Maybe say one of your kids has come down with something and then take your 3 kids to the water park another day instead?
What odd behavior? The both of them. I would go to the waterpark with your kids. Screw them. If they act like that leave them. It would be a mess trying to soothe one over the other. I had this happen to me and the outcome became very stressful for all parties. We ended up vowing not to bring 1 person with us again. She isnât a friend she is an acquaintance.
Could be only child syndrome itâs a real thing !
Aw man shoulda squared up right then and there. Lol gotta go ham for the babies. Lmao but nah you really need to step to the mama and be delicate but firm about her daughters behavior. If she wants to continue to allow her to act like that and not check her daughter or correct the way she treats someone then she doesnât have your daughters friendship.
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Sound like she may have sensory pro disorder. The noise/envir etc causing overstimulation
Why expose your child to that? I would pull the mom to the side to confront her. Maybe her mom is correcting it privately.
HER DAUGHTER KICKED HER OUT OF THE HOUSE ?!
I think you are living next to a proper gremlin who needs a reality check, and you are the EXACT person to give her that ! In fact, your neighbour might need you on her sideâŚshe clearly hasn"t got a clueâŚparenting a single child is entirely different to parenting normal childrenâŚ
So when Little Miss Contrary visits next time, maybe try this:
Stop her at the door before she sets foot inside. Say in a very friendly way, âhi Little Miss Contrary, weâre so happy youâre here again, but I really need to have a word to youâ and then pull her asside and have a little tete-a-teteâŚnot reprimanding her,âŚmaybe suggest that you are really good friends with her mum, but you feel like her cranky outbursts are threatening that âgood neighbourâ thing, and ask her if thereâs something bugging herâŚgive her the opportunity to reflect on her own behaviour and tell you why she is such a pain in the arseâŚgoodness knows, she might reveal something you werenât expectingâŚcould your child be quietly provoking herâŚcould she be reacting to her mum getting bullied by her partner, or maybe she is simply terribly spoilt after allâŚ
The point of this is, that by taking a lead and asking her to explain her behaviour, you will be giving her a safe space to explore how she affects other people, and it provides you with the opportunity to set some ground rules when she visits: explain gently that you can see how she is controlling other people by storming out and dragging her mum with her, but you can tell her that this will make other people very uncomfortable to invite her places, and then her mum will also become very isolated.
Think about why you find her behaviour unfair and objectionable, and be perfectly honest with her. She needs a good clip 'round the ear, but unfortunately thatâs illegal. Honesty is equally jolting for spoilt little turds like this.
Do Not Go.
I would minimize the neighborâs child from coming over.
You donât need this anymore than a hole in your head.
Whoâs running the show? The kids?? Both mothers need to talk about the children and find a way to resolve this problem
Much better to stop seeing each other. Itâs not a good for the kids and for you either.
No no and no, delete them from your life, thatâs just a whole lot of trouble coming, slam that door shut and fi nd some new friends
These situations are dumb! People need to grow a pair and learn to stand on their own two feet.
The kids need a break from each other. And maybe the Moms do too.
I would say sheâs a bad influence on your daughter and not involve her at all
Itâs unacceptable to allow someone to diss your kids!
if you donât want to deal with the brat, then donât. protect your kid from her stupid crap and let her mom deal with her.
Take your children and go . Leave the other mom home with her daughter
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Thatâs what this little girl sounds like to me
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Your not in Witchita Ks are you, that sounds like someone I know
The closer some friends or neighbors live you have to minimize the interaction to keep it peacful
Iâd go but Iâd take my own transport and just focus on you and your kids.
Provide examples on why her daughter always want to go to home when sheâs playing with your child? I need to know why she is âover reactingâ because they may be valid reasons. If my child isnât comfortable around yours then Iâm choosing my child.
Yâall need to figure out what the actual issue is between the kids to see if there is something that can be worked on and corrected.
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Take your kidds to the park and leave the neighbor brat home with.her mama.
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Take your kids and leave the neighbor home.
Take your kids and let her take her daughter not togather
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Donât go you canât be the first to experience this situation
a little too much togetherness ??
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Donât go with them, Keep away from such people will turn out to bd harmful someday
Go by yourselves tell her you want to avoid the drama âŚ
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Thatâs why I donât get involved with neighbours.
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Donât go and subject your kids and yourself to that
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Protect your daughter fuck your neighbor. Go a different day.
Please donât put your family through that.
Just donât.
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Only child syndrome !!
