If he lives u why would he pay u support ? 
do u think u deserve an allowance ?! The $200 he pays in child support is money for the custodial parent to care for his daughter and put a roof over her head and anything else she needs, child support is not money that is spent directly on the child. Itās to help the mother of his daughter. If heās with you I assume he pays bills, he doesnāt need to shell you out āsupportā every week. Idk if this is a troll post, but you sound dumb
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Should have thought about that before and use borth controlā¦ go to court and get child support ā¦ it will never change because you allowed ot to start ,
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Honestly wtf are you mad about. If you want money get a job and get some money thats his kid he will do what he wants with his kid seems like you are jealous. And if he only gets one can of formula a month then you baby must be going hungry alot cuz I know that shit goes fast.
Itās funny how men will pay their child support but wonāt support the kids they have living with them. Their ātimeā is always enough 
tell him to man up before heās paying child support for 3
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When you make the decision to bring a child into the world, you should not be benching on anyone elseās income anyways. If youāre struggling that much as a pair, it sounds likely that youāre not pulling your own weight? Maybe you should get yourself a job.
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Why is this girl pregnant by him again with a 7 month old theyāre clearly struggling to care for at home? 
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You sound jealous. His other kids are part of the package. Grow up.
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Maybe his other baby mama canāt afford what you can.
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Classic gaslighting. A narcissistic
a$$holeās favorite thing to do! Smh
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Itās not like heās spending it at the strip club, heās spending on his kid. If this been happening since the beginning whyād you have two kids with him?
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Sounds like you both need to grow up. He needs to pay child support and insurance for all of his children. Sounds like you are living apart.
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Ahhh so he should stop paying for the first one because he isnāt helping with the second one so letās go have another one.
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So he already has 2 kids with 2 different woman,and you get pregnant twice by him,within 18 months.He isnāt supporting your first child together,yet you get pregnant again.Honey this is partly your fault.Do you have a job?Do you live together,does he pay any of your bills?Did you know his money situation before having kids with him?Thatās 4 kids,are you helping support your 2?
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Time to keep your legs closed or make better decisions in men. Why keep having this dudes kids?
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He had the kids so he lost the privilege to spend his money how he wants. 
We donāt have a choice, I donāt see why he thinks heās owed one.
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He has TWO kids with someone else. You live together. Iām surprised he hasnāt dropped you for being so selfish like those kids dont matter. You can end the arguments by packing your shit. 
How are you going to be mad because he buys his child food and does things with her ? Smfh .
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Yāall live together and you want a support check too?
Where do they do that?! If thatās the case im going to file for alimony tomorrow!
But seriously yall are ass backwards and ignorant to the concept of contraception.Stop making babies and not having the means to support them and stop demanding wifely benefits without making marriage a requirement from the beginning.
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Attention Ladies: 
This is a chance that you take if you get into a relationship with a man that has children from prior relationships! Now Iām not sure if you guys live together because you didnāt mention it and you said he has an 11 year old son that lives with HIM not US. So letās just say you guys live together. Is he paying rent, bills, etc? Do you have a job? Is he providing 100% for his 11 year old? See a lot is left out of this letter. But let me just say this:
- $200 a month for child support really isnāt a lot of money at all. So Iām quite sure her mother has to put up a lot of cash of her own.
- He sees his daughter every OTHER weekend. So he probably likes to do little special things with her when he sees her. Especially since heās with his 11 year old and your baby EVERY day. He might feel guilty and doesnāt want her to feel bad that heās not with her.
I mean at the end of the day would you rather get $200 and he sees your child every other weekend? Or would you rather have him in the home paying bills and helping with your baby?
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You sound jealous. Stop having babies with him if you already dont like how he does things. Get a job and help out. He absolutely does not have to stop treating his daughter the way he has been since before you had kids with him just because you donāt like it you sound like a child.
