Wait… The baby lives with you and him? Seriously.
It takes more then 200$ a month to pay for all a child needs some fast food is not a big deal. It does come across as being jealous. If your living with this man does he pay any rent Bill’s for the home like hydro cable internet put food in the house of any kind for anyone other then the baby? It seems like your focus is on what he is not doing for your baby vs what he does do over all. It’s the same kind of blindness men get about stay at home moms
Let me tell you that I can see both sides if this. But my ex ruined his relationship with his kids by refusing to do anything with them that he couldn’t do with his little boy…because his gf said it wasnt fair. Each relationship with each child is separate and special. Some kids get more time, some get more money, but neither of those has anything to do with love and that’s what should actually matter.
Stop having children with people who won’t take care of them. He sounds like a loser.
I don’t understand why you’re upset about him taking his daughter to McDonald’s. He is making memories that she will never forget and that’s priceless. If he lives with you and pays the bills why do you expect child support? I’m not being nasty, just wondering if I missed something. Be happy he is building a relationship with his daughter. If it costs too much then just let her and him go and you and baby stay home and let them have some time together alone. I don’t understand woman who get upset for their SO being a good dad. Turns me on quicker than anything watching my husband be an amazing dad lol
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All these people with their perfect lives.
Regardless of anything all men who create babies need to care for them and support them equally. I have kids with guys who have other kids. One guy does nothing for my sons but does everything for his other 3 kids. One guy does equal for my kid and his other kid. So unless you know what it is like to have a guy treat his other kids better than the ones he has with you shut up. Bc you don’t have a clue about it and you need to stay in your lane. For real 
People screaming get a job… you gonna babysit her kids while she works? Acting like people can survive off minimum wage in this day and age. Do you know how much daycare costs? Not everyone has family and friends who are in their corners supporting them.
Unless you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes don’t judge. Sit your ass down and close your mouth unless you got something nice to say.
Buy your self a box of condoms so yall dont have a 3rd baby
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together 2 years. going to have 2 kids with him… are you living together?! cause if you’re not then well why are you having more kids with him … especially when he doesn’t help support your first child?! you sound young and dumb and it ain’t gonna get better… has nothing to do with his other kids this has to do with you letting him get away with not living with you and supporting your kid with him… if you are living with him and he’s not helping with bills on top of nothing for baby then kick him the fuck out and take him for support…
I have a lot of questions. Are you living together? If you are and he’s paying bills and rent then he is supporting your child while 40 for a can of formula is a bit ridiculous. As for his other children I think you need some perspective. You have a man that loves his kids. He’s making an effort to be with them and support them. You should be glad. At least he’s not a dead beat. Instead of hounding him about the money he’s spending on them how about suggesting family dinners at home so that all the kids can be together they are all siblings and have a right to know each other? If you are serious about him and he you, doing things together with all the kids would be good for all of you. Shows maturity on your part and gives him the opportunity to be a dad. I do think that you have some maturing to do and that if you are so upset over this situation maybe you should just end it and end up a single mom of two kids on 200 a month support. Idk I really don’t see why or what your issue is.
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Sounds like a child himself lol
What made you think adding another kid within a year , especially w this guy ,was a smart idea lmaoo?
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Did you ever think maybe he’s with you so he doesn’t get put on child support again? In all seriousness sounds like he’s there with y’all out of convenience… you mentioned he doesn’t help financially with y’alls bby because as he says he’s living there he thinks his money is his yes it is but y’all being a relationship he shouldn’t be holding out on funds when it comes to the bby. On another note let him be a father to his daughter 200$ goes to support her and that dont do shit so if he wants to treat her let him besides its not taking money outta your pocket you said he holds his own money anyways let it go on the kids
So he spends 200 on child support and takes the kid to McDonald’s
Or pizza when he sees her. But he also has an 11 year old son who lives with him full time. Which means he is paying all utilities and rent if he doesn’t own which I assume he does not. I’d also say the mom of the 11 year old doesn’t pay support to him which means he is responsible for all the needs of that child clothing school fees medical care extracurricular activities etc. He is clearly not a dead beat if he pays child support has visits and was awarded custody of the oldest. He is buying formula for the baby. I’m sorry but I seriously highly doubt that is all the help he gives you as far as that child goes. I don’t see him
Supporting two or three kids and saying screw that baby. I don’t think you’re factoring in everything else he does for the child and for you. Honestly I think you’re jealous of the relationship with his daughter because not once did you mention the son other then in passing. If he is that bad then why procreate a second time with him ? Take him for support if that’s what you’re worried about.
