End one relationship before you begin another.
If your not happy leave your husband anyway not fair on him.
Playing happy family isn’t good for anyone.
8 Likes
Just remember, if he can do this to his WIFE then he will do the same to you… but that’s karma I guess😅 Have the respect for yourself, your husband, YOUR CHILDREN, and your “friend” and come clean, what you’re doing is wrong in so many ways.
18 Likes
It will be funny if your husband is sleeping with his wife.
1 Like
If only you could turn back time and make better choices since it’s your husbands friend and the families probably know each other this is very messy
Don’t take another woman’s husband. If you want to stray, leave your husband and find a single guy 
2 Likes
I hate when ppl says they’re still there for the kids. That shit will never sit well with me. You there because y’all still like each other or you would’ve been split. Clearly the man you’re cheating with still loves his wife. He’s not leaving her.
Far too easy to Judge other people when we don’t know the facts! In this situation Honesty is the most important thing and doing what’s right for the kids! Remember you never devorce your children but you can devorce your partner! Maybe get help from Relate to try and work things out between yourselves before doing anything that you may regret.
Grow up. Quit being a douche. Own up to your actions. Get a divorce. Focus on the fact that you just jacked your kids lives. Be a better human.
32 Likes
This women is looking 4 advice here is she not ?.my advice is leave your husband you already said two of u were not happy …2 of you have fallen out of love …please dnt stay it will not work u know this yourself …if u want to find happiness get your head sorted first speak to your husband… come to an arrangement about the kids …I’m sure your kids would want you to be happy also…as for this man you think you love it is not love it an excuse to break free from your marriage if he leaves his whife …he wnt leave her and I think you already know this …he has seen that your vulnerable and is using this to his advantage…in my opinion he is destroying your life and his whifes …u wnt be the last women he will cheat with either he wants best of both worlds…you asked for advice but you already know what yo do yourself …good luck
Why cheat?! Be an adult and be honest. You should never stay together for the kids sake
2 Likes
You just put your own selfishness before your children. If you do lose your children YOU deserve it. However, your children don’t deserve to lose a parent. That being said, grow the f up. Get over yourself and either try to fix things with your husband or don’t and get a divorce (preferably) you have pretty much ruined any chance of your children having a “normal” life. Face it and fix it.
1 Like
You need to leave him especially if you don’t love him, I left my ex husband cos I fell out of love for him, it was hard but all in all my boys are so happy and so am I, please don’t stay in a relationship because of the children, trust me you won’t lose them… please do the right thing. By the sounds of it the guy your cheating with can’t love you that much if he’s not willing to leave his wife, having his cake and eating it 
Wow u going to lose alot more! Friends people respect both will lose partners too aswell as own childrens feelings
Cheating is one of the worst things. If you are not happy then leave, or try to figure out why you aren’t. You don’t cheat, you don’t lie and you don’t hurt someone like that. And on top of it with a friends husband? With friends like you, who needs enemies?
2 Likes
So much hatred with this post, yes I don’t agree with cheating but this happens all the time, as long as the children dont get hurt! To many judgemental people 
1 Like
I’d suggest stop having the affair and separate from your husband
Hahaha, it doesn’t work like that. If you cheat, you’re scum, end of. If you cheat you don’t get to pick and choose what you get to keep and what you lose. You’ll lose everything…its not worth it.
Taking a friends husband as well? Really? You aren’t a good friend at all
1 Like
If you are unhappy leave!!! 
and FYI if your sleeping with your “friends” husband then you are not her friend 
3 Likes
First of all you broke a girlfriend code you do not mess with another woman’s me that’s a no no and since you wanna know what you do you leave that woman’s man alone there’s other men out there you don’t have to mess with your friends man
Start working on your Marriage.
1 Like
Disgusting behavior hope the tables turn and it happens to you one day! Let’s see how u feel then!
1 Like
Here’s what u do. Both u cheating home wreckers get your heads out of your a$$e$ and either stay with and stay faithful to your apouses or get divorced. Plain n simple! I can’t stand a cheater! Specially 2 of em. If they cheat to be with u they’ll cheat on u. No sympathy from me if your spouse does win custody if you both decide to leave to be together
If your not happy leave. Not a H**
1 Like
Think this is a wind up to see if she gets people’s backs up haha
1 Like
Should of tried talking first to your spouse rather than give up what kind of person does this to the person you promised to spend your life with and to do that to your friend you are very selfish and a bad wife and friend marriage is hard work but so worth it
Simple answer you and the bloke are scum
34 Likes
Be a decent human? 
