I would talk to my parents about taking the baby. If the court asks you why you gave your baby up for adoption, and you say cuz you can’t afford it, then they more than likely won’t give you 2 kids back
I know a girl who lost her first kid to the system so she would just get pregnant again. She would have the baby a few weeks MAYBE a month and CPS would take it because she was unfit. This pattern went on 6 times and when time came for her to get custody back she had NEVER parented 1 child for 6 months, let alone 6. She lost custody to her parents and now all the kids are thriving. If you don’t want the baby, give her to your parents so she can be raised with her sisters. Obviously they aren’t that bad or they wouldn’t have custody of the other 2, they could have just let CPS take them.
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This is a very difficult situation, but plenty of women have raised their child while working as a server. Will it be easy? No, but it’s possible.
Also think of your other children, how would they feel if they had a sibling they have no relationship with?
You and your BD need to get it together and raise this child.
Personally, if you cannot provide for these children you should look into more effective forms of birth control.
Please give the baby up for adoption. You need to get your life together before you have anymore kids.
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I will adopt your baby girl if you give her up. I have 2 grown boys 22 and 19. I adopted them when they were babys. I wasn’t able to have kids so we went through adoption.
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Just do what mother’s do, break barriers and kick some butt, you got it girl…stay strong!
You need to get your tubes tied or get on birth control
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Do the right thing…Keep your child & everything will fall in place
Imagine being in a situation, feeling absolutely torn and devastated, and trying to reach out for advice just to be told to get on birth control 
do better. It’s a tough situation but you should be able to get help to try to get your children back. I know we have a Legal Aid program where I’m from that will help you build cases and support you for free. I was in a tough spot a few years ago after a DV situation. I ended up pregnant with my 4th child. I decided to keep him and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. It’s going to be tough but you sound tough too. Sending you so many prayers.
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Not as dumb as u were…sorry…but pregnant again… … I had 3 friends when we were young give babies up for adoption and they found out they ended up having GREAT lives. Help someone else who isn’t overwhelmed and wants a baby. Your parents are already overwhelmed with yours.
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Please have a serious talk with your parents. They need to hear from you why you’re considering adoption, that it’s not to get rid of responsibility, but to give you a better chance of getting yourself together for your two kids that they have. They deserve that and your new baby deserves a shot at a good life too. Maybe your parents could see that if you had a really serious grown up talk with them. I was 29 years old before I had my 3rd child and I’m a single mother. It is absolutely doable but there is nothing easy about it. You need to work at least full time to be able to afford caring for them and childcare is very expensive. Think about it and I hope things work out for all of you.
You can ALWAYS regroup!!! Get a better job and fight like hell to get your kids. I wouldn’t give my baby up for the reasons stated. Pray and Fight
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PM me please!!!
Sounds like you need an ear to listen and maybe some non judgemental advice!!!
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Life is hard but if you want it to work you will make it happen. I got pregnant at 16 and my family wanted me to give the baby up for an open adoption and the family would give me 100,000. I said no so i was going to move out but once the baby was born they changed their minds and helped me raise her. My oldest daughter is now 18 and thriving and i don’t regret giving up my life for her. Judges usually favor the mother unless there are drugs etc going on. If you truly changed and can prove you are doing well then go for it get those kids back. I know someone that abandoned their child for years moved 15+ times and other crappy behavior she still got her kid back. Good luck!
