There are good people out there to take the baby too tho. Don’t listen to everyone on here. Not all adoptive parents are bad. I know some amazing people in adoption. I suggest meeting with families looking for a newborn baby.
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This is such a personal choice. I don’t think anyone can give you the “right “answer. You need to make the choice thats best for you and this new baby. Do you have a stable home? Job? And emotionally stable? I feel those are very important things consider when raising kids.
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Definitely wont look good in court given to baby up an guna try to get other kids no go judge will say why should I give u these BK if u jus gave that one away
Maybe try birth control til the time is right for you to have and raise children in the future. Not trying to be mean just sayin’. How about letting your parents adopt this one too to keep it in the family, then it could grow up with its siblings and you could be in touch too. It’s a hard choice I know, and I was 21 once too so I know how it is; I was a single mother of two.
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You’re not as dumb as you used to be but you’re pregnant again??? Ok
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This is a tough one. Unfortunately no one can make the choice for you. If it was me I’d keep my baby and fight for my other kids. However you have to do what is best for you not for other people
I think if you deceive to put the baby up for adoption you should let you parents know first. It is their grandchild and your other childrens sibling. They have the right to know and maybe they would want to adopt the baby. I m sorry if you are afraid for your parents to have the baby. But as a parent your child always comes first. I dont mean for this to sound judgmental or to come off crude. But you seriously need to go on some birth control until you can get yourself together and be able to fully take care of a child. I wish you the best in your decision. But as a parent the best decision is what is best for your children not necessarily what is best for you.
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Get your tubes tied. Sorry I don’t sugar coat.
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Being mentally healthy and emotionally stable is just as important as having a home, food, transportation and steady income. You can have all of those things but if you are not healthy mentally and emotionally, your children will be the ones affected by that. Maybe your family will take this baby in also so it can be with it’s siblings?
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Is the baby going to be healthy or are you on dope or pills of a controlled substance
Omg girl I’d take her in a heartbeat!!
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I’ll take baby I have 2 other children it will have good home loving family everything it wants and needs
I think your parents have your children’s best interest at heart. Do they give you any visitation rights to your 2 kids?The father of baby #2 needs to step up to the plate and be a father to his child. If he can father a child he should know the consequences for his actions. Children do not come with owners manual. With baby #3 does your parents know?
You need to dig deep into yourself and ask yourself if you can provide a safe home life for your baby? Are you willing to put this child first above everything else in life. I wish you all the best!
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Whitney Payton pm me please.
You should seek counseling for yourself, you need to help yourself & take care of you, before you can take care of your children. Make sure to always take care & be there for number 1… that’s YOU!!! I wish you & your babies all the best!
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Please pray on it and search your heart. There are millions of people looking to adopt if that’s what u want.
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Do ur parents know your pregnant right now??? There are many single parents like myself who would love to adopt, but plz follow your heart!!! And plz get on some type of birth control after this baby is born ok?? Praying for you and these babies:pray:
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Get your tubes tied securely and cut all the through.
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Wow the comments of some people…. What a difficult situation. I’ve placed a child up for adoption in infancy, thinking she was going to a great home. They had all the financial resources I didn’t. I also had a 2+ year old that I was raising on my own. The idea that you will get help with your other children is likely false. We don’t live in a culture that supports single parents but certainly likes to shame them. I too am a recovering person. If you’d like to talk you can messenger me for my phone number. Blessings to you and all of your children. ((()))
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What kind of home are your other 2 children in are your parents good to them if so leave them where they are and be agood mommy to your new baby
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I’d love to take your baby as I’m single and no children ! You said at 18 you were stupid I think nothing has changed as you allowed yourself to get pregnant again!
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Prayers for you. Adoption is a wonderful gift to couples that want their own baby but can’t conceive. Think about it, write it down, and pray about it.
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Several people have commented advocating for open adoption. You need to know that open adoption agreements are not legally enforceable. The adoptive parents can close them as soon as the ink is dry on the adoption contract. They will often make promises of all kinds of contact they have no intention of keeping to try and coerce you into giving them your baby. If they decide not to maintain the level of contact they promised you there is nothing you can do about. This is VERY COMMON. 95% of open adoptions are closed by the adoptive parents by the time the child is 5. Open adoption is NOT the perfect solution people think it is.