2 Likes
You answered your own question 
just stop altogether!
You’ve just ruined 3 relationships! Yours, his and the relationship between you and your so called friend!
2 Likes
I afraid you ate a long time dead you need to move on
Wait what? You want to leave your husband for a man that’s cheating on his wife? 
2 Likes
If that’s how you treat your friends… 
Well, you’re gonna need to fess up to your friend, if you are her friend. There is no judgement from me, but if you love your friend it’s the only thing you can do otherwise she means nothing to you. Lies beget lies and kills any amount of trust. Possibly why your marriage is failing to begin with. Communication and the lack of, will kill any relationship. Start there.
Cheating causes lasting damage… mentally…and will affect future relationships. Your husband and his wife will not trust anyone, maybe never again. Why does noone ever care what damage they are doing to other human beings. Just leave for godsake instead of hurting people.
1 Like
Stop having sex with your friends spouse
Eww some of you are just harsh. Yeah cheating clearly isn’t the answer but no need to be judgemental. It was clearly stated they are not in love anymore and they continue to act as a family. Been there and done that too. It’s a very difficult situation.
But honestly my advice … stop the affair, it is not doing you any good nor him. ( He is a completely different situation). Decide how you and your husband want to go about separating. It will be difficult for everyone as it is an adjustment. Just because you don’t want to be together does not mean you will lose your children. ( The original poster needs to be happy too. If she is miserable the kids will see it and it could make them miserable too.) When does her happiness matter? Figure out what you want and go from there.
*** If the other guy is cheating on his wife, then something is wrong with their marriage too***
I feel bad for all the innocent children here,
Either end the affair and be a wife or get a divorce. Don’t cheat . Ever, it’s selfish, hurtful and damaging to everyone involved.
I
Y’all won’t lose the kids if you are good parents. Primarily guardianship and visitation are determined in court.
I think first up you need to file for a divorce its not fair to keep the relationship going when you’re not in love with your husband anymore ,I hope you tried to talk to your husband and work things out before just giving up and moving on outside of the relationship first though ,having kids with someone doesn’t always mean a happy ever after and that’s fine you gotta think about the kids, don’t stay together if you’re fighting etc or avoiding each other that isn’t healthy for them to grow up thinking it’s normal and in these cases it’s better if you separate and work together to raise the kids ,as for the friends husband ,doesn’t everyone say an excuse as to why they can’t leave just to continue to get a booty call ,be real with yourself it’s probably just sex not love what has you thinking it’s love is the feeling of someone wanting you in some way because your husband and you haven’t been intimate the way you used to ,I feel alot of people don’t realise the honeymoon period doesn’t last forever and that it’s something you need to constantly work for ,try new things etc have time for yourselves like date nights etc to keep the romance side alive outside of being mum and dad all the time ,plus the way you and your friends husband has started things together isn’t a strong ground to build a relationship together later imo, it’s a wrong situation but I’m sure you already know that I don’t think it’s grounds to lose the kids over in a family court however it doesn’t show you’re putting the kids best interests at the forefront and that is a big thing in and out of a court room ,I think you need to end things with your poor friends husband and start filing for divorce with your own husband there’s no fixing things there ,I also think your friend needs to know she’s with a cheating husband too as she doesn’t deserve to be playing happy families thinking nothings up
What do you do? Don’t cheat end of😂
You’re no friend at all if you’re going behind you’re friends back and banging her husband, the husband is no better for that matter. Why don’t you just get a divorce? Also why would you involve the kids?!?..thats pretty selfish if you ask me 
You should lose your kids teaching kids its ok to be a scum bag isnt ok at all i hope your husband finds out and takes you for everything u have
2 Likes
Don’t fucking cheat end of 
30 Likes
So there you go oh
Can’t make a wife out of a hoe oh 
9 Likes
You 2 sounds like you deserve each other. Remember, how you got them is how you’ll lose them.
Y’all deserve whatever may happen! Trash.
I hope you get found out and end up with fuck all. Obviously only bothered about yourself
4 Likes
RUN or DRINK!!!
