Focus on your daughters who you want back and give this girl a better chance with another family.
If you are pregnant for the third time, and do not have custody of the other two, you ARE dumb!!! Don’t hate yourself, just do what’s best for the children. If you are keeping a new baby so you won’t lose custody of the other two, what kind of life can you give any of them???
I think its commendable and more mature of you that you didn’t choose abortion and that you’re considering giving her up for adoption. It may be a hard time for you (lean on GOD), but it could possibly an enormous blessing for someone who is unable to have children of their own.
I’m sure you could find a loving family who would be okay with an open adoption or maybe even a temporary arrangement until you get on your feet. Shoot, I’d be willing to do it - my 3 sons are just about grown and I’ve always wanted a little girl!
I have to agree, I think you should.
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If your parents have temporary guardianship of your children, who granted that and on what basis? Are child protective services involved? I am confused as to how your parents were able to get your first two children? Will they be trying to get baby #3? Depending on the state they may have grandparents rights.
Has you BD obtained the necessary skills to care for the baby now? Are your legal obligations taken care off?
Giving a child up for adoption is a personal experience. Only you can decide. Is your BD willing to relinquish his rights? Does he have family? Will they contest?
You may want to seek legal advice to see how relinquishing your rights to new baby may legally impact your ability to regain custody of your older two children. Court may use it against you.
Wishing you all the best.
OMG…To those saying, stop having kids? Use birth control!!! Wow!! How about stop running your mouths and get those viperous tongue cut out. Be much more helpful!!
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It’s not the advice about not having kids and using birth control… it’s the judgmental way in which it’s said…like she’s pregnant and needs immediate help.
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I say keep the baby - the others will forgive you later if you explain what really happened. Jerks forget that we all grow up sometime and the truth comes out. You can also prove to the courts that you are fit to be a mother to the others with raising this one. Good luck!
Please contact Saving Our Sisters . They can try to help you figure things out so you can keep your baby. Finances and circumstance can change in the future, but adoption is permanent. I am adopted and would have not cared if I grew up with less, if I could have stayed with my family. Adoption is a irreversible decision. Many mothers feel depressed after placing their child and wish they hadn’t. Many adoptees suffer with life-long trauma after losing their first family. There will be people that tell you otherwise . I am sure there are people on this thread who “know” adopted people or have adopted themselves and think they understand adoption. They do not. Only an Adoptee or a Birth Parent has lived the experience. Open Adoption is often not open at all. You will have no legal rights after the Adoption. The agency and adoptive family can promise visits and contact, but they can change their mind later. Open Adoption “contacts” cannot be legally enforced. If you want this baby, please reach out to Saving our Sisters. Please find someone who will advocate for you with your best interests at heart. I would look for a parenting resource, or counselor that is NOT connected with an Adoption
agency. You have another chance to parent with this baby.
It is hard but so worth it. Please put yourself first and make the decision that is right for you.
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Do what’s best for the baby and love yourself. I’ll be praying for you!
I mean this most kindly, but until your life is more stable you should be on a reliable source of birth control. You are very young, and it sounds like you have a lot going on in your life, a lot to straighten out.
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Stop having kids you until you are stable enough to take care of yourself
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I’m so sorry I can’t imagine this…my heart is breaking right now for you and your babies. Please think this through carefully and make the best decision for the baby that is inside your tummy right now. I wish I could tell you what to do but I can’t. Only you know what you should do.
No judgement… just know that my heart goes out to you. It sounds like you have a lot of soul searching you need to do. For your sake and the sake of all your babies, start learning to love yourself and to know your worth…that will never come from a man. Good luck mama 
Sounds like a bunch of excuses to me….If you want your kids back you’ll do what it takes regardless no one is gonna do it for you…. Wipe your tears pull your backbone out your ass and do what it takes to GET YOUR kids you say you love so very much back… Be MOMMA BEAR! You got this if you truly want it
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was never able to have children, but I have helped friend in similar situations. I hope you find peace
I gave my youngest up for adoption, it was the hardest decision I’ve ever made but I’ll never regret it. His adoptive parents helped me get on my feet, paid the deposit and first two months rent on my apartment. the attorneys were incredibly comforting, the adoptive parents even hired a grief counselor for me so that I could deal with the adoption and explain to my kids in an age appropriate way why the baby in my tummy didn’t come home with me. His parents let me write him a letter for when he’s older, they give you the option as to weather or not you want to hold him, and weather or not you want your information constantly updated so that they can find you when they are older, if that’s what you or her wish for, they send me pictures every time I ask and keep me constantly updated. I think giving up a baby is extremely difficult, going home without her is, not changing your mind. But your giving another couple the baby that they’ve dreamed of, that they’ve been praying for, that they can take care of without struggle, I think you should think long and hard and do what you think is in the best interest of that child, what anyone else says about it doesn’t matter, if you feel like you are not the best place for her, let her go to someone who’s been dreaming about giving a baby a home.
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As a mother whose kids are adopted you will never get the 1st back ever. If I could go back and change it I would
You would really have to do some serious interviews with couples some allow for you to still be in their life.
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This is a very hard question. I could never let any of my , baby’s go up for adoption. No way
Keep your baby darling, you sound like you’ve suffered enough, the fact that you are thinking all these things shows what a good mummy you are. Show them all how wonderful your gonna raise her, I was 16 when I had my first was broke with nothing and then had my second at 19, I’ve been through all sorts of hell in my life and didn’t go on to have more children until 7 years ago, I felt like you do now 7 years ago and have had to work like a dog all my life to support my children. The 4 little ones I have I now work through the night cleaning buildings and am around in the day, my partner works the days and we are both completely knackered but those babies are worth It and I’m so so glad I kept my girl 7 years ago 
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First I highly suggest you look into athey creek
I have been their minus the treatment program and jail but the rest been their I was so in the same spot when I found out I was pregnant with my last baby he’s now 5 and I thank god for him everyday and for all the literal miracles he moved into my life for me to not only care for him and his brothers and sisters but to have so much more then I even thought possible I went threw the impossible no one can still believe our life turned around this much god is good find Jesus Christ and I promise you it will be ok !! You will find strength and hope you never thought possible even in the darkest of my days I came out in top one step at a time girl 
Give up all your kids including your unborn child
They would be better off having having families who can give them
The life you cant
To be honest
Your kids are better off with their Grandparents
your still to imiture to have kids
Best advice I can give you
Is stop getting pregnant
Either by birth control or keeping
Your legs togeather
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Why do you keep having babies when you can’t take care of them? Birth control works and is free in most cases.
It’s a true gift of 
love.
God please protect our children. Amen 
Make your partner wrap his Willie lol
A baby don’t need rich parents, it needs love, yes life is hard right now, but from your story your fighter, you be surprised how much a baby will make you stronger, they give you the will to carry on, think really long and hard because you can’t go back when your baby has been adopted, can’t you reach out and get some help from social services, go see your doctor, I think you would be making a big mistake. Deep down I think you know it too or you wouldn’t be here asking for clarification of every one, you got this, if you ever need advice you can always message me xx
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Keep this baby and keep fighting for your other babies as well. You can make such a beautiful life for you guys but you can’t give up mama. You’ve got this. Stay strong. Use every resource you can. Make sure you have a stable home, transportation and if you need to get a better job, do so.
Ignore all the negative ignorant bullshit comments