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I don’t think you are ready for children
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I will pray for you. Get counseling now . You have a little time before baby is here. It takes a plan to get your life in order. Start there
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DV Leap to get your children back, but bringing another into the mix when you’re not ready is tough
You could seek legal counsel from
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People can’t just take kids for no reason. You need to get it together. This whole thing is nonsense honestly. And you just keeping having kids that you honestly don’t want because if you did, you would have them.
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Prayers for guidance, strength and peace.
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Hey, I have privately adopted my 3 amazing kiddos. I am happy to chat about open private adoption. (We have close relationships with all of my kids birth families) you can PM me if you would like.
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You are suffering from post nata depression this does happen in pregnancy to, stop listening to these negative people that are surrounding you and suggesting that you better of giving your child up for adoption, I know people that have gone on to have there child and later won custody back of there other children or had there children come back to them eventually that were with there grandparents etc, money isn’t every thing you are comfortable you have at least a roof over your head, belive in your self but farther more ask those who keep saying put your child up for adoption ask them to be quiet, you will decide after giving birth, wait till then as you feel differently once you hold your baby for the very first time
Not trying to be mean but ask your parents if they want this one… Get your tubs tied and stay away from boy untill you get thing going your way for the good
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I understand where you’re coming from. If you’re looking for a family keep me in mind. I can’t give you money but I can give the baby a safe loving place to grow up. I’m lesbian and I’ve tried to have a baby multiple times and have failed
Yes offer it a better life. That’s very good of u
You got some growing up to do, including learning about birth control 
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Talk to adoption agency and let them know your needs. A friend did this and the lawyer/agency paid for her care, rent, food, etc. Open adoption means you can see the child. Go for it. You can choose the couple as well 
Good luck honey.
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Adoption is a beautiful thing, if you know you can give this baby a better life through adoption, then do it. No-one elses opinion matters. Children are a big responsibility and it seems like you have enough in your plate as is, I personally believe it makes one a good mother by doing what’s best and giving her child up instead of trying to struggle with it. Continue fighting for your other two and trying to turn your life around, I’m saying this with utmost kindness too, NO JUDGEMENT here! I personally would rather know I gave my baby up and to a good loving family then to worry and question if I’m messing their life up.
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No judgement here it’s not my place to judge you I’ve not lived your life no has so advice by all means should be given but judgement should be withheld your clearly in a very bad place.
If you have no support at all and you really don’t think you can cope then yes maybe the right thing is to give baby to someone who can offer her a more secure home, maybe speak to agency and arrange so that you can either still see her or that you get regular updates on her.
However are you maybe feeling this way because your so scared history is going to repeat itself so your afraid to raise the baby to get attached to her, really think this through lovely before you make a choice you may regret and end up missing 3 babies. It’s never to late to turn your life around especially if you have people worth doing it for.
Good luck I hope whatever choice you make it’s the right one for you and the baby xx
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Right now you’re struggling between your head and your heart. I wholeheartedly commend you for considering the child’s best interest over your own hurt… because it will undoubtedly hurt. Take some time alone, really picture what life may look like with each decision. I am a mom of 6, 4 that I have given birth to and 2 I called bonus kids that God put in my life. The legal system is hard to navigate but mist often is the safest option if you choose to go adoption. However, you can find families and do private adoptions as others have mentioned. I know I’d personally be open to another child in the family and I’m sure so many others would also. I hope that someday you find peace and happiness in your life no matter what path you choose
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Be thankful your family is there to help your children.
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If your other 2 kids were taken away regardless of the reason, the state with investigate any other child you give birth to & may not allow you to take them home from the hospital.
& what you mean your child’s father didn’t know how to raise a baby so he let your parents take your child? He needed to grow up & learn to be a father that is one of the most ridiculous reasons I’ve ever heard.
I don’t understand how people can keep having babies & losing custody for whatever reason, seems like some people think they can just have a do over if the first few kids don’t work out.
Put the new baby up for adoption & get on some birth control.
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This is a real pickle. Do you know how many mom’s I know that don’t have much $ but they still make that $ and provide for their kids. You have to ask your self if you want to raise this little one applying the mistakes of your past and pour your love into her. If you think it will be too much too damaging to whatever state your in now💔 that’s a broken heart and a broken spirit then you need to ask yourself what’s best for you too? These kids the best you weather it be now or 5 years from now you are going to want to tell your babies you did what was best for both of you quality of life doesn’t mean $ a nice house or a nice car quality of life is LOVE ALWAYS.
