he puts in x amount. If he disagrees get rid of him and start receiving child support…
Let him spend whatever he wants when he sees his daughter! That’s very selfish of you!
He seems selfish to me but my response could change some depending on who pays the majority of the living expenses like the rent and other bills like that?
If you’re doing it yourself you should be by yourself that’s what I did. I know that’s a bit harsh but he has children to support he doesn’t get to spend his money as he likes. I have two children to care for I don’t get to go buy whatever I want to buy. if he wants to spend his money as he pleases I suggest he keep it in his pants or get fixed right now cuz he’s got four kids he don’t get to buy what he wants
Dude is a bum. Why did you get pregnant with him again? 
Get rid of him and go to court and fight for child support.You will get way more than $200!!!
Court order child support… Have it where it’ll b taken out of his checks and go straight to your child support card they would send u
I think child support will be good for him because that is the only language he can understand better.
He spends the extra money on his daughter bc he doesn’t get all the time with her as he gets with his son and the baby you share. Honestly it sounds to me like you’re jealous for what he does with his daughter and want him to spend every last cent on the baby you share. I mean at least your baby has a dad and he actually sounds like a good one.
Should have stayed single…
Maybe he needs to get a second job hahaha
He only sees her every other weekend I wouldn’t begrudge the poor kid a pizza or a MacDonald’s unless you’re in poverty in which case he needs to go out and get another job. Especially with you having two tiny ones, I’m not sure how you’re managing to work as well.
Hard as it may be, he has financial responsibilities to his kids. All of them.
Lord, do women these days not have a darn backbone? Dealing with these losers - I swear!!
Go to court for child support it is the only way he is going to help
If y’all are together, you should be equally providing for the child and household. The whole situation seems weird. And yeah he doesn’t get to see his daughter as much, I really don’t see how buying food out is out of line at all. And paying child support for that child, that’s his responsibility and $200 is nothing. I think you’re beyond jealous of that child, that’s fucked up. If this is really bothering you, go put him on child support for your kids… but I wouldn’t expect him to pay or provide anymore and be prepared to pay for your half of all the bills and all your personal bills. Honestly, you don’t see a future with this guy, you’re wasting both of your guys time
I think writing out a budget is so helpful. If you both write out literally every expense you both have (including his child support) then you can physically see where changes need to be made in savings and budgeting. The envelope system is super helpful if you want to make physical changes in your planning and budget. Putting say $20 away a week into a savings is so beneficial for the long run and saving for your new baby. Some people suck at financing money and need help planning for the future. Try it out?
Kinda on his side… he doesnt have custody of his daughter so he doesnt get to spend the kind of time with her that he spends with y’all. Let him treat her when he has her.
He sounds like a loser. $230 for his daughter every month is laughable.
I would throw him out and find a whole new man. No, fathers aren’t supposed to be about themselves.
Not saying he should pay you $$ since y’all are together but he should be buying half of everything for the baby.
Do what she did… file for support. Lol… then he will get the hint
Wow… first off some one on one time with his daughter treating her out is good for her. It makes her feel wanted even though he has other children. I feel your jealous over him pay attention to a child he had prior you knew this before getting pregnant and should have known what to expect. Your child isn’t his only child. 200 isn’t anything I know because I have 2 kids I settled at 300. It covers nothing really. My youngest eats 300 a month alone. She’s not fat just active but 200 isn’t much.
He needs to pay for all of his kids, period. He needs to help you out with yours or he can go.
So you are getting no financial support ($40/mo is a joke) and you have another one on the way with him? Child support STAT. Let him tell them that he should be able to spend his money how he wants.
Sounds like you got yourself a winner there. Lucky you.
Hopefully he’s saving up for a vasectomy if he keeps having all these children he doesn’t want to support. Lord have mercy
He doesn’t see his daughter that much so he should pay support and it’s not unreasonable for him to take her for food for the little time he sees her. If you need more help financially that’s a discussion you need to have with him. If he doesn’t want to help you then I doubt his attitude will change so you may want to consider taking him to court for child support.
If it’s his money and he wants to spend it how he pleases tell him to fk off and spend it on rent and food in a house of his own , yeah he should be paying for his others kids and yeah it’s nice to be able to take them out for treats but he needs to remember he has another child as well and if he can’t remember that then tbh there is no point in Him being there because if he isn’t willing to change his attitude now he never will
If he’s your boyfriend and y’all are in a relationship why would he need to pay you support?
Sounds like you’re jealous he spend money on his kid. And I’m sure that wasn’t anything new when you got pregnant. 
Maybe that’s the reason the ex is now an ex 🤷. Maybe he wouldn’t help financially so she finally left his ass and the courts had to make him be responsible for his kid.