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Leave… file for child support, and take care of your kids without him. If he can’t respect you now, then he never will. Rip the band aid off now and be the mother you made yourself become! Or make a deal with him. He pays more for the baby, or your leaving and taking child support. Bet his tune will change!
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You didn’t know this before kid #2 was on its way? 
Did you not know he had other children and provided for them and then have a couple more for him? Did he know beforehand that you were only interested in growing his army for your own purposes and that you would think that your children with him should become more important than his others? Did he know you were competing before he got involved?
Ask for no mean comments and this isn’t mean but it’s a truth that you need to be told…children are not game pieces or hotels on monopoly that the more you have the more you win! He ALREADY had these children and YOU’VE added more… then complain and actually argue with him over it??
Hes obligated 2 support the children he has with u also.
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Is he paying bills? Rent? Putting food in the house? Does he help you with the baby(change feed bathe spend time with, etc)?
What are you paying or helping with?? Im sure hes doing more than just a can of formula. He barely sees his daughter so ya hes gonna take her to mcdonalds and stuff when he has her. And 200$ for child support ismt that much comsidering what im sure hes paying for y’all.
Seriously sounds like ur just jealous of his daughter.
But take him for child support if that’s what you really want.
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Cut him off every thing, period. Stay strong.
He sounds like a creep. The kids should always come first
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Are you a victim here? Is that what’s happening? He’s a villain and you’re a victim?
Some of you ‘women’ we’ll call you for argument sake…are unbelievable the way you are jealous of CHILDREN! 1 says “mine has to keep $100 a week for his visits meanwhile I can’t afford to take mine out for a treat weekly” 
- Those kids with you have their dad…would you rather he spent the $100/week on them and only saw them then? Would you rather you’re children be raised in a broken home but get $100/week spent on them by daddy and then have some bitch bitch about it??? WTF is wrong with this picture? SHE is no victim
Seems like a petty thing to complain about in my opinion. If he isnt paying rent, utilities, gas, insurance, phone or anything of that sort THEN I think it can be arguable. But if he spends his extra earnings on treating a child to pizza or McDonald’s that he has to compensate the time missed with I dont see a problem in that…
What about these girls that keep having babies with these guys??? What about her decision to bring these babies into the world KNOWING that he had these other ones that he is responsible for…what did she expect, for him to stop giving to his others bc they couldn’t figure out birth control? His other kids should suffer bc these ADULTS chose to have unprotected sex MORE THAN ONCE so obviously they gave 2 shits before it happened to prevent it and now gonna cry about it? Consequences have ALWAYS been a thing…it’s not a brand new concept we’re trying to introduce here…consequences…you did this just as much as him…you are just as responsible as him and it is just as much your responsibility as his to feed this little one and the next one you created too. You think it’s bad now…
wait until #2 comes and then not long after that I can almost guarantee that you’re going to be that mom getting support too bc you won’t allow his others to have more will you? So you’ll leave, take him to court then continue to talk about what a dead beat he is as though KNOWING he CANT take care of all his kids without big sacrifice while you KNOWING this and adding to it anyways makes you just as awful…maybe even worse bc you put you all in this position by CHOOSING to have more children for him. Nobody can feel badly for you…you are an adult that made adult decisions but now do not want adult consequences. YOU CHOSE THIS remember that
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Just stop having babies all together with anyone…you are a child yourself in actions. Do your kids a favour and call your mom/dad/grandma…and talk about this to someone that knows you…someone that can help you bc all you’re doing here is showing your lack of maturity, common sense and dare I say, concerning jealousy over his other children.