You do what’s best for you and your baby, adoption is a beautiful thing. Only you know what is good for you and what you can handle. No shame in that…
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Honestly- that kid should come first and what I heard a lot of what worries about the kids who have been taken already and your desire to have them- this baby sounds pushed aside and like you plan to give it away as you feel you can’t take care of it- which if you can’t take care of this baby- then you certainly can’t take care of your other children either. You need help with the depression and things. You need to work hard to attempt to get your life stable where you could provide a stable healthy happy environment for your child- as you are pregnant again. Someone else made a comment and they are right- even if your baby went to an extremely loving family adopted children for the most part grow up confused when they were given up and then eventually want to meet their birth families and sometimes have them apart of their lives- it comes with immense emotional damage and pain many times then also then effects their character, outlook on life, etc etc etc you make it. Speaking from personal experience. You’re in a tough spot. My advice is to get your stuff FULLY together to where you can take care of the child you are carrying that is yours. Also- stop getting pregnant until you are fully able to do this without having to consider giving away children. Get your life fully together- love and take care of this child. Hopefully once you really have things together you can work on regaining custody of your other children.
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Jesus people are so mean. She knows she messed up and is actually probably feeling horrible. No need to kick someone while they are already very down.
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I sympathize with you it sounds like you’re in a tough position. It sounds like life got the best of you for a while which can happen to anyone. It happens to the rich and celebrities all the time but they have the money to “bail themselves out” of hard situations like that and get out unscathed. It sounds like you just don’t have the money to “bail yourself out” you need to prioritize and take it one step at a time.
Step 1. Do you have proper housing? If not, find housing resources even emergency housing.
Step 2. Get on government assistance. It’s there for people in tough spots like you. Don’t depend on it, use it as a stepping stone.
Step 3. Make sure you’re working often and consistently, take parenting classes wherever and whenever you can as well. Get into consistent therapy. Get meds if you need help with anxiety/depression. Be consistent for at least 3-6 months.
Step 4. Contact DCF/the caseworker whoever is in charge of the custody case and fight for your kids back. You don’t need a big fancy lawyer, you just have to do whatever they tell you to do and comply. And show them how much effort you’re putting in and that you’re stable
The baby is up to you. Don’t use the baby as a Bandaid for your others kids (of course) but if your heart is telling you to keep the baby then keep her. But make sure you’re mentally stable and prepared for the HUGE amount of work and responsibility that comes with having a newborn as well as working and fighting for your other kids. But do what YOU think is best for yourself and the baby.
Never give up!!! One thing you want to say to your kids even if things don’t go your way, is that you never gave up on them. That you always tried your best. It’s so hard and sounds like you really care which says more about you than the circumstances you’re in. Rally a good support system and take baby steps to get back on track. You will be okay. The kids will be okay. Take it day by day and stay consistent.
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Why would you not want this baby to be with her other siblings your parents have so u would rather a stranger raise her
You’re the only one who can make that decision tbh
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Wow some of you ladies are just pure evil. I guess none of you have ever made any mistakes in your life. Look if you want to keep your baby keep her momma , dont let what any of these negative people are saying. Do what’s right for you. We all have a past and make mistakes. Also kids want parents who love them , kids don’t care about money when they are small. I would suggest maybe getting some counseling to get your head clear so you can figure out what is best for you and baby right now. I wish you the best of luck.
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I feel like something is missing to this.You cant just gain emergency custody of a child over a cold.
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Yeah adopt it out. Because you’re clearly not mature. Not once was anything your fault or a result of your irresponsibility in this entire thing. It was everyone else’s fault
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Hugs and prayers for you and I’m a message away if you need someone to talk to.
Stop your pity party. If you want to be a mom to your first kids then take the steps to do so. Get yourself right. Get a job, seek a doctor that can help get you there mentally and stop giving up on yourself and using your kids/parents as an excuse. This is tough love speaking. Coddling won’t get the message strong enough for you to understand. Get off social media and change your life for those kids you brought into the world.
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Dont get pregnant again. There are lots of birth control option.
Then get yourself together. Fight for your kids, its never too late. Goodluck.
