File n get out. Manipulation and gaslighting. Whether he’s a narc or not leave. Keep records of messages proff of adultery
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Make the first move and file before he does !!
He’s just waiting for a reason to move out cause he’s already moved on !! Or he doesn’t have a place to stay. Kick him to the curb…
I know it’s hard but don’t give him the satisfaction of leaving YOU
Leave him !!
Good luck you deserve better.
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I would yell him you guys need to have a talk or youre filing for divorce. I feel like thats the least he could do right now. You guys need to be on the same page…
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He wants you and other women too! Kick him to the curb!
He has already left that marriage… he is definitely with someone else… start living ur life… for you… build ur own independence emotionally… stop waiting for him … u will feel so much better when u build on urself… go out with ur friends… live ur life for urself and live it as tho HE doesn’t exist… he doesn’t want a divorce as he robably doesn’t want to lose the house or any money … he obviously in his heart and mind has moved on from The marriage
Bye boy…he threw it all away when he decided to cheat. Don’t let him guilt you into thinking you’re throwing it all away
You file for divorce
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Pray and ask God to show you his will and you won’t go wrong asking for his
Guidance
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Of course he’s only just talking to a woman 
He is scum and you deserve better. Period.
He threw it all away with the first message!!
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Know your worth. You deserve better. He wants to keep cheating and keep you taking care of him and the home. He has moved on.
Leave. He’s leaving you on the side incase him and whoever else doesn’t workout.
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File for divorce and start a new life for yourself.
He’s already checked out of the marriage.
File for divorce and start a new life for yourself.
He’s already checked out of the marriage.
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I pray for you and your kids ya… some man is not worth it to keep… find new one ya… better looking and better working…
He wants you on the side for when things don’t go his way he can run back to you , sounds like a midlife crisis and your suffering
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Do it back to him and see how he likes it 
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The marriage is over! Cut him loose
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File for divorce. He’s just to chickenshit to do himself even though he’s already stepped outside of you relationship, separated himself inside of the home and no longer speaks with you. Get yourself to lawyer and to a doctor. And good luck!
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He’s giving you 100% of the answers you are looking for. You know exactly what you need to do.
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You don’t need answers, you need to leave. You already know what’s up.
File! He’s checked out, looking for a woman to tide him over. File for divorce.
I’d 1st off tell him cheating can be emotional, not just physical.
If your attention and conversations are else where, your mind wondering…its still cheating and a matter of time before it gets physical.
2nd file for divorce, don’t trash his things. Half of his things are your things when it comes to divorce.
Don’t hold your breath and hope he’s going to come good. (He’s an arse hat)
File for divorce. Plenty more decent fish in the sea
He wants to make it your fault…put it on you.
As hard as it is, sounds like he has already checked out
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Time for u to move on and be happy, kick his ass to the curb.
Don’t wait for him to decide to choose you. Drop the dead weight and prioritize you.
Just sounds to me that he has nowhere else to go. He has finished with you and has moved on but at the same time it’s hard to wipe out 14yrs of History. Romantically he doesn’t want you but in hid head it’s still his home you are just his room mate. It’s upto you what you do but this situation has gone beyond saving.Even if this women and him do not last do you really want to be his last resort second choice. This situation usually ends with another affair further down the line.its sad but this is what he has chosen. Instead of fighting to keep the relationship improving it ,even spicing it up a bit if it’s got a bit stale in the bedroom he has chosen another women and relegated you his cleaner.
He’s done. He’s just trying to implicate you to ease his conscience. There’s nothing to fix. Nothing to save.
At this particular moment, he has shut down from you and any feelings he has for you. He’s already moved on.
Stand tall and strong and don’t get caught in the guilt trap. Play indifferent. And get your “ducks in a row”.
Legit. Make sure your funds are safe, kids (if any) are safe. Have an escape plan.
Then, think back to exactly when this behavior started. Was there a fight, argument or any unusual event (new co worker, new nanny, new friends). Make a time line (mentally) of how his behavior has escalated (when he started detaching from your relationship). There’s nothing you can do to fix that, but it will help you acknowledge the decline. That anger (especially if you think, ‘HTF I miss that?!?’), will fuel your indecision. Then, whenever you feel weak, you think of his ‘ugly face’ (it’s what I call it. I have no idea what your man looks like and I’m not judging. However, everyone has an ugly face. The face they make when they’re mad as f**k at you. The narrowed eyes, pursed lips…the face you HATE to look at. The face that’s so ugly, it makes you mad.