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I don’t know where you are but in the UK this is how child maintenance works.
15% of your monthly salary for 1 child.
20% divided between two if there are two.
25% divided between three if there are three.
30% divided between four if there are four.
Basically 15% for first kid and an extra 5% for every further child but the overall amount is divided equally between the children. If your boyfriend is paying £200 for one child, that means he is earning £1,334PCM and each child would be entitled to £100PCM. That’s only if the parent is ABSENT though, as in not in a relationship or otherwise financially supporting the mother. If you’re both working you should be paying your fair share of the bills. If only he is working then his wages plus any benefits you’re receiving should be paying equal portions of the bills, or so that you both have the same left in your pocket at the end of the month. If he’s already contributing to his fair share of the bills, you are being unreasonable asking him to pay “child support” on top of that.
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Jesus woman. Give the man a break. He has 3 soon to be 4 kids to support.
When you become a family your finances become shared. If that’s not the case here maybe you shouldnt be a PARTNERship.
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I’m hung up on the positive advice line… life isn’t all unicorns and rainbows … life is hard and sometimes reality needs to hit ya in the face before changes are made. Raising kids is not cheap … if these kids were planned shame on the both of you. You cant plan to have children when you aren’t financially able to have kids. It’s like buying a house … if u cant afford a house are you goin to go out and get one no. If you need support financially from him move out and take him to family court. get an order for child support.
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Y’all are together and living together. why should he pay you any child support? Lol and who gives a shit if he takes HIS DAUGHTER out to get food whenever he has her
You’re having his fourth child and are squabbling over $20? Buckle up, sweetheart.
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Ok everyone chill! She didn’t ask to be put down she asked for advice. Talk to your guy and explain to him that you have concerns about his behavior and that you expect him to have the same parental obligations for all 4 children, including his love, attention and financial support and as a parent all the responsibilities shouldn’t be one sided and he should definitely not be showing any favoritism because that only sends mixed messages to the kids.
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What all is he providing now? Is he paying for rent, utilities, and food for all of you? Even if he just pays rent, that is more than enough if you dont pay for rent. Honestly you should have talked this through before you decided to work to double the amount of kids he has. But honesty if he spends hundreds on his daughter, provides all care for his oldest son, and if he does pay for rent, groceries, etc then he probably cant afford to spend every cent on the other kids as well. What percentage of financial support for your shared kids do you each provide? Do you provide all of the food, rent, clothes, etc. If so, I see the issue. But if he provides all of that and you just expect money from him since his daughters mom gets it. Then no, that isn’t how relationships work.
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I am a little confused. Does he pay basic living costs? Rent, utilities etc? Because that is providing for the family. However I can understand the frustration with him saying he should be able to spend his money how he wants. I would suggest having a sit down with him and talking about your financial situation. Dont knit pick about his having to pay child support, cause I’m sorry you knew he had children when you decided to get with him and still chose to have children with him. Also keep in mind $200 is not that much. My bf pays almost $1000 a month for 2 children. But you need to approach it in a calm adult matter. Work out what living cost is, groceries including formula etc and discuss where the money is coming from. You should each have a little play money that you can have the freedom to do with what you want even if it’s only $20-$40 a month. But if he chooses to spend that on his daughter when shes visiting that’s his choice, just like if you choose to get something for your baby with it. He and YOU need to treat the children as equals though. It sounds like you don’t like his children very much which is a little concerning for me. If that’s the case you should probably look at if it’s the best situation to be in, because his other children are always going to be apart of his life.
What do you mean he doesn’t pay you support? In the first sentence you call him your boyfriend, meaning the two of you are together. Does he pay the bills and other household expenses?
Perhaps look in your area for a WIC program, or something like it, and that would help with your formula shortage.
As far as the way you speak about what he does with/spends on his daughter that he sees only on weekends, it sounds like you are jealous of this little girl, and that’s just horrible.
I find it extremely naive to ask for positive responses only, because that says right there that you are in the wrong, and you do know it, for the way you are acting, which is like a needy/spoiled brat.