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Number 1 donât get involved with your neighbours you have to live there and if things go south well , you know what Iâm trying to say
Donât go. You donât need the stress. But later talk to the mom. And tell her how you feel.
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The water park is such a major investment for a family and needs to be a peaceful family day you could explain that you wanted a special family only day and go to the water park with your husband and your own children⌠I wouldnât have any type of playdates at the house of the only child 5 year old and who cares if they go home when they come to visit yoursâŚthensooner the better⌠If the other child doesnât grow out of the rude behavior you may need to draw the line and explain that you canât expose your children to any kind of disrespect.
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I personally wouldnât go!You have to think about your kids,not the neighbors 5 year spoiled brat,she told her own Mother to get out of the house!I think she needs help.
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I would go myself and not deal with this drama
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Donât go. Smpl. You have bght up you kids well. Proud of you. As for your neighbor, tell her itâs wrong to allow her child being rude. Today she is small if you donât teach from now when growing older she will have no respect for anyone. I feel sad for her.but someone has to tell her. Still if she dsnt want to hear u out but keep your kids away from them. Bad habits are easy to take up than good. Good luck
Separate cars. They leave, they leave. Buh bye. But your kids day at the park is not ruined.
Time for a break from each other. Mmet later in a park etc. for a play
Donât go and ruin your kids day
Donât go when you have a had feeling
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I wouldnât go. My daughter is a force of nature too, but she is not rude and she does not speak to me or others that way.
It sounds like her mom feels overwhelmed with âfightingâ the behavior and doesnât know of a strategy that will work on her daughter.
Sounds like that kid is the boss lol sucks Iâm sorry
Tell your neighbors to become parents and correct bad behavior or only she can come to your house minus her daughter until she is corrected on her attitude
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When they are in your home and the child acts/says something that is rude or disrespectful simply tell the child âthis not how we act/what we say in this house. That is rude and disrespectful so you need to stop and apologize to X.â
If her mother says anything then that is your opportunity to let her know her parenting sucks, her kids a Brat and she better start dealing with it. Also, weâll meet you at the park, weâre going in our own car so that when your demon diva decides for you youâre going home, we can continue having fun
Go 8n separate cars.
Ok, so a 3 year close bond to me would mean you would/should be able to discuss this with your âcloseâ bonded neighbor/friend?!? I guess my idea of a close bond with someone and yours are 2 different things. How could you let this go on for so long and not have said anything to her? I donât get it.
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I completely agree the child should set their own boundaries.
So, donât go. If you donât enjoy being around them, itâs easy. Just donât go.
Can you just be honest and have this conversation with the mom? Iâm pretty sure she will understand
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Donât go. Let the relationship end totally. You donât need that spoiled child teaching your children to act this way.
This mother isnât teaching her child how to problem solve snd the child seems to be spoiled. I would explain to ur children how inappropriate the childâs behavior his and when she starts acting up tell ur children just to ignore her snd play with each other leaving her out. Use the neighbors daughters behavior as a teaching moment. I would tell my children in front of the mother how unkind her behavior is and when she acts up . I would say . â that wasnât very nice, was it? â
Take your own vehicle, and hope for the best if you decide to do.
My son is an only child and never acted that way towards others. There comes a time when you must put your foot down and set healthy boundaries
Ghost them. Take your own car. Hide.
Sounds like she minds her daughter pretty well, cant stand parents like that. I wouldnt be able to deal
With another kid being a dick to mine and the parent not saying anything. Your 3 kids probably have a great time together without the extra one anywaysđ¤ˇđťââď¸
Just because you are neighbors does not mean you have to be friends. This mother is the problem and is not teaching her child to behave in an acceptable way. She is raising her child to feel entitled. Sorry, but she is not so special that everyone has to honor only her feelings. She has to learn to respect other people and learn to get along. Has this five year old gone to school yet because a teacher will most certainly not let her get away with this kind of behavior. I suggest that this mother of three would go to a waterpark in her own vehicle and just arrange to meet this neighbor and her daughter there. Thus, if this five year acts up, her mother can just deal with it and take her home without ruining the day for everyone else. I would hesitate to plan any more play dates including this neighborâs five year old. If that neighbor calls and tries to arrange one, tell her that you have already made other plans. If she persists, explain to her that her child does not play well and it is best to avoid any future problems. As a mother, she has a right to protect her own children.
Dont go, but if you do, go in separate cars in case the kid wants to go home.
Fences make the best neighbors. The kid is mental stay away.
I think itâs pretty obvious, just donât go around anymore. They have a reason, you have a reason, and thatâs the end of it.
