Listen young lady you dont need this they are plain using.you they do not take you seriously at all thier treating you.like a door mat you’ve tried.to explain you dont appreciate this.but.it continues make up your mind you don’t want this.pack up and.leave.good luck my dear
Stand up for yourself. At the young age of 21 with no kids of your own you should be doing what you want and when you want.
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You can say I need to move out to prove that I am an independent strong person we can still date but I need to do this for me. Then move out. Enjoy being an independent strong person doing things in her own place and not being taken advantage of by people who don’t seem to respect you. You can always move back in later and if you visit him, don’t do anything for them. Don’t volunteer to do anything either unless you are asked outright
Then think about if you really want to do it or not.
From the sound of the situation you are not ready to be on your own if you allow these people to walk over you. You need to set boundaries, babysitting should be a small fee and discussed in advance, your time is worth money. As for housekeeper/cook, they should all be pitching in and helping. THE BEST WAY TO STOP ALL THIS is to get a job, you can’t do babysitting and housekeeping and cooking if you are at work! This also gives you $$$ to put away if you decide to move out on your own. If you have the funds to leave now, do so and become the independent adult who works and pays her own way, keep an apartment clean and cook your own meals. Do NOT have kids till married and settled, you’re not ready for the stress that brings if the father is the wrong man. Find out what you want in a partner/father before you don’t have a choice, that is adulting and independence. Good Luck to you!
Oh sweet girl the very best thing you can do is love yourself enough to get free from all of that. Your self esteem will soar when you are making it work on your own and you won’t ever tolerate anything like that again, I promise!
You answered your own question and you know just what to do.
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Fuck him sorry but I see it all to clear
STOP COOKING AND CLEANING. Mirror them all. Don’t be so reliable. Make excuses. Then it will be obvious who “can’t make it on their own”. Save your energy for your next steps. If your boyfriend sees you setting boundaries as a breakup, you better be ready to move, because that would mean he’s rather narcissistic
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You are 21 years old and they are taking advantage of your always being someone’s maid. One thing is the only person you can Chang is you. Not him. I would move out and start the relationship over again as dating and see if you can work out the problems before living together again. When he gets the baby have him call you to see if you are available. At least they can’t just leave her there unless you cave in and nothing will change and you will not be happy still.
Tell him your leaving wit bby and if he wants to come wit he can, but you no longer want your current living arrangement. You have your own family to care and worry about!
Anyone who love you will still be around if say NO to anything you feel is necessary for you peace of mind. You dont need to explain to anyone why. They just have to respect it. Goodluck. Stand up for yourself. Find it in you…
Get your own place that way you can control what happens there
lifes too short. Move out
Suggest you two getting your own place or everyone else goes , if he’s not willing to make that change for you then yes I’d do it on your own. Your happiness above all .
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Move out. This will motivate you and help you build the confidence you need to move forward with your own life goals. You are too young to be in this situation, stressing things that aren’t your responsibility. Your boyfriend can come if you/him want. No one else shld be living in ur place. In reference to babysitting, why are you available to do this? Aren’t you working or going to school, gym, etc.? Perhaps a daily self care routine. I’m glad you love this young man and his child but the fact that no one respects you including him has me truly hoping you leave and eventually leave it all behind. Sorry, just think if this family treats you like this now, I doubt anything will ever change.
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“I will be happy to watch your child with 24 hour notice, without notice, I can not accommodate free child care and will be forced to call CPS for an abandoned child”. “I am happy to do dishes on Monday and Friday, who is doing Tuesday? Wednesday? Etc?” If you really want to play hard ball, state what you are willing to do and get them to sign up for what they will do- do not do for them, Let them know you will call CPS ON THEM for an unsafe environment then DO IT! They help or you start getting the documentation that he/they are unfit
They are not respecting you…none of them…leave
If you have NO kids with this male - LEAVE. No explanation required. And, don’t go back! Sounds to me like he’s banging baby momma…
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Talk to your SO when my daughters father had roomates we spent Sundays doing the household chores EVERYONE and you need to establish this rule!
If your bf truly loved and respected you, he would want you happy. NOT overwhelmed. Time for you to do you. Be strong. You can do it!
Just leave hes using you for one his dam cousins and every one should not live there …hes using you to car fir his child he need to be responsible for that child more I’d leave I’m not a dam cha cha for any one of he wants to go with you so be it but bit with everyone
If he treats you like that as a girlfriend if you decide to marry him, you’re only making the behavior permanent.
Live your life and move on love.
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Well crap, sweetie. The handwriting is on the wall. Go. Leave. It’s nice that you care about the child, but really your priority needs to be YOU.
Pack up. No drama. Be ghost.