I really hope that you grow up a little bit before bringing your second child together into this world for everyone involved sake.
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No offence but u sound money hungry they support he gives is for helping the mother out to raise her and for the what $25/$30 he spends on visiting her should not be a issue that his child and if ur with him living together ya he should help but u can’t look at his support as his income deduct that and look at rest of his income and agree on something he can afford or leave let him be happy spending his money on his kids if he don’t want help u with baby stuff go to court maybe he will step up ur game bit then
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Stop being ungrateful. Do you work? If not, get a job. That would surely help your money hungry issue.
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He pays 200 a month for one child that doesn’t live with him? That doesn’t even cover the cost a month of raising a child not to mention the quality time missed out with her living in a separate home. You knew he had kids and responsibilities when you decided to have not one but two children with him yourself. How much do provide financially for your house hold? It sounds like you’re jealous of his daughter.
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Do u guys live together? Does he pitch in on bills and food? Do you work? If the answer to all these questions are yes then idk why this is an issue really. However if you answered no to them then things need to change or he needs to be shown the door, boy bye👋
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Ummm, well he’s going to have a big wake-up call when you break up with him and he has two more babies he has to pay child support for.
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It sounds to me the one who isn’t getting equal time is the daughter he sees every other weekend, she is missing out, so if he wants to spend some time with her and take her to McDonald’s when he has her then I don’t see what the big deal is, you seem to be jealous of her
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He feels guilty that he isn’t there for her so he buys her stuff. Google Disneyland dad
Wow!! He should be buying whatever your baby needs! (Lol is he waiting to get an court order?)idk this doesn’t sound like an man but the lines of a little boy. Definitely shouldn’t be making babies if he can’t provide for them. My hubby buys everything my babies needs, no ifs or buts about it! I don’t gotta ask him either, if he notices our babies are short on anything. He’ll go out and buy it. When it comes to kids its 50/50 and its an partnership!!
You should be happy he takes her out. He’s making a tradition with her age will always remember. But i think he should be helping with all kids.
Wow is really all I can say about the comments on this post from the sounds of it is they don’t live together but have children together and is in a relationship I don’t live with my sons father and we are together and he still takes care of my household plus his he wants me to be able and stay home with our son so he works his ass off to pay my bills and his own plus rent for both places plus take care of our sons needs and yes he has 4 other children and they are all well taken care of plus mines from a previous relationship don’t be so quick to judge her I don’t feel she is wrong for wanting him to step up and support their daughter more then he is. This isn’t up for debate this is her life regardless if he is paying bills he should always make sure all his children are taken care of not just the older ones
Sounds like you started a family with a teen age boy he needs to grow up
so you say you want only positive advice you already have it three kids three different women smarten up you can do better for your kid if he truly really loved his kid he would help out more don’t beg them let that piece of crap walk
Only positive advice? 
The minute women started having children out of wedlock this world turned to shit. Maybe you should have gotten to know him before adding more children to the whole thing. With him only two years and two babies already? That’s shameful. Leave and support yourself if you aren’t happy.
Sounds like the only way to get him to do anything is to take him to court. You may have to do the same.
My advice is if y’all living together and he’s paying the bills then I don’t see why he should give more support. As parents it’s both of yalls job to pay for y’all’s children. Even though he has two with other women it’s not your job to support them but it is his job. But you took that on when you got with him n created not one but two with him.
Sounds like he’s taking advantage and may be staying with you so he doesn’t have to pay $$$. He needs to pay his child support and his part of the bills with you. It really has nothing to do with his other child. He should be supporting both equally.
Too little info.
Sounds like maybe you two are living together but shouldn’t be . If youre on assistance or something.
If thats the case then kick him out and let him pay you the 200 month. That is shit all
But hey id be happy with anything !
