Hey everyone. I’m looking for guidance here. TIA. My grandmother has raised me and provided not only for me but for my whole family since I was born. She’s, of course, older now, after a divorce with my grandfather a few years back, so she is alone basically in terms of a living situation. She has a house that she has been paying for/owned for ten years now. My father has always been a drug user/etc. But always stuck to her and lived with her because she gave him money, let him use her car, etc. and could never bring herself to kick him out. Fast forward to 2019; my father had a baby with a girl (almost 20 years younger than him might I add. he was also a young dad to me but still.), and since she gave birth, she’s been taking over the house. She thinks she runs the house now, and my dad plays along with it, saying he owns the house. Well, that has pissed me off, but I’ve recently learned (meaning 10 minutes ago) that my grandma has been staying at her friends houses telling me she’s “taking care of the houses” while they’re away, but I saw her one friend at the store this morning, so I know she isn’t away or on vacation. I also learned not only that, but when my grandma does go home to stay there, they make her sleep in a cot on the FLOOR while they took over her master bedroom. I am beyond LIVID right now, and I don’t know how to approach my dad because he is a ticking time bomb, so I don’t want to cause a huge fight or anything. He doesn’t use anymore, and he’s working, but still. He doesn’t pay anything for the house! Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this and also support my grandma in all of this?
File for elderly abuse
Unless your grandma wants you to there’s nothing you can do
Gma needs to serve an eviction.
i am a social work and investigate elder abuse, neglect, and exploitation…it sounds like they are exploiting your grandma. i strongly encourage you to make a report to your states elder abuse department.
Elderly abuse/fraud. Just because she doesn’t say no doesn’t mean he isn’t wrong and guilty of a crime
Report him to DHR on elder abuse!!!
Talk with Grandma first, then confront Dad together.
Yes this falls under elder abuse and they have services for them just like they do for children, you need to report this and an eviction needs to be filed on your dad and that little girl that is taking over the home your grandma OWNS
He should have respect for his mother she’s good elder. 2nd she paid for the house kick em out by if hey room. If she don’t get respect either should they put the for down
Call adult protective services and get them kicked out!!
Adult Protective Services needs a call. They will know what to do and can help.
They need to leave her house that may be her son but he grown and needs to go your grandma doesnt deserve the abuse
Call EPS and file a report regardless of if your gram agreed to this situation it’s a chargeable offense! Call ASAP!
Go to social services and the court and get legal aid. Talking to your father is not going to accomplish anything. Take care of the grandma who took care of u
Get a place big enough & move Grandma in.
Call adult protective services. This is abuse of the elderly.
Girl I’m mad for you!!! They need to give grandma her room back at the VERY LEAST!!!
This is one of those things where you grandmother is going to have to step up and put her foot down. This treatment will continue until she no longer allows it! It’s obvious that neither respect her and that he clearly takes advantage of her love for him. If your grandma and grandad are still cordial towards each other, I might would go talk to him too and say hey this is what is going on and see if maybe he can talk to your dad. When this was my dad and his girlfriend, I made my grandparents go down to the courthouse and file an eviction notice. This gave them 30 days to find somewhere else to go! They thought it was a joke, and at the end of 30 days nothing still had changed, so we called the police and escorted them out and my grandfather and I packed up all their stuff and sat it on the porch for them. They were livid and called us the worst possible names ever… but I did not care. While this hurt my grandma, she knew it was best. We kept telling her that until she made them take care of themselves they would continue to take advantage of her and treat her like trash and she has done her part in raising and taking care of him and now it was time for him to take care of himself. We went the legal route because the law cannot get involved with civil cases in my state. So if we would have just called them to come make them leave they couldn’t and of course it cut down on some of the backlash!
Report to elderly abuse
Call elder abuse hotline
Get an attorney. This is elder abuse
I agree!! Hot line ASAP.
Call the cops. That’s older abuse and if she has all the paper work to say she owns the house they will go around and tell them both to leave.
Report the abuse but also talk to your grandma
I would speak to your grandmother. I would report the abuse. Some Lawyers could give free consulting if you wanna know what your grandmothers rights are also.
You are not in the wrong here cause I am pissed off for you just reading whats going on to your grandmother.
I’d call the fucking cops if my grandparents were still alive. Don’t let that happen to your grandmother!
I would go get a restraining order on her son
This definitely sounds like elder abuse, and needs to be addressed asap before grandma loses her house and anything else she holds dear.