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Let your parents handle the kids until you can get yourself on track I don’t know how many kids your parents are willing to help with but if you’re depressed you can use the help right now. You’re living in a scared state which I totally get but take things one day at a time. If you believe this baby will be better with adoptive parents that’s your choice. If you think your parents would take another kid that would be amazing. A baby is a lot of work time money patience as you know. Get your mental health right and your home life right then go get your babies. Much love
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Coming from someone who has put a baby up for adoption, it’s VERY hard and the depression you go through is unlike anything. You need to do what you think is best for your BABY, not yourself though. I have an open adoption and it’s wonderful. I wouldn’t change his parents for anything but it’s been almost 11 years and let me tell you it never gets easier knowing someone else is raising my son. I did what I knew was best for him, I was young and I was also on birth control- for the people that think protection always works. You need to focus on getting your other babies back.
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Get your tubes tied!!!
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Pm me I may have some advice
I am praying for you right now
Hang in there mama. Ignore the rude comments on here.
Gosh people on here are AWFUL.
We ALL make mistakes even if they are not the same as the posters mistakes. None of us are worthy to judge someone else. NONE OF US.
You need to do what is right in your heart. I’m praying for peace in your situation. I hope that maybe you could somehow re connect with your parents and sit down with them and discuss your situation. Reach out to someone you trust and respect and just lay it all out on the table for guidance. I’m praying for you!!
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Adoption & get your tubes tied .
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Putting your baby up for adoption is one of the selfless things to do. It means you love your baby more than u love yourself because u want what is best for it. Kudos to you.
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These comments are absolutely horrific. Whoever posted this, PLEASE PM me! I might be a complete stranger but I will absolutely be support if you’re needing it and can help you find the proper resources for whichever path you choose to take. You’re not alone mama 
we’re not defined by our mistakes!
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I’m so sorry you are having to go thru all of this and you are going to get so many different kinds of advice, but you have to do what you feel is right and if you ever need to just talk I have an ear to listen . I’m a mom and a grandmother and I will listen without judgment.
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Oooo this is a hard one. I guess my only advice is just keep praying or whatever it is you practice and just really listen. You don’t know if by the time you had baby if you are in a better spot than you are now? I feel like what your parents did was illegal on some kind of grounds. Please fight to get your girls back. Maybe adoption would be easier and best. Ugh. This is heartbreaking and I’m so sorry you’re having to go thru it. I was adopted. At 7. It was an open adoption so it was alright.
Whatever you choose to do please just talk to your doctor about an IUD or something so you aren’t in this position again
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Do you think you are gonna get money for putting this baby up for adoption in your explanation you say if I put this baby up for adoption I could get help with paying off fines and get a lawyer honey that’s not how it works you should do research first
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It breaks my heart to read this. I watched my best friend go through a very similar situation years ago. You seem like you are trying so hard to do whats best for your kids, kuddos!! Ignore the nasty commenters, they don’t know what being human means. I think about adopting everyday, so know that there are many people in this world that would give anything to love and raise this unborn child. This is not a decision the internet can make for you sweetie. Be strong and be brave, keep moving forward. Reach out if you’d like to chat, I’d be happy to just talk with you. Sometimes that’s all we need to clear the minds tangled thoughts. If you do consider adoption, I’d love the opportunity to be considered. Keep your head up, take time and reflect and most importantly take others opinions as guidance, not directions. Take all that you learn and make informed decisions, you got this Mama!!!
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Take a deep breath and consider keeping your third daughter if you are emotionally fit to care for her. You don’t know what the future has in store with your other two daughters, but adoption is permanent. Good luck.
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How is getting on birth control & getting her tubes tied gonna help her with her question? She was asking about adoption not that…
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Everyone makes mistakes, your past is your past. Today is a new day. Take a day (or whatever time you can spare) go to a quiet place, write all your thoughts down. Then write everything that you want. 1 steady income, roof over your head (sounds like you already have) 2 get yourself figured out (find out your fines, get on a payment plan, serve your time (idk your govt situation), apply for govt benefits (it doesn’t have ti be forever, but if means getting your kids back, then it’s totally worth it), get yourself to a happy, stable and safe place. 3 get your children back (and what you would need for that to happen for them to be safe, happy and stable).