Did you not know had kids BEFORE you had one with him?
Sweetheart he’s playing favorites. You need to think about the kind of man you want around your kids.
Are you living together? If yes is he contributing to the household bills? If yes then he is helping support her if no he should start or take him to court for support. He shouldn’t make children he isnt willing to support. He can have his child support adjusted now that he has more children to support. But honestly he sounds like a child. Because when you have children you go without until their needs are met. We have 6 children my youngest is 16 my oldest is going to be 35 next month. The first time my husband was able to buy me a gift was 3 years ago. To this day my children call when they need something whether advice, money, or just general guidance you never stop being a parent.
He only pays for his child as he has been made to (legal papers)? Then that would tell me everything I would need to know what a twat he really is.
People saying she’s ungrateful lol jesus christ if he can’t buy more than one can of formula a month he’s a pos straight up. If he can spend his money on one kid and not the other I see the reason she’s mad.
Sounds like things you should’ve considered before you had 2 kids with him.
Ok, well it’s great he’s spending time with his kids.
What I would have an issues with is his response…
“He works hard for his money, and should spend it how he wants”
Umm no. I work hard for my money and want to buy a pair of Jimmy choos for everyday of the week. Mortgage and food/bills/savings comes first. End of story.
Sounds like the only positive thing this chump does; is take the kiddo to McDonalds! Thank God he sees her so don’t rob her or him of that. My question is if this was bothering you; why have another baby? If you want support, file for it.
You need to take a big fucking step back. That is one on one time with his daughter who he doesn’t see often and I’m speaking as a step mom, on behalf of my stepson bio mom who doesn’t see him often. You’ve no ground to throw a bitch fit.
But does he pay bills or rent? And you getting mad that he is spending 1 on 1 with the daughter he doesn’t see every day is childish as all. If hes paying Bill’s then he is financially supportive of your baby.
I love how everyone wants to talk about how much of a loser he is. He has 2 kids prior to you… you got pregnant by him and baby is only 7 months and already have another one on the way? Get your shit together before playing the blame game
You’re together and want child support from him? And you’re b!tching that hes spending money on his daughter when he has her on top of support? Are you a special kind of person?
Probably should have reconsidering having multiple children with him
You’re in for a tough ride, so buckle up. He would have been crossed off the list of potential boyfriends after finding out he has two other kids already. Self preservation. Too late now though.
I had to read twice like what? Girl keep having more kids with him you’re pregnant again and don’t live together. Interesting 
Do people not know anything about birth control, vasectomies etc.?? BYE. These situations are just downright foolish!
Sounds more of like a friendship with a contract. If you’ll are together, you should be able to manage money TOGETHER. Not MINE and this is YOURS . You’re not roommates. What’s wrong with him. He should just go buy formula and make sure his kids are good. It’s like you’re in an agreement. Nope.!! sounds like a kid to me
From reading this it’s hard to tell if they live together or not, even if they do it sounds like she is upset because he will not buy anything for their child( only one can of formula a month) and he says it’s his money and he should be able to spend it how he wants, my advise is file for custody and child support and if your living with him move out, as long as your together and he doesn’t have a court order he will give you nothing.
Girl, you’re his 3rd baby mumma, this is to be expected.
I’d just try and work out a budget for you guys together and let him do what he needs to do for his other children 
I’ve never had an issue on what my husband pays and needs to spend on my step kids vs what he needs to do with our kids.
Wtf just because he pays child support doesn’t mean he shouldn’t spend money on his child when he has her. And you want him to pay you support while still being with you? You shouldn’t have got with a man that had kids if you can’t deal with him paying support for the next 18 years. You sound kinda crazy. He should probably run.
200 a week or month? Cuz thats important…200 a month dont even cover an electric bill …does he live with you and your child? Because if he does and he pays the bills at least equally with you then he is providing far more for your child then he is for his other one.
If he doesn’t want to pay bills and support child then kick him out and put him on child support. And why can’t he take his kid out to eat when he has her be glad he is spending time with her
If you try to get support they will alter how much is given to his daughter to supplement your children. It’s all determined on how much he can afford from his pay. I would advise in doing this even though it’s no fun and may cause issues. Sounds to me like you’re going to have to sooner or later anyways. Might as well get it over with before you’re struggling to provide yourself.
Yall live together yeah he shouldn’t pay you support but should be helping with baby more but what do you really expect from a guy who has two kids he already has to financially take care of. And if you guys were that serious it would be our money not just yours or is. Maybe you guys should just break up.
You sound childish. Does he contribute to the bills? Does he purchase food for the home that you guys live in? You have to understand that what he contributes to your home is CHILD SUPPORT. That money he gives for his other child is ALL she gets. You sound petty and greedy.
