Tell him never mind he got everything he needs, then go buy it yourself then if it means so much to u!
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Why not give him a chance…He is the father so it’s his responsibility also…
Maybe try going together? And you can have input on what to get at the store? Or let the kid pick out the items, my kid loves to pick out her items off the list herself makes it exciting for her since it’s her school supplies
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Maybe he has excitement too, he could feel the same way about situation….split the list or go together.
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Um, why don’t you ask him if you guys can get the things together?
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You get to get your child ready for the first day , you get to pack his back pack , you will pack his lunch. You will put him on the bus. So I get that it makes you a little sad but ultimately you are getting so many of the firsts still. I would personally set aside my feelings and just let him have fun taking him. I think that’s pretty cool for your child to get to have their dad take them school shopping since dad wont be getting him ready on the first day. Then he will still have a piece of him with him in the supplies he got 
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Honestly it is a bit petty and selfish to be upset that he’s buying it. He’s his dad he has the same excitement you do as mom. If it bothers you that much though, ask if you could meet up with him and be a part of buying his first school supplies. Work as a team for the child. That’s who it’s about. Not you or your ex.
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You don’t have to be mad or upset… he is helping you. If you want to buy your son stuff, go ahead and buy it. I think he also wanted to be envolve. So what you are saying is that you wanted to buy stuff with the dad’s money well I think that you should buy it with your money if you want all the excitement… you should be grateful he is helping you with all of that and as there are parents that don’t help with anything…
This is a bit silly. Why can’t he do the first day stuff? I’m sure he’s just as excited and if you can’t swing it be thankful he can. It’s not about you it’s about your child. Use this as an opportunity to get along and turn a new page.
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It’s ok for dad to do it. Thank him and move on to something important. 15 years from now, no one will remember who bought what!
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If you wanted to buy the supplies, then you should have prepared financially to do so. I don’t see him doing anything wrong by taking HIS money to buy HIS child school supplies. At least he didn’t tell you you were on your own,to figure it out. Little selfish,if you ask me.
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You knew for awhile when the baby was due, and when your child would be entering school. Could have saved for this a couple dollars a week even
Of all the things to be upset over……
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You asked for money for school supplies…he said he would buy it…what is the problem? Because you don’t pick it out? At least he is doing something for the kid. Some people just don’t appreciate anything. There are far more important things to worry about. Sounds like someone just wants to be petty.
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I understand you want to do this because it is the first time. Most parents look forward to this. I think the issue is you have a new baby that is not his and he thinks maybe you would spend some of the money on getting that child also. If you cannot afford something that is relatively cheap such as school supplies you have a problem. I will step over the boundary here and tell you to stop having kids because they are expensive to raise. You have three now. According to the government statistics, it will cost you $300,000 for those three kids until they are 18. How are you going to hold a job with three small kids? Try to not be so dependent on men to be where your money comes from in this day and age. Men come and go but children are from cradle to grave. Check out Vocational Rehabilitation. They are in every state. They can retrain you or train you for a new career for free. They also help you get a job once your training is done.
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ReAlly dam you should be happy he’s doing it. Some ppl don’t ever get that kind of help
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Maybe put aside your issues with each other for one day and go shopping together. Or send him a list. Or just go buy them yourself. If you are unemployed did you file for unemployment? Or do you have a significant other who you live with?
It’s just school supplies. I have one child - and it was not some life altering experience when I bought her supplies for kindergarten. It really wasn’t a big deal at all.
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He doesn’t trust you or he’s cheap!!!
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It’s his right and responsibility as a parent to take him school shopping. It’s great if he is gonna buy everything and then send it to your house. I understand you are missing out and that bums but that is not the Dad’s fault.
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Why should he have to give you money to get something he can do his self?? Like that is some straight petty ass shit. Some mom’s wish they could just call their baby daddy and they’d do their shit. Instead of being grateful you’re mad you didn’t get money which makes it seem like you had other plans for it than school supplies. You have plenty of firsts he won’t, but this is the battle you choose to pick
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As a mom you have zero more rights to do this than the father does and reading these comments there are a lot of women out there who need to realize this.
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I would literally kill to have someone else offer to not only pay for buy go out and buy school supplies. It’s really not that glamorous & you should be thankful that you have someone who can help you when you can’t do it yourself. Esp not having to take your newborn out to fight crazy moms over supplies. Pick your battles 
Parenting is about what the kids need not about your feelings. You should be grateful.