Go kick them tf out of your Grandmas House and not care Honestly
Yes, go to social services asap and get the law to kick them out.
Maybe get power of attorney for grandma then you can kick them out
Get her to sign the house over to you. Evict them. Move her back in.
Call DHS and report elderly abuse I dont care if you have to claim shes not in her right mind but they’re taking advantage and treating her like she owes them
Any report of elder abuse or neglect to SS has to be investigated. I would talk to your grandma and then call SS because this is elder abuse.
Social services for elder abuse ASAP
Call Adult Protection Services in your local municipality immediately and set up an appointment that your father and his new baby momma know nothing about. Make sure grandmas cot is out and tell her under no circumstances is she to lie to protect your father and his actions. Let them know if they need to bring the police with them it’s fine and they should be immediately removed. Oh before you do that have grandma start an eviction process and file ASAP so they don’t scream squatters rights. A formal eviction vacates that claim. Good luck praying 
for you and grams.
I would cause a scene. Idc if he gets mad because that is on him and needs to hear that everything that he is doing is wrong. If he goes off call the cops if it gets bad.
Not telling you do it but that’s what I would do
Have her sign power of attorney to you and you can kick their asses out! Or have her sign the house to you and you can kick them out. Call APS for elder abuse because that is sttaight bullshit.
This pisses me off tears in my eyes make them leave no way around it to make her sleep on the floor no way you love her find some one to make them leave give back to her how shes gave to you all these years
Call Adult Protective but in the meantime, if gma is in her right mind allowing this, there won’t be anything you can do. Maybe gpa can talk to Jr and his shackmate?
Power of attorney if they didn’t already
Elder abuse is a real thing. And their are agencies that deal with this directly, and can lead to criminal charges. Im a social worker. Financial abuse is very common among the elderly. If you want to let me know the area you live in, id be more than happy to search for an agency that can help with this.
SCREW that!!! U better go report for elder abuse!! U have a duty toooo!
Stand up to your father no matter what
Tell your Nana get tresspass order on the loser he can go
Call social services. They are taking advantage of her and that is not okay. You should bring Grandma to stay with you until the situation is handled.
APS-Adult Protective Services, you many even be able to help your grandmother get a protective order to keep them away from her. But if shes of sound mind, you cant do much without her involvement. Best of luck to you!
Adult protective services to start
Who does that to their own mom? Go the ffff off on them… Bring backup.
Call the police. That’s elder abuse. No choice. Just do it! You owe that to her
Social services yes report elder abuse and u need get things signed over to legal guardian if ur able to
If you can afford it, move her in with you. Report then for elderly abuse.
Nobody, doesn’t matter what family member they are, messes with my grandma! I WILL cause a scene, I WILL make my presence known, I WILL let all know I’m not playing! Grandma’s are not there to support you that way! Family us supposed to support grandmas!!! OMGAH! This is the type of crap that just pisses me off! I have zero patience for anyone who takes advantage of an elder!!! Take care of your grandma because when something happens to her at least your conscience will be clear. Once she’s gone, you cannot change or undo. We are supposed to treat them right while they’re here! Do what is necessary!!!
i agree what you are saying is called elderly abuse.
Get him and his bitch ass GF the hell out of there…stand your ground
I wouldnt care about ruffling feathers. Thats elder abuse. And i would make it very clear to him and that damn tator tot of his.
O that got go tell turn off all the light don’t pay A bilI. The no water no lge who about that child they have cut everything off that what I did
Find the proper organization and authorities in your area and contact them for information and assistance to determine if they can be charged with elderly abuse and go from there…good luck
Elder abuse. Abuse is more than physical in elders it’s also financial
Adult protective services
tough question but they are killing your gramma they need to go period and soon
Call DADS, it’s an organization for the elderly and elderly rights. Ask them about these issues. They can guide you in the LEGAL way that this should be handled. Hope this helps 
Oh hell no. I’d be raising nine kinds of hell. Your daddy needs to man up and get his own place for the girl and baby. Call the police on them
Call adult protective services
Elder abuse and file an eviction notice asap
Hell no call adult protective services and report him immediately! And gather any evidence you can to turn over to them that is not ok what so ever
Call social services on Monday tell them what is going on and they will do a well check let them know she won’t stay there go get power of attorney and evict them. You have to go through the courts yet can be done also have police remove them fir now lije tonight the child is nit fir you to worry about
First get a power of attorney with grandma while she is of sound mind. Then get APS involved. They aren’t much help but it’s a start. I personally would put hidden camera in the house to protect grandma.