If you are not happy in your marrIage than get a divorce now you are both losers . What a great example you give your children , you and your cheating sex buddy. I have no respect for people who cheat and in the end the Kids are the victims in this story just because you can’t keep your legs together. …
3 Likes
Id say im sorry but im not… your boyfriend loves his wife. If he was in love with you, he’d be willing to leave. Hes feeding back to you your own bullshit story of not wanting to lose the kids. How dumb can you be?
Also, not likely that you as the mother would lose your kids unless there were safety concerns since mothers are still favoured as primary caregivers.
Just leave your husband so he can move on.
2 Likes
Reading this post has really angered me, why would you seriously need advice on this topic??? People like you are utter pond life, pure scum!!! Your lover, if you can call him that, has already told you he won’t leave his wife, he’s basically having his cake and eating it! For the love of God, end the affair and put your children first and sort your marriage out, failing that, leave your husband as his wife, not as a cheater. Just stop being selfish basically
All i say what go rounds comes around as if they leave there wife for u then in a few years time he leave u for another women as u both wont have trust and do belive if once they get away with it they do it more and more and im sorry ur not even her best mate as friends dont do that to someone they friends with as its wrong no true friend will never do that just think how shes going to be not only finding out her husband a dirty cheat her best friend hurt her too totally wrong if i was both his wife and your husband i will stop u seeing the kids
1 Like
Firstly your both welcome to each other the heartache you’ve already caused yet the others don’t know it yet. How could you do something like that? Have you not heard of the saying ‘ if your not happy leave?’
Your kids will probably not like you or talk to you for a while but you have to deal with that. What’s your husbands name I’ll happily tell him your having a affair if your too scared too and same goes for the other mans wife. Disgusting the pair of you 
1 Like
I’m the last pertain to judge anyone… do things the right way … both need to separate, file divorce, talk about the kids amicably if possible. No one should really be losing kids. There’s child support to figure out and visitation rights … it’s a process but if y’all are miserable with the spouses you’re with now, then you’re never gonna be together. Also consider the fact that once a cheater always a cheater.
You’re a homewrecker. Not only your ‘friends’ home but YOURS. Grow up
1 Like
Watch out any future friends. If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you!
Is this for real should of thought about that before you did the dirty if you wasn’t happy should of ended it then sorted things with your kids like grown adults , no harm in having feelings for someone else but at least have some respect and don’t act on it till you end things with your current partner. Things like this scar someone for life! Horrible thing to do
2 Likes
No respect for anyone including yourself…
1 Like
A Friend doesn’t do what you are doing behind her back , what goes around comes around
1 Like
Work on relationship with hubby don’t cheat
Don’t get married ever again and stop being a piece of human trash 
2 Likes
What the hell?! So much wrong with this situation lol
Someone sounds to be in need of real help and guidance.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-worth-finding-on-oneplace-com/id288159649?i=1000516739673
Eilish Friel the comments 
1 Like
You are both disgusting vile creatures, if your not happy you should have just separated with your husband. Shitty thing to do! Your a crap wife and he is a crap friend. Karma is a bitch and will strike and you both will deserve it
Wow your an awful ‘friend’
This is a joke right? Cannot condone a cheater
I think you’re full of shit and want a bit of a reaction
You’re a douche wife, a douche mom and a douche friend…
You deserve all u get good luck karma will hit u hard !!!
Some friend you are…
1 Like
Well you’re a shit wife and a shit friend 
A decent person would never cheat.
You should be shameful on yourself… You are destroying your and your kids future…
1 Like
1.) you’re a shitty wife 2.) you’re a hella shitty friend
Maybe file for divorce like a grown woman and handle it like an adult.
2 Likes
You’re both disgusting 
imagine doing that to your partner let alone your children. It’s not just your husband you’re cheating on. Yuck.
2 Likes
The pair of you are scumbags and deserve to lose everything 
2 Likes
U ain’t no friend horrible bitch
2 Likes
You are a poor excuse for a human. I hope his soon to be ex takes him for everything and I hope your soon to be ex takes everything from you You are both lowlife pos that should be forced to carry a tree to replace the oxygen you steal from the rest of us
1 Like
Wtf…!!! How many lives ruined cause you both havnt got the balls to call it quits…
Nasty!!!
8 Likes
U said your friend’s husband. Girl u are not her friend. Foh.