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Why the actual hell are you catering to the baby momma? That’s HER kid. Yeah, you love him or her too but that’s dads responsibility not yours! Holy cow. You’ve got to go out and live a life of your own. If you’re unwilling to leave, then simply quit doing anything other than yourself and the things you feel are worth doing for your ex. Quit watching the child except for when its dads visitation days. I have a tattoo in sand script that reads, “KNOW YOUR WORTH” you need to learn yours. And yes, you CAN live on your own. The simple fact that he thinks you cant is a sign of disrespect and control. He isnt thinking of you and being your support if hes telling you he doesnt think you can make it. That’s manipulative
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If ur bf loved u, he would have changed by now. He has had long enough to change. And clearly, he is clearly quite content treating u the way he does. He doesn’t change and says nothing to anyone else. U don’t need to move to prove to anyone how serious u are. Move to prove to urself that u deserve better and can make it on ur own. U don’t need to be taking care of anyone. U need to take care of urself and focus on u and ur own life. Sometimes it feels good to take care of ur the one u love, and that’s ok to a point, but focusing much of ur energy on that will rob u from ur own happiness. I’d say don’t walk, RUN, from this so-called relationship!
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You’re 21. You’re young. Find a dude who respects you before you waste YEARS of your life. I know you’re not going to like this but you’re a kid. You’re taking on adult responsibilities that you don’t need to! Move out. Get your own place with some cool roommates. Go out. Get drunk. Do stupid stuff. Enjoy your youth!!! You can be a grown up in like 7-8 years!!!
You need to stop being a door mat. Put your foot down and learn to say no.
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You love him, Apparently he doesn’t love you because if he loved you he would respect and care for you and your well being. From what you’ve said you are cheap labor no more no less if you move out do it to provide a better life for yourself and your child. You won’t prove anything to a man who’s using you. On the other hand you can yo-yo back and forth loving him and him using you in true narcissistic fashion for years suffering and blaming yourself because he keeps saying it is your fault in the long run get 15 years into the abuse and then try to get out. Your choice.
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This is going to sound harsh but stop being a door mat. He just sees you as the help and there are no boundaries. Run while you can because he will never change.
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Move out and lose your your boyfriend permanently!!
Put up notes sayin clean up after urself i not ur mother
Get a job so u are not available to babysit and let them realize the cleaning and cooking situation, then safe the money to get out. Otherwise it will get worse
You’ve taught them how to treat you by putting up with their bullshit! Stop being everyone’s door mat 
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Ask yourself, is he in a relationship with you because he needs you for he loves you? Or does he just want you to be his child’s nanny or a house mate with benefits?
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Your boyfriend,his mates…the ex with the child have NO respect for you !!! Do yourself a massive favour and find respect for yourself…leave and never look back…
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Hun, you just the maid, babysitter and free sex. You are not respected or cared about.
Time to prove to Yourself ,not anyone else that you can be an adult and live your life.
Pack your bags and go . Just walkout. Dont need someone like him., he will never ever respect you… you have to RESPECT YOURSELF first…
Have a happy life .
If you can financially support a household on your own, why are you living with a bunch of people?
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Girl, of course you can take care of your own place. But please please dont add a baby into this mix. Make a plan to save money. Cut back on your doing for everyone else. Get your own place. Enjoy the cleanliness and peace. Use the time to search in side yourself why you will let people treat you like a doormat so you can change whatever is causing you to act that way. You are worthwhile, you just have to believe it and win it.
Leave full stop no if or buts if u don’t want to leave cus u love him stop moaning n go clean cus u got to babysit there child …get out n get ya own place leave him n them to babysit clean
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You can’t change anyone, but you sure as heck can change what you do with your life, that’s ugly what you put up with, 
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No respect then ultimately no relationship. You’re not in a serious relationship, you’re in a convenient one. And I don’t mean convenient for YOU. Run as fast as you can right now!!! They never change and nothing you do or say will force the change you want. Clearly. Run.
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Run as fast as you can. You are so young. Don’t waste your life being a doormat to someone.
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Just say NO MORE. DONE!
Sorry about what you are going through, but a man should put you first than anyone else. If not, run while you can, is always better being single and happy than staying in a relationship where you are not respected. He won’t ever change. Don’t be afraid of being by yourself, you will be happy and eventually you will find true love 
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They are saying yes but really are NOT listening or they would change. If you can move out with your kid then do it!! You should be able to provide for you and your child by yourself as a single mom of a 15 year old I have always done it by myself which is not easy but I live by no one’s rules and I run my own house hold. If you have your own house he will have to pay support for his kid. You can love him all you want but what has it really gotten you? Time to toughen up! You’re being used
If you are my sister or my best friend I will tell you to live your life. Go have the life you want. But from what I read is… you were to scared, life is worth to take a risk, what if leaving the hell make you find the way to heaven. Take the risk, you are not live to make a point to your partner or who ever, love your self, no one holding your back. Get the fuck away from that place, you are not suppose to fix anyone or anything. Help your self.