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Sounds like maybe he is paying Billās for you and the 7 year old and I am sure you get wic for the formula but sounds like if the 7 month old needs more he does buy the can which is pretty equivalent to the 2 times a month he gets to see his other child and takes her out to grab a bite to eat and the 200 a month is probably way less than what he spends for rent and lights and necessities that you all need for your home
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Why you pregnant again? 200 a month is NOT shit for child support . It barley covers anything for a child . My ex paid 200 a week making only 14 an hr!! You are very jealous of his daughter and need to grow up. Heās going to spend money on her when he as her DUH! She is his kid!
Wow everyone is so rude and mean, she asked for no negative comments. If you canāt give a positive comment then just zip it!!
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I honestly canāt give an opinion or advice, I think it all depends on certain things, do you split bills? Who pays what? Do you both work?.. just depends.
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Do you live with him? Why would he pay you support if you live together? Your post is confusing and so what if he buys his daughter McDonaldās or pizza, thatās part of being a parent too.
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The way I see it: he has an 11 year old, a 6 year old and now a 7 month old.
He needs to divide heās money up. Obviously $200 child support needs to be paid for the 6 year old because of the courts. With the 11 year old getting shoes, providing lunch and spending some money to support the child is needed. With the 7 month old he can provide a box of nappies and a can of formula every fortnight.
You both need to sit down and have a conversation about money because he has 3 kids to provide for. You also need to sit down and realise he has other kids to support, not just your baby. Wether you like it or not, heās kids heās responsibility. If you canāt afford take out then come up with another dinner option that you can afford. Conversation is key and 1 child is not above the other.
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He needs to support all of them equal
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This post 
wow
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Does he not help to provide the bills where yāall live do yāall live together if not put him on child support problem solved
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Sorry but your a repeat offenderā¦ havin kid after kid to someone who already has 2 kids by 2 different women. did u think you were going to be more special then the 1st and 2nd babymamaā¦ stop being a DUMBO
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If he didnt want to take care of kids he should of gotten snipped. Then he can use his money as he pleases. I would take him to court and file for child support and leave him.
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My thoughts go directly to his 11 year old son that he has full time. The post says that he takes the daughter out. Not the son too. So, Iām guessing the son is already suffering because of all of this. That being said, if this lady sues him for child support, then, wouldnt it just cause the son to suffer more? I can understand her point of view, IF they arent living together and sharing household bills at all. I can see his point of view, in that, IF, they are living together and both contributing to household expenses, then he is helping to provide for the baby as well, surely adding up to more than the measly $200 + a couple dinners with his daughter each month.
If you guys live each other and want to stay together, I highly suggest that you use a 3rd, unbiased, party in to talk with and help you do whatās best for the KIDS . And I absolutely mean ALL of them. He should know too, that experiences mean so much more than money spent on a child. Take her to the park, library, on a hike(adventuring!), fishing, camping, teach her her a skill, writing, reading, art, sports, etc,. Free up some needed money to care for a necessity (formula) of one of your children.
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Do you not have a wic program where you live? That helps me a lot with groceries for bby and formula
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I would set a certain amount for him to pay each monthā¦ either outside of court or court, his choice 
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Well you knew he had other children right?? I agree he needs to support them all but you also need to help support your children. This day and time both parents have to work to raise a family. Who pays the bills and do you guys live together?? If you live together then maybe sit down and add up the bills and plan a budget. I think his going out and getting pizza or burgers twice a month should not be a burden that causes hardship. God bless you.
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U r asking for it so why complain
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He has two other kids. You shouldāve thought about that before being with him. He doesnāt get to see his daughter as much as he sees your child, of course heād want to spoil her a little more. I just donāt think anyone should be so incredibly dependant on someone else for things they need
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Punctuation. Learn to use it.
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You realize he has two dofferent baby mamasā¦ And im sorty you felt like you could change himā¦ But hes already been this wayā¦ Sorry.