Stupid question lol you still get wat u asked for ur just not going in to get it he is
how bout shut up aye he said he’s going to get the stuff so whats the problem…
He may want to be a part of it as well and not just paying for it. So maybe just say “ since it’s our son’s first school year, would it be possible for us to go with him together and get his supplies?” Then after he buys them and your on your way home make sure you say to your child’s dad in front of your son, “thank you for getting his school supplies - he’s going to have a great year!” Begin a new path for better communication between you both for your children. It’s not easy and their dad may not be receptive but you are setting the example and your kids over time will see your efforts in the process. Trust me in the long run - your efforts will be better for your children if you can end up building a bridge between the two of you. Makes life easier for your children. Hope your kids have s great school year.
Wow. Really. You need to breathe. Calm down. You gonna stress yourself and that poor kid out. Grow up. You have alot of learning to do especially since your kid is in kindergarten. How about be greatful you got help. This is petty. Prob why yall arent together anymore. Id walk out to. I mean its only school supplies. I think you would of rather got the cash so you could look good. Im sorry but its not worth the drama. If I was the judge Id shake my head and dismiss you from my court room.
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Since you can’t afford it yourself let him get them you have 12 more years to buy school supplies and there may come a time when he is unemployed. Don’t make it an issue
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Thats sweet if you want to do it , let him if he has the funds though. Maybe next year you will be in a better financial situation & you can do it.
You get to see it when he brings it home. Go through it with him and enjoy his excitement together just seeing it. Hope it works out for you.
I promise you that he will not get one thing your little one REALLY REALLY wants. Take your son to look. He’ll show you and you’ll have the honor of getting it for him. It will feel good.
Am I reading this wrong? Your child is having everything he needs for school bought for him and that upsets you? Seriously? Wow. Not hard to guess why the Dad left.
I think you are acting a little petty. You are both your child’s parent, does not matter who buys what as long as they are getting what they need.
Pick your battles.
If you are asking for money for this stuff then why would it bother you if he just goes and gets it himself with the money you asked for
We don’t & won’t give money to my husband’s ex, for any reason. We will purchase things the kids need but, she isn’t getting cash!
I would be happy he’s getting stuff when you have money you can get your own stuff
Is it his first time too?
Buy your son the outfit he will wear in the first day or something else instead.
Count your lucky stars,mom…
The man will be with and do for your child instead of just disappear,and it’s possible he doesn’t trust you with the money seeing as you aren’t working…just an opinion
Send the kid with the supplies list with dad. Let him do it.
Make him a list. Tell yourself you are making this list on line.
This is absolutely petty. That’s his son too. He also gets to do some of the “firsts” with his son. You can’t afford it. So he did it. As he should because he’s his dad. You’re being petty and for no reason. Be thankful your son has a dad in his life. Many dont.
Don’t let this bother you for a second. I could write a book on dealing with my granddaughter’s bio dad, and money? You can’t imagine how much we’ve spent on this idiots useless custody pursuits ($30,000 for attorneys), and we are just the grandparents!! But, all things turn around and now that the oilfield is virtually dead guess who doesn’t have two nickels to rub together? Right!!! So, now that our beloved granddaughter i s old enough to “get it,” she gets it!!!
But you said you are unemployed. Can’t you just go with him and get the things together
Why is this Father not paying actual child support? It definitely would alleviate the situation on having to ask him, period. Yes, I totally understand not working due to just having a baby…rest up and get back up when you ready. But it’s no excuse that this man shouldn’t be paying his fair share in expenses for his child. School supply costs ain’t nothing compared to what you are providing as a parent with a majority of your sons expenses. Yes, I feel you on the first of many first experiences as a Mother. I’m blessed to have the kind of Father for my kids who understands my joy of having first experiences with our kids. He has different ideas of first experiences and does his own with our kids. It’s an even trade. Most men don’t care about school shopping the way Mothers do, so your feelings, are validated and understood. In reality, it’s time to start thinking about having him pay child support.
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You mad because your baby daddy agreed to buy school supplies??? Jesus take the wheel
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Honestly it sounds like try as you may, you’re making it about you more than your child. I get that it may not be how you want things to be done. And you’re worried he may not get the supplies on time. But he’s gonna help. Just tell him the date they’re needed by and thank him for helping out.