Report it to your local health and senior services. Explain the situation. They will help take care of the situation. This is considered elder abuse
Elder abuse…report the situation
Whatever you do don’t give up on your grandma be her voice good luck and God bless you all
Omg that is awful. Call adult protective services and the police and get them out of there asap. Please dont let this continue. This absolutely breaks my heart
Go down to the court house and get them to place an order on him so they will have to leave the house can’t go back till she takes the order off 
Something is off here besides the obvious. I am scared that your Dad may have found her deeds and forged her signature to sign the house over to him or made her do it. I would personally sneak around & ask my Grandmother s friends what they know about the whole situation and why she is staying with them some. I would talk to Grandma away from Dad & his thing. Then I would go to Grandma house like a permanent fixture and be sneaky & nosy & gather all the information and insight you can get. Then call Elder Protection Services and / or a Attorney if she hasn’t signed the house over get her to give you Power of Attorney (your Dad may have beat you to it- might be how he is controlling Grandma). Get Help for her ASAP after you gather every ounce of info and proff you can get. Take pics , take Videos. Get everything possible to prove your Grandma is being taken advantage of. Good Luck & I wish the Best for her & you.
You need to get that piece of S*** out of Grandma’s house…
Call your local elderly services
Report to APS immediately- this is financial abuse and they can press charges! I know that sounds shitty because he is your dad, but she doesn’t deserve this take action now. If there is any way at all to get pictures, video, any evidence you can- do it.
Get her to quick claim the house over to you if it’s paid for, then you’re in control put him out!
Discuss it with grandma… ask her to stop paying the electrical bills and for anything else… if your dad wants to stay he must step up or move out
His evil your dad and all she did for him god will get him back dont wory. Call addult protection services.
Call adult protective service or get poa for Grandma so u can take legal action
The 1st thing you need to do is talk with your Grandmother. Make sure you know exactly what is going on on every level, how they are treating her, financially, everything she is paying. Let her know how wrong this is and how much it hurts you. If she wants them out but can not do it let her know that you will but you need power of attorney to do it. Ask her how she feels about it. If she is ok with it get it done ASAP! And take care if buisness. Just make sure you never abuse it. Keep her informed every step of the way.
There are commiting Elder Abuse…you might want to look online for options…God Bless
Report this to adult protective services
Sadly she will have to evict them through the courts ! This is as stated above elder abuse
You need to get your grandmother to sign you into the house and then kick his ass out. There might be an elder abuse group she can attend. Heck theres probably an elderly abuse group here on Facebook that will be full of suggestions. She needs your help.
Speak up !! Staying in silence is enabling them to abuse her!!
Turn him in for elder abuse. You can remain anonymous. If he questions it, let him know your not the only one who sees the problem here.
Get the rest of you’re family involved, as well as the authorities and kick him and his trash out!!!
Show Dad who’s the real man. You sounds like you’re the dad and he’s the son. Have your dad to learn responsibilities and go take care of grandma.
Maybe get some other family members that agree with u n call a family meeting n say too them in low tone in your voice we/you are concerned that your grand mothers old n when she is at home needs her room n privacy n can NOT sleep any where else as she cant get down too lower herself onto cot n besides everything else it is her house n she needs too have her own room back for her health … u can only try this but make it known that she needs her own house at this age n time in her life n now
Social services has people for elder abuse
Shame on that son-of-a-b**** for using his grandmother like that!!my grandmother and grandfather raised me my two brothers and they are my mom and dad as far as we are concerned. And we gave them every kind of respect you to think of! Shame on that bastard
She needs to tell them to leave and if they don’t call the Police!!
First look up the rules in your state… In missouri you have to start an eviction!!!
If she’s willing, I’d have her sign everything over to you and fight it for her. I’m basically going through the same thing with my grandma. My POS cousin is mooching off of her and moving all kinds of trash in. She doesn’t want him there but doesn’t want to put him on the streets. I have begged her to put the house in my dad’s name and let him do the dirty work but she refuses. I know how much it hurts you, but you can’t help people who refuse your help! I’m about to the point of having my grandma evaluated for memory deficits and force a takeover of the estate. She’s losing her mind with him there!
Call elder abuse line they will check it out
I’d have the police go there and do a wellness check