Cheater cheater cheater. Time for a private detective, lawyer and court room.
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Obviously you like that kind of treatment!
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Sounds to me like he’s already moving on and waiting for you to be the one to end it.
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That’s a narcissist, run!!!
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Get a divorce. And he is definitely cheating.
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Oh no I be done he be out I would have a lawyer & he be paying honey he cheater you need to become a spy get a friend a car he does not know take pictures & places get all your business in order get him where it hurts MONEY if you do not work you will get alimony you didn’t mention if you had kids you would get child support honey don’t give in don’t give up just get even give him his freedom with a cost move on baby a lawyer could have his phone records ordered I would lay it all out I would be a spy I would get my ducks in order and then I would lower it on him baby
There’s two choices here. One is you say you’re done tolerating and dealing with this and you file your divorce regardless of what he says because HE is throwing it away. Not you.
Or option two… you stand by him and suck it allllll up and keep tolerating this in hopes something gives and changes or he comes around and improves or realizes what he wanted was here the whole time. But doing that you risk staying and being treated this way for who knows how long, you risk letting him think you’re willing to accept and tolerate this behavior. And you risk being cheated on constantly because he’s definitely doing something shady or he wouldn’t be doing all he’s doing. So if you’re comfortable and able to accept all of that, then stick it out. But I’m definitely not recommending you put yourself thru option two when there’s a high chance you’d do that just to end up divorced anyway and now feel twice as depressed about it because he drug you thru the mud first.
He’s already thrown it all away. Have the papers served & move on as he already has.
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Be your own best friend obviously there’s too much for him to lose to completely move out I would do it for me but get everything in order first
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I’m so sorry 
this sounds like hell. I seen someone said ignore him like he does you. Don’t. That’s childish. And even though he’s acting a certain way doesn’t mean your should. It wont help. Moving into another room sounds like a red flags it self. Although I don’t know the reason exactly. I sleep on couch mainly because of our little one. Occasionally my man ignores me but I push through to talk it out always, calmly. But sounds as if he’s cheating. Most don’t talk without intent to cheat. I’d get the papers together for divorce and talk with him. Let him know what you want and see how he is feeling. Remind him to be honest because the sooner you know of you both want to stay together, the sooner you can start to improve your lives. Together or not. Maybe see a counselor or therapist together. 1 session to see if it helps or to just have another person there to hear both sides.
Sounds like he’s living his life and moving on without you.
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You need us to come help you pack?!?
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He’s moved on mentally just not yet financially
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He just wants it to be your fault… Not his.
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Get out fast! This happen to my mom and my father was definitely cheating and plotting with the other woman on how to leave my mother penniless and homeless. He’s Definitely not your husband anymore and they use that “your throwing it all away” line to buy themselves time, don’t fall for it!
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Leave him… He seems to have already left u 
His crazy making antics are just to buy himself time to make his exit plan and jump on making moves first (which may include filing divorce, there are some advantages to being first to file but I am not an attorney so consult with at least 3 attorneys) If it were me. I’d be lining up my ducks and making an exit plan. Tina Swithin is a good resource to look into.
Why are you sitting around for 5 WEEKS waiting for this guys to make some sort of decision on if he wants to be a husband or not. THE DAY he moved out of the bedroom he told you in his actions. Get a backbone, get a lawyer, get some plans made, and get him gone! Gone physically because he is already gone mentally and you are just sitting there not realizing it.
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Naw he’s just finding himself…as a woman would say lol. And nothing is really happening lol
Been there, done that! Is he worth it? I think not. Leave
Depending on what State you live in, some States do not recognize Legal Separation? Nor Adultry. In Texas. its this way. It Tx its filed as Alienation of Affection. Hard to prove. Find out your rights by a local legal Attorney. It sounds like he has replaced you.
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Hell no, I’d be out. File for divorce and be done.
Not speaking to you is emotional abuse. Out of the bedroom is grounds for divorce. You mentioned all this and still don’t know what to do ? Get rid of him because he’s already moved on anyway. He is just there for convenience. You can have someone who loves you. Just get rid of this one
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You need to move on if he tells you all he is doing is talking that’s a lie yeh that’s what I was told that they was just friends and she helped him get through loosing his father I’m like what am I chop liver she was the nurse that room care of his dad …he is cheating most definitely you need to divorce him and go have a happy life without him if he puts gets upsets and says you are throwing it all away no it’s not you it’s him that has already thrown it away by speaking to another woman . Just be the better person and do what you need to do let her and him have each other cause if he truly loved you like he should he would never had to even think to speak to another woman.
If you have not decided to leave yet, I suggest you watch the movie about another 30 days with that Cameron actor. It really makes a difference. It helps you reflect on why he is doing this and brings you back together. Kirk Cameron. The movie is Fireproof
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I think he has you on the back burner for now in case the grass isn’t greener on the other side. I would leave, and never look back.
