My in-laws are flying here in the beginning of December, and I’m terrified of my young babies getting the virus. They are already booked. Here are my thoughts: I want to see them, but I don’t want to risk my kids. If they don’t come now, when will they be able to come? Not that we know but will things be different maybe next year to where I feel like it will be safer? Guys, as it gets closer, I’m more anxious, I’m not okay with it at all. We’ve been staying home. My husband works mostly outside, but I am my children’s lifeline. I’m thinking about just asking them not to come. It’s making me so uncomfortable
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We are not promised tomorrow, virus or no virus. Soak up the love and time with family as much and as often as possible. The good news is that children (who do not have severe illness- like cancer) are not affected by this virus at all. I personally let my parents visit from another state as often as possible.
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Perhaps they could self isolate before they come and drive instead of fly??
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Don’t let them come. Just don’t risk it. They shouldn’t take it to heart tbh or tell them to quarantine for 10 days before they leave to visit. Your mental wellbeing is just as important as your safety
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They should quarantine for 2 weeks or being a negative test result. No touching the kids and masks when they want to hold them
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I wouldn’t worry about young kids getting sick. I work in child care. I’ve been around roughly 300 kids since this started, 1 got it. He was sick about 2 days and it was a vomiting cold essentially. Family is worth taking the risk for. Ask they keep hands cleaned and no kisses just hugs
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As nervous as it makes you, airports are very clean, seats are limited on flights, and planes are cleaned very often.
As long as they are staying to themselves before coming, wear a mask on the plane, and use hand sanitizer, and possibly change when they arrive at your house, I feel like there isn’t much to worry about.
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Just be honest tell them how you feel. I Am a grandmother of seven and would understand this Virus is bad
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I look at it like this could be the last time my kids see their grandparents or their great grandparents… we’re not promised tomorrow & we wear masks & take precautions, but I’m not bubbling my kids & they have to live their lives. Sickness is apart of life. No judgement here on whatever you decide to do because you’re their mama & you love them enough that whatever decision you make, it’ll be the RIGHT one. Prayers for comfort for you, mama 
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Perhaps you could get them a test when they get there just for saftey
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Have you talked to your husband about this? Are your in laws non believers of the virus? Do they social distance and wear masks normally? I agree with another commentator that maybe they can isolate themselves for the week or two before they come. No parties, no outgoing other than the store. That’s not a lot to ask if they love their grandchildren.
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I know when my daughter and her dad went to Alaska they had to get covid test a few day before the flow and when they came back home.
politely tell them not to come
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I worry too but we can’t hide from life forever. How would you feel if they died and never got to see you or their son and grandchildren. Nothing is guaranteed. Especially tomorrow
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Do you take them grocery shopping? Have they left your home since March for any reason? Have they been to a friends house? Have other family members came over? Have you gone out in public with them since it started? If yes, then you can let the in laws come!
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Get over it n be happy. The world is coming to an end, n you’re worried about them.
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Legally they are REQUIRED to self isolate as soon as they land for 14 days & NOT allowed ANY contact with anyone!! It is legally mandatory!!! So they should be safe AFRER they have isolated elsewhere for the 14 days!!
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They’re most likely older people, hopefully with knowledge of the health recommendations. I would think that they’re more at risk from the covid 19 virus than yourselves. However, if you or your children have any health issues such as diabetes or asthma there may be a slight concern
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What is there lifestyle like? Do they go out to a lot of places or see a lot of different people? Could you ask them to get tested before they come?
Have them wear n95’s and face shields while traveling and then shower as soon as they get in. I know it’s scary but I canceled my dads trip down in March due to the virus and fear and then he passed very unexpectedly in July. I would give anything to go back and uncancel that trip
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Put it in God’s hands
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Could you ask them to get a covid test done prior to traveling?
Do you leave the house to go shopping?
Let them come
Your family.your choice.what ever you choose is right.nobody knows how to act in a panedemic we’ve never been in one.people should be kind and understanding to each other during this stressful time.
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If it makes you uncomfortable, then you’re completely allowed to tell them they can’t see you in your home. They can try to cancel or change their tickets. It’s not the best time for flying and risking getting your little ones sick.
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if the idea makes you feel so uncomfortable You got ur Answer. Tell them not to come. simple
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Is there really that much difference if your husband works outside the home? I understand your concerns a lot of us have a lot of anxiety about what’s going on right now. I myself am about to have a baby in the middle of a pandemic, however I do plan on letting all the grandparents see the baby. You just put certain things in place to make sure that you are taking caution. Masks make sure you wash your hands change your clothes if you are outside shower if you work in the public.