I have read all the comments and agree with some but it isn’t clear if y’all live together or not. FYI, my ex and I lived together for 8 years, I have a child from my late husband who was 6 when we met. I never asked nor did he give (except $150 for soccer league) money because I felt she is my responsibility. Again, we lived together and bought groceries, split bills (I figured out I was paying more than half before I stopped and lowered my “rent”) but when we had a child together he Continued to pay house stuff but very little for tiny human. Looking back I want to kick myself for allowing this. I am old enough to have known better but in my mind (until our child together) I always had an out. Crappy, maybe but my only concern was, is and will forever be is my children. I love the reference to Disneyland or ice cream dad because that is what he is for sure! Anyway, my suggestion for what it is worth, write out all the “bills” for yalls child and figure out how to finance month to month that seems fair. TRUST me… resentment is a real thing! Even to this day, 3 almost 4 years later, I think back and I just want to punch him in the face!!! But seriously, I could have/ should have said something but I was just going with the flow and didn’t want to rock the boat which is total BS. The ex baby daddy now lives his best life looking all Ice cream dadlike while only being a parent 1/3 of the time (he has gotten a little better but he is still a DB) and paying next to nothing financially. PSA- we bought a house together 7 years ago and he walked away not paying a dime yet I still own and pay for the house (both names on the house) and he goes on all these trips he pays for that he never did when we were together. He always let me finance stuff and to this day I have NO idea why but it happened.
Figure up the bills
Discuss what is fair
Don’t complain about his other kids, they were there before you and that makes for bad blood moving forward
And keep in mind y’all are having another so that will double. If it’s a matter of being a financial strain on you then possibly look into local assistance since y’all aren’t married.
BUT is you love this dude, don’t bring up what he pays for the others, focus on yours and cut costs where you can. (As I look at my nails that need to be painted because I don’t mani/pedi anymore since my split)
Don’t be that mom that has the best of the best then complain on baby daddy. All women need to be better than that. But I do advise to put it in black and white so y’all can have a real discussion. 
good luck! Don’t become the resentful bitty like me lol it makes it difficult to see the good he will do with your child when you want to punch him in the face 
How often does he have infant baby? Split time equally?
Put his ass on child support period case solved. Also you might want to separate ties with him especially if you’re paying all the bills and he’s jacking off cash how ever he feels like with no disregard on what you or said child needs from him.
Also if you’re living in separate homes you should apply for WIC and snap. That will save you money on that expensive ass formula.
Oh and get on some birth control please why would you continue to have more children you can’t support by yourself. He’s already had 2 before you he’s struggling with. What made you think you having more kids was gonna change his financial situation…?
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Why the fuck do you expect your boyfriend to pay child support. Good god. And god forbid he treats his daughter.
I feel do sorry for his daughter. A grown woman who supposed to love her daddy is jealous of her
Which means you must not treat her to kind. $200. a month is 2400. A year. Not helping his ex much with supporting his daughter. Sounds like you made a bad choice to get pregnant for a man that was all ready supporting two kids. I Hope your a better mother than a girlfriend or a step mom .
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I’m confused as to why you are having another baby with him if already are having problems. And just because he pays child support for his daughter doesn’t mean he can’t treat her to a dinner.
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Well, you knew he had kids before you. Now you will be having 2, so if y’all are living together, then bills and expenses are both of y’alls. It’s not a 50 50. Everything is joint. So, let him move on with his son, get his own place and pay his own bills. Good luck getting child support. $200 is nothing when it comes to CS. So,get your priorities straight,take care of the 2 children that you brought into this world and always strive to be better.
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So you knew all this before you had the first baby and now you’re having a second? You knew that his financial situation was not good but you had children with him. I don’t know 
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This is how I would handle the situation and you likely wouldn’t agree with it but I would throw the whole boyfriend away. Sorry, but someone who doesn’t respect you, doesn’t provide enough when he has the means to and doesn’t see you as his equal needs to go. If he doesn’t want to provide for his child I’ll gladly tell his ass goodbye and to sign over his rights. But that’s ME. Others would put his ass on child support and that’s completely fine. I’d make him sign over the papers if he really doesn’t want to be in my child’s life and I’m not gonna put my kid through that BS, I wouldn’t force anybody to be in my kids life. You’re either in it genuinely or not.
