Withhold sex from him
Track your ovulation and no sex the whole 4 days before and 4 days after 
Also there are BC without hormones like Paraguard IUD
I don’t recommend the ones with hormones they make your life a living hell
If your man can’t take one for the team, and it’s down to your health being negativelt affected, I’m sorry, but he’s being an asshole. Birth control was literally killing my body, and my husband gladly got the vasectomy. Now I’m much healthier. If your guy still wants sex, he’d better man up.
Become sterile yourself
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Ugh I’m the same I have to have either the coil or implant because my mums had blood clots and I’m also a smoker I don’t like the idea of them either but I’ve heard the marina coil is great and also stops your periods which is a plus! But other than that I’d just tell him to put a condom on x
For those saying get your tubes tied i have a blood clotting disorder and they told me i get my tubes tied within a year guaranteed i would be having a hysterectomy. I had to take blood thinning shots in my stomach twice a day it was awful and it caused alot of problems and my husband was the one who loved me enough to get the vasectomy from seeing how i almost died this last time. There really isn’t much you can do condoms still arent 100% ill be praying for you
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The only sure fire (and still things can happen) way to prevent pregnancy is sterilization via tubal ligation or vasectomy. If my husband were unwilling to have a vasectomy, there would be no question.
I am the >.01% who fell pregnant after IVF (male factor infertility and PCOS/Endometriosis) while on a long term birth birth control.
If I am unable to have this baby naturally they will tie my tubes then. My husband will get the vasectomy either way — after twins and a super rough second pregnancy there is no more room for games!
I’m not sure why he refuses the vasectomy, but it may just be something you have to talk about the risks of female vs male sterilization.
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Vasectomy there is a chance that it reverses itself and you dont know till your pregnant again. My doctor told me getting your tubes tied has their risks too but it works better than a vasectomy
It’s really not that hard to not get prego specially if you try your best not to lol . I feel that way anyways. no birth control p used here for 5 years then we got prego with our second. You cant make a man get a vasectomy don’t work like that hun
What’s his reasoning for not getting a vasectomy? Did he do his research on what it actually is or is he like some of the men I know that thought I was asking my husband to get neutered like a dog…
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Lol. Condoms are made for a reason 
Nonhormonal pills, condoms, nonhormonal IUD, tubes tied. You have tons of options. I have had an IUD hormonal for years and bc the hormones are such a small amt i have had one side effect (lack of period- not hating it) … a baby is a life long side effect of stupidity. If you cant deal with the baby then deal with the short term side effect of the other meds or use condoms or get your tubes tied
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Stop having sex with your selfish husband.
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Get your tubes removed
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Then get your tubes tied
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There’s many things you can do… keep track of your periods.There’s ton of apps that help with it all… use condoms and pull out method together. Get your tubes tied… you don’t want to do something your uncomfortable with so you can’t expect your husband to do something he is uncomfortable with. Also getting a Vasectomy isn’t 100% and doesn’t always work. I know a lot of men who had them who down the road still had children. To make it 100 you both would need done.
Take charge get your self fixed
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You already counted out any options for birth control. Getting your tubes tied is the only thing I can think of.
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Keep having his baby
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You sound like you don’t need to reproduce please get a tubal
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Get tubal ligation if you don’t want kids. If you do get ready. They coming lol
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Why not both get permanent birth control? You get your tubes tied, he gets a vasectomy. Ask him if he would rather: have a pregnancy happen, both of you get birth control, or you two never be intimate again. Sound like those are the only three options. Then the ball is in his court to decide what to do. Good luck!
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Progesterone only pill. Estrogen is generally what increases risk for blood clots. Also tell your husband to man up. He will survive! Lol! But yeah, his testicles so really that’s his choice to make.
Condoms and spermicde
Natural cycles birth control app is a total game changer.
Used in combo with Phexxi gel, all control is in your hands and it’s all hormone free.
Use condoms for now. Be sure that both of you are in agreement about how to handle your pregnancy - because it’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when.
Get the pill without hormones
Seriously. Just get your tubes tied.
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Get pregnant then you can have all the sex you want without worrying about getting pregnant 
So ypu expect your husband to get a life altering basically permanent operation, but you wont consider trying any of your multiple options first?
Seems unfair…
Its not just up to him
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Have your tubes snipped or tied why is it always left to the man to sort it.?
I think they make male birth control now you might ask the Dr.