You can’t take care of anyone until you take care of yourself. You are not a failure. You were just knocked down, get yourself back up. You will be knocked down again; it’s how quickly you can get yourself back up.
After you know exactly what you want, talk to your parents CALMLY and tell them your goals. If the conversation goes bad, then kindly excuse yourself and ask they call you when they can continue the convo civilly. Tell them you understand you will make mistakes but you will learn from them. Thank them for helping you this far and go from there. I do believe they had your children’s best interest by taking them even if it hurt you. Try and look at the big picture- it takes a village and it wouldn’t be horrible if you had them on your side.
You got this. It going to be a long hard road but it’s def something you can do. Good luck!!
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Give the baby to your parents, they have your other children and at least you will get to watch them grow up, if adopted out you won’t ever see the child again! And get yourself on a birth control until your ready for a Baby
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Honestly I would keep this beautiful baby girl 
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Sure there’s assistance out there to help you with your mental state etc
As long as you have a roof over your heads a bassinet clothes etc breastfeeding her use cloth nappies. N concentrate on this baby
Your other kids are being taken care of for now it’s a very hard situation you’re in but god please love this baby and cherish her .
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Dont give up on this baby to try to get the other 2 fight for all 3. I wished I had more I just lost my husband on july 10 if this year we were trying for another one but didn’t happen dont give up on all 3.
As a birth mother who was also coerced by circumstances to give my daughter up for adoption, I have some advice for you.
First, Please don’t listen to people who have not given their child up for adoption because they have no idea what it feels like.
Second, join some birth mom groups and adoption triad groups. I can suggest a few if you like. You will hear first hand stories from other birth moms and Adult adoptees. There is a ton of trauma with adoption and you will hear about it from both sides.
Third, adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Fourth, I am in reunion with my adult daughter. I didn’t see her, hear about her, know what she looked like or anything about her for 27 years. It was the worst time of my life and I was completely depressed. Reunion hasn’t fixed everything but I have started to heal.
Finally, it is the biggest regret that I have in my life. I would never encourage anyone to give their child away to strangers. It is a horrible life sentence.
Sending hugs to you.
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You guys are such horrible people. Literally hope you don’t pass your opinions onto your kids
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Smh! You’re still dum. Get yourself some help.
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You’re wanting to give a newborn baby up for adoption, not throw a toddler in a foster home randomly…There are SO many families waiting to adopt, especially newborns:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:, and statistics show that adopted kids usually do end up living a better lifestyle. Do what you feel is in your heart. Praying 
everything works out in the end.
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If you have any doubt don’t do it x
I don’t know where you live but go find a prolife organization. Where I live we have Willow. They help you with everything. Counseling, dr. Etc. best of luck and you will make the right decision.
I feel like there are a lot of gaps in this story. Emergency custody for just a cold?? Perhaps your parents can take the baby too. So you atleast can see it from the sidelines like the others as you mentioned. Please seek mental health aide. Not being disrespectful, just being real. Birth control. Get control of your life and start with the realization it is no one else’s fault but your own, however, your past does not dictate your future. You can do it
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Y’all all saying get on birth control clearly don’t know not everyone can be on birth control
Hi hormonally imbalanced thrombophilic person here. Birth control can cause stroke and heart attack to some of us…just for those of you who don’t know…
Mama if you want your baby and can provide do it. I am a poor mom and I love my kids and do everything I can for them.
I hope you at least get to see your other kiddos. Take one step at a time. Talk with your partner and see what he wants. He should be fighting for y’all’s kids too young or not he has kids to take care of.
Remember not all foster kids get a home and that life can be hell on a child…
You’ve got this! See if there is a low income lawyer you could talk to about what to do for custody of your other kids. Try to talk with your parents and show yourself as being able to care for your daughter. If you’ve been paying child support you should have visitation rights too!