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I really believe you should keep your new baby. I believe if you give this baby up you will regret it. I understand that you miss your other two kids dearly. But just think about how you would feel after you give this new baby up for adoption. Knowing you can never see or hold her again. And also wondering if she is being properly cared for. Just keep better yourself, and praying and God will make a way for you to get your other two kids back. But giving away this new baby is not the solution.
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Hugs! You say everyone tells u that you “ could” get help paying your bills if u gave your baby up?.. think about that, you could and will get help if you KEEP your baby! You will qualify for WIC , and housing help too, its called section 8, i think you know deep down what you want to do, and that is to keep your baby… but you are scared that you wont be able to take care of her right?, listen to me… things have a way of working out, ( if you keep her) , i wouldnt give her up, you are looking at your current situation but i am telling you that you will regret letting this baby go too, have faith, you dont have to live for your parents, there is a new life you have to prepare for, you will see that you are more capable to provide for her than you think,
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As much as I hate to type this because things happen, but you had no business going and getting pregnant again. You say you want your other 2 kids back but also say you can’t afford one if you keep this baby. As far as the father not knowing how to take care of a baby, none of us do when we first become parents, you do what you have to do. I would highly suggest giving the baby up for adoption since one of your reasons is so you can pay off your fines. You couldn’t ever pay me enough money to give my children up, especially not for some fines. Give the baby a chance, give her up for adoption and go have your tubes tied. I would not do an open adoption either because if you keep in contact with this child they will have in their minds at some point why you chose to give them up if you ever get custody back of your other 2 kids which by the sounds of it they’re better off where they are.
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Do not hate yourself. That’s first.
Second, I’m sorry. I believe no man has any right to tell a woman what to do when it comes to this topic.
It is between the mom, her higher power and her doctor.
Stop listening to everybody go get professional help and ask advice there. If you are in a rut as you seemed to be why do you do these things to get you there. You need help get it do the proper thing change your ways and start looking after yourself
What State are you in? You need to find a Pregency Birth Center. NOT Planned Parenthod. But a Birth Center. They will HELP you. They can give you advise on what to do about this child, housing, work, and maybe able to help with your other children. Call 1 719 635 1111 it is a Prayer line but they usually have the numbers to most of the Pregency Birth Centers. I now they run 2 in CO if you live in that state. I believe God is good to intervene on your behalf and lead you to the best outcome for your family. Tell the people you need help with your unborn child and help with what you should do.
Give the child to your parents. Please get fixed, or at least get on long acting birth control.
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OMG!!! How much I’ll would like to take the baby. 
Don’t assume your kid will have a better life, will probably be put in to foster care and get thrown from family to family…
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Girl I know everybody’s situation is different but I have been through hell and back so many times and all I can do is speak for myself and my experiences but if it was me -
I’d be fighting to get myself WELL as a whole, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I’d be looking at state / federal laws, pursuing my rights, looking for legal assistance which if you are low income Im sure you could qualify for something… && I’d be in that court fighting to get my kids. 
You have to do what is in THEIR best interest, only you know your situation and if you and Dad are fit to parent and willing to put in the work to change if not.
I would work on your relationship with family to be involved as much as possible, get priorities in order, make sure you are mentally / emotionally fit - and get ya babies. My heart hurts, you’re missing so much please do whatever you need to do to get right regardless but those babies can change your whole life. They deserve a healthy mother. Get well.
Praying for your children and your family.
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Keep the baby. Lots of help out there, come up with a game plan to get yourself together. Follow your heart and one day you and all your babies will be together stay strong
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Easier keeping baby and trying to get others back to grow up with their siblings. I think you will regret it down the road… best of luck. Hope things go for the best.
