Oh my. 
this is wrong
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What your doing is so messed up
Wait??? You’re almost 40, but still pulling shit like a desperate high girl?? Ugh?? I’m gonna tell you what I would tell them! Girl, you dont need NO baby!!
Don’t listen to the comments. They must all not understand that feeling of wanting more kids before your time is up. I understand. This is a big deal. I think not taking your birth control pills is better than taking pills without him knowing when he wants a baby. Or straight up tell him you arent taking pills anymore.
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I can’t believe you would even think this is love.
So wrong on so many levels
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If he has been clear about not wanting kids, hes likely never wanted kids & possibly got a vasectomy and hasn’t told you as he has informed you he doesn’t want kids & believes you’re on BC. But yeah, you cant ask to not be judged for something so messed up… p.s. I know more drunks with a hunch of kids than sober folks so i doubt it is the drinking.
I have a aromatherapy fertility blend I make that works. But I’d be careful if your man doesn’t want a baby. All the best
He may be sterile but doubt drinking has anything to do with it. Took me 4 years to become pregnant, I gave up. My second pregnancy was a tubal. I was lucky to have my son.
Let him know how badly you want this. Speak to him and try to convince him. This way u can both get checked by the specialist. Getting pregnant when you know he doesn’t want kids will be unfair to him. He may actually resent you for that. It may not end well so be careful.
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Giiiirrrrllll bye 
Oof. I knew as soon as I read the post that comments weren’t going to be in your favor.
It is wrong on all levels to purposely try to have a child with someone you know that you “love” who doesn’t want another.
It’s not right no matter how you slice it. Get a puppy, get a car. So whatever you have to do to cope with not having another child if your partner doesn’t want one. Period.
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From my husbands stand point. The dishonesty is UNACCEPTABLE. End of story. But no one walks a mile in your shoes, none of us understand your life or situation. However YOU SHOULD BE HONEST WITH YOUR PARTNER. THE LYING HAS TO STOP.
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I had my only daughter at 41 …
It’s not too late to delete this post 
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What you are doing is wrong on so many levels.
So I completely understand the wanting more children thing, but honestly I think you need to talk to him, tell him how it’s making you feel try to make him understand. Men aren’t completely unreasonable. Your desperate for a baby and I get that but I know men who have had women do to them what you are doing to your man and it hasn’t ever worked out well for the woman. 99% of the time the man leaves her. You can’t force him to have a baby, and it’s unfair to trap him with something he doesn’t actually want. Again communication is key to everything, and if he won’t give in maybe you need to think about what you want more him or the baby. I myself have 3 children but decided long ago I want 4, my partner has children from a previous relationship (which he ended due to his ex wife coming off the pill and instead of working on problems properly trying to trap him with another baby he left her the day she revealed the pregnancy test)… I have informed him I want another and he said he doesn’t really want anymore. I have also informed him my love for my children and want for 1 more is greater than my love for him, to which he agreed if its what I really want we can have 1 more one day but not until the others are older, I’m 26 I have a good 10 years at least to have another baby so I’m happy with that. You need to make it clear what you want and work out what’s more important to you. Communicate before you cause problems you can’t fix. X
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How fucking dare you. He doesnt want more children but YOU decided he doesn’t get a choice. This isn’t love, this is 100% lies and deciet and that has no place in a relationship. Find another way to fulfill ur issues, go to therapy, get a pet but do not trick the man u love in to getting u pregnant with a child he does not want!!
Wow! You dont love him you love his sperm! I have 3 babies n would kill fot morr as i love everything about being a mum but my partner doesnt want anymore. Because i love him and respect his decision i remain with the implant in and fully back his decision of havin the snip!!
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Just go out and get pregnant by anyone and continue to lie and tell him he’s the father. Lol
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Incredibly manipulative.
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Your sick in the head you can’t just come off contraception and make him think your still on it
Your partner deserves better tbh no one should ever be trapped into having a baby they don’t want you don’t do this to someone you love
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I will judge sweetie, that is not ok!
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Don’t judge you for not telling him you are off contraception are you being serious? You are basically saying you are trying to get pregnant without his consent he doesn’t even want kids that is so wrong on so many levels you should be ashamed of your self hope he finds out before you get pregnant and leaves you
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Why are you trying for a child when your husband doesn’t want one. You should be happy with the children you’ve got, some people cant have any.
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Have you considered the possibility that since he doesn’t want any more children that he might have already had a vasectomy!?!
Just throwing it out there…
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Maybe he got snipped cause he knew u were crazy and couldn’t be trusted. krama
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I had to track my ovulation when we decided to get pregnant and I was 41 at that time and it worked, now I’m 47 with a five year old to keep me going but do keep this in mind. The older you are the more high risk you are and it can be harder on you at this age. BTW it would be best if you told him cause he does have a say in this since it will be both of you involved in raising this child.
He could have gone secretly and taken the snip ,could be using male contraceptives (yes that’s a thing)had a friend who took it leave well alone cause at the end you may be taking care of your children on your own
There’s something wrong with you!
Your basically trapping the poor guy!..he said he doesn’t want any n ur trying away ther …so wrong on many levels
Maybe he made sure he couldn’t have anymore kids
Tell your husband you stopped using contraceptives. He doesnt deserve to be lied to, and you especially do not deserve him. Karma loves doing her job 
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I’m sorry but if you loved him you wouldn’t try having another child when he doesn’t and lying to him
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I can understand your desire to want another, and saying this without judgement, perhaps talk to him and if you both love each other so much he will come around seeing how much you want another baby. Then there will be no doubts or manipulation just love and understanding. Be open, be real and let the chips fall where they may.
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You’re an asshole. Point blank.
Do you think he won’t find out eventually? Do you think he’d appreciate you being such an underhanded bitch? I don’t.
If this was flipped, and he was poking holes in condoms when you absolutely did not a want baby, you’d be freaking out and talking about how bad a person he was.
Call this karma because what you’re doing is divorce worthy if he finds out.