"I don’t know how to deal with stress when my kids are so bad?
I know they are just kids, but I find myself being extremely irritated with them all day. Anyone have any tips to help me manage? LOL, any help would be appreciated."
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“I have a 5yo, 2yo, and a 1mo. I pretend I’m a daycare teacher and think oh today’s gonna be great bc not too many kids are here today. I can handle 3 plus I’ll only be alone for a few hours. If I get upset I think about how a daycare teacher would react. I called my 5yo daughter “my friend” today. I still get angry and have a holler if I need to truly. Mostly towards the end of the day lol. One of my mottos is genuinely fake it till you make it. You just have to have an outlet or else you’ll have outbursts that you may turn out to regret.”
“All these people suggesting drugs and alcohol… that’s crazy. lol although I do enjoy smoking to ease my stress… I don’t like to be stoned around my child…soon to be children. I think it’s important to find time for yourself, a hobby, retail therapy, just get a break. And when you feel like you’re going to explode walk away. Step outside. Give yourself a moment…a lot. Create a schedule. Follow it. It’s good for your kids and you. My son goes to bed at 7-7:30. Every night. I look forward to the peaceful moments and always tell myself the chaos will pass!”
“Have a drink, or smoke a joint!! It helps!”
“Anxiety medicine! Just a low dose is a game-changer, and it is one of the safest forms of medication. When I stayed at home with my kids full time, I would take them outside a lot as well. Vitamin D is good for all! Remember that sometimes when they act out, they are needing more of your attention. Buy a cheap game to play with them or something that will keep their attention (like kinetic sand, play-doh, or coloring).”
“I feel this, I get so irritated over stupid things with them. At the end of the day, I swear I’ll do better tomorrow but it never happens. They know I love them and they love me but it makes me feel like a failure. I guess know when to walk away for some me time, even if it’s a couple of minutes in a secluded room.”
“Get a job to get a break from them and have adult conversations. Honestly, it’s the only thing I’ve found helps.”
“I get the same way and then I remember that THEY ARE NOT TRYING TO ANNOY YOU ON PURPOSE, it is NOT their fault you are in a bad mood or frustrated, they cannot help that. Sit down & play with them, draw a picture with them, let them help you fold a basket of laundry even if that means they’re just balling it up and throwing clothes around the bed. Leave your worries and get to their level and relax. Mainly, they will only be this little once. Enjoy them. If they’re being bad, distract them with a game or something you guys can do together that is easy going.”
“Structure and routine and follow through on everything. Mean what you say and say what you mean! If they’re misbehaving call them on it, lol momma. Parenting is hard unless you draw those distinct lines.”
“First things first, see if you have anxiety. Your kids will pretty much absorb it from you. Second things second, start meditating before you get your kids out of bed and up for the day. Take time for yourself, set your intention, tell yourself ‘today I will be calm and understanding’ because you’re little nuggets don’t know what to do with their feelings either! We gotta lead by example, show them how you handle your own big feelings so they can learn how to handle theirs.”
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