You have two options from what I can tell. If you’re a stay at home mom, then you take care of yours and only yours. You cook dinner for your boyfriend and child, clean only what you guys dirty, and when she tries to drop off his child after you’ve blatantly told her no then you stick to it. But honestly, that’s just an option if you refuse to leave him because you love him. You are allowing this. You truly need to walk now, before you end up hating him, because it’s coming. He’s treating you like his live in maid, babysitter, and sex toy (just assuming). You are 21. Do NOT accept this as your life.
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Get rid of him and the other leaches their not going to change
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Looser boyfriend looser family and you are a looser if you stay in this relationship
Remember shame on them the first time , shame On you if you stay
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I’d leave get my own place. A 1 bedroom If your man loves you he’ll come to you then when free loaders try to stay you have the upper hand to tell them NO ! cause it’s your place. And I’d tell his ex to find a babysitter cause your working now and don’t have the time. If No One is on the same page as you get rid if all of them and let them do them and you do you.
If he doesnt stand by you when all this is happening, he is using you. Get out now and be good to yourself. Good luck!
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They are giggling and laughing behind your back
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Not worth it. My second fiance did this to me. Never again.
Wake up! Don’t ruin your life… Run 
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Yep. Move out. My ex did the same thing to me. He had no respect for me.
If you are going to move out to get your life together, then do so. But, if you move and still move the headaches with you, don’t complain. You are being used. Are you sure that your boyfriend is even your boyfriend? It’s understood that he has a child and takes care of said child. However, that’s on you to be the babysitter. When the woman comes over with the child, you need to just be dressed and leaving the house before they reach to the door. Get in you vehicle if you have one and drive off. Just go anywhere and chill out. And, if you let guilt get the best of you, coming on here for advise is just pointless. If you are jobless, which it sounds like, get one. If you need a higher education or some type of specialized training, do so. If you can move back in with your family, preferably parents, do so!!! Save your money. And, get out of that toxic relationship!!
What they all say above. 
. Good luck.
Get your own place. They won’t change, obviously cuz they don’t do as u ask.
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Stop worrying about what everyone thinks or feels. Why do you have to prove to anyone that you can do whatever on your own. Just do it! Or live your life in misery. Seems pretty simplistic to me.
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Are you sure you arent standing for this because you are scared to go out and live. A respectful guy will never let you live like that?. But how can he respect you if you are not doing it. The world is not going to change to please you. Find a job, pack your stuff, rent a room, save, travel, study whatever, just do something for yourself. Most of the big dilemma in live can be solved by growing up.
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Move! Don’t let him talk you out of it. Your resentment will only eat at you.
Like they say let it free. If it comes back it was meant to be.
It sounds like they dont respect u at all. If u stay in a place u r not treated with respect u wont b happy. U need to do whats best for u. And honestly if ur SO doesnt work with u to make the changes that need to b made then he doesnt really love u. If he did he would b concerned for u and ur happiness. Talk to him again. Give him a chance to do something but if he wont u need to move on with ur life without him. Just getting ur own place wont make him respect u
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When you say something and they acknowledge, STOP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING. they said yeah to you but in their head they think whatever she"ll do it she always does. When they get tired of seeing it’s not done either they’ll help or they’ll leave either way girl it’s a WIN WIN for you!! Good Luck
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Leave…period!!!
This is a no brainer
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They have no respect or love for you. You need to leave.
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Doesn’t sound like he loves you or appreciate you.move out and get a life you love to live and stop being used like garbage.i do it everyday and I have 14 and 15 year old .I work par time as a aged carer and I love my life.im FREE
stop being a doormat for people who don’t deserve you.
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To be 21 again and IF I had Facebook back in 1986! You are so young, you are at an age to do what you want, explore, volunteer, go back to school, discover a career, a passion, live life my dear! Get away fast! You need to do for you, put you first! Do you know how much sound advise you are getting here, listen…yes, listen to these comments, hopefully you will and heed what you are saying and listen to all this great advise and don’t let it go in one ear, out the other…like these people are doing to you that you wrote about. You’ve already acknowledged there is something wrong, your gut already tells you…then be free and DO NOT LOOK BACK! It probably took many of us to learn to love ourselves 1st, to put our needs 1st, to learn to be alone and happy. It took me a long time and finally at 46 bought my 1st house, lived by myself but always put everyone 1st before me, I FINALLY started to break those toxic relationships, even with the man I loved, I gave, did, exhausted myself, overextended, when I did, I started to accomplish so much. Listen to these people!! Good luck and you can do anything and do not listen they’ll change, and the oh babe this and that. It’s like a mom screaming at kids to do chores, or mom is on the warpath, as we’d refer it to, when this happened, yup, we’d run around to make mom unmad, but we’d just go back till the next warpath. This would be no different, they’ll, he’ll do the same!
Just leave because they are only using you if they care what you think they would respected that and if your partner love you he would have your back and not laugh behinded it
You sure he loves you? Cause that isnt love
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Stop being a doormat
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