I wouldn’t go. Nothing will work with a brat like that. She’s used to all her own way by sounds of it, don’t bother in a relationship, nothing but trouble.
Time for new friends. The bad habits will rub off on your kids. You are the mama. It’s your job to protect your kids. That goes for what their ears hear also. Honesty is always best. If the other mom wants to know why your kids cannot play, politely explain that her child i allowed to behave differently than your kids and it has become confusing for them. Be friendly and let it go.
Take separate cars and enjoy. If the neighbor wants to go home they can leave whenever they want. You don’t have to cater to them ever.
Easy boundaries. You dont let it happen or let your children be treated that way. No way dont play anymore.
Don’t go and let them no why… there daughter is a brat and ur kids don’t no how to get along with her…
Her daughter is acting the same way she sees her mother treated. Put some distance between the kids. They don’t need to play every day of the week.
On the upside, maybe she’ll ask you to leave at the WP and you can go off on your own.
Maybe your neighbors daughter has ASD. My son’s “place” is home, no questions asked. He’s 10 now but when he was 5 & undiagnosed, I didn’t care if we were dining with the President… we left. And when we had people over, he was allowed to stay in his room alone. Mom will need a little help on getting her to use “nicer” words but that takes time. Even without ASD, just because parents are friends doesn’t mean the daughters need to be. Let’s normalize children picking their friends without adults being salty.
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Fuck that Lil shit 
you’re your lil girls best friend stand up for her and take her to the water park just together.
She’ll love you so much for it. &&& as for the little girl she will eventually have no friends over the way she acts so it’s just unfortunate.
I would tell the parent I don’t like the way your daughter is treating my kids and if this continues we will not be coming over your house. If you decide to go to the waterpark go in your own car.
I would still take my children , just go in your car , if you go in your neighbours, the child might want to go home ,not lot after you got there , just because your neighbour let’s her daughter do as she likes ,shouldn’t mean your children miss out , try and tell yourself and your children , to be kind, and not get hurt when she wants to go home or yells at you to go home explain we are all different, and some people have problems
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Why don’t you have a conversation with her mom of yall are good friends? Just tell her how your daughter is feeling, they are kids and kids can be little brats sometimes (3 boys here). I think the only way to resolve or work on a resolution is bringing it up with her mom instead of just canceling everytime.
i’m an only child and would of gotten my ass whopped if i was mean like that. i personally wouldn’t allow that little girl over anymore. first because her parents believe anything. children raised this way become manipulative and create lies. these are the kind of children in my opinion that will make up lies if they go over for sleepovers that eventually get men into trouble.
A parents job is to guide and to teach their children right from wrong. To teach them how to treat others, to be considerate and have manners, how to kindly deal with their emotions. Children aren’t born with this knowledge it’s her Moms job to teach her. Take your own car to the event and tell your friend why.
The mom AND child would have a " come to Jesus" moment with me. I wouldn’t subject my child to that behavior and not say a word.
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The parents are letting her run the house and giving the orders . Have a talk with the mother
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Sounds like someone who use to live beside us!!
If y’all are friends you should be able to address the issue. Even if you aren’t friends you should still be able to address the issue keeping in mind it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. Maybe because she only has one child she thinks this is normal. No parent likes to hear criticism on their parenting but if presented in the right manner it could open the door for a great discussion
Don’t try to solve your problem on fb
Oh see I correct people kids right in front of them & then ask what were you waiting for 
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I would be more concerned of why that little girl acts this way … what has happened in her life ? I see red flags in her behavior
I would still attend the event because your children are likely pretty excited and would be bummed out if you chose not to go. If this is an “all the time” behaviour anytime you get together, I would slowly cut ties with this family. You and your kids don’t need that type of anxiety and stress when it should be a happy time. And you don’t need to be teaching other people’s children. The mom is aware of her daughter’s behaviour and is either embarrassed by it or doesn’t care. It’s up to the mom to correct it.
i wouldnt go cause there is going to be trouble down the road
Drive separate and if things go sideways you and your kids can leave or go to the other side of the water park
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don’t go with them,they might end up ruining your day.
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Tell the mother that you prefer to drive you and your children and she can drive herself explain to that mother, that she lets her child have her way and leaves when her girl wants and that it wouldn’t be right to your children to have to leave because the other child got mad.
If u cant tell her the truth, then tell her you aren’t going home when u leave the water park, that u have something else to do and she would need to drive herself.