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First off, why are you having a second child by this man if hes not providing for the first one you had?? Thatās pretty irresponsible if you ask me. Also it seems like youāre mad that he buys his daughter food when he has her and thats ridiculous. Hes supposed to feed his child when he has her it doesnt matter if he pays her mother child support or not $200 isnt shit & barely covers a bill you clearly knew he had children and other commitments with his money. Given, he should definitely be helping with the child you two share but If yall live together, which Iām assuming yall do, he shouldnāt have to pay you child support, he should be helping you out with rent, Billās, and food. If he doesnāt, why are you with him? Youāve already got 1 child and another on the way you dont need a bum soaking up what little resources you and youāre children have. I would talk to him about it and if he didnt make the necessary changes and start helping Iād leave him & file for child support. Obviously he has a job otherwise he wouldnāt have custody of one kid and pay child support for the other. If he cant equally support all his children he should stop having them. And if you know he cant financially support his children you shouldnāt be laying back having more for him.
Wait, hes your bf but you tell him to support you? Iām so confused. Sounds like yāall aināt together when you say that, but you keep saying things like you are together. Donāt worry about him and his kid(s) thatās not yours. Not your business what he does with said kid(s) n thatās what seems to be the bigger issue here. Not that he actually buys things, even if itās not as frequently. At 7 months they donāt need as much formula as when they were younger anyway
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My thought is that you sound ridiculous. He only gets his 6 year old daughter every other weekend. So what if he wants to get her pizza or McDonalds. And $200 barely covers anything these days.
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Maybe quit breeding with someone if youāre so broke u throw a fit over $40 worth of food and canāt afford food for the baby u already have.
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So in the end, ur complaint is that every other weekend he takes his little girl to McDonaldās??? I wish all of our problems were so petty. Good luck. Ur gonna need it
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Oh boy! Your having another one with him knowing that heās got 2 others plus the one the two of you have! You have to accept the fact that heās got other kids and that money is definitely going to go out on them. As far as the children you guys have together I canāt really comment on that because you left too many details out such as if you guys live together and what not!? But having a second child with him when you feel he doesnāt fully support the first is not very educated or smart. Good luck 
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Just go file for child support if its that big of a deal you still wont get as much as the other kids get tho cause the oldest get there child support first is how they do it š¤· hard to give you much advice since you were not clear about if you had a job or if yall lived together or separately. Now if you donāt live with him and all he ever provides is one can of formula then hes a pos tho js and that would mean he is favoring his other kids in my opinion š¤·
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The first child that is on support or possibly the oldest child usually gets the most support with Foc not sure what there formula is but itās messed up.
Do you not live together? If you live together and he helps with rent and bills, that kinda is helping with the baby. If you dont live together but you have a 7 month old and another baby on the way, wtf you doin girl?
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Is there a single period in that entire post?
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Get on w I c. You get free formula. Fruits and veggies and enough to provide nutrition for your kids. Also get your tubes tied now ! What you have to do is put your self on the childās shoes. How would you feel if your dad you only see twice a month says no more McDonald s. And what if that mother is barely surviving in the 200 a month she gets. So itās nice to let dad treat her. Probably the only time the child gets fast food.
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you should have said $1,200 he spent on his daughter on weekends
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So after all these months of him not doing shit to provide for your first, you went n got knocked up again? Lmao
Iām confused does he at least pay bills? Or do you two not live together? If you two live together and he pays at least half of the bills then he IS doing his part. If he pays $200 a month for his other daughter and everytime he sees her he takes her on a little father daughter date. He probably spends more on helping put a roof over your head and food on your table than he does for his other daughter. If youāre asking for child support and you live with him and he pays the bills there is an issue, but this post gives no clarification as to what is really going on so NVM idk. Those are my opinions.