But I definitely believe you should let the grandparents see their grandkids what if your kids don’t get sick but the grandparents might get sick what if something happens to them and they didn’t get to see and love on their grandkids before that happened. There’s a lot of what ifs choose the best one choose the positive what if.
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I would make them drive. We are very strict about who comes in our house.
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My grandpa Warrie actually works on airplanes and he advised strongly against anyone flying. The air is literally just filtered through and pushed back in, so youre literally breathing the same air the entire time. So if someone sneezes, it’s just pushed back through and everyone breathes it, you can’t filter germs through an air filter. I get it being the holidays and everyone wants to see each other, but having small kids. I don’t believe much for covid, but flu is getting worse, same as stomach bugs, and Covid numbers are rising. Depending on how long their flight is, they’re sitting ducks on that plane. Masks or no masks, I would say no.
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Do you work outside of the home? Do you go to the grocery store? Does your husband work outside of the home? Yes kids can catch COVID19. Absolutely! However, a healthy child will likely not die from covid. Truth be told, his parents are far more at risk than your children. Ask them to closely Monitor themselves the 2 weeks prior to coming. Ask that if they experience fever, shortness of breath, abnormal headaches or a dry cough that they do not come. People on this post are being really weird.
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Check the percentage of children that are getting the virus and if they are getting really sick. They are mainly the transmitters of the virus. I’ll worry more about your in laws
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Have them get tested before seeing you. And quarantine a little bit before seeing you
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Enjoy the time with them and stop worrying. Make sure everyone washes their hands and aren’t running fevers and you all will be fine. Stop letting this virus control you. Yes, it can be dangerous but so can other illnesses or viruses that you come into contact with every single day.
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My mom is out of state I work from home our kiddo does go to daycare cuz that just don’t work when she’s home n I am working at all.
But I always welcomed my mom coming home. She flys every 2-3 months back. Yes you can control your actions and not others but I also have friends that were beyond cautious like sanitizer everywhere and caught it.
I have a 14 month old so I try to limit her outside our bubble of Very close friends and family I do the shopping mostly pickups and my hubby is a shop Forman and runs several crews and also means he gets to disinfect the trucks if someone catches and came into work.
Theirs only so much one can do and being super paranoid can easy make one go crazy. I learned that with the first wave my mental health got bad . Be with those you trust and be clean, wear your mask , hang outdoors When possible etc, We even Lysol parts of the house sometimes when people leave. If he knows theirs cases are work strips At the door and straight to the shower 
he goes same with me the little bit I do go In to the offices before touching her or I at least wash my hand and flip hoodies or shirts if I can’t shower
If it were me, I’d have them come. Honestly, I don’t think this virus will ever go away. But do what you are most comfortable with. Those babies depend on you to protect them, so you get to decide what you think is best. I hope y’all make the right choice, whatever it is, and y’all are happy with the decision in the end.
Do you pray to God? Are you a person of faith? This is your moment to trust🙏Fear has a way of robbing us precious moments. Welcome your in laws and enjoy the season. Your children need the warmth of their extended family.
If your husband works outside the home, you’re already at risk. My husband flies 4 times a month for work. So, no matter how cautious I am there’s always a risk because of his work.
So, I mean, it’s a virus. There’s only so much you can do. It is winter and people are WAY less cautious about the flu and I’m honestly more afraid of the flu than Covid. Flu can kill babies. Covid is less severe in kids.
If you’re all healthy and not high risk, don’t panic. I’d be more worried about them risking their health because of their age.
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Honestly it’s up to you and how you feel. I know a lot of people who have got covid, and most of them were people who were so scared of it and hardly left their house. It is scary but so is kids catching any kinds of flus or croup or anything else. Some people do end up very ill and In the hospital from covid, but it can happen with a lot of sickness. It’s all on your comfort and how you feel about it. Everyone has opinions. It comes down to you. If you don’t want them to come just tel them the truth that your afraid of you and the kids catching covid.
It’s very rare for children to get this virus where I’m at all kids are attending schools and daycares without masks daily …
Tell them not to come.
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Let them come if they agree to wear face masks and not hold the children. It should be for a short period of time that they agree to.
