I am struggling to get pregnant but doctors say everything is fine: Advice?

I’ve had three perfectly healthy kids but have been trying for our last for over three years now and can’t get pregnant. I have not had BC, been to The doctor and everything looked fine, any ideas why !”?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am struggling to get pregnant but doctors say everything is fine: Advice?

Maybe it’s not you. Have him get checked

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Maybe is it your significant other?

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Could be stress trying and maybe start some prenatals. It helps and maybe start tracking ovulation.

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Put baby shoes over the bed

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We tried for 2 years nothing. We quit trying and bam!

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Give your mate more head. Me and my girl tried for 3 years. When she started going down more she was pregnant within 3 months

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Get him checked. If you’ve been checked and you’re fine then it’s not you. Although I have heard of unexplained secondary infertility which is where you have issues getting pregnant despite having kids and they don’t know why. I had it between my second and third babies.

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Male vitamins and your vitamins ( conceive plus) at the same time as you are trying to conceive.

It always happens when you’re not trying !

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Gods timing love :heart: keep faith God will decide when your ready trust me I know it happened to me when you stop trying it will happen just have patience

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I’ve seen many stories that starting keto has been key for them but everyone 1 is different. I tried for 7 years before I got my second baby. Good luck

Have your guy’s sperm count checked… Might be him not you. Also if hecwwould wear cotton boxers (the woven kind bot the boxer breifs) that keeps his junk cooler and helps sperm count.

Have they checked to see if your tubes are blocked? That’s what was wrong with me and when they flushed them I was pregnant 3 weeks later.

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Stop trying. I know it sounds crazy, but you’re stressing over it, focusing on it. Just stop- have sex when y’all are in the mood. Take a break from ttc. Give yourselves time to relax without it being a chore (so to speak). It’ll happen when you least expect it. :blue_heart:

Stop trying and just do it for pleasure. :heart::kissing_heart:

if not tracking ovulation, def do that by the strips and digital. have hubby get checked out.

Had your partner been checked as well? Stop trying. The stress of wanting to get pg can sometimes prevent pregnancy.

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I didn’t weigh enough. I gained 10 lbs and got pregnant no issue.

Did your spouse decide no more and get a vasectomy

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Have you had a blood test to make sure that everything is fine for you? I was told that if you’re trying and it takes more than a year in your 20s, 6 months in your 30s, or 3 months in your 40s, get a blood test to check out your egg count and “age” of eggs. If you’ve had a blood test, then time to have hubby checked out. And you might want to take a break from “trying” for a few months and just relax and try not to think about it. As others have said, sometimes relaxing and not thinking about it, helps it happen. Good luck!

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Gets harder with age and weight gain for some people

Could be the daddy and not you!

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Go to a fertility Dr, they have SO many options before IVF and can figure out the issue (hopefully) very quickly. We went checked our options, got my husband checked and then did a few tests myself. They went non invasive/cheapest to more expensive and it wasn’t very long before it worked. :sparkling_heart:

If you haven’t seen a fertility specialist, see one. OB’s are not fully aware of other issues, especially if the male is the one with problems.

Definitely hit up a fertility doctor instead. Obgyn‘s are basic. He needs a semen analysis as well

Time for a new doctor.

If you have been trying for 3 years with no luck, have been to the dr and they won’t help…its time for a different dr!!! Big red flag!! Keep fighting for you and your future baby!!
Good luck on ur journey momma! It took us almost 8 years for our rainbow baby that’s due at the end of the month!

Have your man get checked… Maybe he has something going on

Just throwing this out here… could be your dr not telling you something, I have read stories where drs have refused to help women with having more babies cause they thought they had enough. I know it sounds crazy but just be super aware and look for signs from your dr. It’s very weird you all of a sudden can’t convince and already have 3 children. Not saying they did something to you I’m saying they may be just overlooking something they know is causing to be the issue cause in their opinions you may have “enough” children. It’s happened before🤷🏻‍♀️

Idk why but look for Krystal Alkaline Doula on fb. Shes helped hundreds of women get pregnant. Including women who weren’t looking to get pregnant

Your trying too hard, stop trying just have fun. My husband and I were trying for 6 years. I lost 40lbs and we stopped trying we got pregnant

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am struggling to get pregnant but doctors say everything is fine: Advice?

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am struggling to get pregnant but doctors say everything is fine: Advice?