You have a house car and a job…make sure your partner has a job too. Sounds like some therapy prob wouldn’t hurt if you could get on a low income sliding scale place if you’re hating yourself… You should be able to get on Medicaid since you’re pregnant.
I am sorry you’re torn right now on what to do. Don’t just go off what everyone else tells you Is better it is your life and your children not theirs.
Do what you can for your children. Practice safer sex or take more shots in the mouth 
can’t get preg if he isn’t cumming in you but y’all can still have fun.
I wish I knew what advice to give you. I have lost 2 kiddos due to miscarriage and I’ve even thought the court system for custody it is not fun at all. I pray you get the answers you are seeking and can some day get your kids back. Stay strong mama
There’s alot of missing info. You can’t get custody like that over just a cold, plus if your child is sick they take priority over a concert. And if you know that your parent’s won’t let you see the other 2 if you give this one up, why is that even an option? I wouldn’t risk my visitation with the others like that. Id be willing to bet that they will end up with this one too…
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Hi if you want I am a birth mom I just put my baby up 3 months ago I am more then happy to give you advice if you wanna message me
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I think there may be more to this story on how the children were able to be taken away so easily and if your baby daddy really wanted to be a father he would have taken the opportunity to learn as you go as ALL first time parents do . YOU are the only one who can decide what kind of life this new baby is going to have in your care and your decision is made . Anyone can turn their life around - it all depends on how bad you want the situation/cycle to change .
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I think you should give this baby to your parents, with the hope of working on yourself and eventually getting them all back. At least that way they will all grow up together. And they won’t have to wonder why mommy kept one or gave one up for adoption and not the others.
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It’s tearing you upside cuz you really want to keep your baby. I say go where love is….
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Praying for peace and calm surround you and for TBE Lord to guide you in the situation you are in
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Why didn’t you fight for your other children the past THREE years? Let someone else raise that baby correctly before your parents have to take this one in too.
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All I got is judgement, so I’ll stick with good luck and prayers for you.
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Oh Lord I would love to have another baby. Please do what you feel is best for the baby. This is a very tender subject. I admire that you realize that you have a serious situation and are seeking advice,but no one can make this decision for you. Praying that you make the right decision and that your baby has the best life possible.
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Oh my girl. Ask for help.
God bless you as you decide…
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I say, if you want to keep this baby, fight. It isn’t going to be easy but in the end you’ll be where you want. The fact you’re reaching out shows how much you actually care. Considering and going though adoption is such a hard but selfless act of love. You’re showing how much you have matured and you’re realizing that it isn’t going to be easy. Being a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I’ve gone through something similar and I have all 3 of my kiddos in my custody. Raising them I question myself constantly. Was I ready to be a mom at 19? Absolutely not. Did I make dumb and stupid decisions along the way? Absolutely. Do I regret any of it? Sometimes. But at the end of the day, I see where I am at and how far I have come. I did it for my kids. I still do it for my kids. I can’t give up.
Listen to own soul and intuition. What is it truly telling you. Why do people have to rent space in your head. Get them out of there. Cut 
some off. Block some out. Wouldn’t surprise me that you are trapped with low vibrations and toxic people. Some may look like they’re helping but they could be fake. Study and observe their words does it match with their actions. You and your beautiful babies could live a good life if you could find your supportive loving and healthy team. Take what resonates with you. As for your parents I am unsure how good it was in your childhood but if it wasn’t good they could be doing their best by helping you or just taking from you. If you want you babies back. Ask some social networks and services on how to. What procedures do you have to process in order to successful have them returned to you. First and most of all. Choose your babies over. Everyone and Everything 
God bless you, I have 2 kids of my own and I adopted 4, I love my children more than anything in this world. I know you have a hard decision to make, but pray, stay strong and keep a positive mind. If the last decision you have is to give the baby up, know you did all you could, I can tell from your post you have put a lot of thought in this, and it wasn’t just a whim. God bless you. If you need someone to talk to, I’m available.