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My mom always gave me the best advice” Where there is a will there is a way”
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Well you absolutely cannot afford to have a baby and I would get an iud or a long term bc because you aren’t in any position to have a child and give it the life you say you want. That’s the point of bc unless you have partners who will use condoms. If you in your heart want to give your up for adoption or keep it that’s your choice but that feeling in your gut is what needs to guide you. You should try to find programs that are in your state that offer you job training , educational and housing opportunities. Some even will offer parenting classes or mental health counseling. Again what you feel you need. You can’t fight for custody now so do what you can to see your kids and get yourself in a better place and then move forward. You are the only one who has to deal with this and you should talk to places that offer adoption and YOU make the choice since you have to live with it. Then you make better different choices in the future. Good luck.
I would say do what you believe will be best for your child. I would gladly adopt your baby if you chose to go that route. If you decide to keep the baby, there are lots of help you could get.
Give the baby up…get fixed so there will be no more babies. Then work at getting your children back.
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I’m an adoptive mum my little princess came to me at a year old she is now 10
Being a mum of an adopted child gave me the one thing I always wanted and my life completely full filled she was the best thing that ever happened in my life.
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Try going to an adoption agency and ask about open adoptions. They would place the baby with parents, you would still be able to see the baby grow up and be a part of it’s life.
Don’t let life and everyone else tell you what to do. It sounds like you’re upset that you feel you have to in order for life to “go right”. But you don’t have to and you can still be a wonderful parent with no money. There are ways. That may just be your miracle baby. The one thing that makes your life worth it in the end.
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Pls don’t give up ur baby. Get the help u need , & trust God, u can do this. I’m a single mom to 4 kids. If I can do it, u can
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First of all, USE PROTECTION OR DON’T HAVE SEX AT ALL!
Second, if you want your other kids back, why are you even considering giving this baby up at all?
Third, no one, unless they are wealthy, is ever fully ready to raise a child. Life happens. We roll with it. For example: I was married. We had very little money. I couldn’t find work being pregnant and my now ex didn’t work. He was lazy. During my 2nd pregnancy I had kidney stones that put me in the hospital. I ended up on bed rest. He cheated on me. We separated. I was on state assistance and back at my parents with both kids. We got back together but soon after he put me in a mental hospital so he could cheat on me with me out of the picture. The kids got taken and given to his mom who abused them. Then given to my parents. We had to leave state to get them back. I divorced him. Raised my kids on state assistance and disability. We lived in income based housing, had a used car, 2nd hand everything. But we made it work. My ex lied to my son and lied to SSI. He told me he didn’t want the kids but deserves our son’s SSI check bc he is his dad. Then toldy son I didn’t love him and sold him to him bc I borrowed money from him. Told SSI I gave him custody of our son. My son stayed withy.parents most the time. He got my son’s SSI CHECK. I lost it. My son hates me to this day. He’s 24 now.
You make it work.
If you are only gonna give up your kid, unless you’re a serogate, don’t have kids. Don’t have sex. Stop being so selfish.
I will never understand this, this putting baby up for adoption is solely an American thing 
can’t imagine mothers in Europe or Scandinavia doing this, never heard of it happening. I could NEVER 
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I’m sorry but if your not as dumb as you were when you were 18 and already have 2 children that you don’t have custody of…WHY ARE YOU NOT USING BIRTH CONTROL!!! YOUR SITUATION IS COMPLETELY PREVENTABLE IF YOU HAD BEEN SMART AND USED BIRTH CONTROL AND CONDOMS!
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That kid is gonna grow up wondering why u kept ur other kids and not them just saying but do what you think is best I would definitely consider an OPEN ADOPTION and if not open at least write down your medical history and a note for the child my ex fiancé died not knowing his birth family
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Y’all are really rude
You need to talk with GOD about it I’m sure GOD would want you and your boyfriend to step up !
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I would stop listening to what everyone is telling you to do. And do what you feel is best for you & your baby.
Also w your parents having your other 2 girls. They’re safe in good hands. You know where they are. An you can be in their lives.
Think positive.
Where there’s a Will there’s a Way.
yes you can have your baby girl an raise her. It won’t always be easy. But it’s worth it!
You’re still pretty young. As you get older you’ll start understanding where your parents are coming from. An will appreciate them more. Most parents want what’s best for their children. So I bet your parents feel they’re doing what’s best for you & your girls.
There’s lots of programs out there to help you as well. Housing & medical food an im sure more. So take advantage of the programs work your butt off. An fix everything.
Best of luck!