THAT face.).
Whenever you think you may concede, picture the ugly face. And the event(s) that preceded them. Hold that close and make your break.
He’s cheating have respect for yourself and get rid its not worth you getting hurt if he’s gunna cheat let him but you walk away
Cheating doesn’t have to be sex or kissing, he’s discussing his personal and your life with someone else, “just talking”. Get out now while you have control. The anger and helpless feeling inside will create impulse decisions. Stay level headed, you’ve done nothing wrong amd don’t let him make you think you have, that’s emotional abuse.
Sounds like he wants to just keep doing his own thing and doesn’t directly want divorce bc he possibly wants you as a back up plan…
Red flag…leave him…he is cheating you need to think of you know LEAVE HIM NOW
File for divorce! He has really already divorced you except for doing it legal.
This is narcissistic as hell. You need to leave. He’s clearly cheating and has zero respect for you!! You don’t deserve this!
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If you feel strong enough (which I’m sure you are), then I’d up and leave before it gets any worse 
He is done. Divorce him
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Just file for divorce !!
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Don’t leave your life up to him
Kick him out you deserve better!
He’s definitely cheating. Kick him out of the house
Kick him out, put his clothes outside and change the locks.
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He is keeping you on the back burner until he finds someone else by the sounds of it to me
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Unfortunately he’s up to something. Words of steve Harvey don’t go collecting red flags all you need is one.
Im seeing several. The way i see it is he’s done. Either he’s already cheated or about too and the reason he says your throwing it all away is to make you feel responsible and also after that long in a divorce you will get stuff he doesn’t want to part with.
You deserve to be happy and with someone who is attentive and loving and this man is no longer that.
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Time to go. It’s hard, but the sooner you do it, the better.
Definitely file for a divorce ASAP and get out of it! You’ll be a better person and feel like a better person when you do x
He’s cheating file your papers and leave him
He’s made his decision. Hard to see but, file and tell him to find somewhere else
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In some states if you can prove he’s committed adultery you can literally sue him and her for ruining your marriage. 
Check out your states laws.
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He is holding on to u just incase it doesn’t workout with the other chick. File for divorce!
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In my opinion you not throwing away anything… He has already checked out of your relationship, walking away is better than living in limbo, Trust your journey, everything in life happens with reason and consequence . Its heartbreaking 
but true.
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He’s already gone, he just doesn’t want to bother with a divorce and still wants a roommate
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You deserve better. So don’t wait around for him to decide. And when he says you are throwing it all away… let him know… NO, HE is throwing it all away. You choose your wife EVERYDAY. He has decided not to. It was not EVER you, choosing anyone else. 
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Girl, CYA… drain all shared bank accounts and open an account with just your name on it., If you choose to divorce him, be the Plaintiff, not the defendant, If you have children let them know what’s going on. Let your family know. You are going to need support during this time. Don’t caught blindsided. You didn’t do the cheating so don’t allow him to make you out to be the blame. Expose his infidelity to his and your family. Call an attorney ASAP and start circling your wagons. Don’t be a victim.
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Like seriously, there’s something he’s dissatisfied with in the relationship, talk, communicate. Separate, go on and let him date and do whatever, let him see what he thinks he’s missing. You do the same! Then after all that, if you both decide you still love each other and still want to make the marriage work, then get some counseling. If you’re not up for all that, then I’d just go ahead and make plans to divorce and move on.
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Time to move on. Sounds like hubby already has, but it’s easier to stay and live with you.
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What exactly besides your sanity are you throwing away? A selfish man that obviously does not want you? He’s keeping you on the back burner in your face. For for divorce on the ground of him having affairs. Doesn’t have to physically cheat to cheat. Ask for alimony. Know your worth. Stop putting up with his abuse. That’s what he’s doing. He’s abusing you. Once again, Doesn’t have to be physical.
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She’s a not a sure thing yet, meaning he’s using you as the backup plan. Leave him.
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If he’s not cheating he’s trying to and it appears he’s going to keep you dangling until he has his little life all set up and then he’ll pull the pin.
You need to move forward now. Time for him to leave and you to see a solicitor. He’s not worth the wait.
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Divorce his ass NOW! Don’t put up with his crap. He’s clearly having his cake & eating it too. Get away from him forever. Good luck.
Get out,he dont give 2 hoits hes made that clear
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He wants his cake and he’s definitely eating it! Might be time to call it a day.