Absolutely awful, leave, your husband and, the other guy and go be somewhere else.
1 Like
I hope his dick game strong to make you do shit like this…
1 Like
Can we reveal this person… so we know who to be aware of… 
8 Likes
Seriously awful and regardless y’all’s children will not be happy at all once they figure out how much gross disrespect and lying there has been to their opposite parent they won’t ever have that true respect for either of you and it will harm the relationship as parent/child FOREVER. God will never send another married person to you to love while married. Sick.
3 Likes
How about not cheat? And not cheat with your friends husband. Duh. It’s really not that complicated.
5 Likes
Oh honey….you will end up alone…the ‘friend’ will stay w his wife, the hubs will leave you and form the greatest bond w your kids while you remain a part time resented parent ALONE!!! my hubs cheated on me, i got out, he destroyed any relationship he could have had with our kids and now at 21 & 23 they basically make fun of him cuz hes such a lonely ‘regretful’ schmock!!! You earn respect and at the pace you’re going you will get none!!! 
You’re an idiot if you actually think this guy is gonna leave his wife!!
She will forgive him and your gonna get kicked to the curb!!!
And trust me….im sure your kids father already suspects your cheating on him…he’s not a stupid person!!
You on the other hand are a stupid fool!!! Have some self respect and grow up!! 
#waytotesteveryonesintegrity
12 Likes
Stop what you are doing before it gets out hand
1 Like
If your not happy theres no law that says you have to stay with him and you dont lose your kids for leaving a loveless marriage.
2 Likes
Geez…who needs enemies when someone can have a friend like you instead? I personally don’t care what people do inside their own marriages but one place you should NEVER step out to is your own friend’s marriage. It doesn’t even matter if you’re close friends or not…sleeping with a friends significant other is just plain skanky.
11 Likes
Stop having an affair.
1 Like
So you’re a shit wife AND friend haha
Once it all comes out your children will probably want to be with your husband anyway. Kids don’t do well hearing a parent was cheating and usually blame the divorce on the cheater. Good luck I guess. Oh and he won’t ever leave her, not unless she kicks him out. You could confess and stop your cheating but I’m sure you won’t. Because your madly in lust. If he wanted to be with YOU that’s where he would be trying to be. Y’all deserve eachother for cheating.
4 Likes
You both are so wrong to do that to your spouse’s and family
1 Like
Nope. No. And absolutely not. Where do you live? I surely don’t want to be your friend.
6 Likes
Who are you kidding you home wrecking piece of work. You would leave your husband in a heartbeat if that man told you he would leave his wife. You know DAMN well he isn’t giving up his wife for you. #sidepieceisallyouare
Basically your the worse kind not only are you cheating on your poor husband but betraying your friend aswell one word skank
2 Likes
You need to be SINGLE cause obviously YOU NEVER loved the man or cared about him. TEN YEARS means nothing to you if you’re sleeping around on your husband!!! Thats just fucked up and I don’t see how anyone of you women or men can cheat on anyone that is giving you the last best thing the have to offer like wtf is wrong with people. Gonna act single, be single. And I hope that your friend kicks both of yalls asses cause how can you do that to your “friend” and to your “husband” like your the worst piece of shit of human being. How can you BOTH the guy you sleeping around with and YOU be happy and sleep at night knowinf damn well if anyone found out YOU BOTH HAVE DESTROYED EVERYTHING!
1 Like
Not trying to be mean but this is all kinds of wrong here. If you’re so worried about losing your children then stop the selfish behavior. The kids are the ones that are going to get hurt if this all boils over. If he was madly in love with you, he would be with you. Use your head. Think about your best friend as well. This is a disaster in the making
2 Likes
Fuck these ppl lady, seriously I have have taken a life vow that I would never mess with a person that was already taken and I will never mess around as long as I’m with someone. That being said children will always love their parents as long as they aren’t abusive. And your issue with not being in love well thats real hard. My advice to you is tell your husband that you are not in love. This will break his heart but its better than doing whats going on right now. Since your the one that’s fallen out of love then find an apartment and move out. You won’t lose your kids they can stay with you. Work out the custody process . The other guy is not gonna leave his wife. That means he still loves her. If its been ten years then its not gonna happen. Move on. Break out if that and free yourself. Because if you don’t you will live with a burden in your heart. Let go. Get your own place and get your custody agreement worked out.