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Stop having children till you sort your own life out work on getting yourself in a better position then the children will have a good home with thier mum
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Bless your heart…many prayers
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This is your chance to make right by your unborn baby and if that means that you could be a mother and your life is better now then you will regret giving this one up!
Adoption is a beautiful thing… I have my littlest one adopted… his sisters was taken my cps and I adopted the youngest sibling. I love his as much as I do my 3 biological children… sometimes the hardest part of being a mom is 100 making the best decision for your children even if it breaks your heart… if you can’t give your child the necessities in life their is no shame in asking for help… however… please take appropriate precautions to prevent your heart breaking again… much love …
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Ignoring the shoulda/coulda/woulda aspects, can you definitively say you would keep custody of the new baby? Your parents are going to be looking for reasons to take this one from you, and the courts may be inclined to agree considering they have the other two. You have a rough decision ahead of you. Adopt out and not see #3 for much of her life, or keep her and continue to try to get the other two back.
No judgement here, it’s the decisions you make moving forward that matter. We can’t change our pasts.
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Wow parents r assholes. I can say that because I’m a mother of 3! And a grandma of 2! I fight with my daughter at times when i don’t feel she is doin what she should. With my grandkids. Life is hard babes. But the most important thing is never given up hope. U can do this. I have faith in u
I know it’s a hard decision and and I feel like you would be a great mom when you are ready to be a parent. I had my 1st at 17 and yes it’s hard. Youre BD needs to be a parent as well. You want what best for your child and that’s what makes you a great mother
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Even the darkest times will pass. Don’t think about yourself. Think about the Baby. Do what’s best for the baby. It’s a hard decision. Just know you have the power to change your situation. I won’t judge because I’m not a mother. But I felt the burden and reward of being a single parent. For me.i wouldn’t change a thing. Problem with people like your parents is that all though you may have grown in many ways you will always be seen as needing to get it together. I would fight the good fight. I’d stay active in my other children’s lives as much as possible while raising the child coming in to the world. You kids will grow up and make their own decisions some day. They will know weather you were there and trying or if you gave up and walked away. Life is never easy!best of luck to you.
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It sounds like you need to have a long talk with your family. Be honest with them about everything. Tell them what you are considering. They may want to take care of this baby. If not then consider a open adoption so you can keep in touch with your baby. Please get on birth control until you can get on your feet. You said you’re not on assistance. Find some. You need it for you and your baby. Ask for help. Get a education. Work on yourself so you can be a better mother and daughter. Prove to your family and yourself that you can change.
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Talk to your parents and tell them about the pregnancy. Hopefully they will raise her while you take the time for yourself to heal and get on your feet. Once you are ready and able you can start the conversation about getting them back.
While adoption is a beautiful thing you need to do what’s in the child’s best interest. Keep the siblings together. Your parents clearly love and care enough about the children to bring them into their home. Talk to your OB about getting your tubes tied or other forms of birth control (IUD) to prevent this from happening again.
It really does sound like you have a lot to work on with yourself and that’s ok. Do the work. Your children and you deserve the best version of you.
I’m so sorry to hear your story and I wish I could help so if you need a friend then text me or message me & if you decide to give the baby up then I would be happy to take her too
Sorry but doesn’t cut it. You should be on birth control. You are full of excuses. Grow up and step up. Make a decision that is right for your child. They didn’t ask to be born. Your parents must have more reasons for keeping your children. You really think they want to raise another family?
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You’ve weighed your options and you’ve got to decide what’s best for you. No one else can do that. The path to your older children will be complicated with another child, but not impossible.
I’d suggest working on finding better employment. You will forever struggle working as a server in the cafe. It’ll be hard to prove that you can financially support your children with your current job.
It may seem strange, but look into parenting classes through your county… They are usually free for someone trying to do better.
Also, after this baby is born, please get some birth control to ensure you don’t further complicate life with another pregnancy. Planned Parenthood will place an IUD for free…
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Go get your ass on birth control
You have absolutely no idea how much you’re fucking up your kids. You’re a kid yourself, you don’t know how to be a mother from this book you wrote. And you sound stupid saying you would give your bb up over some fines? You hate yourself? You should
Honestly my life was going pretty crappy and I got pregnant with my son and turned everything around and now I have two degrees and work at a law firm. My son is my world and I raised him completely on my own.
