I would put child support on him too. So if ge leaves its already in motion n that is a guarantee u r getting sone help though court ordered financially from him. Dont be mad at tge daughter she has no fault in this its him n his way of thinking. U have let it go on this way for too long. N to be honest as now a mom urself u know $200 bucks a month is nothing when it comes to bills n raising a kid.
Itās your fault you have one a 7 month old been with him 2 yrs another on the way are you serious? Having another with a male seems immature selfish from what you say but always 3 sides to every story yours, his and the truth!!! You should have thought before you opened, jumped aboard without protection. Sry some jump on dog males look for pitywagon it takes two seems both are being irresponsible.
Sounds luke your not in a good olace in your relationship w/ your man, one you shouldnr be hating what hw soends on his children but by the same token it should be spilit evenly including yours do you work and help oay the household bills? Or is he carrying that himself? You shouldnt be having another child especially if he having problems supporting the ones already his? I take it this is a real issue between you both what do you think is going to happen w/ another child? Please stop having children youre not financially , emotionally, set. Your life is not going to get better brunging more children into you boths lives! I really hope you will start makung better choices life choices
Leave him because he will never change! Get a court order for CS and move on.
I think some have missed the point. I donāt think she is complaining about the amount of support he pays or even the money he spends on his daughter. Itās the simple fact she asks for help with the current child and he brings 1 can of formula and is told she that is enough to support that child??
Guys seem to be weird when it comes to money and their kids. Iāve no bio children of my own, but i have five stepsons. One from my current relationship and 4 from my last. Bio mothers in both did very little to nothing to support theor children, the four the dad did a lot, but I wasnāt ALLOWED to work because I had to be available to babysit and take them where they needed to be. When I started working I was expected to provide their clothes and toys and what not and that relationship tanked (not because I wouldnāt but because i was no longer a 24/7 sitter). This relationship I buy everything for my stepson. Clothes, shoes, school supplies. I pay the house bills and my personal bills. I have nothing left over but my SO now thinks he can get pissy because he pays the rent. Weāll see how long thhis carries on. But neither felt responsible to provide necessities for their kidsā¦and never mind the fact Iām not technically responsible for any of them.
I think thatās the longest sentence Iāve ever read in my life!
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And your having another baby with him !!!
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And youāre still with him?
A man does not need to be told what his responsibilities are. You have three children, good luck
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Yall need to grow up a little. Stop having kids with him if hes like this
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For your next kid, Bc there will be one, pick a winner.
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He should be providing equally for all his children.
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Put him on child support 
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This is why God said to be married before sex.
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Soooooo heās your bf for 2 years but you donāt live together and youāre having ANOTHER baby by him? Wtf 
Stop having babies with low life fathers!! Thatās it for me!!
Ok, Iām not saying he is a low life, but if you know he had 2 other kids, and obviously he is doing his best to take care of them, why give him more kids and than fight because he canāt take care of yours like you want him to? Maybe you should help out and go work!
Do yāall not live together?
Go to court and put child support in placeā¦ consider birth control
Why arenāt you married
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Throw his ass out! Have him pay child support and move on. You will survive better without his cheap ass!
if you live together, he pays half of everything or else dump him
Been there done that ! My husband did the same thing . His daughter my previous marriage is 21 now and Iāve told him I better not catch any money swapping hands or Iām going off the deep end on them both. She has a controlling bf . He drinks does drugs and if he gets her in big trouble she will sit there ! And if he gets her out Iāll go off him and her as well . He will do anything for her but our kids together they have always been second.
I wanna know how McDonaldās costs 25-30.00 each visit for 1 adult and 1 6yr old child. Yeah Iām even thinking about desert on this one and I donāt see that.
GIRLFRIEND
Enough said.
Sounds to me you are more then a little jealous of his daughter. Does the mother of his son pay him child support? Thereās a lot left unsaid to me, why have another baby with a man you feel doesnāt provide enough support for the one yāall already have? My husband paid his x-wife $1500.00 a month in CS for his 2 sons ( who are grown now) does that mean we shouldnāt have taken then out to dinner or to movies or whatever other activities we wanted to do while they was with us? Maybe he feels guilty that he lives full time with heās other children and only has visitation with his daughter! FYI $200 a month is the lowest amount you can be ordered to pay.
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Sounds like youāre jealous of his daughter. How much do YOU provide to the house financially? He doesnāt live with his daughter, and $200 a month is chump change for child support. Why be so petty about him taking her to McDonaldās? You have a lot of growing up to do. I feel sorry for these kids.
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#1. You need to file for support. Yes, heāll be pissed, but, #2. You need a new boyfriend anyway.
This is one reason why women should 
from men with a child/children. IJS!!! 
You knew he had children when you decided to have children with him. You donāt keep score of what child gets what unless youāre immature of course. It sounds like you are jealous of his daughter. Maybe he should run as fast as he can.