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Get out while u can. And file for a divorce u shouldn’t have to go thur this crap once a cheater always is a cheater
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He’s trying to keep you on the back burner while he figures out his life kick him to the curb quickly
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Old/middle aged men going thru mid life crisis and fucking themselves over.
Why wait for him. Love YOUR life. He has already made his decision.
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Move on! He wants you to wait around and see if he wants you or not After fooling around. Don’t be his 2nd option and find your own happiness!
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I know your hurt and confused but don’t allow him to disrespect you like that! He doesn’t really think you’re going anywhere. Nothing will change if you continue to let him treat you like this! Good luck sweetie!
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Remind him how much a divorce & alimony will cost him.
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You already know the answer … Just bounce … Get on with YOUR life …
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No one needs that kind of crap in their life. Time to move on. Seems he already has!!
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Stand up and make a decision for YOU!! Life is to short to Wait on someone else to decide YOUR LIFE for YOU…
Girl, divorce his ass. He can’t have his cake and eat it too. You deserve to be happy. It doesn’t sound like your going to be with him. You deserve better
It should not be just up to him, what do you want. He has made up his mind and you are acting like a hostage. Take control and get out!
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Girl kick him out. You deserve to be happy. Don’t let him have the cake and eat it to. Dump him.
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“Don’t let a man tell you twice, he doesn’t want you”
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Move on but don’t leave the house!!!
Leave him. He’s lying to you and is to much of a baby to make a decision. Get out for you.
Girl, start dressing sexier and get a Tinder or Plenty of Fish of your own…and don’t hide it. Give him a good ole dose of his own medicine. That’s what I did to my husband a few years ago and I haven’t had a problem out of him since 
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It’s time to say goodbye
Girl get out what do you need to get it🤷♀️
He just doesn’t want to look like the bad guy. Call his bluff. Suggest couple’s counseling. Odds are he’ll refuse. That’s your answer. If he doesn’t want to work on the relationship, then he’s done.
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It’s a decision you gotta make not for him, but for yourself and file for that divorce. I can tell you exactly where it will end. He will be allowed to “Live his life” and then when it’s all over and he realizes there is nothing out there for him, then he gonna want to come crawling back asking you to try again and how much he loves you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Same ole. Same ole. At this time, you may feel sorry for him and take him back. But take from an experienced divorced woman, BEWARE! He may come with diseases and other drama that you at this stage in your life should not be going through. He is now garbage and what do we do with garbage? THROW IT AWAY AND LEAVE IT THERE!
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File for a divorce. He already had someone else. Once he has a sure thing with this other woman he is gone.
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He wants out…so let him go…as for you throwing it all away…it’s his way of not taking the blame…move on.
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You can’t do more than try, if he’s not trying with anything at all then it seems he’s already made his decision, you my dear are not the one throwing the relationship away
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You deserve much better!
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Kick that Fucktart to the Street
And go find ur happiness with someone that will love you n give you what u want out of Life. Have respect to ur self.
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Why would you even want him at this point? 
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He needs to be left by you. Let the other woman have his cheating ass… He’s the one throwing u away by cheating… I mean chatting… pfffft
He is just stalling you off while he gets his plans all set. 
Go get a good attorney. Make sure you have all your finances clear - know the amounts of ALL DEBTS, how much is in all banks, retirement accounts, savings accounts, all of it so he can’t secretly remove any of it to finance his new life! Because he IS making a new life without you. But DO NOT MOVE OUT! You need to keep living in your house to keep it in the divorce. He will still have to maintain the mortgage and utilities if he is the primary worker. PROTECT YOURSELF, because he sure isn’t going to!! Sorry, but life can get so much better for you now!!
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You’re miserable, be happy by yourself n get a divorce. I did, the best thing I did for myself🙂
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Lawyer up!!! Hurry!!!
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Dress up go out with your friends n if you have to sit in a cafe til very late do n when you get home walk in with a big smile on your face n tell him you were just talking with a friend. See how he likes a dose of his own medicine
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If he refuses to commit to couples therapy, the marriage is already over. Save yourself and walk away sooner rather than later. He has already left you.
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I don’t mean to be blunt but he is string you along just in case the other don’t work out. Move on with out him he is playing games
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At this point he’s just keeping you around for, -just in case it doesn’t work out with the next few ladies.- call his mom and tell her to take his son back since he’s talking to other ladies and then kick him out lol. But you deserve to be happy.
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Looks like he’s moving on so that’s exactly what you need to do. Don’t take anything from him because your married to him. He’s shown you in many ways that y’all marriage is over. He might just don’t know how to tell you because he don’t want to hurt you all the way. Don’t put up with any of this know your worth.