Maybe this is the “wake up call” you needed to change your life. Do not let anyone tell you what to do. It’s your choice. You need to make the decision that is right for you. I honestly think your past does not define you and you can make a change in your life. You can be a great mom to this baby and maybe eventually you will be able to be in your other children’s lives again. But you have the ability to change your path and be an amazing parent to this baby. If adoption is what you are considering that is a selfless act and I applaud that as well.
I wish you the best luck and happiness in whatever you do.
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Do not let your parents watch your new baby or they might find a way to keep her too. I would set boundaries for the parents.
You didnt say the kids were being mistreated or them not liking it there so it sounds like that is a great place for them. If you love them, let them be in an environment that will help them succeed in life and grow healthy. Dont condem your parents for stepping in, thank them. I KNOW it takes a LOT for the courts to take your children. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.
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I’m not sure about the situation because I’ve never been in it but you have two that you are fighting for because you want them back and want to be in their life forever but you are pregnant now and want to give this baby up for adoption. That’s hard because you don’t want the older two to be without you but if you put this baby up for adoption, this baby is missing out on having her mommy. Times are tough and I appreciate you so much for thinking of adoption because you aren’t sure if you could handle taking the responsibility but again it’s hard because you’d still be taking care of two if you give this baby up for adoption but if you keep this baby, you’ll have one baby to be responsible for. I know your past is your past but your future is what you make it. Set goals and shoot for them. You CAN do it A lot of us have had been in tough situations when pregnant or even after having a baby and it’s not easy to work your way up while caring for another human. But it is so rewarding once you start making moves and accomplishing things all while being a mommy. I’m not sure what I think you should do but I do think your children need their mommy and mommy needs to love herself and cheer yourself on because things WILL get better. You have a purpose here on earth as do all 3 of your sweet babies. Me personally, I’d keep baby and while working on goals and being a mom, you can also work on getting the older two back and all 3 girls can grow up to have each other as well. It’s not impossible. If you choose to do that, you’ve got this and the storm won’t last forever. I promise. You’re stronger than you think.
3 kids is rough BUT I couldn’t picture my life without my 3 boys. I’d be dead or in jail if I didn’t have them. They literally saved my life. They are literally my best friends and THEY are my purpose. They’re 5, 1 and 4 months. Even if you choose adoption because you’re not sure if you can do it, I have mad respect for you for thinking of babies future enough to give her to a family who could provide more for her. That’s selfless of you! 
DO WHAT YOUR HEART tells you to do! But also, try to get your tubes tied asap if you don’t want any more children or don’t think you can handle more.
Also daddy needs to grow up and learn to be a daddy but if he’s not willing to learn and grow, those babies will atleast have you. God sends his babies to the mommy he thinks is best for that child. It’s just up to the mommy and daddy to take that responsibility and be the best they can be.
I’m trying not to judge, so I don’t have a comment other than I really hope u figure this out.
I’m pretty sure if your kids are under guardianship and your rights haven’t been severed you could just go to the judge and ask him or her that you want the guardianship taken off your parents and then you could get your kids back you got a job you got a place to stay if you could show that to the court then you get your kids back and you won’t have to pay child support you’ll be supporting your children on your own. You don’t need an attorney to take guardianship off your parents I’ve been through this process when I took guardianship over my little cousin when her mom went to prison when she got out of prison she went to the court and asked them to take the permanent guardianship off because she wanted her daughter back and they granted it to her.
Stop having kids. Use birth control.
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Who is everyone that is telling you how you’d be better off to give your baby up, that you’d magically get help with a lawyer then and your fines? 
I feel like… you’d give your baby up and be sitting there with one more baby gone, still depressed with no lawyer and fines. Ya know?
I hate that your parents are awful to you. So I’m sorry about that. I would do anything I could to help reunite my daughter with her children, unless I was narcissistic and evil or they were in actual danger. Who wants broke parents? I just wanted parents. Broke or not. So rule that one out.
No one can tell you what to do, you have to sit with this and think. “Everyone” who is telling you anything doesn’t have to live with the consequences of this decision, you do.
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Please think about the baby. Adoption is great. I’m adopted by the most wonderful parents ever.
Also sounds like you might talk to your Dr about permanent birth control.
It will save you the heartache of having tp make these decisions. Best of luck to you.
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