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Mom needs to be a mom ! Sounds like the little girl gets no discipline ! I would go without them
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You could go and see how it goes. If there’s any fighting just enjoy a different section of the water park while things calm down. You could also nicely ask the little girl what’s wrong and comfort her in these moments and she might simmer down a bit
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I wouldn’t go and would tell my friend why
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I wouldn’t go either. And I wouldn’t be shy about telling your children or the neighbor WHY you don’t want to go. My daughter is 8. She was 5 when we moved into the house that were in. She met a little girl on the school bus, who happens to live across the street ( we’re on a semi-busy road, and not in an actual neighborhood/development). I thought that’s great! She made a friend that lives close, rides her bus and is in her class. I know little kids don’t always listen and are easily distracted, so I ignored the first few times this kid came over to play. Well at my daughters birthday party last year, this kid came over and basically ran everything. We completely redid my daughters bedroom for her birthday (new carpet, new furniture, bedding, curtains, EVERYTHING) and said no food or drinks in the room. The first thing this kid does is take ice cream into my daughters room and when she’s done, she just threw it on the floor. Chocolate all over the brand new carpet and down the side of the new bed and bedding. It wasn’t the first issue. This kid had punched my daughter in the stomach on the bus, taken toys from her, just a nightmare. I addressed the issue with her mom, more than once. No change in behavior. I finally told my daughter that they couldn’t play together anymore, because this little girl wasn’t a nice friend. I explained being a good friend and a bad friend. My daughter finally understood. As important as it is for children to have friends, it’s much more important that they have GOOD friends. If I were you, I would address the issue with the mother, give it another chance or two and then go from there. If nothing changes, that friendship needs to be ended, for your daughter. Kids like that grow up to be spoiled, entitled brats. I can’t speak for you, but as for me, I don’t want my kids associating with people like that because I don’t want my kids to BE people like that.
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If the mother refuses to correct her you do it. Ill be damned if any child would get away talking to my kid that way. If mom don’t like it maybe she should be a parent. I would say I don’t let my child be mean to you its not ok to do it to her. This is a warning next time you won’t be allowed to play with us until you can be nice.
Why don’t you have a adult conversation with the mom? Mom is definitely not doing a good job teaching her child to be a respectful, productive human. I would still go, but not hang with them. Just go off and do your own thing. Then explain to mom later why… then tell mom you will be distancing yourselves for your own sanity. Be straight up & honest
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My only advice is put yours first
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I have a neighbor kids who peed in my daughter’s pop and tried to make her drink it, he wrote a mean letter and forged two little girls name on it, and he stole from my daughter and was busted. His mom literally thinks I am lying about him hitting another girl continuously with his coat for no reason, he also poured a gallon of cleaning solution on his grandma’s cat at midnight to. The mother does absolutely NOTHING TO CORRECT THIS BEHAVIOR ! I finally told my daughter she is not to play with him. I even had to request my daughter not be in his class as last year due to how he treated my daughter at school. I would not go on a trip. If this mother doesn’t do anything to correct her behavior it is only going to get worse. Mind you this neighbor of ours is 9. I believe he is on the path to becoming a sociopath. I am not willing to have my daughter be treated in such a way. Maybe the mom will get the hint if you don’t go.
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Mom needs to step up and put her foot down, otherwise that little girl will be a monster for her entire life.
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Take separate cars.
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Go, enjoy yourselves. Take your own car.
Are we adults? Have you talked to your friend? Obviously she’s got the only child thing goin on… Bring it up
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Oh fck no i wouldn’t go and I’d be telling the mother straight to her face don’t ever bring your rugrat back to my house again shes a spoilt little brat and if anyone needs a good hiding for her behavior its you 
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I wouldn’t go too be miserable
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I. Would. Not. Go. It’s. A. Choice.
If you have a good relationship with the mother then you should sit down with her and express your feelings if she doesn’t like it and don’t want to be friends anymore than she wasn’t a friend to begin with
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I wouldn’t go. Id tell her your kids keep getting upset by how she is treating them.
I wouldn’t go with the neighbor girl. Just tell the mom that you want to do a family date with your kids
I would go a different day; explain something has come up and you will go separately. If she questions it, that’s a good time to say in a nice way, you can’t take a chance having your family be treated so rudely and have examples of past ready to share. It really needs to be addressed. Your daughter shouldn’t suffer because her child
Is so rude and disrespectful.
Be truthful, Let her know her daughters behaviour has made your child uncomfortable and would be best if you didn’t go together.
Sometimes our friends need to actually hear the truth (in the nicest way possible)
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I try to think I would let the mother know how uncomfortable my daughter is and how myself am trying to do be then best mother just like herself and suggesting car pooling to waterpark together and just understanding that it might come to a point where you may have to split and do your own thing periodically just to give the girls a break from one another
I wouldn’t want my kids around a child like that. They are going to have a ton of trouble with that girl as she gets older. Find another friend until the kids are much older and take two cars to the water park. If her daughter is rude to your kids leave them right away just like they do you.
