I’m in my 40s and happily married, but lately, I have a girl crush on someone; I don’t want to act on it and probably never will. But tell me ways to get over it, and has any one of you felt like this for someone. Apparently, trying not to think about it hasn’t helped!! Please only reply kindly.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am married but have a girl crush on someone: Advice?
Try to get far away from that person ?
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As long as you don’t act on it. It’s normal to be attracted to other people.
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block and move on… 
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watch a lezbo porno and rub one out…imagine its you and her? im bi so no real help there lol
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It’s called a mid life crisis please stay faithful to ur wife. If the grass looks greener on the other side please remember it’s probably because more shit there. 
Stop thinking about her and cut all the communication, those feelings will disappear with time, it’s lust.
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Acknowledge those feelings and decide that your current partner is who you want and block the other. Worst thing you can do is act like those feelings don’t exist, you can try to not think about it but it will.consume you.
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If you cross the line it’s something you can never undo and your wife will never look at you or feel the same for you ever again. Decide if it’s worth it.
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id say just try distract yourself, plan and do more stuff with your partner keep your focus on them, nothing wrong with having crushes and if it’s someone you know personally it can be harder to get over but it just takes time 
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Talk to her about it after talking to your husband about it 
Look into polyamory 
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The fact that you said " probably wouldnt act on it" says you shouldn’t be in a relationship cause you’d “probably cheat”
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Keep it to yourself.if you dont plan on acting on it dont make unnecessary pain for your husband.
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Idk think about how you’d feel if the roles were reversed with your spouse…. That might help. Lmao if not get divorced. You shouldn’t need advice on how or why you should be faithful. If you’re not gonna act on it, this post was pointless but because you went out of your way to see what people
Have to say about getting over it, clearly your intent is not innocent. 
Could’ve kept it to yourself and got over it that way.
Cut the person off would be a phenomenal start, if you can’t do that then idk 
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Talk to your husband about it for sure. Best thing to do is to be open and honest with him about it.
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The side that looks greener is the side that you are watering.
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Only you can make this choice. Try communicating with both and see and if you have to make a decision after that then do so.
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This kind of feeling is usually a symptom of something not going well in your marriage. Talk to your spouse and figure out what the root cause is.
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sorry, but that is sick.
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See councillor or psychologist it could be phase. I mouldnt destroy you marriage for a phase but if it’s something you can’t control anymore then you have to honest it’s no fair for hubby.
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Quit watching/reading porn. Its putting unnatural ideas in your head.
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We are all human. That’s gonna happen sometimes. As long as that is all it is.
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I learned about “crushes” after divorce at 48. Absolutely nothing wrong with it. It’s a fantasy of opening your soul. Yeah, keep it to yourself. Remember hasn’t anything to do with gender identity necessarily! Such as being bi-sexual. Don’t overthink your feelings.
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Go and spice things up with your husband go do a weekend get away don’t ruin your marriage over something stupid.
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Concentrate on being much more attentive and romantic to your spouse you will find they will respond nicely to your increased attention.
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Get over it lol. Well. I mean is it someone you know and they know you? If so stay away from the person. Talk to your significant other abt how you feel and maybe that will help
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Just ask God to help you overcome those lustful feelings who is to say this young lady won’t fall for you and have feelings for you to then there will be a problem someone is going to get hurt if your wife is good to you and there are no problems please don’t create them because what’s under that young ladies clothes could be deadly in more ways than one
Simple: if your happy in your relationship don’t do it. If not …it will be opening up a can of worms that you may not be ready for
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How about focusing on being a good partner to the one you made promises to 
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Same way you get over any crush: Accept you have it, then work past it by telling yourself why you have the crush, why it wouldn’t work out(in your case, the whole marriage thing), and figure out if it’s the fact that you just want a friend or not, since that can be what a lot of crushes boil down to.
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Youre probably a lesbian in denial like the rest of us and its too late cuz u decided to conform to societal standards and marry a man and have a family with a man instead of some kickass woman whose amazing and supress your true wants. Like the rest of us. Divorce him and run wild with your tits out. Its ok. Be free. You’re gay now.
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Distance yourself from that person.
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Or supress your feelings like everyone else is telling you to in order to appease your partner
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It means u r not happily married if u have a crush on someone else
If you are mature and love ur husband it will go away when u focus on loving who u already have.