I also have a clotting disorder. There are 2 recommended forms of birth control. The Depo Shot and the Mirena IUD. I did the shot for 3 years, thank God I switched to the IUD! I have had absolutely no issues with it!! And for everyone telling her to get her tubes tied, they won’t just go do a surgery on people like us…it has to be an emergency
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Condoms or abstinence. Unless your body is 100% on track and you know yourself well enough to do natural family planning(tracking your ovulation and period) it’s not reliable. Good luck hun my dude saw how bad my body reacts to birth control and how much we can’t have a kid rn and even offered to sell his nuts or get snipped
Why won’t your husband get a vasectomy? Tell me I’m not the 1st person to ask that
Divorce him. This just shows how selfish he is. He knows you have a medical condition yet refuses to go through a day or two of discomfort (It’s really not that big of a deal for a guy to get a vasectomy). He’s self centered and inconsiderate. Get rid of him.
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Don’t do the depo. It made me bleed for a month at a time at the very end. Had to stop it and I know everyone’s body is different just sharing mine.
Condoms.
P.S. - your husband is an ass.
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Why won’t your husband get a vasectomy? It’s outpatient, it’s reversible, and I’m pretty sure recovery is just a couple days. It doesn’t sound like he’s being supportive of your concerns. I’d suggest getting your tubes tied, but if you’re in America your husband needs to approve the procedure and it’s a much longer recovery for you than it would be if he was just supportive and got the vasectomy…
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Well they have all kinds of condoms and non-hormonal options
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My husband refused the same and made me get my tubes removed
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Omg THIS IS MY LIFE! literally! im not able to get an IUD because of my disorder though. Zero anything. I just had our fourth baby because he’s an idiot and I plan on abstaining until my husband can get his head out of his ass. I hope this works because I am at my wits end with this machismo bullshit
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What’s wrong with condoms?
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Those of you telling her she should get her tubes tied should realize she may not be able to… Some states have requirements in order to do so and she may not meet those requirements… 
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Condoms are still a thing:woman_shrugging:
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Let him wear a condom.
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You want advice on how to live with disrespect simply because you like some dude’s dick??! Here’s something ‘unfiltered’: STOP ALLOWING A TINY PIECE OF MEAT CONTROL YOUR LIFE! I promise you, Sis, YOU don’t mean shit to him if he’s picking Toxic Masculinity over your health and well-being!
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Uh if he won’t get fixed then leave. Plain and simple. He is putting himself before your health.
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Not 100% effective but there’s an app called Natural Cycles that my husband and I used to avoid a pregnancy (successfully) and then planned a pregnancy with. It uses NFP and you track your temperature and other cycle info, and after 3 months or so you have a pretty accurate time frame for when you can get pregnant (as long as your cycles are normal and you don’t double ovulate or anything)
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You can use a diaphram. But I still think your husband is being a selfish ass
Copper iud? Non hormonal
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I don’t think anyone should be making anyone do anything. If he won’t have a vasectomy you can either trial iud- might not be for you but it is also a favourite for a lot of women as contraception. That or condoms.
He doesn’t want more kids? Then he can take responsibility and get snipped. It’s cheap, effective and safer than anything a woman goes through!!!
I’m getting my tubes tied in 2 weeks. I’m in the same boat with the hubby and other options.
They have birth control pills that won’t mess with your hormones they a little lower dosage but I was taking it for about 4 5 months after my daughter was born I will be honest I cannot remember what it was called
You need to decide together. It’s not just on you… if you’re in a relationship then you are both part of the baby making. And honestly, your body does the baby cooking and has already been through so much…can’t he give a little? This is a committed relationship, correct?
If you have health issues and are worried about birth control, talk to your gynecologist about your options. If your SO is that against a vasectomy, then see what your options are. It is irresponsible to not do anything and get pregnant just because you guys couldn’t decide who should be the responsible one in the situation.
The the implanon its the best im my opinion
Sounds like you need a new husband
Get some toys say no V until you get snipped
I agree with Nancy Stracener. Selfish SOB!
Well there’s condoms!! And if he refuses to get a vasectomy and you’re worried about getting pregnant or whatever then you can get your tubes tied. There’s really not many more options you can do if he refuses to get a vasectomy and you can’t take birth control. Take control on the situation. Refuse him sex until y’all figure something out. Also, guys think they are losing their “manhood/balls/” if they get a vasectomy but old is is they just clip the tube. Maybe try couples counseling and figure out a solution that way to