Thankfully my work helps get school supplies for families so my kid’s dad and me are both happy to have one less expense to have to get through right now. Times are tough. Any help is appreciated. And the supplies while important aren’t the thing to focus on. It’s time for our kids to take the next steps of being humans in this world. They’re gonna have lots of good and bad days and need us to help them navigate it all. Just focus on making sure they’re as ready as they can be and know they have both of you to talk to about it all
You should be glad he is buying supplies. Life is to short to worry about who buys what. Take what he offers and be thankful. I’m a 78 year old mom, grandma, and great-ma who’s been there.
No, not wrong to be upset but should be thankful Daddy is there doing Daddy work. There are too many Daddy’s that do nothing.
Honestly, be happy he wants to do anything. Also, he wants to be in the child’s life so he has the same excitement from those firsts as you and if he’s willing to be there it’s not right to take it away… write a list and decide who should get what, split the bill that way you both get to enjoy it.
My ex didn’t pay support or anything. Be thankful your ex bought the supplies. It saves you money to buy an extra outfit for the child.
I probably wouldn’t be mad either, it is good that he’s helping out but maybe he’s just being a guy and just doesn’t realize how important it is to you to go buy your son’s first school supplies (congrats on the milestone by the way! My stepson is going to be starting next year and I’m so sad but like you, I’m also so excited to take him to pick out clothes and a backpack and all that stuff.) I saw other people saying stuff about child support but not everybody has gone through a court system and gotten a parenting plan drawn up. Some people just come to an agreement of their own and parent their children without the court’s interference. (So many people seem to forget that that’s how things are supposed to be, the courts are meant for situations where parents can’t reconcile their differences and need mediation by a third party. So good on you mamas, I’m happy to hear you guys can coparent. I know how difficult it can be from dealing with my stepson’s mother – who isn’t really in the picture and just sorta comes around when she feels like it.) So, I think child support should be something you and your ex should decide together, don’t let a bunch of FB comments sway you or pressure you too much. 
I don’t know your ex but maybe if you spoke to him and let him know how much you’ve been looking forward to doing this for your kiddo, maybe he would be willing to go with you and your son. And I’m sure it would mean a lot to your son too if he could have both his parents there for such an occasion. But again, I dont know the entire situation so you just do what you feel is best girlie. Hope things work out for you! 
Let him buy it! Plus there’s not much supplies a kindergartner needs. My kids school provide the supplies. Also, will he be there to attend his first day? If not then I see no problem him getting the supplies while you get to attend his first day. He comes home to you and will tell you how great his first day went so in the end , I mean your winning 
Well if he didn’t give you the money to buy the school supplies then you wouldn’t have got to school supplies anyhow so I don’t know what you’re really butt hurt about you couldn’t afford the school supplies so you weren’t getting them your ex ain’t giving you the money so you’re still not getting them sounds like you’re in the same boat you were in the beginning
What difference does it make as long as the child’s needs for school
Why don’t you ask to go together so he’s able to pay, you can have the experience & tour child can pick put what ones he wants?
Hunny if he’s buying, just let him. If ur funds are short and he’s doing, LET HIM. U really can’t say give me $ cause I’d like to instead!!! Smfh. U sld of put money up if u felt this strongly bout it. Wow some women now a day 
smfh.
Hunny, ur not working cause u had another baby- why Wld he hand u money instead of taking his own children ??? if u feel that strongly that u wanna buy his FIRST SCHOOL STUFF u sld of saved. Wow SOME OF U WOMEM NOW A DAYS FEEL SO ENTITLED It’s sad. HES THEIR FATHER TOO, not just u
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I would be ecstatic if my ex would’ve told me he would go out shopping and get everything my kids needed for school 
I had to do EVERYTHING
Make the list for what he needs look up some sales and organize everything he needs that way your involved too. Go out shopping and take pictures of clothes on sale
Your mad he won’t just hand you HIS money to buy school supplies, instead he agreed to go buy them himself. So the kid will still have the supplies and the dad is still buying them. Sounds like you need to get your own money if you want to spend it the way you want to lol is this really a question?
Make sure you give his teacher your husbands phone number so they can call him.
They’re expensive!! Let him do it!!
Its his first time too. A dad thing. Perhaps for the sake of the child(ren) try to make your negotiations and events more about the kids and less about you. This goes for both sides. Children feel the kind of animosity you have going. Its hard enough the parents are not under the same roof, don’t make the feel awkward about THEIR special events.