No food until he pays for it
If that’s the attitude he has with his young baby, maybe that’s why the other women left him too? I’ve had my share of stupid/ non potential relationships so I’m telling you from experience, this is going no where. Start saving money because you may need it for yourself and the baby.
Priorities! If your struggling that much to make ends meet that he can’t afford treats for his daughter & for him to provide formula to feed your baby which is necessary then he needs to readjust his budget, make more $, or figure out what’s needed & not at that point in time.
You know personally I have been going threw something similar and I just went out and got a job so I wasn’t depending on a man or his money and makes me feel so much better about my life myself and it’s a reaal good job for me and not some mcdonalds job! I hope you find some peace bc it sucks 
If you don’t live together then file for support. If you do live together then it should come as a household/family expense
Do you live with him? Does he pay mortgage/rent and utilities? Does he buy groceries or pay for other household expenses? Does he make payments on a car you drive? If so, he is shouldering plenty for you and your child.
If not, he needs to step up. Is he on your child together’s birth certificate? Tell him he can cough up the money willingly or you will sue him for child support, his choice.
If you already have one child together he isn’t supporting financially, why are you having another with him? Especially not being married—not that it matters except it would show he is committed to you & your children & would give each of you certain rights & benefits not afforded to unmarried parents.
Tell him if he can’t afford more kids to get a vasectomy (but you should be able to afford your part or stop having kids too). If reasoning (no nagging!) and showing him a budget doesn’t help, maybe marriage counseling to get a third party to broker a fair deal for all.
He should be paying for more then 1 tin of formula a month for his child, but you are crazy for having another baby with him, he won’t change, leave and file for child support
You are together and you expect him to pay you child support? Are you stupid? Yes he should be providing more for the baby I agree with that. As for the daughter you can not tell him how to treat her nor can you tell him how much money to spend on her.
Well this is my input on this. She got involved with a guy that already had children but had 1 of her own with him. Another on the way. The courts made him pay support for the first one so he is now punishing her and her children because that’s money he hasn’t got no more. So now he is been a free loader and taking from his other child. It’s is obvious that he don’t pay bills, rent or contribute to the groceries if he is only buying 1 can of formula for a child that he helped make. But I bet she has his meals ready clothes cleaned and a clean house when he comes home. So why can’t he help with his child when he gets home, may god forbid he didn’t break a hand. He will take from a child and it’s mother before he is willing to help. Take the son of a gun to court and make him pay and I guarantee u he will walk away and find someone else to use.
Leave his selfish ass you and your kids will always b second place
Does he pay any bills etc?
My fiance pays he rent, and all utilities. I pay groceries, childrens needs, be both pay for the car (only have 1 atm and I use it more even though it’s technically his.
Its not about who pay what though. It’s about both paying what you can.
If you’re not happy with how things are done, file for support and get it from him legally. Otherwise learn to compromise but he won’t change
You are the mama do it without money from a man! It’s your job
Lol why would he pay support for you if y’all live together?
If he wants to spend his money how he wants he should not of had kids hello condoms that’s what they’re for
Get rid of him and then hell pay more
Do you live together? Does he pay household bills of you do? If you do not live together get a child support order in place for your children. If you do live together and he doesn’t financially support, live separately and get a child support order in place.
Seems like you’re just mad that he’s spending Monday on his KID. If you’re that mad then take him for child support. I highly doubt the only he buys is one can of formula ALL month. He pays no bills? Doesn’t buy anything or contribute anything? Doesn’t help take care of the kid everyday?
Sounds like you’re jealous of a little girl to me… he’s trying to spend time and money with her while he has her because he has her less than his other children? I don’t see how that’s an issue at all. You chose to have babies with someone who already had kids 
I think there’s just too much left out of this or maybe I missed it somewhere. Has she answered about living together? If you guys live separately and all he is contributing financially is a can of formula then why are you guys together? If you live together and he pays the bills then…
Well im just confused as to missing details
If he doesn’t look be with his girl he does have to put in an extra effort…
I’m positive you should take him to child support court.
Never depend on anyone else…
… is he helping pay for anything like your living expenses or anything towards the household?
If shoes were clues you’d be barefoot.
This conversation is for you and your husband. And if he doesn’t see your side, then take action. Contact a lawyer, talk to family, etc. I def wouldn’t be posting on social media unless you’re just looking for someone to reassure you that you are right.
Not so much …
Same thing happening in my house to . We have a hard time with rent and Bill’s and car payments but mine has to keep 100$ a week for his visits while we go without. I go to work EVERYDAY. Yet I still cant afford to take my kids out on special fun says while his gets it every week . What he can’t get I have to keep up with