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It took 4 years after our second to get pregnant, we miscarried. 4 years later we had another tragic loss. I had emergency surgery and an ovary removed. We gave up, not that we were trying, but not preventing either. 6 months later we got pregnant with our 3rd princess and she will be 2 this year. There’s a 10 year gap between baby and our older two. Sometimes it’s a long road mama. I was checked for my thyroid, A1C levels, anything. I was overweight, got on keto and got pregnant fairly easy after that. I wish you the best mama.

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Also every OB says the same thing, if you have kids your stuff is obviously working . No [email protected] that’s not what that means. Sorry I had one tell me this when I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy .

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It took me 6ish years to get pregnant with my first. It took seconds to get pregnant with my second (literally I had an IUD For 3 years we got it removed so we could have a 2nd baby and went home and did it and that’s all it took) sometimes it’s just weird that way but don’t give up

Please remember that each year your age increases, your chance of pregnancy decreases. I would say stop trying and it will happen when you least expect it. I had a surprise pregnancy at 45 with my 4th.

This will probably put me in Facebook jail, but we tried for months for our first and one night my (now ex) suggested I smoke MJ. I woke up pregnant the next day. I was so trying and stressed over it it’s all I thought about while having sex lolol. That night I didn’t think about anything but Doritos and sex.

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Stress of trying can hinder the progress. I’ve known a lot of people who conceived after they stopped trying so hard

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Stop trying so hard…stress plays a huge roll. Just live life, have sex normally and it will happen when it’s supposed to. Took me 16 yrs but when I stopped " trying" it happened. She’s 15 now.

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Don’t try, don’t plan. That worked for us. I have a 2 healthy pregnancies before trying for a 3rd baby.
Me and my man tried for 4 years, and we have so many miscarriages, and the doctor kept saying we were fine, nothing was wrong.
We quit trying. And finally succeeded in getting pregnant. I’m 18 weeks now.
We quit stressing about having a baby, an I resigned myself that we wouldn’t be able to have one.
Don’t stress about having a baby.
Also take your vitamins! Eat healthy.

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Try Premom ovulation tests from Amazon- very inexpensive for a big box but they work with the premom app to check your hormone patterns. Turns out I’m ovulating wayyyy later in my cycle than I originally thought I was- therefore when we would try it was too early. Periods are like clockwork so I was none the wiser.

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If they say nothing is wrong then it could be the pressure of it making it difficult. Has your partner been checked too? Things he is eating/doing could lower his sperm count. As well as what kind of underwear he is wearing. I know how depressing it can get. And how hard miscarriages can be on you. I’m so sorry and I hope it all works out for you. :black_heart:

C-section? I’ve been reading about how C-section scars on the inside of the uterus can prevent pregnancy. It can form a cup like scar that collects uterus lining when it sheds every month and becomes a toxic environment that is impossible for sperm to survive. Asherman’s syndrome

Endometriosis PCOS were challenging for me when trying to conceive 5 miscarriages and 1 hysterectomy later,

Did they do the dye test? It is possible that your tubes are blocked.
It could also be stress.
Really, it could be a number of things that a regular pap doesn’t show.

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It took my aunt 12 yrs to get pregnant & there was nothing wrong with her. Everyones different. But get a 2nd opinion if your gut instinct tells you too

Could be the man firing blanks… If it’s a different father I say that’s probably the answer. Just because we carry and birth the babies doesn’t mean everything is to do with us during conception.

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Stop trying! Have fun enjoy each other! And it would naturally happen! :blush:

You might be perfectly fine and healthy…it can always be your partner. Try having him get his semen count checked

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Stress can cause problems along with mental health as well

Go to a fertility specialist

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Quit trying, I had both of my kids when I wasn’t trying

I tried for 4 1/2 years I gave up like everyone says to then I went back to trying and nothing worked. Was on so many rounds of clomid and then my first round of letrozole I got pregnant with my little man!

Not sure but you should put your legs up on the wall after sex for a good thirty minutes and maybe have your SO take extra testosterone pills (if he can)

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How’s your state of health? Mental and physical

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It took me 7 years between my first n second! 7 years I was so heart broken each month. Then between my 3rd n 4 it took 6 years then my 4th n 5th another 6 years. No birth control at all.

Have you had the vaccine?

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You need some labs and a dye test as mentioned above.