Ask the daughter since she seems to be in charge.
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So do not put your kid threw this
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She needs to correct her daughter I
Go separate
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I’d speak directly to the daughter and correct her behavior. Give the mom a book on discipline and let her know if she doesn’t take control now, her daughter will be friendless and unemployable. She lets a 5-year old kick her out if her own house? Who is the parent and who is the child? Sounds more like a cry for help.
Ask your kids if they want to go if the brat will be there. If they say yes, go, but make clear to her mom what behavior you will not tolerate. You don’t have to be together all the time @ the park & take separate cars. If they don’t want to go with her, go another time.
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Ur husbands right. And just because u live next to some1 that doesnt mean u have to be all up in each others mix. …u and the mom can b friends without the kids involved at all. Then no 1 has to be upset about the kids not playing.
The mother seems like a real big issue here. The child should be begin corrected, instead the mom jokes about it. I’d go to the waterpark with my own little family and forget about the neighbor. You want your daughter to have good time, and that kid seems like a real brat, so let your children have a got time with out the bratty child possibly ruining it for everyone.
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Thats a huge no from me. Kids a little shithead and her mother didn’t care enough to correct her behavior
I think you should not go as this trip may end things between you and neighbor mom on a sour note rather try going to n them coming to each other’s houses less as ignoring is better than bitter ending of relationships
I wouldn’t go. You children shouldn’t have to deal with that and it could end up causing your daughter to be hesitant on making friends in the future. If the mom wants to know why then tell her that you don’t like the way that her daughter treats your kids, that you don’t allow your kids to treat her like that but that your not going to allow other kids to treat them that way. You are the voice for them. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with standing up for yourself and kids. I wouldn’t want to deal with a child like that either especially out at a water park. She sounds like she runs her household not her parents and is most likely grow up into a very selfish and entitled person.
Go take separate cars. Don’t miss an opportunity to make memories with your kids over someone else’s rotten seed. If everything goes fine Great. If it starts to go the wrong way separate and kindly tell your friend it is to much and you need some space.
In our culture as parents to the kids that are friends or neighbor,we throw it aside and say,kids are kids,it should not get parents mad,yet when a child is misbehaving to another child, correct the child without making the other one feel bad,you guys are bad neighbours,5year olds are kids
You should politely talk to the mother & explain how you feel. It sounds like the mother is unaware that her lack of discipline & direction is ultimately hurting her child. As a parent she needs to learn some parenting skills. Otherwise that little girl will grow up to be someone that no one wants to be around.
The little girl sounds as if she has the beginnings of social anxiety. The mother isn’t helping. So many good suggestions from others on here. Where is Daddy?
Precocious little madam the mother needs to grow up and be the parent.She has stated that her daughter has even kicked her out of the house. As for treating your daughter the way the mother allowed her child to be so rude and not make her apologize sounds like big trouble on the horizon. Obviously she rules the roost in their house.Sad
I would go, but drive separately. That way, if the neighbor kid does something unacceptable, you don’t have to see her for the rest of the day. Just take your kids and have fun without her.
Who would even want to go with them… I’d rather take my kids by myself than be friends with someone like that…
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If the neighbor isn’t going to take responsibility for raising her bratty child that’s her choice, it’s also your choice to protect your children from that ladies bad parenting and he bratty child that makes yours feel bad. I sure wouldn’t go knowing I would be miserable and that my kid would be unhappy at some point, allowing your kid to keep a friendship like that reinforces it’s ok to be treated badly by others. They’ll most likely grow up having bad boundaries with others and feel like it’s ok for a friend to be mean or manipulative because that’s how friends always were growing up.
I wouldn’t go & I’d tell her its because her child dosent have an ounce of respect for HER or anyone else & You don’t want that kind of influence around. It’s different if its just been a bad day or it only happened on occasion but you said it literally happens every time. I say, friend no more unless she corrects her behavior.
I would NOT go anywhere with them. The brat obviously rules the roost; somebody I don’t want to be friends with, nor would my child be friends with her. Neither of the neighbors will ever change, mom will be a pushover for her bullying, master manipulator daughter. Leave them to their own devices and be to busy when they want to come over.
Don’t allow this spoiled 5 year old to set a pattern of life long acceptance of bullying… she is already bullying her mom and getting away with it. The relationship with the child needs to change for the mental health of your 3 kids. I would take my kids to the water park and let the neighbor and her child go on their own or not… but I wouldn’t spoil my kids fun by having her in the group. ALL children need to learn how to behave and interact with other kids…
Need to find friends more like yourself. I would not be able to keep my mouth shut and let her know they are rude as hell. Cannot tolerate people that do not Discipline their children. That kid is going to grow up to be a awful Karen. Run and don’t look back.