Yes it is opening doors and to officially close them u need deliverance. Follow mike Signorelli he’s a pastor who talks about this and helps you stop those thoughts.
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If you’re happily married don’t let a crush mess things up.
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Shes asking for advice on how to get over the feelings, not advice on how to cheat. Some of you are brutal! I’d be afraid to ask this group for advice after what I’ve seen in most posts here… You all must be perfect!
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Attraction happens. You’re married, not dead. Marriage is a choice you make every day, not a feeling that made you say “I do” one day a while back. Talk to your husband and see if there’s something missing in your relationship that the two of you need to work on to feel that way about him again. Crushes pass if you commit to making your marriage a healthy and fun one.
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“Girl crushes” aren’t a thing… you’re into women. Explore proper terminology and meanings i.e. bisexual, pansexual, lesbian. If you have feelings for another person you need to address them - whether that be with yourself, your current partner, and/or the person you’ve developed feelings for. Suppressing this will only cause you more troubles, I promise.
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Fb is the wrong platform to ask on. I guarantee it lmao. So many opinions will make you even more confused. Take some time and think about what makes you happy and go do that.
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I agree if your happily married stay away, the pasture isn’t always greener on the other side, if you want to find out what you want tell your spouse, be honest and don’t start anything till you finish one thing. I have been married going on 44 years and have never felt anything for anyone else, even in our bad times. If you love your spouse you wouldn’t be crushing on anyone else, they should be the only one.
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Wonder if her husband was the previous post …
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The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Just be thankful for what you have already
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I think…you really need to distance yourself from this person…stay away from them completely. You say you are happily married. So you don’t want to make a bad choice over some fleeting feelings and ruin a marriage and hurt the person you love and promised to love for the rest of your life. Get away from this other person and think about what you really want. Look at things/people in your life and truly observe your thoughts and feelings in every moment. After you have been away from this person for a while and you’ve had time to think…re-evaluate your feelings once again. For that person and for your partner. If you still feel confused…I would say you may need some counseling/marriage counseling or to talk to someone you’re very close to and you know will give you the hard truth not just what you want to hear. Something inside you is unhappy and it may not be your partners fault at all. But you may be trying to fill some void in yourself with this person. You gotta figure it out before you make a bad choice. I’ve made plenty of bad choices in my lifetime already and I have never been able to forgive myself. So I say again…get away from this other person and re-evaluate your life please. You’re gonna be okay.
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Ignore said person. Block on social media, delete number, etc. Then find the spark in your marriage again. Flirt with your spouse. Go on a date- roll play. Anything to find the spark again. I tell everyone- love is a choice. Right now, you need to choose to love your spouse. However you have to do It- find a way.
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#eatinaintcheatin 
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Ask for a threesome? 
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Pray and study ur bible regularly
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Think about how you would feel if you spouse was doing the same and had an affair on you, think of all the lives it would effect if you would go further…if that dont shut your feelings off then not sure what …just know so many lives could be torn up …
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Stop talking to her. Eventually, the feelings will go away. I think you just might like the excitement part, which is fine. If you’re tempted though, you gotta stop talking to her.
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Most men are open for a 3sum. Try that and see if it’s something you enjoy
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“I’m married but have a crush on someone” her sex doesn’t Matter still ain’t right… get a divorce if u having feelings for someone else otherwise leave her alone.
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When you put “but” after a statement it makes everything before that not valid.
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It’s a crush. Tell yourself that you’re already taken and that you cannot have the other person. Crushes don’t pan out like a mature relationship with your spouse and you will end up regretting leaving your spouse over a ridiculous crush and you will become a very lonely person while your crush goes on to find true mature love and your spouse finds someone else.
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Read the bible… And then pray
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Yall wouldn’t be suggesting a 3some if she said it was another guy. Jokes aside this is about another person outside of your marriage. What would you want current partner to do if the roles were reversed. Distance yourself from this other person. Feelings are fleeting and I wouldn’t advise acting on them.
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This must be common, because it happened to me many times in the 21 years I was married to my now deceased husband. Just hang on…try to stay away from him…not put out any vibes, to him. Eventually you will catch sight/ sound of his “feet of clay”, which will turn you off fast…make you wonder what attracted you in the first place. Lol
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Okay if you can trust your husband I would ask him for a threesome.
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Just give it time… normally these pointless crushes burn out, sometimes because the crush does something that puts you off and other times… just because its just a crush and you see what the real love you have its worth… but let time work its course.