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I may get in trouble for this…but the funny answer is your body is FU after three kids! :rofl:

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Mucinex thins the mucus which helps.i tried for 9 years after my 1st. Finally gave up got a job and got pregnant. I wanted another one after the 2nd. Doctor said if I wanted more it’s easier to get pregnant after you have one. I have 3 handsome boys now.

Stop trying too hard if you have been… let your hormones relax!

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It took us 5 years and just had our first daughter 5 monthes ago,we had to learn how to stop stressing about it and when we stopped stressing about it,it happened.

I noticed personally while we were actively trying, we had no success. Then we quit trying as I had gotten sick and was on antibiotics and Mucinex and decided to start trying again and BAM!! Not even 2 weeks later, we found out I was pregnant

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Secondary infertility… Either of you- full fertility panels need to be done by a reproductive endocrinologist

Have all his tests come back ok?

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Check your thyroid levels (full panel not just TSH) underactive thyroid can cause issues with fertility and miscarriage.

Maybe on the husbands part ?

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Decide to change your mind, decide you don’t want kids then BAM just like that you’ll get pregnant.

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She needs to see an reproductive endocrinologist

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Just quit trying so hard. Relax. Stress can make it hard to conceive

Different partner?are you over 35?

Stop trying. Just enjoy having sex & it will happen

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Get drunk!!! You not him lol this has worked for several of my friends!!

Weight
Any Prescription pills
Stress
Can stop it

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It’s not always the guy that’s the issue and I know many women on the thread will likely claim it’s him. The fact is there could be something unrelated to how fertile either of you are. If you’ve been trying that long I’d go ahead and talk to your Dr about having some infertility tests done. My husband has 2 from a previous marriage and I have one from a previous marriage as well. We tried for over a year and had the tests done while we both are fertile as hell come to find out that sometime after my son was born I developed bilateral obstruction of the fallopian tubes. So you both could be perfectly fine you could just have issues getting the party goers together.

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Are you actually tracking ovulation? Because if not, you can easily miss the like 3 day span a month you’re fertile. You have a 30% chance at BEST to get pregnant each month, that’s a perfectly healthy person. Track ovulation.

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Get guava leaves boil them nd drink water mkes u fertile and cleanses the uterus

Ask your ob for clomid or letrozole.
Took me 13yrs to get pregnant. 3 yrs no birth control got pregnant with twins and had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. My dr gave me letrozole 6 months later and i got pregnant 1 round. My son is 2 months old now

Might be weight or hormones fluctuations. Your body is not the same as it was before

Have you been sent for tests/scans etc doctor can’t just assume everything is fine.

Age? New partner? Stress? Could be anything.

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As soon as we stopped trying, I got preggers!

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Just have fun. That’s all you can do

Um mabe its your partners sperm count, mabe its not you

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Go to a specialists or just wont happen again

No idea why… but this is a situation where you should pay close attention to your cycle… I have a thought that may help, but im not sure… ok so… your period flushes out all the old lining and whatnot. After that your uterus starts building a new lining, and the ovaries release a fresh egg… maybe if you have intercourst 3-5days after your cycle ends, and try to stay laying down afterwards, like go to sleep instead of going to pee or whatever… it might help, because the semen is lingering in the vagina, giving it more time to reach the new egg… it makes me happy to know some women have kids, and still want more. You have a love of children and that’s just awesome. Always consult your doctor for pregnancy help and options. I wish you the best! Good luck!

Everytime I would het pregnant I would have miscarriages within a week or so so of finding out… I changed my diet up to try to lose weight and started eating more proteins and cut out unnecessary carbs and ended up pregnant … My son is almost 3 now… If i hadn’t switched it a low carb diet I would have lost him too

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You’re probably putting to much pressure on yourself about it and it’s stressing your body out. Stop trying for a bit, I bet it happens in no time :blush:

It could even be your man! If none of these other suggestions work, have him get tested.

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Ever occur to you that your man has the problem?

It could be your partner

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Pre mom ovulation strips off amazon and the Premom app is free! Pee on ovulation strip everyday except when you’re on your period. Take prenatals and eat a lot of avocados & nuts!

Things happen for a reason :heart:
Goodluck :two_hearts:

Take black haw bark capsules.

Could be him and not you

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Stop trying then it will happen

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Have your partner checked.