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My hubby and I have been having similar discussions about the holidays. We are all local but I’m still concerned about having 4 households come together for a prolonged period of time. My in laws who are at greater risk are not concerned which makes me uncomfortable as well. If they can I would suggest you all quarantine and test before and after arrival. Better to be safe. Good luck to you.
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If you’re uncomfortable, no. Why would you put yourself in an uncomfortable position?? No one is worth that. It’ll just put stress on you.
Ask them to take a covid test before coming just to be safe and explain u might lysol them down before they touch your kids… Be honest, but nice about the situation. I am pregnant and have other young children and my mom tested just to be sure she was safe to be around us… The pandemic is scary, but there are precautions we can take to enjoy our family 
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Let them come, if you’re uncomfortable with it have them wear a face mask or ask them to quaratine for a few days before visiting?! It’s a virus…scary? Yes but nonetheless it is here and isn’t going anywhere so you have to learn to live with it just like the thousand other viruses! I have a one year old and I worry but I can’t keep him in a bubble either!
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I would ask them to get a rapid test the day before they travel.
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If your worried have them were a mask. The virus isn’t that much if a threat to young children
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Your children come first. I would ask them to wait until next December.
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If you ask them not to come your probably going to start a life long family feud. Let them come.
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Please let them come, life is so short and kids grow so fast…there may not be a next for some of us.
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Honestly, there should’ve been a conversation before booking their flights, covid or no covid. Personally, I’m uncomfortable with anyone coming unless they have been seriously quarantining
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You probably had more chance of giving to eachother last Xmas than you do this Xmas, because it was around but no one really knew… atleast now people take precautions and know the symptoms. I would jump at the chance to have my family all together after the year it’s been x
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Covid testing only tells if you’re positive at that exact point in time. Two days later, they could be positive.
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seriously. they’re just as prone to getting the flu or something from you. I’m sure not everyone in your household has been quarantined since November 2019 so, just chill seriously… you go out and about I’m sure just as much as your in laws. I think this is petty.
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Your parents are more likely to sick from your kids, than vice versa. Arrange for them to have a quick result test on their way from the airport.
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You need to stop being so scared and letting your fears affect everyone else. You said your husband works outside of the house. You have mote chance of bringing something than your inlaws.
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We all have a number & when it is our time regardless of what we do, Jesus will call us home.
I would NEVER do that to my in-laws:(
Family means everything to us!!! We are currently in a position where my father in law isn’t in the best shape and my hubbies step mom won’t let us have Thanksgiving or Christmas because of her fears. We can’t even go in the house when we go visit them. She makes everyone sit outside:(
it’s causing a LOT of HARSH feelings because it seems like his kids and grandkids are being kept from him.
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Go with your motherly instincts. Trust yourself. We are in the midst of the worst of Covid.
Let them come It may be the last year you have with them !!
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Have them take a bath when they get there. Dont worry about it. They are gonna get a full screening including tested at the airport
Let them come i had a baby and let my mother fly in from Georgia to spend a week with me just make then showerwhen they get to your house or the hotel. She held my newborn took care of my 2 year old. We can’t live in fear forever.
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Have them tested first, you guys also get tested everything comes out negative, you’re golden. If not, quarantine.
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Take reasonable precautions, boost your immune systems and let the children enjoy the grandparents.
What happens if this is the last holiday you have with them. What if something happens. Life is to short
Do not live in fear. Believe
God he will take care of everyone.
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Trust God !!!.fear is not of him…peace to you…you have now no promise for next year
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The virus is nothing to be scared of. It’s like a glorified cold that lasts for 10 days or so. Take your vitamins
Boost your immune system and you’ll be fine.
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Make them come early if they can and quartine
Our family hasn’t changed any of our get togethers, in fact we’ve had more than average. I’m glad, I’d hate to think it was someone’s last and we missed it.
They have to get tested before they fly
Are you going to continue to live in fear of a virus that is 99% survivable?!? Your in-laws are not getting any younger, and tomorrow is not guaranteed.
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Let me play devil’s advocate because this raises a lot of questions … (1) how old are your in-laws because this could be one of the last times they’re able to visit; (2) do you get along with your in-laws or just using this as an excuse; (3) children are the least likely to get the virus and, if they do, they usually recuperate quickly.
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Express your concerns with them. They can get really suck from the airport and that’s dangerous for everyone. A lot of people say " it could be your last year" but it you all meet and get sick it’s a lot more likely of it being the last year with them. I think it’s safer to give up one holiday season to keep everyone healthy than to risk it and all get sick or potentially die.