This is tough because there isnāt enough information for me to give an opinion. I can tell you my situation. My husband and I have been together for 19 years, married for just under 14 years. We both have a son from past relationships and we have a son together. My son lived with us and his daughter lives with her mom. My son moved out, she still lives at home and both are over 18. My sonās father was barely in the picture and I never received money from him. Ok Iām lying I received a total of $30 in the entire 18 years, my husband and I supported him. Also, my son was never kept from has dad or the family, he loves with them now and has for four years now. My husband paid child support and wasnāt allowed to see his daughter without giving his ex extra money, $200 or more. When she was with us we made the best of it, we went places we went out and had fun. No matter how tight money was we still did it. Yes, we often made food at home and went to the beach or to a park. We also went hiking, swimming, camping and had bon fires. We bought things she needed, yes, WE and not once did I get upset that we did all that for her and not for the boys. The only thing that ever upset me was went he wouldnāt discipline her when it was necessary so we talked about it and he realized he still had to be a complete father. With this being said I donāt think it should ever be about what he does for his daughter. I think it should always come down to what is necessary for your child (children). I can almost guarantee that she feels the tention no matter how nice you may be to her. Trust me when I say I always knew how my dadās girlfriend felt about me even as a very young child.
Get. Out. Why is this even a question? If you want the same support from him as he gives his daughter (petty asf considering sheās a child) then leave and get child support. Boom. Now he can buy your infant a pizza too 
unless you bitch a bout it. Then you might get the $209 and a cold shoulder
But is he paying all the bills at the house including utilities, phone and car ect? I mean if all his money goes to child support for his other two kids and hes footing the house bills what are you contributing? Seriously what are you contributing? Because if hes paying all the you may as well add all that up and dived that by the number of people in the house and thatās what his contribution is for your childās child support. Other wise you could leave and pay your own bills and only get a fraction of support because the Child support orders go first come first serve so the first one gets their cut right off the top then the second third and fourth get the rest.
If your gonna cry better make sure you got your ass covered and ducks in a row.
Unless yall have all these kids and shaking up in some relatives house.
Made yourself a mess of a bed now you lie down in it.
Probably shouldnāt have made children with a man who was struggling to provide for the 2 he already had š¤¦
She seems jealous of the daughterā¦ He had 2 kids before she came around ā¦ She should accept he has other responsibilities and he should prove he cares by stepping upā¦ They probably shouldnāt be togetherā¦ Acting like children while raising them wonāt work
Yeah. Quit letting him reproduce.
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You had a child with a deadbeat. With previous history of being a deadbeat. Irresponsible of both parties
You need to get educated on birth control before you have a bunch of kids with deadbeats who canāt afford child support.
Certainly donāt have any more kids w this selfish immature brat! U will never see the money u need to raise these kids now. Yikes!!
Sounds like a loser. Leave him and get child support. Sounds like youāre better off without him anyway.
You sound psycho. He is supporting his children and youāre jealous? Hereās a suggestion, stop reproducing with a guy that canāt satisfy you! You have a 7 month old and youāre pregnant again? Thatās your problem. He sounds like a good guy whoās trying the best he can! But you seem to think he owes you everything! Youāve been with him for 2 years and youāre on baby 2. Youāre the problem! Not him! Close your legs! Problem solved!
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You want him to pay you child support and he lives with you?? Does he help pay bills? Good lord why did you have kids with him? And what kind of woman are you to be upset that he is spending time with his daughter? and having daddy daughter time should be a blessingā¦ he needs to dump you.
She sound crazy ass hell yall ass will never have no damn. Money
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Heās a BUM heās a big FAT TIGHT ASS BUM
Child support 
he is financially responsible for this child as well. Just because you guys are together doesnāt mean he doesnāt have to pitch in financially. I just donāt see him being told youāll out him on child support going well, though.
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Donāt have children if you donāt want to provide for them. Once you have kids it is no longer about you and your wants. I would tell him to self reflect and thatās on him for having so many kids.
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You asked for positive advice. That tells me youāre not realistic about the situation and probably will ignore any good advice. You need to wake up!
Youāre responsible for those kids first. Not him.
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Iād be gone. No excuses. If he canāt be responsible, leave him and make him be responsible.
Also just a helpful tip I learned the hard way. If he doesnāt step up now, he isnāt going to. Donāt waste your time for almost 9 years like I did.
You can do it on your own. Your already doing it, if he isnāt helping you now. Trust me. Sticking around just so your kid has both parents isnāt always a good thing. A part of you dies inside slowly. It is not worth it.
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I feel he should be paying half of everything he lives with you and it is his child . Juat because he had other children that is not your problem. He would either be paying half of everything or he would be leaving and Iād go after child support. He is the one that keeps creating children and they need to taken care of equally
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I agree, yet disagree in a way. Yes, maybe he should be helping more financially with the baby. But I wouldnāt say he is giving his daughter a ātreatā when buying her food or something. If he gets her ONLY every other weekend, why not give her a treat and spend quality time with her when he actually has it? Does he pay other bills? I know my fiance and I have a system with our bills that works for us.