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Go ahead and file for a divorce. Don’t put your life on hold while he runs around “figuring out” what he wants. He already has and by telling you those things it’s to keep you as a safety net. Screw that.
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Get him OUT, OUT, OUT. Like the trash he is.
Btw that’s it period
File your papers
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Please for your mentality leave the relationship!! He’s obviously hiding something if he’s changed his passwords and moved out of the room, showing you that he doesn’t want to be around you. Sounds as if he’s exploring other options while being married and that’s not how it goes!!
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Wants to be able to blame you…you “threw it all away”.
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File for divorce and take everything. You don’t deserve to be treated like that 
.
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this is the BEST advice!!
YOU take care of yourself and YOUR future. You did nothing wrong. Surround yourself with your SUPPORT TEAM and don’t look back. He did/doing a shitty thing. KARMA will catch up to him. I pray you take the FIRST step and MOVE ON for YOU!!
Yeah, he’s definitely cheating.
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Hun it won’t get better he already gone 
don’t let him use you he wants to live his life then let him kick his ass out you don’t need that my son in law did that to my daughter after 17 years had a woman in another state prayers that things work out big hugs:heavy_heart_exclamation:
Playing mind games until he can get himself situated. Time for him to move out ASAP.
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No brainer if someone is treating you like an option you leave them like a choice!
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I am starting to think these are made up. I mean, it’s so obvious the marriage is over. He threw it all away not you. He’s gaslighting. Get the divorce ASAP!
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The moment he decided to talk to that other woman HE threw it all away. Go live your life.
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Time to go. Make your own direction
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He doesn’t know what he wants but he needs to move on down the line if he cant stop all that.
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sounds likr u won’t be missing him much, he is already gone…
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You need to move on with your life. Start chatting with people online yourself. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. I’m not usually wear those people but in this situation I think that it really applies. He’s on his way out. Make your own direction do you
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Oh honey he’s is definitely cheating on u with her no doubt cause those r all 
s
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The plan was in his head…get out now, he’s treating you bad because you’re allowing it x
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He threw it all away the moment he decided to go out of marriage…….
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Make the decision for him…BYE
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My husband done these things. He was cheating even tho he wanted me to be dumb enough to believe he wasn’t. He wanted his family and to date other women too. I divorced him.
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You need to do what you got it telling you to do. As much as you don’t rent to listen to that, you know it will never lead you down the wrong path. You are so much more than that. And if you wanted to leave him, just know that you didn’t give up but he gave up on you. You tried and that’s all you can do. 
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Divorce that sob and move on with your life too boo! He’s keeping you dangling like a second option if this new chick falls through 
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Yea time to move on like he has. So sorry for you, 14 years is a long time
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Get rid of him asap. File for divorce. You’ll be much happier without him. You can never trust him again after he’s been unfaithful to you. I don’t know what is wrong with some men. He will regret ruining the marriage one day & by then you’ll have moved on to a better & happier place in your heart & mind
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If he doesn’t know what he wants that’s his problem not yours he’s the one throwing all the way
Move on sounds like he already has. Don’t waste your breath or time any longer. Sounds like since he’s not happy and moved out of the room of sleeping with you he’s already made his mind up. Don’t waste any more time waiting for him. He’s not waiting for you.
He is already gone. File them divorce papers and move on with your life. He sounds like he is cheating
Make an exit plan, start saving the money his making. Play the supportive wife while you build the funds to leave.
Throw him out divorce him.He is disrespecting you he won’t change. I think it’s over sad but something gone wrong. Take him for all you can
Move on. He already has.
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He doesn’t know what he wants. So it is up to you to decide what you want and go for that.
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Time to make yourself a priority and leave him!
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You need to move on
This guy has other plans
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He might have early onset dementia brain fog or a brain tumor. Sounds confused. Go get an mri if his brain
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Get your own place, file for divorce and it’s time for you to live your best life.
He’s showing you his true colors and I encourage you not to let him guilt trip you into staying
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He’s stringing you along. He’s talking to another woman, talking about meeting up and seeing where the night ends. That’s meaning he’s open to things going further then just talking. He’s not talking to you. Changed his passwords and has a lock on his phone. Moved out of your room. I mean all of the things show he’s already checked out of your marriage. File those divorce papers and move on. He’s already moved on! He’s he one that threw it away. Don’t wait for him to make decisions. You deserve better!!
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