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Also don’t feed into arguments or anything with your parents over texts if they’re being mean to you ask if your girls need anything or how the girls are. Keep convos to just the girls and wanting to know how they are or if there is anything you can do for them…(that’s legit what my lawyer told me when it come to dealing with my abusive ex hubs don’t argue or anything just keep Convo about our child even if they’re nice to you. Just talk about the kids cuz they’re what matters anyway )
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Honestly u need to get your shit together. Your priorities all fucked up… you need to be trying to get your other kids back and stop having more kids. Your parents already raised they kids now they’re raising yours. Give the new baby up for adoption and get your shit together hun. No kids should be without their mother.
Keep your baby or you will regret it. Then go tie your tubes.
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STOP HAVING BABIES!!! Birth control is free if there is financial need!!! PLEASE!!!
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I haven’t been in your situation and I feel for you. After you give birth, please get on birth control . Do you have any idea if your parents would be willing to take in this child as well ? Your babies really need their mom but until you can get a lawyer you sadly are stuck. Since you’re depressed I would suggest a therapist ASAP , one who has helped other young moms like yourself, and would know how to navigate the system and help you get the necessary resources . You are in a tough position . I wish you love and luck
I’m curious how they were able to get emergency custody for a cough? There’s definitely more to the story.
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Hey this group is awful at being empathetic, you should ask this question in one of these groups Gentle Parenting Gentle Parenting Support Group Gentle Parents Unite
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I’m just praying for your strength and peace of mind. Good luck
Let your parents adopt her so all your kids can be raised together and you can still see them
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are your other girls mistreated at all by your parents? would they take on this baby too… you really do sound like you love your children and honestly want the best for them. i’m proud of you for coming to terms with the fact that you might not be able to fully provide for this baby. I know you hold those hatred over your parents but if they are loving to your other girls, i think it would be best for them to atleast get this girl too so she can grow with her sisters. You can ALWAYS get your girls back from your parents if you fight hard enough. But you can’t get this baby girl back if you put her up for adoption.
if your parents won’t take on this baby, i’d suggest you and your children’s father to start saving as much money as you possibly can. maybe take on another side job. both of you take parenting classes, it will look really good when you fight for your older girls.
everyone makes mistakes but you still have time to be the mama your girls need. 
i wish your family the best.
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If you have court ordered visitation your parents can’t stop you from seeing your kids just because you’re pregnant or put the baby up for adoption. they would be in contempt of the court orders. I would also look into a better attorney. Emergency custody is not needed to take a child to the dr. Only you and the dad can decide what is the best choice for all of you. Are you able to provide for the baby? Will the baby be in a safe environment? Do you want to raise the baby? You need to ask yourself those questions and answer them honestly. Kids don’t care about money, they care about being loved and cared for. Your financial situation is temporary. Best of luck.
Prayers for guidance for you. I can only imagine how hard this is for you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I pray God makes a way that you didn’t even see.
I think you having this baby and raising it successfully would help to get your other two back… .
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It sounds like you know what you have to do but don’t know how to do it. You don’t have the means, the father can’t father, you have 2 kids that you want in your life that aren’t. Your parents are supporting you by taking in both of your kids so you can go to concerts and live your best life. You’re still a baby and at the end of the day you have to make the choice to be a great mom or let someone else be so your child can have the best life possible. Go speak with a social worker is my advice, then a therapist, then a lawyer to get your kids home.
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I am a birth mother of a son, who is now 32 he had a good life, i chose his parents i have also met his parents as well,it was a tough choice but good for my son i also now have 3 girls born after him and i was in a better financial place.
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Just remember your life never stays the same. 6month from now your life will be different. Just bc you are on hard times now doesnt mean you will always have hard times. Also if you keep the baby you can get help paying not if you give her away. You also dont know where the child will go so you dont know she’ll have a better life. Nothing can nor will ever replace biological parents.