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Since he canāt help out with your baby time to put him on child support he needs to provide for all of his kids equally period and for him to think differently should tell you something about him he needs to grow up and take responsibility if not then move on you and your kids deserve better
Does the courts know about ur kids with him that makes a different in child support at least with my husband it does
Stop having kids you canāt afford
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This group has turned into judgmental bully moms. If you have hateful things to say why comment? Because you canāt go through the day without hurting someone else! So gross
You honestly seem like you are jealous of his kid which is pathetic honestlyā¦ If you left the ātreating herā part out maybe Iād have some advice for you lol.
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Iām sorry but you sound like you are whining like a child. Stop being jealous of how he treats children that arent yours. So toxic.
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Sounds like he needs to get fixed, or get another job.
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You knew he had prior obligations ur choise to make more babies just saying
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You all need to stop watching teen mom
And Iām trying to be as polite as i can about thisā¦ there is no āputting him on child supportā you cannot Put him on child support. A judge can hear your case and make a ruling and issue court ordered child support but stop with this putting him on child support bs. Also if your living together chances are the judge isnāt going to issue a child support order so you have some choices to make. He absolutely shouldnāt be taking the daughter out to eat if there is a financial struggle he can also go back to court and ask for a financial review to have his order lowered based upon the fact you have two kids living with you and another in the way. However this needs to be handled appropriately
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How about not depending on anyone else but yourself and you wonāt get let down so often! Itās not about you at this point, itās about the kids. If you canāt afford a can of formula, you shouldnāt have had children to begin with!
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Iām curiousā¦there is an 11 year old son thatās not yours also living there that you didnt say one word aboutā¦ is he not treating ALL the children when he does this??? Or is it only a problem for you, when he treats this ONE specific child? If so, why? Iām not being a bitch, Iām genuinely trying to understandā¦ are you cohabiting? Iād so does he pay bills? Do YOU work? Is your 7 month old his bio child?
Time to find your baby a step daddy who can afford you both happily
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If all the babyās needs are being met like, love attention, diapers, food, etc, from him thatās all that matters. He IS supporting the baby if so. There is no way to equally support children of different ages to a T. Their needs are different. McDonaldās and pizza are treats and that is time being spent with them. They need that! A babyās needs are far less than 6 or 11 year old.
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Your post is not very clear it kinda makes you sound jealous. Do you both equally pay bills? Also from past experiences if he isnt treating your baby the same as his other children then you maybe need to rethink things. If its different now it will still be like that when the baby is older. My oldest childās father had two children before her and would never treat them the same, he also only had to $15 week for child support for 16 years until the older kids aged out of child support. I noticed the differences within 2 months of having my daughter and decided if I was going to struggle then I will struggle alone and kicked him out. Mind you he also didnt help with bills. You really need to have a heart to heart with him andtell him how you feel. If that dont work then You need to rethink the living arrangements.
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Regardless if you live together I would he should be treating his children all the sameā¦ no matter if he pays child supportā¦ I have kids with with my ex he never helped me with anythingā¦ even today instead I have my hubby who takes care of us has helped me over the years to care for our kidsā¦ he treats them as his ownā¦ we both work full time we still struggle but we always find away ā¦ we have 2 of our ownā¦ if you live together everything should be equalā¦it works for usā¦ even when I didnt work he provided for us ā¦ so I think you man need to get his shit together and treat his family equally ā¦ as long as you do your partā¦ Iām not saying what he does with his daughter is not good ā¦ I give him credit for it ā¦ he should also be taking his other kids to get pizza and McDonalds as the girl needs to get to know her siblingsā¦ my opinion ā¦ congratulations on the baby coming 2020ā¦ Iām sure your a good momā¦ just get ahead for the future baby start collecting saving things for the baby ā¦
If you are not married and soooo worried about it then go take him for child support other then that i think if your with the dad then no he should not be paying child support but its simple and problem solved if you want it that bad go to child support done boom your problem is solvedā¦
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He isnt spending that on just her at McDonaldās im sure ur making good use of that for starters, & tbf u should be glad hes seeing an paying for his OTHER KIDS you and your children arent his main priority & i think thats more the problem hereā¦ jealousy, having more kids with him wont make him pay them less u do know this right? This new baby is just as much your responsibility as it is his an ur trying to make him provide for it more than urselfā¦ keep your legs shut in future.