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How will you feel if one month from now, or more, you find that you have lost the opportunity to spend a holiday with someone you love? God is bigger than covid-19.
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Honestly the in-laws have more to worry about than your smaller children, unless they have health issues. My sister in law just had a baby and the doctors told her she was more at risk then the newborn since babies and kids immune symptoms seem to handle the virus better than older adults.
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Are the coming from a hot spot? Flying through a hot spot? Do you have medical conditions? Its all up to the risk you want to take.
Family comes first before a virus…I have flown twice during this pandemic and I’m fine.
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Just say
…not this year, politely 
not safe for them either. They should stay home for all your sakes:heart:
What about if they got a hotel room and wore masks when visiting? And make sure neither have been sick in the last few months.
You gonna need to research on DuckDuckGo and let it go! Enjoy your family with the time you have left to do so!
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Go with your gut instinct. Personally, I wouldn’t risk it, family or not. Good luck. You know what to do 
Have you talked about your concerns with them? I would definitely do that and see if you can arrange something staying wise to if that would help.
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If you’re uncomfortable with it, trust your instincts. It’s a smart and responsible choice to avoid a couple holidays now so you can enjoy many holidays to come.
Can they test before flying or once they land? If they make the fast covid test and find out it is negative you can maybe enjoy some time with them.
It’s your house and you have to protect your kids say no put your foot down honey . That’s your job . Don’t ever feel bad for protect your kids .
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Rapid covids for everyone!
Make them get a hotel room or something for there first 2 weeks there and quarantine. Then have them come over to your place after there done
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This is so controversial. Which is crazy to me. Skip it this year. I would be more worried that you could pass something to your in-laws than them passing to your babies. The younger ones tend to be more asymptomatic so they carry it and pass it to others without ever showing symptoms. Protect yourselves and your in-laws and postpone family visits until this virus is under control.
It is more about protecting family than protecting ourselves. Yes Family is so important and we want them to be safe and around for a long time.
If it makes you that uncomfortable I would ask them not to come. They should respect your decision of not risking your family or themselves with this virus. There are other ways to see them. Try to figure out to call with a video. I know it’s not the same but it is better than nothing. You have every right to change your mind as this virus is serious. You don’t know what they are doing if they are keeping to themselves or having big gatherings. It is different with your husband working as you know what he’s doing, you don’t always know what other family is doing. If your not comfortable you need to ask them not to come. You need to stay healthy for your kids.
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Your kids will be fine. I’d be more concerned about your husband or kids getting covid and passing it to your in laws.
I would be more worried about the older folks than the baby. They are the ones taking the risk…
Breathe and enjoy their company.
They are the older ones and more likely to effected so they are at the greater risk.
We all have to start living our lives again some point. We can’t live in fear forever. If your that worried have them put on a mask and wear gloves while playing with the kids 
Honestly i found out i was pregnant march 31st, i also have an autoimmune disorder and i have worked through the shutdown in the general public. I didnt wear a mask until it was manadated and even then i forget it when i go to places. my dr even told me “the cloth masks and the disposable masks DO NOT work, the only mask that works is the N95 mask”. I know you love your children and want to keep them safe, but unless you and your husband wear N95 masks to the store, dr, anywhere around people you are definitely not protected. Our time on earth is limited, and we never know when its going to be the last time we see a loved one. Dont make them cancel the trip. If anything, have them limit public exposure the week coming up to their flight. 
If your husband works outside the home then they are already exposed just ask them for safety reasons to please wear their mask and use hand sanitizer before touching them and ask them if they would be offended if you take their temp since they are coming from out of town im sure they will understand… but I would only enforce that for a few days outside of using the hand sanitizer… let them love them while they are still here since tomorrow isn’t promised any more
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So do you not let your husband come home after work? Sounds like they have a risk of catching it from him as well…
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Follow your gut. If they have a healthy, respectful, relationship with you and your nuclear family they will competely understand.
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Could u perhaps have them stay in a hotel. Get a rapid when they arrive. Wear masks around the kids ? We have to be as cautious as we can yet still live life. I would hate to see u forever dAmage a relationship or God forbid something happened to one of them before they could see the kids again
Or could they drive?
Or can they come a week in advance and stay in hotel quarantine before coming to ur house ?