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Wow!
First off he decided to have all the children so he needs to equally love and financially take care of all of them, your not asking to much. His money that he works so hard for should be your together since your together and have a baby together. I’m sorry your going through that.
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A man should provide equally if not more to the household he’s living in. Doesn’t sound like a great situation if he can’t see where you’re coming from. He should pay half the bills, and equally anything your child needs. It’s not your child’s fault he has kids he doesn’t see as much. Of course he wants to make his other kids feel loved and just as important, but time speaks way more in the end than money and things. I’ve been there girl, I know it’s tough. Praying you get what you need.
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When you met him, you knew he had kids and you knew the financial situation wasnt good, but yet you still had kids with him as well, Dont complain now or be surprised that he had less money for you and your children. You should have thought about that beforehand, kids are expensive and you and him both need to grow up.
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Are you living together? Is he contributing to the rent/mortgage, utilities, etc? Because that’s part of taking care of your kids.
If you’re living separately, why? You obviously keep making babies with him.
He does need to provide for all his kids, but there are a lot of variables that go into it. Are you going to complain that he spends more on the kid that actually lives with him?
Honestly, if he’s not living with you, there’s probably a reason. Seems like the best choice would be to get a court order for child support and stop making babies with him.
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I just read some of the comments on here and I’m amazed and how many just want I just believe you asked for no negativity so I have a couple of suggestions it may work for all concerned if you could maybe come up with some suggestions where he can take all of his kids age appropriate and have them do fun stuff might go to the park have a water balloon fight go for a hike go cloud watching see who can sing the loudest these are relatively cheap things to do and if you can include yourself your children and his other children it would be a blessing for everyone they all have the same dad which makes them related and as children you can never have too many people love you there’s a lot of Truth to that saying it takes a tribe to raise a child I hope you find the solution but just leaving him is not going to make your financial situation any better good luck
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Not enough info…
Good luck! You and your children seem to have a long, hard road ahead…
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Does he help pay the rent? Does he grocery shop for the house? Does he pay any of the utilities? These would also be providing for you and your baby. Yes, he should help provide but if he is helping already and this is just a frustration from you maybe the way to gain some perspective is that he definitely seems to be taking care of everyone IN his home (aside from the formula argument) and also the child not in his home which I would say is respectable.
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How a person cares for their children is not tit for tat. He spends limited time with his daughter so he takes her to dinner, they probably talk about life during their date. I have 5 children but the youngest is 6 years youngest than the next child so I do different things with him, the rest are close in age so they had each other, I take my baby boy to date nights once or twice a week just so he can have 1 on 1 time and we can talk to each other about every day things.
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Sounds like you’ll need to take him to court. Since you two aren’t married, you can take him to court for shared custody (or whatever you want) and ask for financial support for the kids.
There’s also programs like WIC in the USA for mothers and children. I’d look into that. (You can get formula and infant food free as well as some food for you too.)
It sounds like you live with your BF, if he is providing for you and your child that is your support. I advise you to figure out what it costs you for one month of care for your baby, then spilt that in half. I bet it is more than the $300 he spends on his daughter each month. She gets maybe 48 hours of daylight with her Dad a month, how sad. Is that what you want for your kids? And you don’t like him treating her to pizza and McDonalds? Being jealous and competing with his kids will doom your relationship. His kids will always come first. This should not upset you and you will want the same for your two children. Do not nag him. I am sorry but he can always get a new GF. This will not end well for you, get out now and go see a lawyer for child support.
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In my opinion, I think you should never rely on anyone for support…Do what is best for you and your children. You might have to live like a single parent for a while. Be independent.