Don’t take what the little girl does at heart, it seems that she might have some problems that her mom hasn’t notice, she is definitely not a happy child and she can’t help reacting the way she does. Just tell your little ones to be kind to the people who aren’t they are the ones who need it the most. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong they are all kids and they will fight and make up all in one hour but if you have a nice relationship with the mom you don’t want to ruin that.
Why put yourself and your children through that. Just be too busy to have them over. I’m sure you can make other friends.
Don’t go… If her daughter gets mad and says I want to go home , boom trip over. I say don’t let her come play at your house anymore. Maybe they can play outside together. But I would avoid this woman who let’s her 5 year old control her!!
I would chill out on the relationship for a bit of time. Let things cool down and see if they improve.
Teach your children tolerance and boundaries, give them the definition of friends and let them choose
I would not go. That mother is going to regret letting her little girl grow up like that.
Drive separately. That way when the child wants to go home you and your children can stay.
I would try to talk to the mom first and say “this doesn’t seem to be working so let’s take a break”. Her child will learn pretty quickly in school that behaving like that will not make her popular or happy. It is up to you as a mom to model the right behavior and protect your children.
I would slowly and surely avoid any interaction with this girl. You children will start to act that way too.
Do not go with her daughter is a very spoilt little so and so your children are better of with out her and the mother
I broke off a friendship because the mom treated her 16 year old stepchild…like a stepchild. She treated her like a babysitter and maid to the 1-2 year old son she had with the husband. Not only that but she doesn’t exist on her Facebook, she only posts her baby and never her. That and she’s 2 faced.
Don’t go. Tell her mother why. Don’t expose your kids to this kind of behavior. The mother is raising a brat.
You taking away her mom attention from her… that has nothing to do with you or your daughter. That is her and her daughter issues nothing to do with y’all.
Encourage meetings on neutral ground eg at the park, out the front, get kids to ride bikes to park.
Yeah great day…where can we go?’
Meet up less, when the daughter asks to play sorry -------is not feeling 100%.
Tell the neighbour that your daughter got really upset and that we need to let ------kniw she can’t talk/do that cause it’s not nice, it’s being rude, and upsets/hurts .
Get away from her and don’t expose your daughter to that behavior. Not pleasant
This is a no brainer. Don’t go on the trip and keep your child away from the neighbor’s child as her negative and spoilt behavior can negatively impact your child’s behavior.
Go. Most times the families will go their seperate ways and meet up later on. I would take seperate vehicles though.
Buy that mom a book and leave it anonymously on her doorstep “Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life” Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life - Google Search
Just make it a hi-bye relationship. Jus bcoz u r neighbours, u can always ask other frens over. And u can always go to other fren’s plc to hang out. Be around ppl who will appreciate, love, care, motivate, encourage you. Ppl u trust and dun hav to feel bad when u wna tell their children smtg that is not acceptable. We need a village to raise our children up. Theres no such thing as ur children are urs and mine is mine. How can we teach children manners and respect if others dun do it for their children as well? B ard ppl who can make us happy. Dun deal w toxic relationships.
Take your own cars . If she wants to leave let her mother take her home.
Sounds like you’re daughter needs a new friend and a better friend who knows how to behave
Don’t go and tell her that her daughter is fresh and be done
You dont want your daughter hurt and upset again
Listen to you gut institution…Don’t go… find an excuse
Just be an adult and talk to the mom
Tell it like it is your not happy it is going to get worse
Go, but not with them!
Just start ignoring the dense mother
Or simply tell her the truth ! Explain to her you just can’t have her brat daughter hurting your daughter!
I wouldn’t go, since shes been acting like that for awhile may be in the best interest of you and the kids that you limit contact, I know you guys live next door so maybe try talking to her mom, and tell her that if she doesnt stop her daughter from doing that all the time then your friendship will have to be limited. You need to worry about your kids, not having to worry about hurting another kids feelings, YOU are an adult and must do what’s best for your kids so I only see the best thing here is to limit contact since the ladys kid wants to be a shit fine, she can boss her mom around. I’m not having that crap around me or my kids.
Clearly this is not a good friendship for your child. Why expose her to someone that hurts her feelings all the time? You can be friendly to your neighbors and not have to do things with them. I would tell the mom that it’s clear her daughter doesn’t want to be friends with your daughter, and that’s ok, so you won’t be getting them together anymore.
Wait, a 5 year old kicked her own mother out of the house and she allowed it?!