You got to 40 and you vacant work life out! Ya nevah will!
Talk to your husband about it
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Look,don’t touch.
You’ll be fine.
I’m sure your spouse has had the occasional crush too.
It’s harmless as long as you don’t act on it.
Concentrate on what you love about your partner… Or if that has fizzled, maybe try re-connecting with your partner so you feel more excited about them again?
Crushes happen though. Just don’t act on it and you’re fine 
Your curiosity will not subside! This is an animalistic urge we all possess. I agree with others talk to your husband see how he feels about you exploring your sexuality. You might explore and see it’s not all you thought or you might open Pandora’s box either way living a half life isn’t living
The grass always looks greener on the other side. Appreciate the man you have.
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Just talk to your hubs about it and see where he stands. He may be open to a 3some with said chick. But you haven’t really said if she has returned feels or anything so 
But NEVER act on attraction alone, or lust. You are married and should respect the relationship you are in.
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How about change “probably never will” with “absolutely won’t”
You saying you probably won’t act on it is giving you a narrative to act on it.
You are human, fantasy is normal. Acting on it will ruin your happy marriage.
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Look into poly and talk to your husband
It’s normal to feel attraction from time to time but attraction is based on mystery. To get over it, really get to know them as a person (not sexually). I tell ya, when you find out that person has many foibles just like anyone else does, they aren’t so cute anymore. Imagine being on a first date and learning that person is rude to staff or prefers a type different from you or has x issues. They are capable of turning you off as quickly as they may have turned you on.
don’t cheat how would you feel in reverse
Bring up the woman in question to your husband. Show him pics of her and see what he says. He may be attracted to her as Well. If so maybe a 3some could work for y’all, if he doesn’t feel attracted to her then u just gotta move past those feelings or keep crushing on her.
Think hard about those things that truly make you feel loved. Sometimes it is hard to know what makes someone else feel loved. Ask your husband what makes him feel loved. Ask your children if you have them what makes them feel loved. Encourage your husband to ask you the same question and be ready with an answer. What do you think that this girl friend could give you that you husband would not even if he knew how you feel. May be he could meet your needs when he knew what you need or want .
Better be away with your spouse on a vacation. Chill and speak out more with each other. . It’s just a normal human relationships that crushes are part in our life span. It’s more important to be at great mental space in your married life .
Engage yourself in as many activities as possible. The more you are idle the more you think of the crush which makes no sense at this point. Go through your marriage pics or talk about your funny and loving memories of your marriage and this will slowly fade away the thoughts of your crush. To keep any negative thought in mind, engage yourself in positivity.
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Emotional crushes are just as damaging as physical ones. Would you be hurt if the situation was reversed? Recognize, reverse, and repair if you care?
Imagine a great night with the girl and how in the morning your house, wife and kids are gone.
Sorry, I cannot fairly comment, because I have never had a girl crush.