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Talk to your husband about this other female maybe he would let you date her? You never know. Some people do that. Whats the worse he says no so you just keep your distance.
Stop talking to other women…
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Love and affection are two very different things. I would obviously stick with who you love and simply move on from even the thought that it could be a possibility.
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I’m sure you pleasure yourself when your husband isn’t around. So just fantasize…
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Stay away from them and try to stop talking to them for a bit
fukit, just cheat.
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It’s a crush. You’re human. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive.
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Use your imagination 
My husband would absolutely love it if I had a girlfriend too 
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Your spouse was once a crush too.
talk to your partner about it. Talk as a couple to the person. let them reject you. or just let it simmer out. crush on a celebrity. wear a chastity belt give your partner the key. how hard is it actually to be faithful ffs
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I am bi and happily married to a man. I’ve had many girl crushes. I never act on them because I’m perfectly happy with my hubby. It’s just a crush that will pass eventually. Don’t worry about it too much. It’s natural.
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Shit I have many crushes on tiktok or any social media for that matter and I still go on with who I’m dating. Crush is that just a crush. Unless there are serious feelings there . Openly talk to your spouse about it . It could open a whole new world for you
Does anyone uphold the marriage vows today? Keep only to each other, or has that been forgotten and anything goes? I’d say spice up your sex life with your hubs and dont let thoughts get in your head…be faithful.
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I think it’s natural to be in a happy relationship but still be attracted to other people and even like them. It’s whether you act on it or not.
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Probably not as happily married as you think then
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Block communication and delete them from social media
Please don’t cheat
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What’s a girl crush?
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Don’t cheat…just leave if you’re gonna be an idiot. But stay committed to the relationship and cut block that person off, it seems you don’t want to end the relationship but finding it hard to get over the crush?? Selfish, just drop that bitch what the hell is wrong with you…
It’s normal to still find people attractive. Just don’t act on it.
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have your husband watch? mine has
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Good lord these comments aren’t it. Y’all act like monogamy is the only way to live. 
stupid af
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Use your imagination. Write out the fantasy. Empty it out.
It’s natural for someone else to make you feel like you are still attractive, it’s only natural to respond to that in a excited way. But remember your married and stay faithful to your spouse. Good luck
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You have 5 fingers but one life dont cheat. And when you get board there are 5 more.
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Would you feel the okay with your husband feeling the same way about a woman? Some of these comments🤦🏼♀️ It is normal to feel attraction and not act on it. Have some self worth and think about the future. Would you really want to hurt your husband over attraction? It’s going to be here all your life. Your husband won’t if you act on it. Water your own grass. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
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It will be hard, but be friends only
Its ok because the guy I’m with look at other guys sometimes. it’s perfectly normal to take appreciation of a beautiful soul.
A girl crush is adultry…
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you should make a move
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Polyamory is a thing. I haven’t tried it, but some people make it work. Maybe that’s an option for you A friend of mine who is polyamorous told me her husband and her tell each other about their respective crushes. Maybe it’s not such a bad thing to put it out there and be honest, idk. But I wouldn’t just deny your feelings. They’re there for a reason. I would just be sure to respect yourself and the person you are with. I wouldn’t act on it. Just keep talking about it. Maybe a therapist or trusted friend could help.
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I’d love to see how different these comments would be if this was a man with a crush on a girl
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Stay off TikTok, stay in your lane, and stay hoping your husband doesn’t find out
Y’all know damn well if she had posted “my husband has a crush on someone and may or may not act on it” these comments would be screaming for her to divorce him. Women are literally the WORST at double standards
Talk to hubby, he might be happy and will ask you to ask her to join.
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Talk to your husband, see how he feels about it. Im married, I have brought women home that I liked, he never had a problem with it . They leave and were still very happy. Communication needs to happen. He would want to know.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am married but have a girl crush on someone: Advice?
Just go stare at your wedding document
I know what you mean
Omg I had three recent people surround my life all day the same must be in the air. Maybe not sexual act all bit actually the saying soul mates cross they do and they don’t always mean jump bed with them maybe this person has all your securities down. And is genuine.
Genuine people are hard come by.
Like say my friend o don’t think it’s like she fancy her it’s more of like a soul mate. Sort like a bromance.
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All up to you either not be friends with her are stay friends ,
Just because youre on a diet doesn’t mean you cant still read the menu.
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