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Are you really keeping tally as to how much he spends on his daddy/daughter dates?! Good lord that’s terrible! And he has 3 kids by 3 different momma’s. Here’s your sign…
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Do you live together? If so, does he help with bills? If so, he’s helping. Could he buy formula, diapers etc… yes! The last thing you want to do is compare children!! Just bc he provides financially for his daughter doesn’t mean she’s growing up happy with all her needs met. She’s a child so try and tred lightly. Instead of asking us, I would recommend therapy for you two. This will always be a source of contention unless you figure it out now! Good luck
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I’m thinking we don’t have ALL of the information here. Obviously they are together and live together so I doubt he ONLY provides 1 can of formula a month. It’s pretty ridiculous and petty that you’re mad at the $50-$60 a month he spends to treat his daughter he only sees 2 days a month. You’re very lucky that he was only ordered to pay $200 a month in support.
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Get rid of that fool and get on birth control dear.you both need to grow up.
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Sounds to me your a little jealous of his daughter, at least he’s there for his kids if he’s not helping you file for child support
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Sounds like both of you need to do some serious growing up. Invest in birth control.
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Don’t have anymore kids… sounds like your jealous of his relationship with his daughter. Sounds like the bills are paid. It’s 50/50 not one sided.
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I’m confused if your together and living together he wouldn’t pay child support he would help buy what yalls child needs and pay part of the household expenses. How much is between yall.
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The day he had his first child is the day he could no longer spend his money however he wanted… He sounds like a spoiled child who needs to grow up!
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If he has a baby with you and helped create the one on the way then he has no money for himself!! It goes to all 4 of the children he laid down to make!!
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My question to you is:
Do you need financial support from him? Or are you just trying to get him to pay because he pays for his other children?
I’m sure you knew of his financial responsibilities. I agree that he should be a provider to all his children but if you are able to handle your financial responsibilities with your children then let him be.
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Are you living together? If not, he needs to pay. If so, doesn’t he pay already? Don’t be jealous of the daughter because $200.00 a month child support is not a lot!!!
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You need to get your tubes tied!!! You have no business bringing more innocent children into your mess!
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If you’re living together does he contribute to the monthly bills? Rent, utilities, food etc
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Hmmm…seems to me baby was made by 2 so 2 should equally contribute financially, emotionally, psychologically…
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Not to be mean but he does not or is not able to provide so you choose to have another? Cut your losses and take care of yours!
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First of all you’re nuts for putting up with him and second having kids with him when you know how he is. You need to pull up your big girl panties, dump him and get a job and support your kids plus go to court and fight for child support. there are plenty of agencies that will help you get out from under.
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I would get something legal done. The arrangement you have very seldom works. In doing this, you don’t have to keep asking for money. You will know what to expect and provide for your child accordingly. Don’t worry about what he does for the other children. Focus on yours.
You are jealous of the daughter. End of story.
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Take him to court get a court order support for your children it is what it is he helped make them babies he needs to help take care of them
File for child support it might end your relationship but any way … my niece did when he wouldn’t work and or was in jail … yes the state will pay even if he don’t have a job they will garish his pay till it is paid so it isn’t free tax money in the end
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He’s a boy, not a man!! A man will step up and know that all kids are equal and they depend on both parents to support them!! I speak from experience (my ex husband left 2 years ago is only to pay $50 a month on 2 kids and is currently $1200 behind because he refuses to pay)
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200 dollars is nothing. Is he paying the bills where u live? Because if he is that’s more than 200 dollars
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This is why I never hook up with a divorced man. Way too much passed baggage. If the situation wasn’t ideal from the obvious get go to even have gotten involved with him , it sure isn’t looking to improve now! The fact that you two aren’t even married shows a commitment issue right there. It will only get worse I’m afraid because he hasn’t done any kind of commit at all to you other than knock u up twice.
My husband and I never slept around with anyone b4 or after marriage. We were virgins up to the wedding day (conservative Christian) and I am so thankful for that. We have no passed life that we have to add to our marriage.
Does he live with you?
Does he have his own place or live with you? Either way, get a court order, he’s stringing you along.
$200.00 a month ain’t shit for a child for a month! And you are getting less than that? Looks like you and his ex have something in common, you both got screwed by him! 
If he’s not helping to support your household as a hold, then he is harming it. Tell him to gtfo, take his 11 yr old with him. And then get it in writing that he is paying child support on your 7 month old and baby on the way.
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