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He pays 50 a week for child support and your complaining in he buys her McDonalds or pizza every other week?!
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200 a month is $6 dollars a day for his daughter and thatās a lot? Thatās nothing. I would suggest you do something about the situation youāre in. You canāt sit there and complain and not do anything. Pick up a second job, go back to school, find a trade you can do from home. A girl from my area makes Tumblers and she makes bank and she does that from home. You guys are not sharing money so do your own thing to make your own money. I worked up until a week before I was pregnant with two jobs to make sure I could help pay the bills so I can take off the month. You just have to have tunnel vision. You can do it!
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Well it sound like he is trying to make up for the time lost since the daughter is the only one who doesnāt live with him and doesnāt get to see him everyday. You sound really immature and jealous, you should find a job if you are having financial issues. Itās not only the Fatherās obligation to support the child, itās your also.
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Sounds like you donāt want him to take care of the children you knew he had prior to you deciding to have TWO MORE for a man already struggling with the first 2 that were there before you. He has his priorities in order, heās taking care of his kids & im sure you knew he couldnāt handle 4 yet you decided to have back-to-back kids why? you need to re-evaluate your life.
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Girlā¦ Grow up get a jobā¦ And do your partā¦ I have one of these wonderful baby daddyās knew he had 5 kids before mine and thought we would be different now 8 years laterā¦ He bought 1 pack of diaper 1 pack of wipes and does nothing for our son but raises his other 5ā¦ Then I had am older daughter from a pervious marriage and now have a 2 year oldā¦ You know what I doā¦ Got a jobā¦ And I home school my kids only you can change the direction of thingsā¦ Either complain and whine or change the situationā¦ Only reason I dont do child support is because he wants weekends with bubs and bubs cant stand him he favors the other kids and bubs is the only one who gets in trouble or spanked because its like he is the low kids on the totumpoleā¦ Grow a back bone with this man and make a change
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youāre ridiculous because one he canāt provide equally if the babyās needs and his daughterās needs are way different there different in age and have different needsā¦ ur mad because he spends money to take his daughter to eat? your ridiculous sounds like youāre just jealous get over it before he leaves you and you donāt get s***
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The child support is LEGAL! He canāt pay less bc you want more! He has NO choice BUT to pay it! If yāall live together then I donāt think he has to pay you support unless you take it COURT it sounds like your jealous he has legal binding paperwork making him pay support for his other kid
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At least heās spending time with his child. 
geez
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Heās probably trying to make up for not seeing his daughter so much. I can imagine how stressful she feels not seeing her dad and this is probably a treat for her. Since the baby is still an infant he canāt really take the baby out for pizza because the baby doesnāt understand. Maybe sit him down and write down all your needs and bills on a piece of paper and tell him how much of his money he should put towards them.
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She even stated she wants him to āprovide more financiallyā so itās not about the material things she wants money bc he pays support for his other child. Itās not about the formula or anything else the baby needs she wants money bc āhe spends 4 times as much for his daughterā but HE HAS NO CHOICE! He can appeal the court or try to get it lowered. The poster in this wants moneyā¦ plain and simple. She wants cold hard cash.
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Sounds like youāre jealous of his daughter. If he is court orders to pay child support there is nothing you or him can do about it. And honestly $200 a month in child support is not a lot.
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Damn girl, time to grow up. Heās taking care of his children and spending time with them. Stop having babies if you think he cant afford to take care of you all but to bitch at him for spending money on his kids, girl you are childish for that. Figure out a way to bring in some income since you want to sit around pop out babies and complain. Iām surprised he hasnāt left your ass for being so jealous of his previous children. Smh
Probably shouldnāt have gotten with a man who had previous children. Sounds like ur actually jealous over his kid. Thatās sad. U really pointed out how much he spends feeding his child. How petty of you.