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Let her have him he will do her the same way
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Free yourself! He has told you and demonstrated that he no longer respects you or the marriage. In spite of the marriage vows, some relationships don’t last forever and people evolve and change. If his evolvement no longer prioritizes you, let it go gracefully, mourn the loss, but know you deserve better and move on to better things. I know it hurts, but some people are not cut out for the long haul of a lifelong marriage.
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He wants to be free and do as he pleases with other women but doesnt want you to divorce him lol. So he wants you and his hoes
Cheating to him means physical. That don’t mean he ain’t talking to her. You don’t need confirmation, he has “checked out”… I would make him leave and take the proof I have and make him pay for everything. He don’t care so make him pay.
Sounds like he is keeping you around as a back up plan… get out of there, after 14 years of marriage you deserve more respect than that.,im soo sorry you have to go through this!
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aww prayers and hugs. You don’t deserve that
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You don’t exist as long as you allow him to walk all over you. Take charge walk out build a life without him. You are worth more than a cold shoulder and his arrogance. Smile and tell yourself you will get through this it is his loss and when he realizes this fact he will have only himself to blame. Be strong GOD is on your side.
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My heart goes out to the author of this post and I could give you a heap of advice but , I am not in love with this man so all the emotions that go with love have to be taken into account before giving any advice but I wish you nothing but the very best at this hard and difficult time 
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Gaslighting…call his bluff…get an attorney, file for a divorce first, and move on. You are worthy of love and respect.
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It’s time to do something different, apart. He seems to be done.
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This is so sad 
I’m so sorry . You need to think of you mama and want makes you happy . You deserve better .
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Narcissist 
You poor bugger, don’t allow him to mentally torture you while he’s fixing to start a new relationship right in your face… You are worth more than that Darl… don’t be he’s fall on plan when these other lady’s end up tired of him, Go out and start doing for you, make YOU HAPPY AGAIN without him…
Prayers for you Hun and I really pray you find your strength and say enough!! God bless you 
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Just went through similar. You got this! Just move on. Find your happiness
Get out of there Hunny
I would say he already left without packing up and actually leaving. I’d file if I were you…
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File for divorce. He doesn’t have to agree to it. He’s already gone honey. You HAVE to take care of you! Being treated like this is abusive and manipulative. He says he doesn’t know what he wants, but HIS ACTIONS are telling you. Your head already knows but your heart doesn’t want to believe
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I’d get a divorce for sure. He’s already checked out.
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CHEATING SISTER!!! It’s going to be ok. I just went thru the same things for years ago and it was so devastating but I made it through and you will too:pray:
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So sorry to hear this. I think you should leave him. He needs to know he can’t treat you like that. If it is meant to be, he will realize what he lost. Then fight to get you back.
Love and Hugs…there’s nothing to throw away…5 weeks…move on…stay out late(even if it’s at your girlfriend, stay the night. Dress for the Club (even when your just coming from your friends)
Tell Him He Threw It Away 
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He wants to string you along just in case he doesn’t like this other woman as much as he hopes.
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File uncontested while he is in that frame of mind and run to get it signed.!!!
Let him live his life because he already is!! JERK?!!
He’s already gone. Waiting for you to file and pay the fees. Pack up what you want and leave. Let him worry about getting rid of stuff. Focus on yourself and meeting up with some friends for some enjoyment that you have been lacking.
Sounds like he wants a divorce but doesn’t want it to be his fault.
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I think he did answer you - his actions have told you all you need to know - move on
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He sound like my ex he want u &the other women too he want his cake & eat it too !so I go divorced from my ex years ago he hurt my children worse than me !
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It took.years to forgive him but with Gods help I did be fore he passed away
Sort yourself out financially then cut him off. Xx
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Get the divorce, get yourself.back Toma confident, proud woman and when the time is right you will find the right man mwho would never even think about texting another woman. Life is short don’t waste time being sad, mad. Frustrated, move on and be happy!
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Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I’d be moving on
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He’s keeping u on a string incase this fling of his falls through.
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He’s a liar save yourself the heartache and mental anguish…
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Why are you waiting for him to make a decision? Seems to me you’re letting him control everything including whether he sleeps with you or with someone else talks to you talk to someone else. He has shown you and you have seen by one is done and what he continues to do that it is time to get out
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Get out!!! Sorry you’re dealing with this. My husband bout 4 grand of porn behind my back and was chatting with other women 
and I forgave him so I understand
What are you waiting for? Clearly he’s moving on without you. He told you he’s unhappy and is going to live his life. As awful as it is sometimes people are dicks and just are done and don’t want to do anything to fix or resolve things. If he’s not talking and he’s not caring. You can move forward. You are not stuck. Talk to a lawyer. Prepare to move on.
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He’s just waiting until it’s comfortable for him to go. Tell him to get the f- out. If he can’t show you affection- its grounds for a divorce. And with all that privacy he “needs,” I guarantee you he is cheating.
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The same shit happened to my daughter 12 months ago…HE’S GONE…And she hasn’t looked back…SO HAPPY…
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