Also, how much do each of you make? In my household we provide what we can, when we can. Sometimes I support us when I get paid, and sometimes my fiance supports us when he gets paid.
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If he is only providing 1 can of formula for the baby why have another babyā¦ him providing financially will forever be an argumentā¦ if he isnāt responsible enough to find it in him to put ALL of his kids first there is nothing you can say or do to make him changeā¦ if it were me I would move on with my kids and file for child supportā¦
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It sounds like he feels guilty for not being able to spend that time with his daughter. I would say when aproaching the conversation leave his other daughter and what he spends on her out of it.
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Iām positive you need to go to court for child support. Heās putting the ball in your court!
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Go to court and he can tell a judge how he feels. Otherwise he needs to take responsibility as a man that created a life.
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Why do you keep having kids with him ? You knew how he was. And that he had other kids and responsibilities. Be smarter
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Is he living with you and the other kids. Is he providing the house/bills? I donāt think 30 is a big deal to spend on her. He canāt say well i pay your mom 200 . now you eat ramen while we go out to eat.
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Just that one comment āhe works hard for his money and should be able to spend as he wantsā 
when you make children you work hard to put clothes on their back and food in their mouth. Your money is never your own again.
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If he was man enough to have them then he should help pay for them.Kids are expensive and itās hard for one person to financially care for them. Maybe You should put him on child support.
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I think something beneficial may be to write out a list of bills/ costs/ expenses and go over it together. Title it āFamily Financesā or something so he knows he is as included as you. Then just do a split cost and tell him thats what he needs to bring in in order to keep the family going.
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So does he not contribute to house bills? If so, then that is his āsupportā. He should def be paying 1/2 or more of the bills since his 11 year old lives with yāall.
I still donāt understand how ppl fight over money like thisā¦ if he isnāt helping with any household bills, why are you having another child with him?
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So you have a 7 month old he doesnāt help with and decided to have another with him?? Seriously? Child support. Plain and simple. Iām not dogging you but letās be realistic.
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Sounds like you need some legal papers yourself for support.
I donāt think feeding his daughter should be considered a treat by youā¦also you have zero business having a second child with someone who isnāt even supporting the first you had with him. I guess our good old government will have to step in if they already arenātā¦since you are not married.
Ask him the question would he like to be paying more child support for 3 children or pay child support for 1 and actually pitch in a little more for his other children . That bullshit I work hard for my money is just that BULLSHIT! Why should you be the sole provider when it took you both to lay down and make that baby
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Spending $30 taking his daughter out isnāt bad though. Itās not the kids fault so donāt take things out on herā¦ the other stuff though is a problem with your boyfriendā¦ you guys need to communicate
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Hes just as much responsible for them babys you didnt make them on your own it takes to i would tell him to get up off his ass and take responsibility for this baby as well he needs to treat them all exual with that being said you dont have to be with him he can pay child support and if hes not paying bills then hell you dont need him no way you can have your own place with less drama your already paying the bills anyway .
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I guess I dont understand why he would be paying childsuppot if you all live together?? Do you keep everything separate? Does he not help physically take care of the children? Now if you where not living together I could see you asking but while being in a relationship and living in the same home I dont understand.
Put him on child support
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ultimatums are shitty so dont give it unless youre ready to let go, but thats what Iād do. then file for child supportā¦
Breast feed the next one for starters.
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Does he pay the bills for your guys place or is it split? Reason I ask cause if you all are living together and he is paying majority of the bills then in a sense he is supporting your guys child. If he isnt helping out in other ways financially and leaving everything up to you including whatās needed for the child well then sorry he needs to go. If your living single mys well be that
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Why are u still with the pos
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I really canāt answer this. Have you tried the WIC program. Go get help. Another thing you have to realize is if anything happens to the other childrenās mother do you realize that your boyfriend then will be a full time father. Thereās a strong chance of that.
Wowā¦go and take care of baby on your own. When their is respect everything falls in place naturally concerning each otherās feelings and necessities are always prioritized. Happiness is natural and constant, little bickering is normal. But he treats u like u dont matter and are there to bread, and do what he says by doing everything and all he does is lay with you. No no noā¦ Iād cut my losses. I need respect more than anything, he will never change.
Youāre not very smart, take him to court. You are not defined by anyone.
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so let me get this straight you are mad at him, because he decide spend money with her daugther? so in your logic, because he pay the 200 dollars of support, he shouldnt go to eat a pizza with his daugther? well im gonna be plain and direct, what a pity actitude you have. he is 100% right in get mad at you
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He needs to take care of all 3 kids and you knew he had 2 other kids when yāall got together and yes he needs to treat them donāt be a bitch!!
He shouldnāt be the only one having to provide for your children, if your child is only 7 months old and youāre already pregnant with another than I think instead of complaining about what he does with his other child you need to get on some form of birth control and figure out how to provide for your own children and stop putting the responsibility on just him
Heās a deadbeat. He doesnāt respect you or your kids.
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Get rid of his sorry ass
Stop spreading your legs
Take his chump ass to court for support and find a dude who knows how to be a man.