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Wow!! You are incredibly selfcentered and immature!
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Youāre some kind of special, arenāt you? First of all, idc how hard anybody works for their money, when you got kids, it aināt your money anymore. 2nd, you chose to be baby momma #3. Deal with it. 3rd, you chose to have 2 babies back to back with a man who you knew has a child support order, and you knew how much he makes (and if you decided he could afford 2 more kids and donāt know what he makes, let me downgrade you from āsome kind of specialā to āIām not even sure you should legally be allowed to care for childrenā.) 4th, $200/month aināt even close to half the cost of raising a child, so to be so petty and feel like he should spend less is fucking stupid. Get an order for daycare costs, get a fucking job and support your own damn kids. Thatās the consequence of having kids when nobody can afford them. Youāre both idiots. Get fixed.
Take him to court for child support if you want him to help financially
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The whole comment, āhe spends 4 times as much for his daughterā bothers me. Like that should be good heās supporting his daughter? Kinda sounds like youāre a little jealous he pays her $200 a month in child support (which really isnāt shit.)
Personally I would be more happy to know that heās there helping to raise the child then only seeing him/her a few times a month. If yāall live together and he pays the bills and helps to keep a roof of babes head, then heās contributing ten times more for you and yours than he is for his daughter.
He will not change. Move on girl for your sake.
My daughters dad and I have a child support arrangement where he pays me $600 a month and I have her 3 daysā¦he has her 3 days and my mom gets her Thursdays. My bf helps finicially with my sec daughter cause her dad decided he didnt want to be in the picture and have to pay support. Make a list of what everything costs and show it to himā¦having children is expensive and one can of formula is literally nothing.Especially if you ever used wicā¦they give you $80 worth which is 4/5 cans at a time on each checkā¦ That stuff goes fast! Thats awesome hes spending time with his daughter and having daddy daughter timeā¦that hes choosing that to spend his money on but there are other bills and stuff that need to be paid and im sure you are not the only one using them. Just put together all of your bills and what you pay each month and show himā¦if he cant help out or refusesā¦leave him. If you feel like you cant be a teamā¦cus thats what you are supposed to be with a partner than get out of there.
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Never put a guy down for supporting his daughter and building a relationship with her. McDonaldās is not a big deal AT ALL. You need to get a grip. You are basically jealous of a child. Your afraid he cares more for that child than yours. Ridiculous.
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Is this a real question?
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If you want your bf to support your kids aswel,have him sit down discuss the matter without mentioning his other kids, write down a list of what your child needs , split it in half and give it to him,tell him he needs to buy that every month
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Wow guys get off her back I dont think shes jealous at all I totally get what shes saying. Why.cant he afford to help her more financially in the family home? His money to spend on what he wants but expects her to pay out for everything? Nah girl I had a guy like that n he got kicked right out. Shes.not saying theres anything wrong with him treating his daughter or paying support BUT he SHOULD be helping her more too
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Um why would he pay you support if he is with you? Lmao
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Do you live apart and all he has ever done is buy a can of formula for your child?? If so, I understand why you are upset. At the same time, know the situation wonāt change esp with another baby. If you are already 100% financially providing for your baby, the same will apply with the second. You need to decide whatās best for you and your children. You really didnāt provide enough information about the situation so idk if this is even the case
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I understand where the op is coming from. I was in the same boat. I eventually walked away. Itās easier on your own than with a man like that. My one now has baby number 6 on way and only pays for his 2 youngest. (Not mine)
Cut your losses
If he lives with her he should be paying towards bills. It sounds like he doesnāt.
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This entire situation is only going to get worse with another baby.
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You should have considered finances before having 2kids with him knowing he had 2 pervious to support. Go out and get job to support your kids
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Does he help support you and the baby in other ways? Like rent, electric, gas, etc? Because if he does thatās likely way more support than his other childās mother is getting. Iām glad heās got a good relationship with his other child and has fun with her when he can see her.
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