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You are not a MOTHER you just make them and expect someone else to take care of th get a job and don’t expect the whole world to do it for you and get those tubs cut tied and burnt
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Pray about it sweetheart….seriously pray❤️
KEEP YOUR BABY that’s your blessing and could actually lead you into getting your oldest 2 children back. There is a reason why you keep getting pregnant and it’s not to give them up but for you to woman up and handle your business. You got this and will do a great job at parenting. Take it one day at a time lean on prayer ask for guidance, reassurance, and understanding you can do this but PLEASE don’t give your baby up
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You need to take care of you and work on your goals of the other two children. We would take your baby in. We live in Kansas we have a big house and 3 acres with dogs, cats, chickens, and two girls full time. 3 others who live with their moms and I get to stay at home to run the house.
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First of all GET FIXED.You should of done that before All these problems came on you. There is So Many babys and kids wanted so bad to be love.
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If I was your friend, I would temporarily take your new baby in for you,& help raise her TILL YOU could provide & get everything situated!! Do you KNOW or have any close friends that would be willing to do this for you?
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Listen not everyone is in a great position. I have 2 girls and a stepson. I was 19 and pregnant working at a quiznos. Thought about abortion bc we always fought and didn’t wanna bring a baby into the world. It was hard and me and my daughters dad wasn’t together then we got our life together for her then fast forward 4 yrs got a house together I was a sahm for 6 yrs had another baby. I was depressed. Still get depressed. Now my oldest is 9 youngest is 5 me and their dad aint together he threatens to take custody now and then when we argue. But life gets better
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You have to do what is best for you! Please message me🖤
Adoption causes major trauma for mom and baby. Although I do think alot of babies are better off being adopted it still dont take away from the hurt it causes mom and confusion it causes child. If it’s this hard being away from kids that are with your parents imagine how hard it will be knowing your baby is with strangers and having to wonder everyday if they’re ok or being treated right or if they’re loved. Alot of adopters are just trying to fill a void. Check out the page second chance adoption. It’s a public page where adopters post their adopted kids they no longer want. And please dont let any of these crazies bother you. I guarantee your messenger Is blowing up with messages from infertile women.
Adoption is the most selfless act of love for your child. I adopted both of my children and thankful to their moms who felt they could not offer their child the life that they deserved. You do in your heart what you feel is best for your baby and most of all for you. All the best.
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I feel like that’s not truly what you want to do. I feel like you would be doing it for all of the wrong reasons. Life is hard, I have 5 kids and became a mom at 17. I’m now 38. Don’t do something you’ll regret. Keep your baby and fight for your other kids. Seek all options and resources. Try getting a better job etc. This could also be your chance to show how good of a mom you are. People make mistakes. You can get your other two back.
Ive been a mom since 21 im 37 i have 4 kids you need to prove you can do it! Why not with this one to show your worth for the other 2 prove you are better than who they say dont feel guilty for being lied too. Always know in the end the truth will come out when they are older and not one soul can stop them from being with you!!
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MOTHERHOOD OVER MONEY! It’s not all about money and any child will choose the love of a parent over being in the foster system because YOU want to pay off fines! Seriously! Sounds like you shouldn’t be a mother because you’re terrible at being a mom. Mother’s do what they must for their kids… not look out for themselves while shipping their kids away. THAT’S SELFISH
PLEASE GO GET ON BIRTH CONTROL
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Instead of people being so judgemental of this individual let’s offer support. We are here to build each other up not tear each other down . My advice would be do what’s best for you and your children it takes a lot of courage to put your heart out to people . Please everyone be gentle when commenting because harsh comments can certainly affect someone who’s already in a state of worry and stress . Be kind . I’m sorry your going through this I hope you find your way through this and remember to be kind to yourself . We all make mistakes we learn from them .
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