You dont need her or the brat.
Sounds like sheâll want go home as soon as you get to the water park so this might solve itself lol
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Why are you even asking about this? Just cut all ties till that mother straightens up. 
Donât go, go on your own without them.
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Everybody go to have fun and let that botter girl by herself for punishment
It seems like ur neighborâs daughter is spoiled rotten
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Donât go with any rude children.
Stay home avoid the drama.
If you donât feel comfortable saying something to the child when sheâs rude than donât go . Iâm talking like , thatâs not nice to talk that way or you hurt my feelings or your childâs feelings when you act like that . Teach your children to use the same response when the child is being rude to them . Teach them to use their words . Let them say , I donât like how your acting . I donât want to play with you . Itâs good for them to learn to advocate for themselves appropriately. Your neighbor is a bully .
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am unsure if I should go out with my neighbor and her daughter due to her daughters behavior: Advice?
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I would go my separate ways at water park and keep distance at home your children donât need to be around that kind of behavior. They have each other
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I raised four. They are all grown now and would have never acted that way. That 5 year old child wouldnât kick ME out of the house and she would NOT have treated someone that way. That mom will regret allowing her child to become a spoiled monster.
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Dump them. Apparently the 5 year old is the parent, and you have nothing in common with a 5 year old.
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Parents and kids who acted like this are the main reason my kids donât! I hated so many kids bc the mom could not see how bad the kid acted and it made everyone miserable when the kid was around! and its always the quote gentle parents whoâs kids act the worst!! Cut the contact bc the kid wonât change and the mother wonât either!
Ummmmm u need to correct the mom ASAP!!! As well, she didnt have to tell ur daughter in that manner and u Couldve told her mom something and have her daughter apologize to urs! You may not be able to yell at the child but u can sure ass hell say it to the mom, mannnnn she wouldve caught these hands ASAP having her child talk to my baby like that Tuhhhh!
ruin the relationship Iâm sorry her kid clearly doesnât like your kids for whatever reason and donât put your kids through that. they deserve so much better.
Why make your child miserable for this spoiled brat me I would not promote them play time because your daughter might pick up some of her bad habits
Your neighbor is grooming a bully⌠Thereâs no reason to put your daughter through that just because theyâre neighbors. Frankly, I would quit doing anything with them. Just keep it friendly as a âHi, howâs it going?â type communications, but donât offer any plans anymore. Be friendly, but have boundaries.
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Seems like the kid is running the showâŚgo to the water parkâŚits just a matter of time before she gets bored and tells mama itâs time to leaveâŚenjoy yourselfâŚ
Go, and have fun with your daugher. If the neighborâs kid acts up. go to another water ride.
Just withdraw. Dont say anything, be friendly, but just âbe busyâ when she tries to arrange a visit. Children copy behaviour of peers, you dont want your daughter picking up that kind of behaviour.
I expect your daughter might be relieved not to be bullied by that child. Try and get involved with another group so she can make new friends.
If the neighbour ever mentions your lack of visits, just nicely explain, that her daughters behaviour isnt something you want your daughter exposed to. Keep it civil, in another year or so, the daughter may have grown out of this phase. But itâs the mother really at fault here.
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Nope. Dont go. Stay friends with the mom but dont force your daughter to be her friend. She is a brat.
I wouldnât want my kid witnessing this kind of horrible behavior. The parents must be morons
Time to find new friends. She is a spoiled brat!
Take a break and ask another friend
No way would I go, nor would I risk subjecting my child to another outburst. There are two very good lessons in this for both you and your daughter: never allow anyone to become comfortable with treating you disrespectfully, and, you are not a doormat; when people treat you badly, you do not sit back and silently accept it. Allowing this child to continue engaging with your daughter is enabling the childâs adverse behaviour and teaching your daughter to overlook being used as someone elseâs âpunching bagâ.
Donât go take your kids at a different time stop participating in that nonsense itâs toxic as hell somethings going on stay away protect your children
Donât go. Not worth the worry.
Simple , next time they come over and knock on your door just tell em to âFuck Offâ!
You are teaching your kids to tolerste abuse! Stop!
Skip the drama. Donât go.
Donât go. Do something else instead!
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What a little shit⌠
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Look up the song FDB.
Just say we will meet you there.
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Go on separate vehicles
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I canât handle these drama crap discussions. Iâm gone.
I wouldnât go. And if I did I would drive separately
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I agree with your husband. Itâs probably best, if you donât go with them. Even if you have to tell a little white lie think of an excuse to tell the girlâs mom.
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